Question for the rich, skinny moms who post judgy remarks about someone's looks/attire on here

[Anonymous]

I have a question that I really want the truthful answer. If I asked IRL, I'd probably get a very nice polite answer. So, here goes:

I am overweight. I am not rich. I have cankles and nobby-knees. and I'm old.

I am trying to lose weight, but of course it takes time (I've lost 15lbs so far, but I'm only losing about a lb a week, and I'm still fat). I like the look of nice things, but can't afford them. But, if I see a purse with the LV logo, or a coach-type purse at Marshalls I'll get it because I think it's pretty - certainly not to pretend I have something I don't. I have also been wearing sleevless or short sleeves. I'm usually conservative (I never wear shorts or shorter skirts - always capris or capri-length skirts) but it's so dang hot outside, it's hard to find cool tops with sleeves that go to your elbow.

So, my question is, when you see me on the metro, or walking on the street or in the elevator with my fat arms exposed, fake LV or coach purse and non-designer capri pants, do you really think the things you say here on DCUM? I really just thought of myself as a non-event. I really thought that the skinny-rich-designer women just don't even notice or care that I walked by (or are in the elevator). I am genuinely curious. Do you spend minutes (or seconds) or whatever really having a judgy thought about me or am I a non-issue IRL and the judgy stuff just comes out when the topic of exposed fat arms, fake designers, or cheap dress comes up. then you give it some thought and respond truthfully?

[Anonymous]

OP, my thoughts exactly (and I'm rich, in shape and not designer-knowlegable at all). I mean, why do you all care about me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a question that I really want the truthful answer. If I asked IRL, I'd probably get a very nice polite answer. So, here goes:

I am overweight. I am not rich. I have cankles and nobby-knees. and I'm old.

I am trying to lose weight, but of course it takes time (I've lost 15lbs so far, but I'm only losing about a lb a week, and I'm still fat). I like the look of nice things, but can't afford them. But, if I see a purse with the LV logo, or a coach-type purse at Marshalls I'll get it because I think it's pretty - certainly not to pretend I have something I don't. I have also been wearing sleevless or short sleeves. I'm usually conservative (I never wear shorts or shorter skirts - always capris or capri-length skirts) but it's so dang hot outside, it's hard to find cool tops with sleeves that go to your elbow.

So, my question is, when you see me on the metro, or walking on the street or in the elevator with my fat arms exposed, fake LV or coach purse and non-designer capri pants, do you really think the things you say here on DCUM? I really just thought of myself as a non-event. I really thought that the skinny-rich-designer women just don't even notice or care that I walked by (or are in the elevator). I am genuinely curious. Do you spend minutes (or seconds) or whatever really having a judgy thought about me or am I a non-issue IRL and the judgy stuff just comes out when the topic of exposed fat arms, fake designers, or cheap dress comes up. then you give it some thought and respond truthfully?

I think all women are beautiful in their own way. Why do you even care about what some DCUM woman thinks? Just because someone is wealthy or Ivy League doesn't make their opinion count any more than someone else.

[Anonymous]

I'll bite. I'm probably one of "those" women. I wear designer clothing (with the designer labels on the inside, thankyouverymuch). I'm thin, attractive, and I suppose qualify as "rich". Not really rich, but we're definitely well off.

No, I don't usually think about your logo bag, or capris, or whatever. I don't actually think everything has to be designer to look pulled together anyway. I might have a passing judgy thought if you look like you rolled out of bed, but if you look well groomed, no. I'm far to worried about how I look to worry about how you look....see, I'm pretty self absorbed.

Also, I'm hungry. That's why I'm thin. I work out a lot, and I don't eat much. So I'm hungry, and I'm probably thinking about food. Kind of like Kathy Griffin says....the secret to being thin is starvation and frustration..."I'm hungry all the time, bitches!".

Buy what you like, wear what you like. Don't worry about me, I'm busy worrying about me...not you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a question that I really want the truthful answer. If I asked IRL, I'd probably get a very nice polite answer. So, here goes:

I am overweight. I am not rich. I have cankles and nobby-knees. and I'm old.

