Can you tell me about upscale southern culture?

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Anonymous wrote:Are there asian/black/Spanish/ people in the upscale southern culture? If so, do you posters admire them as well?

No there is not. At least not that I am aware of. Charming Southerner here.

Delightful.

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bourbon, horses, seersucker, bow-ties, colors, patterns, historic houses, straw hats.

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Anonymous wrote:bourbon, horses, seersucker, bow-ties, colors, patterns, historic houses, straw hats.

porches, flowers, benedictine, chicken salad.

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Anonymous wrote:There's a lot of similarities between affluent "old money" South and affluent families in Latin America. Emphasis on impeccable manners, beautifully decorated houses, women really do make an effort to look composed and presented, and many subtle social rules and mannerism that may be hard for outsiders to see but which speak volumes.

Because they are both servant/colonial cultures. Southeast Asia is also similar.

DP You made me gasp. I was reading this thread mildly amused since I have no intersect with affluent Southern culture, but feeling a sense of familiarity. When you mentioned Southeast Asia, I understood why.

I'm the poster who made the comparison to Latin America and also agree with SE Asia and South Asia and the Middle East too. It's less to do with colonialism and more that any culture that has a history of depending on servants evolves a set of mannerism and attitudes that exists because there are servants to support it. It's easier to have beautiful houses and be nicely dressed when someone else is doing the cleaning and ironing. Cultural divides emerge between those who employ servants and those who can't, and a stigma of superior morality gets attached to being able to employ servants. It's an ancient class-based mindset that's found in pretty much every old culture across the world and was also prevalent in Europe not that long ago. Even though there are few servants beyond cleaners in the South these days, for whatever reason they've retained many elements of that cultural heritage.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are there asian/black/Spanish/ people in the upscale southern culture? If so, do you posters admire them as well?

No there is not. At least not that I am aware of. Charming Southerner here.

Delightful.

What’s with the snark? At least they answered truthfully.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are there asian/black/Spanish/ people in the upscale southern culture? If so, do you posters admire them as well?

No there is not. At least not that I am aware of. Charming Southerner here.

Delightful.

What’s with the snark? At least they answered truthfully.

Yeah we should all appreciate PP’s racism

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are there asian/black/Spanish/ people in the upscale southern culture? If so, do you posters admire them as well?

No there is not. At least not that I am aware of. Charming Southerner here.

Delightful.

What’s with the snark? At least they answered truthfully.

Yeah we should all appreciate PP’s racism

I don’t see the racism when they truthfully answered a question. A lot of rural southern counties are 98% white. If someone answers a question truthfully why is that racist? The demographics are what they are.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are there asian/black/Spanish/ people in the upscale southern culture? If so, do you posters admire them as well?

No there is not. At least not that I am aware of. Charming Southerner here.

Delightful.

What’s with the snark? At least they answered truthfully.

You don’t see the irony of at least 2 elements of PP’s post?

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You need a really really good dress for the wedding. Like start saving now so you can go to Capitol in Charlotte. I'd guess the wedding will be on a Georgia Island, like Jekyll.
This is a very hard culture to break into but if her husband knows the ropes, she will be survive.

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Anonymous wrote:Southerners do not pee in the shower and we wash our legs and feet regularly unlike yankees.

WTF? I agree with the first thing - no one I know does that as far as I know. What is the last part? Do you roam around pantless without shoes?

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Anonymous wrote:You need a really really good dress for the wedding. Like start saving now so you can go to Capitol in Charlotte. I'd guess the wedding will be on a Georgia Island, like Jekyll.
This is a very hard culture to break into but if her husband knows the ropes, she will be survive.

+1. Just like you judged a person based on her Kelly bag, get ready to be judged on every aspect of you personally and your family. Don’t let your daughter down.

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It sounds a little scary - having to take 3 week vacations with other people and then additional trips.

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Did anyone watch Jersey Belle on Bravo? wondering if the family Jamie married into (Mountain Brook, Alabama) is part of this culture...

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Anonymous wrote:Southerners do not pee in the shower and we wash our legs and feet regularly unlike yankees.

WTF? I agree with the first thing - no one I know does that as far as I know. What is the last part? Do you roam around pantless without shoes?

They just love pedicures is all.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are there asian/black/Spanish/ people in the upscale southern culture? If so, do you posters admire them as well?

No there is not. At least not that I am aware of. Charming Southerner here.

Delightful.

What’s with the snark? At least they answered truthfully.

Yeah we should all appreciate PP’s racism

I don’t see the racism when they truthfully answered a question. A lot of rural southern counties are 98% white. If someone answers a question truthfully why is that racist? The demographics are what they are.

So so so much to unpack.

Rural Southern counties that are all white are going to be in Appalachia and these would NOT be considered "upscale" to put it mildly.

Now onto the original question. No there aren't really POC in "upscale" WHITE country club, debutante ball society. BUT newsflash--there are rich Black people in the South. They have their own culture and traditions.

And yeah it's not cute or Charming to admit de facto segregation, PP. You could at least say isn't that a shame or something. Sheesh.