Family wedding - no kids allowed

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op

I think we can end this thread as everyone is repeating themselves. Those who think children can be part of a wedding celebration won't convince those who want child free weddings and vice versa.

One unavoidable truth: you ain't in charge of someone else's wedding. So decline and get over it.

One more unavoidable truth: you can't force people to come yo your child free wedding. Get over yourself.

My wedding happened several years ago and included children, so...nice try.

Literally no one has said "and the bride and groom get to whine of you decline." You're making an argument against nothing. Because you don't have a leg to stand on.

You arent very bright are you? I wasn't literally talking about you! And you should actually read what I wrote. This time more slowly.

No, babe. Your one straw that you're trying to grasp "but but...but...brides and grooms can't complain when we decline then!!!" is just pure, fabricated fiction. It's hilarious, watching you spin.

No one cares about whether you "approve" of someone else's child-free wedding. Just decline. I doubt anyone will miss you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op

I think we can end this thread as everyone is repeating themselves. Those who think children can be part of a wedding celebration won't convince those who want child free weddings and vice versa.

One unavoidable truth: you ain't in charge of someone else's wedding. So decline and get over it.

One more unavoidable truth: you can't force people to come yo your child free wedding. Get over yourself.

My wedding happened several years ago and included children, so...nice try.

Literally no one has said "and the bride and groom get to whine of you decline." You're making an argument against nothing. Because you don't have a leg to stand on.

You arent very bright are you? I wasn't literally talking about you! And you should actually read what I wrote. This time more slowly.

No, babe. Your one straw that you're trying to grasp "but but...but...brides and grooms can't complain when we decline then!!!" is just pure, fabricated fiction. It's hilarious, watching you spin.

No one cares about whether you "approve" of someone else's child-free wedding. Just decline. I doubt anyone will miss you.

Oh no you now bring out the old tripe " no one will miss me!" Lol. Actually. My kids are grown and more importantly if invited I decline unless they are very close family members. Who wants to fly to Wisconsin for a weekend for a first cousin's kid wedding. Not me!

I was debating you. I don't actually want to go to ANY wedding. They are very boring and expensive. Unless it was my niece or nephew.

Thanks for the big chuckle!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op

I think we can end this thread as everyone is repeating themselves. Those who think children can be part of a wedding celebration won't convince those who want child free weddings and vice versa.

One unavoidable truth: you ain't in charge of someone else's wedding. So decline and get over it.

One more unavoidable truth: you can't force people to come yo your child free wedding. Get over yourself.

My wedding happened several years ago and included children, so...nice try.

Literally no one has said "and the bride and groom get to whine of you decline." You're making an argument against nothing. Because you don't have a leg to stand on.

You arent very bright are you? I wasn't literally talking about you! And you should actually read what I wrote. This time more slowly.

No, babe. Your one straw that you're trying to grasp "but but...but...brides and grooms can't complain when we decline then!!!" is just pure, fabricated fiction. It's hilarious, watching you spin.

No one cares about whether you "approve" of someone else's child-free wedding. Just decline. I doubt anyone will miss you.

Oh no you now bring out the old tripe " no one will miss me!" Lol. Actually. My kids are grown and more importantly if invited I decline unless they are very close family members. Who wants to fly to Wisconsin for a weekend for a first cousin's kid wedding. Not me!

I was debating you. I don't actually want to go to ANY wedding. They are very boring and expensive. Unless it was my niece or nephew.

Thanks for the big chuckle!

So you really don't have a life, and you need to kick it up on the Internet. Got it. No friends to talk this through with, eh? Bye.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op

I think we can end this thread as everyone is repeating themselves. Those who think children can be part of a wedding celebration won't convince those who want child free weddings and vice versa.

One unavoidable truth: you ain't in charge of someone else's wedding. So decline and get over it.

One more unavoidable truth: you can't force people to come yo your child free wedding. Get over yourself.

Who...is trying to force OP (or anyone) to go to this wedding? That has never happened. You are perhaps overestimating the degree to which anyone wants to see a cousin at their wedding.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It seems like many people are confusing wedding with family reunion. Yes it’s great to see family and all the cousins babies friends plus1s and anyone else who wants to show up. BUT a wedding is about two people getting married and considerably expensive. It’s their choice not yours.

That is kind of an interesting perspective.