I am trying to lose weight, but of course it takes time (I've lost 15lbs so far, but I'm only losing about a lb a week, and I'm still fat). I like the look of nice things, but can't afford them. But, if I see a purse with the LV logo, or a coach-type purse at Marshalls I'll get it because I think it's pretty - certainly not to pretend I have something I don't. I have also been wearing sleevless or short sleeves. I'm usually conservative (I never wear shorts or shorter skirts - always capris or capri-length skirts) but it's so dang hot outside, it's hard to find cool tops with sleeves that go to your elbow.

So, my question is, when you see me on the metro, or walking on the street or in the elevator with my fat arms exposed, fake LV or coach purse and non-designer capri pants, do you really think the things you say here on DCUM? I really just thought of myself as a non-event. I really thought that the skinny-rich-designer women just don't even notice or care that I walked by (or are in the elevator). I am genuinely curious. Do you spend minutes (or seconds) or whatever really having a judgy thought about me or am I a non-issue IRL and the judgy stuff just comes out when the topic of exposed fat arms, fake designers, or cheap dress comes up. then you give it some thought and respond truthfully?

I think all women are beautiful in their own way. Why do you even care about what some DCUM woman thinks? Just because someone is wealthy or Ivy League doesn't make their opinion count any more than someone else.

Says the woman from Podunk Community College rockin' the Dress Barn maxi...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'll bite. I'm probably one of "those" women. I wear designer clothing (with the designer labels on the inside, thankyouverymuch). I'm thin, attractive, and I suppose qualify as "rich". Not really rich, but we're definitely well off.

No, I don't usually think about your logo bag, or capris, or whatever. I don't actually think everything has to be designer to look pulled together anyway. I might have a passing judgy thought if you look like you rolled out of bed, but if you look well groomed, no. I'm far to worried about how I look to worry about how you look....see, I'm pretty self absorbed.

Also, I'm hungry. That's why I'm thin. I work out a lot, and I don't eat much. So I'm hungry, and I'm probably thinking about food. Kind of like Kathy Griffin says....the secret to being thin is starvation and frustration..."I'm hungry all the time, bitches!".

Buy what you like, wear what you like. Don't worry about me, I'm busy worrying about me...not you.

I like your honest post and am learning about the starvation part of maintaining a 40+ body. But I also read lots of Judgy Judys here who are concerned about my capris and Tory Birch mixed with Costo bargains. I am astounded that people notice and/or care. WTH?

[Anonymous]

OP - your post is a sad commentary on how people treat each other on this board. you have to have thick skin to be on here sometimes.

I think people are way more vocal and rude on here because they're invisible. and also, the "mob mentality" takes over on DCUM and the really ugly side of people come out. It's bullying at it's finest....or worst I guess I should say.

I don't think that DCUM 100% mirrors what you would experience when you're not on here. I would like to think that people are actually nicer than they appear when not trolling around for people to attack on here.

[Anonymous]

If I saw what you just described, I would think that you are a laid back mom who probably takes care of her family first, and herself second.

I agree with pp, I am usually more worried about myself than what you look like. Actually, you are describing the typical 40 plus female. So you would not be considered some type of freak show if that is what you are worried about. Isn't the average sized woman in America 14 or 16?

[Anonymous]

I'm not rich (well, not by DC/DCUM standards, but where I'm from I would be considered well off) but I am thin, attractive, and wear cute clothes. (Not necessarily designer.) I normally don't look at someone who is overweight and/or poorly dressed and think, "Ugh!" but I do wonder, "Did they always look like that or did they just let themselves go?" It's the absolute lack of give a shit about appearances that I judge more than people who are overweight or don't wear designer clothes. I can't afford designer either, so I don't judge that, but sorry, I do judge the woman who is at the grocery store at 3 pm in her husband's sweatpants and Crocs.

The only time I really judge someone for being overweight is if they're a rude bitch. I don't care about anyone's weight as a matter of course, but if you're a total cunt, and you're fat, I admit, I get a sense of pleasure out of the fact that not only are you nasty to be around, you're also fat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'll bite. I'm probably one of "those" women. I wear designer clothing (with the designer labels on the inside, thankyouverymuch). I'm thin, attractive, and I suppose qualify as "rich". Not really rich, but we're definitely well off.

