Question for the rich, skinny moms who post judgy remarks about someone's looks/attire on here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm affluent, thin & fit, attractive, wear designer clothes (but never with labels or designer names visible)...

To answer your questions: No, I do not judge you for the way that you dress. I really don't care... I have to look put together for my field but realize that many others don't.

I do notice you but you don't gross me out. I wonder why you let yourself get so overweight. If you were my friend I would worry about your well being, both emotional and physical.

Because eating what I want is more important than being thin to me.

If eating junk is more important to you than living to see your child's wedding, so be it.

[Anonymous]

To the OP - I have been obese much of my life. Emotional eating and binge eating was my problem. Through therapy and more self awareness, I am now only about 20 pounds overweight and it's a happy weight for me. If I saw you wearing a put together outfit, cute purse, etc, I'd admire you. I spent far to much of my life embarrassed and self conscious. The fact that, regardless of your weight and budget, you take time to put yourself together is great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
guy here. havent read any responses yet but based on this reading alone you are insecure as fuck and put too much weight (no pun) on what you think skinny "rich" people are thinking of you.

you can be fat rich or fat poor. in my book, you are just fat. you can have a real LV bag or a fake one. you are still fat. you can dress poorly and in ill fitting clothes and you are still just fat.

if i choose to comment on your fake bag or your lack of style, you being fat will have nothing to do with it because a skinny person will get the same comments from me if i choose to go there.

in the end, the truth here is that you are insecure. you walk around looking at skinny women who YOU think are sitting looking at you with evil thoughts in their head when thats probably not the case. sure there are mean people out there but guess what? its probably not the "rich" person in chevy chase making fun of you. its probably a fake LV bag carrying out of style average person just like you.

there are fat rich people out there in case you didnt know.

why dont you focus on losing weight instead of focusing on imaginary people out there who you think are wasting their time away concerned about how fat you are.

OP here. LOL thanks for your response, but you might want to read the posts before adding your assessment of me. As I mentioned (many times) I actually have never given a second thought to what others IRL are thinking about me, so your assessment that I'm "insecure as fuck" and "walk around looking at skinny women thinking they have evil thoughts about me" and "focusing on imaginary people out there" are completely wrong and out in left field. I'm sorry my post got you so angry, but you did give me a chuckle me imagining you slamming your fingers on your keyboard all red-faced swearing at me and telling me "you're fat! you're fat! you're fat!" (sorry about that, but I did need a good laugh today, so thanks).


What I do find fascinating is that I mentioned being overweight once and then one sentence about trying to lose the weight. The entire rest of my OP was about cheap clothes, purses, not being rich, etc. And yet the majority of people focused so much on my weight. It's so interesting. I really wonder what that means, if anything. Hmmm.

Not the guy poster but I will just point out a few of the lines from your OP:
"I am overweight. I am not rich. I have cankles and nobby-knees. and I'm old. "
"I am trying to lose weight, but of course it takes time (I've lost 15lbs so far, but I'm only losing about a lb a week, and I'm still fat). "
"So, my question is, when you see me on the metro, or walking on the street or in the elevator with my fat arms exposed, fake LV or coach purse and non-designer capri pants, do you really think the things you say here on DCUM?"
"Do you spend minutes (or seconds) or whatever really having a judgy thought about me or am I a non-issue IRL and the judgy stuff just comes out when the topic of exposed fat arms, fake designers, or cheap dress comes up. then you give it some thought and respond truthfully?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
guy here. havent read any responses yet but based on this reading alone you are insecure as fuck and put too much weight (no pun) on what you think skinny "rich" people are thinking of you.

you can be fat rich or fat poor. in my book, you are just fat. you can have a real LV bag or a fake one. you are still fat. you can dress poorly and in ill fitting clothes and you are still just fat.

if i choose to comment on your fake bag or your lack of style, you being fat will have nothing to do with it because a skinny person will get the same comments from me if i choose to go there.

in the end, the truth here is that you are insecure. you walk around looking at skinny women who YOU think are sitting looking at you with evil thoughts in their head when thats probably not the case. sure there are mean people out there but guess what? its probably not the "rich" person in chevy chase making fun of you. its probably a fake LV bag carrying out of style average person just like you.

there are fat rich people out there in case you didnt know.

why dont you focus on losing weight instead of focusing on imaginary people out there who you think are wasting their time away concerned about how fat you are.

