How to interpret a "no children" wedding invitation?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Our kids are teens -- 13 and 16. After twice delaying, our niece has finally settled on a wedding date in September. We bought the tickets, RSVPed, and tonight I was looking for her wedding registry when my eyes came accross their no-children policy: "Also, because our celebration will be at a brewery we request no children during the event. "

So... is this mean as nobody under 21? Nobody under 18? No young kids? yes for the older teen but no for the younger one?

The wedding is on the west coast, and it would be our first travel since covid. Kids are not in need of babysitting, but are old enough to be disappointed for not being able to attend their cousin's wedding. Not old enough to leave them home for a few days, but do we fly accross the States through the remains of the pandemics just for half the family to not be able to attend?

We have a large extended family, and have always cherished graduations, weddings or annual celebrations as ways to get together with loved ones. We have not had a chance to do any one of those things post covid, and this is a first event in our family. We are the youngest, and our children are the youngest among the cousins, all of whom are drinking age. So they will be, along with the younger generation of toddlers, the single ones of their cousins uninvited.

Would you politely decline?

No one under 21. It's at a brewery.

You can attend without your kids or you can politely decline. Whatever.

We take kids to brewery’s all the time.

Yes, no surprise that your type takes kids to "brewery's" all the time.

NP here. You're a dick.

Has dick PP ever been to a brewery? There are often tons of kids there, many have outdoor picnic areas w/ playgrounds, kids menus at the restaurant, and kid size ear protection and goggles for the brewery tours. I bring my kids, we even went to one that had a “soda sampler” for kids with 4 oz pours of various strange local sodas for the kids.

[Anonymous]

I never understand why people are SO CONFUSED by this. If the invite says no kids, it's open to the adults only - meaning you and your partner. If you have no childcare, are offended, or whatever, decline the invite. I do that all the time. If it's adults only, I usually cannot make it or it's too much of a hassle. the wedding is not about you or your kids. Send the gift and enjoy your Saturday night drinking wine on the couch. You'll be just fine! And the bride/groom will not be upset at your absence.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Our kids are teens -- 13 and 16. After twice delaying, our niece has finally settled on a wedding date in September. We bought the tickets, RSVPed, and tonight I was looking for her wedding registry when my eyes came accross their no-children policy: "Also, because our celebration will be at a brewery we request no children during the event. "

So... is this mean as nobody under 21? Nobody under 18? No young kids? yes for the older teen but no for the younger one?

The wedding is on the west coast, and it would be our first travel since covid. Kids are not in need of babysitting, but are old enough to be disappointed for not being able to attend their cousin's wedding. Not old enough to leave them home for a few days, but do we fly accross the States through the remains of the pandemics just for half the family to not be able to attend?

We have a large extended family, and have always cherished graduations, weddings or annual celebrations as ways to get together with loved ones. We have not had a chance to do any one of those things post covid, and this is a first event in our family. We are the youngest, and our children are the youngest among the cousins, all of whom are drinking age. So they will be, along with the younger generation of toddlers, the single ones of their cousins uninvited.

Would you politely decline?

No one under 21. It's at a brewery.

You can attend without your kids or you can politely decline. Whatever.

We take kids to brewery’s all the time.

Yes, no surprise that your type takes kids to "brewery's" all the time.

NP here. You're a dick.

Has dick PP ever been to a brewery? There are often tons of kids there, many have outdoor picnic areas w/ playgrounds, kids menus at the restaurant, and kid size ear protection and goggles for the brewery tours. I bring my kids, we even went to one that had a “soda sampler” for kids with 4 oz pours of various strange local sodas for the kids.

Hooters also has a children's menu. That doesn't mean it's appropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never understand why people are SO CONFUSED by this. If the invite says no kids, it's open to the adults only - meaning you and your partner. If you have no childcare, are offended, or whatever, decline the invite. I do that all the time. If it's adults only, I usually cannot make it or it's too much of a hassle. the wedding is not about you or your kids. Send the gift and enjoy your Saturday night drinking wine on the couch. You'll be just fine! And the bride/groom will not be upset at your absence.

I agree with this but OP apparently said her kids were named on the invitation. In that case OP is in her rights to reach out to the B&G about it. I would assume kids specifically named on an invitation WERE invited.

[Anonymous]

small kids, them that scream and wear diapers

[Anonymous]

I miss going to weddings. I know some people hate them but I think they're really fun.

This couple shouldve been more specific if they only meant small kids (as our venue is a brewery, this reception cannot accommodate kids under 12). Too vague if the family is that big and they were going to say yes to some kids and not to others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I miss going to weddings. I know some people hate them but I think they're really fun.

This couple shouldve been more specific if they only meant small kids (as our venue is a brewery, this reception cannot accommodate kids under 12). Too vague if the family is that big and they were going to say yes to some kids and not to others.

+1.

[Anonymous]

No children means no one under 18

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand the question, OP, were your children’s names on the invitation? If not, they’re not invited whether there is a “kid policy” or not.

The idea that someone would receive an invitation for two people and just bring their children is insane. The names are on the envelope! Or not! The end.

Meh, when I got married I wasn't aware of this rule. When I invited families I didn't write “and family” even though kids were absolutely welcome and dod come.

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Anonymous wrote:“No kids” family events are such dick moves.

Being so entitled as to think of a ceremony between two people as a “family event” is a dick move. Want a family reunion? Plan, organize and PAY FOR ONE, cheapskate.

In my extended family these are absolutely family events. Out of 16 cousins only one - the very youngest - had a “no kids” wedding.

Same. There has never been a no kids wedding in my family. —Midwestern Catholic

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t attend child free weddings - love, love, love seeing kids on the dance floor.

Ew creepy.

+1. Do you film them? It’s kind of sick that you won’t attend a wedding unless you know kids will be there. Gross.

You guys are sickos. Some of my favorite memories of my wedding were my little cousins dancing. So sweet.
-np

[Anonymous]

I remember going to a no kids wedding years ago, when my daughter was a baby. We left her home. We got seated at the table of people who brought RSVPd to bring their kids anyways, which sucked bc we finally had a night wo our baby. Don’t be rude and ask what they mean, bc they may feel obligated to tell you it’s fine when the invitation already made it clear it wasn’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our kids are teens -- 13 and 16. After twice delaying, our niece has finally settled on a wedding date in September. We bought the tickets, RSVPed, and tonight I was looking for her wedding registry when my eyes came accross their no-children policy: "Also, because our celebration will be at a brewery we request no children during the event. "

So... is this mean as nobody under 21? Nobody under 18? No young kids? yes for the older teen but no for the younger one?

The wedding is on the west coast, and it would be our first travel since covid. Kids are not in need of babysitting, but are old enough to be disappointed for not being able to attend their cousin's wedding. Not old enough to leave them home for a few days, but do we fly accross the States through the remains of the pandemics just for half the family to not be able to attend?

We have a large extended family, and have always cherished graduations, weddings or annual celebrations as ways to get together with loved ones. We have not had a chance to do any one of those things post covid, and this is a first event in our family. We are the youngest, and our children are the youngest among the cousins, all of whom are drinking age. So they will be, along with the younger generation of toddlers, the single ones of their cousins uninvited.

Would you politely decline?

The inside envelope of the invitation should say age. If no age then it means no one under 18. Also, rig envelope does novsay "and family". Also means no kids. People over 28 should receive their own personal invitation.

[Anonymous]

I wish I had the confidence of someone who comments on the OP after 17 pages as if they have some unique insight to share that hasn't been said 357 times already.

[Anonymous]

We always bring our kids to weddings. No one ever cares and most love seeing our kids and how they are growing up!