Husband pressuring me to quit job

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op, you sound pathetic. He asks how your day is. Every day you say it's awful. He suggests you quit. How exactly is that pressuring you? I'm starting to think this is either a troll or you're just a complete helpless moron.

He brings it up daily, even when I don’t complain. Tells me how life will be much easier and he feels worried about me. That is a form of pressuring.

No it isn't. You are pitiful. I can't believe a grown woman is acting like this. The victim mentality is strong with you.

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Anonymous wrote:How much are you complaining about your job?

Almost daily. I know that’s bad but I’m exhausted. I’m 19 weeks pregnant and my patience to handle my job is much harder on me. I’m physically, mentally, and emotionally tired.

It's ok to complain, but it's not ok to do it daily. He is trying to help you because you keep complaining but you are doing nothing to improve the situation.
If there is nothing you want to do to change the situation, stop complaining. Suck it up.

He brings up the subject even when I don’t say anything. It’s become a daily thing. He asks me how my day went. I tell him. He tells me what will solve my stressful work. He again tells me how I should quit and just stay home while he’s massaging me or rubbing my feet. I want to keep my independence as long as possible, but he tells me how worried about he is for me.

Because you’re acting insane. Also, 19 weeks pregnant is the sweet spot. The second trimester EASY for the vast majority of women. God help your poor husband when you’re 37 weeks.

And you are definitely giving mommy martyr vibes, btw.

19 weeks hasn’t been so sweet for me. I have a lot of aches and pains, heartburn, and still dealing with nausea and food issues.

I work in an oncology office with sick people. It’s very emotionally taxing watching sickness each day. I had a really rough last week when one of our beloved patients took a sudden turn for the worse. It’s been really hard now that I’m super emotional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Boy these comments are harsh. Op is pregnant and going rhrpugh a rough time and husband is raising the issue. This forum is full of people who can be incredibly hard on people so ignore those voices.

One thing is: don't quit your job. Babies are expensive and even if you found a new job you likely wouldn't qualify for any maternity leave or protections like FMLA. Having a new baby is also a time of upheaval and change in relationships and you don't want to be setting certain precedents now.

I'd have an open conversation with him about how this makes you uncomfortable and you don't want to quit your job. Everyone has complaints about work but we do need to pay our bills. Especially at a time when it would be very hard to find a new job, sometimes you just have to put your head down and get through it. When you're more settled post kids then you may have the space to job hunt.

Money isn’t really an issue for us. We have our jobs and other streams of income. It’s about giving up my independence and my sole identity turning into a wife and mom. My husband has always been a more traditional man but supported me working.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How much are you complaining about your job?

Almost daily. I know that’s bad but I’m exhausted. I’m 19 weeks pregnant and my patience to handle my job is much harder on me. I’m physically, mentally, and emotionally tired.

It's ok to complain, but it's not ok to do it daily. He is trying to help you because you keep complaining but you are doing nothing to improve the situation.
If there is nothing you want to do to change the situation, stop complaining. Suck it up.

He brings up the subject even when I don’t say anything. It’s become a daily thing. He asks me how my day went. I tell him. He tells me what will solve my stressful work. He again tells me how I should quit and just stay home while he’s massaging me or rubbing my feet. I want to keep my independence as long as possible, but he tells me how worried about he is for me.

Because you’re acting insane. Also, 19 weeks pregnant is the sweet spot. The second trimester EASY for the vast majority of women. God help your poor husband when you’re 37 weeks.

And you are definitely giving mommy martyr vibes, btw.

Many women struggle at 19 weeks. You can only go off of your experience. Good for you that it was easy, but don’t cast judgement. I know many women who struggled in the second trimester.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much are you complaining about your job?

Almost daily. I know that’s bad but I’m exhausted. I’m 19 weeks pregnant and my patience to handle my job is much harder on me. I’m physically, mentally, and emotionally tired.

It's ok to complain, but it's not ok to do it daily. He is trying to help you because you keep complaining but you are doing nothing to improve the situation.
If there is nothing you want to do to change the situation, stop complaining. Suck it up.

He brings up the subject even when I don’t say anything. It’s become a daily thing. He asks me how my day went. I tell him. He tells me what will solve my stressful work. He again tells me how I should quit and just stay home while he’s massaging me or rubbing my feet. I want to keep my independence as long as possible, but he tells me how worried about he is for me.

Because you’re acting insane. Also, 19 weeks pregnant is the sweet spot. The second trimester EASY for the vast majority of women. God help your poor husband when you’re 37 weeks.