No, I don't usually think about your logo bag, or capris, or whatever. I don't actually think everything has to be designer to look pulled together anyway. I might have a passing judgy thought if you look like you rolled out of bed, but if you look well groomed, no. I'm far to worried about how I look to worry about how you look....see, I'm pretty self absorbed.

Also, I'm hungry. That's why I'm thin. I work out a lot, and I don't eat much. So I'm hungry, and I'm probably thinking about food. Kind of like Kathy Griffin says....the secret to being thin is starvation and frustration..."I'm hungry all the time, bitches!".

Buy what you like, wear what you like. Don't worry about me, I'm busy worrying about me...not you.

liar - I've seen you take the bus to work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'll bite. I'm probably one of "those" women. I wear designer clothing (with the designer labels on the inside, thankyouverymuch). I'm thin, attractive, and I suppose qualify as "rich". Not really rich, but we're definitely well off.

No, I don't usually think about your logo bag, or capris, or whatever. I don't actually think everything has to be designer to look pulled together anyway. I might have a passing judgy thought if you look like you rolled out of bed, but if you look well groomed, no. I'm far to worried about how I look to worry about how you look....see, I'm pretty self absorbed.

Also, I'm hungry. That's why I'm thin. I work out a lot, and I don't eat much. So I'm hungry, and I'm probably thinking about food. Kind of like Kathy Griffin says....the secret to being thin is starvation and frustration..."I'm hungry all the time, bitches!".

Buy what you like, wear what you like. Don't worry about me, I'm busy worrying about me...not you.

liar - I've seen you take the bus to work.

I'm the PP--good one, that's funny. But I live in McLean, so you have to go find a blonde picture with a bob!

[Anonymous]

Another thin hungry poster here. I too am probably thinking about food. More like fantasizing about all of them amazing things I'd love to be eating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'll bite. I'm probably one of "those" women. I wear designer clothing (with the designer labels on the inside, thankyouverymuch). I'm thin, attractive, and I suppose qualify as "rich". Not really rich, but we're definitely well off.

No, I don't usually think about your logo bag, or capris, or whatever. I don't actually think everything has to be designer to look pulled together anyway. I might have a passing judgy thought if you look like you rolled out of bed, but if you look well groomed, no. I'm far to worried about how I look to worry about how you look....see, I'm pretty self absorbed.

Also, I'm hungry. That's why I'm thin. I work out a lot, and I don't eat much. So I'm hungry, and I'm probably thinking about food. Kind of like Kathy Griffin says....the secret to being thin is starvation and frustration..."I'm hungry all the time, bitches!".

Buy what you like, wear what you like. Don't worry about me, I'm busy worrying about me...not you.

I like your honest post and am learning about the starvation part of maintaining a 40+ body. But I also read lots of Judgy Judys here who are concerned about my capris and Tory Birch mixed with Costo bargains. I am astounded that people notice and/or care. WTH?

The other thing I should have mentioned while I was rambling on in my hunger induced state was that real fashion doesn't come from going out and buying head-to-toe Armani or Versace or whatever. It comes from the ability to mix Old Navy with Armani and make it look great--to wear Cartier and cheap bangles together. And I'm pretty sure I don't have that ability, by the way.

[Anonymous]

What do all the put-together thin women do for a living?

I ask because in my experience, the really brainy women (and men) do not make fashion a priority. I mean nerdy brainy. Scientists, accountants, policy wonks in the back rooms crunching numbers, etc.

[Anonymous]

I'm on the thinner, wealthier side, but I honestly don't think anything bad about most very large people. I respond to the confidence level of the person I meet, not their size. If you give me a reason to think you are really insecure and pushy, I will not respond positively to you. I have my share of days when I don't feel as confident and I'm sure that's not pleasant for people who I'm interacting with. But believe it or not, I'm really trying to work on it. I hope everyone is.