OP here. LOL thanks for your response, but you might want to read the posts before adding your assessment of me. As I mentioned (many times) I actually have never given a second thought to what others IRL are thinking about me, so your assessment that I'm "insecure as fuck" and "walk around looking at skinny women thinking they have evil thoughts about me" and "focusing on imaginary people out there" are completely wrong and out in left field. I'm sorry my post got you so angry, but you did give me a chuckle me imagining you slamming your fingers on your keyboard all red-faced swearing at me and telling me "you're fat! you're fat! you're fat!" (sorry about that, but I did need a good laugh today, so thanks).


What I do find fascinating is that I mentioned being overweight once and then one sentence about trying to lose the weight. The entire rest of my OP was about cheap clothes, purses, not being rich, etc. And yet the majority of people focused so much on my weight. It's so interesting. I really wonder what that means, if anything. Hmmm.

Not the guy poster but I will just point out a few of the lines from your OP:
"I am overweight. I am not rich. I have cankles and nobby-knees. and I'm old. "
"I am trying to lose weight, but of course it takes time (I've lost 15lbs so far, but I'm only losing about a lb a week, and I'm still fat). "
"So, my question is, when you see me on the metro, or walking on the street or in the elevator with my fat arms exposed, fake LV or coach purse and non-designer capri pants, do you really think the things you say here on DCUM?"
"Do you spend minutes (or seconds) or whatever really having a judgy thought about me or am I a non-issue IRL and the judgy stuff just comes out when the topic of exposed fat arms, fake designers, or cheap dress comes up. then you give it some thought and respond truthfully?"

OP here. Okay, I'll rephrase my last comment:

What I do find fascinating is that I mentioned being overweight once and then one sentence about trying to lose the weight, and then include reference to my weight along with a list of other characteristics when I list those characteristics. The entire rest of my OP was about cheap clothes, purses, not being rich, etc. And yet the majority of people focused so much on my weight. It's so interesting. I really wonder what that means, if anything. Hmmm.


how's that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm affluent, thin & fit, attractive, wear designer clothes (but never with labels or designer names visible)...

To answer your questions: No, I do not judge you for the way that you dress. I really don't care... I have to look put together for my field but realize that many others don't.

I do notice you but you don't gross me out. I wonder why you let yourself get so overweight. If you were my friend I would worry about your well being, both emotional and physical.

Because eating what I want is more important than being thin to me.

If eating junk is more important to you than living to see your child's wedding, so be it.

I don't eat junk, I just eat too many carbs. I'm 15 pounds overweight. I'm a lot nicer than you are because I'm (1) not starving and (2) not wasting my time judging/being envious of people who are bigger than size 2.

[Anonymous]

OP im the guy you responded to.

if being fat was never part of your post, as someone else indicated, why did you feel the need to even mention that you are fat?

also, as i stated in my post, if someone is hung up on you walking around with fake bags or whatever, you being fat would have nothing to do with it because there are fat rich people who are stuck on label and designers.

and for you to suggest that our focus on you being fat says something internal about us, read the title of your thread again and your original post. you call our skinny rich people and go on to tell us you are fat.

your topic would have gotten enough attention due to the rich v. poor subject but you decided to single out not just rich but skinny rich people and mention the fact that you are fat.

[Anonymous]

Let's face it. This area is *filled* with people who hate the next guy, as the next guy always has more than the first guy, in one form or another. People who pretend that they are not noticing what the next guy does truly do have to spend more time on themselves, as they claim they are. It is so obvious they are jealous and nasty by the posts. Work on yourself. The rest will come.