And you are definitely giving mommy martyr vibes, btw.

19 weeks hasn’t been so sweet for me. I have a lot of aches and pains, heartburn, and still dealing with nausea and food issues.

I work in an oncology office with sick people. It’s very emotionally taxing watching sickness each day. I had a really rough last week when one of our beloved patients took a sudden turn for the worse. It’s been really hard now that I’m super emotional.

And now you're whining here for support. Your husband is trying to be helpful. You're making it known you're miserable and stressed and he's letting you know you can quit. He's worried that you're stressed and that it's taking a toll on you. That's what a good husband does. Your victim mentality is insane and you need to figure out how to get it in check before the baby is born. You sound incredibly immature.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How much are you complaining about your job?

Almost daily. I know that’s bad but I’m exhausted. I’m 19 weeks pregnant and my patience to handle my job is much harder on me. I’m physically, mentally, and emotionally tired.

It's ok to complain, but it's not ok to do it daily. He is trying to help you because you keep complaining but you are doing nothing to improve the situation.
If there is nothing you want to do to change the situation, stop complaining. Suck it up.

He brings up the subject even when I don’t say anything. It’s become a daily thing. He asks me how my day went. I tell him. He tells me what will solve my stressful work. He again tells me how I should quit and just stay home while he’s massaging me or rubbing my feet. I want to keep my independence as long as possible, but he tells me how worried about he is for me.

Because you’re acting insane. Also, 19 weeks pregnant is the sweet spot. The second trimester EASY for the vast majority of women. God help your poor husband when you’re 37 weeks.

And you are definitely giving mommy martyr vibes, btw.

19 weeks hasn’t been so sweet for me. I have a lot of aches and pains, heartburn, and still dealing with nausea and food issues.

I work in an oncology office with sick people. It’s very emotionally taxing watching sickness each day. I had a really rough last week when one of our beloved patients took a sudden turn for the worse. It’s been really hard now that I’m super emotional.

You’re insufferable. I predict you and your husband will be divorced within the next five years.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How much are you complaining about your job?

Almost daily. I know that’s bad but I’m exhausted. I’m 19 weeks pregnant and my patience to handle my job is much harder on me. I’m physically, mentally, and emotionally tired.

It's ok to complain, but it's not ok to do it daily. He is trying to help you because you keep complaining but you are doing nothing to improve the situation.
If there is nothing you want to do to change the situation, stop complaining. Suck it up.

He brings up the subject even when I don’t say anything. It’s become a daily thing. He asks me how my day went. I tell him. He tells me what will solve my stressful work. He again tells me how I should quit and just stay home while he’s massaging me or rubbing my feet. I want to keep my independence as long as possible, but he tells me how worried about he is for me.

Because you’re acting insane. Also, 19 weeks pregnant is the sweet spot. The second trimester EASY for the vast majority of women. God help your poor husband when you’re 37 weeks.

And you are definitely giving mommy martyr vibes, btw.

19 weeks hasn’t been so sweet for me. I have a lot of aches and pains, heartburn, and still dealing with nausea and food issues.

I work in an oncology office with sick people. It’s very emotionally taxing watching sickness each day. I had a really rough last week when one of our beloved patients took a sudden turn for the worse. It’s been really hard now that I’m super emotional.

You’re insufferable. I predict you and your husband will be divorced within the next five years.

100%. She sounds so young and immature. And the victim hood she has is just going to get worse when she gets to use the mom card too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much are you complaining about your job?

Almost daily. I know that’s bad but I’m exhausted. I’m 19 weeks pregnant and my patience to handle my job is much harder on me. I’m physically, mentally, and emotionally tired.

It's ok to complain, but it's not ok to do it daily. He is trying to help you because you keep complaining but you are doing nothing to improve the situation.
If there is nothing you want to do to change the situation, stop complaining. Suck it up.

He brings up the subject even when I don’t say anything. It’s become a daily thing. He asks me how my day went. I tell him. He tells me what will solve my stressful work. He again tells me how I should quit and just stay home while he’s massaging me or rubbing my feet. I want to keep my independence as long as possible, but he tells me how worried about he is for me.

Because you’re acting insane. Also, 19 weeks pregnant is the sweet spot. The second trimester EASY for the vast majority of women. God help your poor husband when you’re 37 weeks.

And you are definitely giving mommy martyr vibes, btw.

Many women struggle at 19 weeks. You can only go off of your experience. Good for you that it was easy, but don’t cast judgement. I know many women who struggled in the second trimester.

