Fiance and I can't agree on wedding date

[Anonymous]

Where are the venues and are you counting on a backdrop of blooms and gardens?

June you get the benefit of full flower season. September might get you some reblooming plants, but less so.

[Anonymous]

September becomes busy once you have school aged kids. We rarely get to celebrate our anniversary with so much else going on that time of year. I agree that October would be a better fall month and June is always nice and a traditional month for weddings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where are the venues and are you counting on a backdrop of blooms and gardens?

June you get the benefit of full flower season. September might get you some reblooming plants, but less so.

I don’t like flowers and don’t care about it. My fiancé has allergies and also hates flowers.

Our backdrop is two different locations. One overlooking Lake Michigan and the other overlooking the Chicago river. Other options will be overlooking the city. It will be a large and pretty expensive wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:September becomes busy once you have school aged kids. We rarely get to celebrate our anniversary with so much else going on that time of year. I agree that October would be a better fall month and June is always nice and a traditional month for weddings.

We won’t be having kids at our wedding.

[Anonymous]

The wife usually gets to pick. Thankfully DH let me have what I want.

We know a couple who can’t seem to agree on a venue. Wife is set on a destination wedding that will be expensive for all her guests to get to. Like each guest will need to shell out thousands for flights and hotel. All the venues she wants are already booked. Groom seems to care less and prefers domestic.

[Anonymous]

June isn't a problem with your fiancée's allergies?

Friends of ours chose by drawing out of a hat. 2/3 won
They also settle things using rock, paper, scissors. It works for them.

You could also do something like the person who concedes their choice of date gets more say in the menu, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:September becomes busy once you have school aged kids. We rarely get to celebrate our anniversary with so much else going on that time of year. I agree that October would be a better fall month and June is always nice and a traditional month for weddings.

We won’t be having kids at our wedding.

This has come up several times and you're not getting it. The anniversaries are going to conflict with a lot of kid stuff. Are you planning on having kids yourself, is the question?

[Anonymous]

You want a fall wedding and don't care for flowers.

He has allergies and "is OK" with a fall wedding, even though it's not his first choice.

So... what's the problem here? Have it in the fall!

He can have first pick on menu and music, if he wants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’ve got a long life of compromising ahead of you.

This
Take it as a sign.
Good luck though.

[Anonymous]

We picked the first month our venue and reverend were available, with time enough to plan a big wedding that my mom required. All we cared about was getting married.

[Anonymous]

Not joking but if you already can't agree for this you relationship is doomed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not joking but if you already can't agree for this you relationship is doomed.

Yeah, I get irritated by the poster whose response to everything is: Divorce. But both of you digging in your heels about the month of the wedding, and all this talk about allergies, just feels like this is a match that isn't about being madly in love and just wanting to get married.

[Anonymous]

Never even occurred to me to have any opinion about the wedding unless my wife asked for one. What an odd man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:June isn't a problem with your fiancée's allergies?

Friends of ours chose by drawing out of a hat. 2/3 won
They also settle things using rock, paper, scissors. It works for them.

You could also do something like the person who concedes their choice of date gets more say in the menu, etc.

No. It’s much more bearable than March/April/May when things freshly bloom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:September becomes busy once you have school aged kids. We rarely get to celebrate our anniversary with so much else going on that time of year. I agree that October would be a better fall month and June is always nice and a traditional month for weddings.

We won’t be having kids at our wedding.

This has come up several times and you're not getting it. The anniversaries are going to conflict with a lot of kid stuff. Are you planning on having kids yourself, is the question?

Maybe. We are content not having them.