OP you sound most "judgy" of all. Life is short.

[Anonymous]

I am naturally above average in terms of prettiness. I don't wear makeup, my outfits vary (today - not so cute). I'm not particularly thin but maybe slightly thinner than average. I always eat when I'm hungry and I work out a lot. I have a great desinger purse which I carry all the time (but it doesn't look old). I don't worry about what anyone thinks about me and my best friend is morbidly obese (but is so together in so many ways, has a great purse collection, has a wonderful kid and husband, is the most conifdent person alive).

I think it is morally wrong to judge other people and it goes against being a Christian - so I fight the urge to judge others. Embracing being judgemental is a sin. I pitty people who worry about other people's purses or weights.

[Anonymous]

I am skinny but not rich. I don't wear labels, I have always thrifted and bought cheap clothes and mixed it with better stuff. It doesn't take money to look good. I live in a lower-income area and I ride the bus a lot, and frankly I see a lot of nicely dressed put together looking people every day.

There does seem to be a particular issue that white middle class ladies of a certain age have with dressing frumpy, having unflattering hair cuts, and not trying any more. If you are overweight, you can still take time with your hair and fix your nails and wear jewelry and make up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am naturally above average in terms of prettiness. I don't wear makeup, my outfits vary (today - not so cute). I'm not particularly thin but maybe slightly thinner than average. I always eat when I'm hungry and I work out a lot. I have a great desinger purse which I carry all the time (but it doesn't look old). I don't worry about what anyone thinks about me and my best friend is morbidly obese (but is so together in so many ways, has a great purse collection, has a wonderful kid and husband, is the most conifdent person alive).

I think it is morally wrong to judge other people and it goes against being a Christian - so I fight the urge to judge others. Embracing being judgemental is a sin. I pitty people who worry about other people's purses or weights.

A few things GCB: First you say that due to being a Christian you "fight the urge to judge others." Well please read the bolded areas above: if you are prettier and thinner than the average isnt that juding? How would you think you are then? Oh wait another part...you "pity others who worry about purses or weights" THATS JUDGING!

I personally find it to be a sin to be hypocritical and hollier than thou like you pp. You must not be very smart. And yes, I am judging you after your ridiculous post!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am naturally above average in terms of prettiness. I don't wear makeup, my outfits vary (today - not so cute). I'm not particularly thin but maybe slightly thinner than average. I always eat when I'm hungry and I work out a lot. I have a great desinger purse which I carry all the time (but it doesn't look old). I don't worry about what anyone thinks about me and my best friend is morbidly obese (but is so together in so many ways, has a great purse collection, has a wonderful kid and husband, is the most conifdent person alive).

I think it is morally wrong to judge other people and it goes against being a Christian - so I fight the urge to judge others. Embracing being judgemental is a sin. I pitty people who worry about other people's purses or weights.

A few things GCB: First you say that due to being a Christian you "fight the urge to judge others." Well please read the bolded areas above: if you are prettier and thinner than the average isnt that juding? How would you think you are then? Oh wait another part...you "pity others who worry about purses or weights" THATS JUDGING!

I personally find it to be a sin to be hypocritical and hollier than thou like you pp. You must not be very smart. And yes, I am judging you after your ridiculous post!

Love it!

[Anonymous]

This is what i judge...

Women who have ample bosom and wear low cut tops. (geez, cover those things up!)
Women who are overweight and wear bootie shorts.
Women who are over 40 and wear track pants with the words PINK on the butt. (Really??)
Women who wear too much jewelry. (Do you need a ring on every finger?)
Women who wear too much perfume. (I can smell you a mile away, and don't get me started if it is the cheap stuff.)

[Anonymous]

Oh, and women who wear too much make up.

[Anonymous]

Oh, and mom's who can't handle their kids in public.

[Anonymous]

Wow
The most awful people in the world live here
Has anyone heard of the saying:
Only the very ugly need the fanciest clothes?
You really cannot a life described by these forumites. Define normal