If they’re pathetic whiny losers like OP I believe that they *think* they were suffering. Statistics support my assertion the for the majority of pregnant women the second trimester is easy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Boy these comments are harsh. Op is pregnant and going rhrpugh a rough time and husband is raising the issue. This forum is full of people who can be incredibly hard on people so ignore those voices.

One thing is: don't quit your job. Babies are expensive and even if you found a new job you likely wouldn't qualify for any maternity leave or protections like FMLA. Having a new baby is also a time of upheaval and change in relationships and you don't want to be setting certain precedents now.

I'd have an open conversation with him about how this makes you uncomfortable and you don't want to quit your job. Everyone has complaints about work but we do need to pay our bills. Especially at a time when it would be very hard to find a new job, sometimes you just have to put your head down and get through it. When you're more settled post kids then you may have the space to job hunt.

Money isn’t really an issue for us. We have our jobs and other streams of income. It’s about giving up my independence and my sole identity turning into a wife and mom. My husband has always been a more traditional man but supported me working.

I mean to be blunt sometimes someone will use a shift like this to get what they want. His motivations here may be based on his traditionalist and not what is best for you. It is definitely not unheard of for men to change after marriage or kids because the woman is more locked in and committed.

So definitely talk to him about this.

[Anonymous]

This scenario is ridiculous.

Op is stressed out at work and it's mentally taxing. Also pregnant. Every day husband asks how work was. Every day she says it's stressful and complains in some capacity. Or makes it known she's stressed and unhappy. Husband massages her feet, tries to make her feel better. Tries to support her to make sure she knows she can quit and they'll be ok. Doesn't want her to feel like she has to work a stressful job. He's worried how the stress will impact her. Op gets pissed at him.

What a lucky man her husband is lol.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How much are you complaining about your job?

Almost daily. I know that’s bad but I’m exhausted. I’m 19 weeks pregnant and my patience to handle my job is much harder on me. I’m physically, mentally, and emotionally tired.

It's ok to complain, but it's not ok to do it daily. He is trying to help you because you keep complaining but you are doing nothing to improve the situation.
If there is nothing you want to do to change the situation, stop complaining. Suck it up.

He brings up the subject even when I don’t say anything. It’s become a daily thing. He asks me how my day went. I tell him. He tells me what will solve my stressful work. He again tells me how I should quit and just stay home while he’s massaging me or rubbing my feet. I want to keep my independence as long as possible, but he tells me how worried about he is for me.

Because you’re acting insane. Also, 19 weeks pregnant is the sweet spot. The second trimester EASY for the vast majority of women. God help your poor husband when you’re 37 weeks.

And you are definitely giving mommy martyr vibes, btw.

Many women struggle at 19 weeks. You can only go off of your experience. Good for you that it was easy, but don’t cast judgement. I know many women who struggled in the second trimester.

If they’re pathetic whiny losers like OP I believe that they *think* they were suffering. Statistics support my assertion the for the majority of pregnant women the second trimester is easy.

Someone asked for help and you're just going out of your way to be cruel. I really hope this is just your internet persona and not how you are in day to day life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Boy these comments are harsh. Op is pregnant and going rhrpugh a rough time and husband is raising the issue. This forum is full of people who can be incredibly hard on people so ignore those voices.

One thing is: don't quit your job. Babies are expensive and even if you found a new job you likely wouldn't qualify for any maternity leave or protections like FMLA. Having a new baby is also a time of upheaval and change in relationships and you don't want to be setting certain precedents now.

I'd have an open conversation with him about how this makes you uncomfortable and you don't want to quit your job. Everyone has complaints about work but we do need to pay our bills. Especially at a time when it would be very hard to find a new job, sometimes you just have to put your head down and get through it. When you're more settled post kids then you may have the space to job hunt.

Money isn’t really an issue for us. We have our jobs and other streams of income. It’s about giving up my independence and my sole identity turning into a wife and mom. My husband has always been a more traditional man but supported me working.

I mean to be blunt sometimes someone will use a shift like this to get what they want. His motivations here may be based on his traditionalist and not what is best for you. It is definitely not unheard of for men to change after marriage or kids because the woman is more locked in and committed.

So definitely talk to him about this.

You are just as crazy as OP. She complains about work and talks about how stressful it is. Any good husband would suggest she quit and support it, regardless of their traditional values.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much are you complaining about your job?

Almost daily. I know that’s bad but I’m exhausted. I’m 19 weeks pregnant and my patience to handle my job is much harder on me. I’m physically, mentally, and emotionally tired.

It's ok to complain, but it's not ok to do it daily. He is trying to help you because you keep complaining but you are doing nothing to improve the situation.
If there is nothing you want to do to change the situation, stop complaining. Suck it up.

He brings up the subject even when I don’t say anything. It’s become a daily thing. He asks me how my day went. I tell him. He tells me what will solve my stressful work. He again tells me how I should quit and just stay home while he’s massaging me or rubbing my feet. I want to keep my independence as long as possible, but he tells me how worried about he is for me.

Because you’re acting insane. Also, 19 weeks pregnant is the sweet spot. The second trimester EASY for the vast majority of women. God help your poor husband when you’re 37 weeks.

And you are definitely giving mommy martyr vibes, btw.

Many women struggle at 19 weeks. You can only go off of your experience. Good for you that it was easy, but don’t cast judgement. I know many women who struggled in the second trimester.

If they’re pathetic whiny losers like OP I believe that they *think* they were suffering. Statistics support my assertion the for the majority of pregnant women the second trimester is easy.

Someone asked for help and you're just going out of your way to be cruel. I really hope this is just your internet persona and not how you are in day to day life.

She doesn't want help. She wants us all to tell her her husband is a jerk for trying to support her. Sometimes people need a reality check. Op is acting ridiculous

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much are you complaining about your job?

Almost daily. I know that’s bad but I’m exhausted. I’m 19 weeks pregnant and my patience to handle my job is much harder on me. I’m physically, mentally, and emotionally tired.

It's ok to complain, but it's not ok to do it daily. He is trying to help you because you keep complaining but you are doing nothing to improve the situation.
If there is nothing you want to do to change the situation, stop complaining. Suck it up.

He brings up the subject even when I don’t say anything. It’s become a daily thing. He asks me how my day went. I tell him. He tells me what will solve my stressful work. He again tells me how I should quit and just stay home while he’s massaging me or rubbing my feet. I want to keep my independence as long as possible, but he tells me how worried about he is for me.

Because you’re acting insane. Also, 19 weeks pregnant is the sweet spot. The second trimester EASY for the vast majority of women. God help your poor husband when you’re 37 weeks.

And you are definitely giving mommy martyr vibes, btw.

Many women struggle at 19 weeks. You can only go off of your experience. Good for you that it was easy, but don’t cast judgement. I know many women who struggled in the second trimester.

If they’re pathetic whiny losers like OP I believe that they *think* they were suffering. Statistics support my assertion the for the majority of pregnant women the second trimester is easy.

Someone asked for help and you're just going out of your way to be cruel. I really hope this is just your internet persona and not how you are in day to day life.

No, I would probably tell OP to STFU to her face if she acted like this in real life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much are you complaining about your job?

Almost daily. I know that’s bad but I’m exhausted. I’m 19 weeks pregnant and my patience to handle my job is much harder on me. I’m physically, mentally, and emotionally tired.

It's ok to complain, but it's not ok to do it daily. He is trying to help you because you keep complaining but you are doing nothing to improve the situation.
If there is nothing you want to do to change the situation, stop complaining. Suck it up.

He brings up the subject even when I don’t say anything. It’s become a daily thing. He asks me how my day went. I tell him. He tells me what will solve my stressful work. He again tells me how I should quit and just stay home while he’s massaging me or rubbing my feet. I want to keep my independence as long as possible, but he tells me how worried about he is for me.

Because you’re acting insane. Also, 19 weeks pregnant is the sweet spot. The second trimester EASY for the vast majority of women. God help your poor husband when you’re 37 weeks.

And you are definitely giving mommy martyr vibes, btw.

Many women struggle at 19 weeks. You can only go off of your experience. Good for you that it was easy, but don’t cast judgement. I know many women who struggled in the second trimester.

If they’re pathetic whiny losers like OP I believe that they *think* they were suffering. Statistics support my assertion the for the majority of pregnant women the second trimester is easy.

Someone asked for help and you're just going out of your way to be cruel. I really hope this is just your internet persona and not how you are in day to day life.

She doesn't want help. She wants us all to tell her her husband is a jerk for trying to support her. Sometimes people need a reality check. Op is acting ridiculous

Or she's worried about losing autonomy and wants tips for having that conversation with her husband.

Again, hope you don't treat people in your life like this. If everyone has to articulate their thoughts and fears perfectly or be mocked and insulted, then no one will want to be around you.