I never really thought about it as being about the two of us. The marriage is about the two of us, for sure. We invited people to the ceremony because people wanted to come and see us get married. We had a reception because a lot of people were flying in or driving a long way, and it seemed kind of crappy not to at least feed them after the ceremony. Maybe the wedding is about the two people getting married, but the reception is for the people who came out to be with you. It isn't about everyone you know trying to give you this special, magical day.

OK Kim Kardashian, everybody doesn’t have thousands or even millions of dollars to invite and pay for hundreds of all of their friends and relatives. And it’s really asinine that you would not admit that, realize that, or take that into consideration when talking about other people’s’ plans for, YES, THEIR special day !
Guess what? It’s a wedding it’s just that it’s a wedding it’s one of event, it’s not a lifetime and if you judge a lifetime of familial relationships
over one event that your behind is not paying for that says more about you than it does about the couple.

I guess you can see your family how you want to. I felt grateful that the people who came wanted to be present.
I didn’t feel entitled to have everyone I know jump hoops to make my SPECIAL DAY all about me. It’s just a different perspective.

Are you stupid? It’s about budget everybody does not have the budget to have all the kids in their family at their wedding what is it that you weren’t understanding about that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems like many people are confusing wedding with family reunion. Yes it’s great to see family and all the cousins babies friends plus1s and anyone else who wants to show up. BUT a wedding is about two people getting married and considerably expensive. It’s their choice not yours.

That is kind of an interesting perspective.

I never really thought about it as being about the two of us. The marriage is about the two of us, for sure. We invited people to the ceremony because people wanted to come and see us get married. We had a reception because a lot of people were flying in or driving a long way, and it seemed kind of crappy not to at least feed them after the ceremony. Maybe the wedding is about the two people getting married, but the reception is for the people who came out to be with you. It isn't about everyone you know trying to give you this special, magical day.

OK Kim Kardashian, everybody doesn’t have thousands or even millions of dollars to invite and pay for hundreds of all of their friends and relatives. And it’s really asinine that you would not admit that, realize that, or take that into consideration when talking about other people’s’ plans for, YES, THEIR special day !
Guess what? It’s a wedding it’s just that it’s a wedding it’s one of event, it’s not a lifetime and if you judge a lifetime of familial relationships
over one event that your behind is not paying for that says more about you than it does about the couple.

I guess you can see your family how you want to. I felt grateful that the people who came wanted to be present.
I didn’t feel entitled to have everyone I know jump hoops to make my SPECIAL DAY all about me. It’s just a different perspective.

Are you stupid? It’s about budget everybody does not have the budget to have all the kids in their family at their wedding what is it that you weren’t understanding about that?

It’s rarely about budget. If it were about budget, then the kids wouldn’t be invited to the family reunion either.
IME, the more expensive a wedding is, the less likely it is that children are invited.

[Anonymous]

Kids belong at weddings, if only pour encourager les autres.

Dunno what I'd do if I had a close relative throw a No Kids Allowed one. I guess I'd go, were not not too inconvenient logistically, but would sit with other parents, passive-aggressively discussing how adorable infants are.

[Anonymous]

I wanted a nighttime wedding which IMO is incompatible with children. It was nice to have a beautiful adult affair before children took over my life lol.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op

I think we can end this thread as everyone is repeating themselves. Those who think children can be part of a wedding celebration won't convince those who want child free weddings and vice versa.

One unavoidable truth: you ain't in charge of someone else's wedding. So decline and get over it.

One more unavoidable truth: you can't force people to come yo your child free wedding. Get over yourself.

My wedding happened several years ago and included children, so...nice try.

Literally no one has said "and the bride and groom get to whine of you decline." You're making an argument against nothing. Because you don't have a leg to stand on.

You arent very bright are you? I wasn't literally talking about you! And you should actually read what I wrote. This time more slowly.

No, babe. Your one straw that you're trying to grasp "but but...but...brides and grooms can't complain when we decline then!!!" is just pure, fabricated fiction. It's hilarious, watching you spin.

No one cares about whether you "approve" of someone else's child-free wedding. Just decline. I doubt anyone will miss you.

Oh no you now bring out the old tripe " no one will miss me!" Lol. Actually. My kids are grown and more importantly if invited I decline unless they are very close family members. Who wants to fly to Wisconsin for a weekend for a first cousin's kid wedding. Not me!

I was debating you. I don't actually want to go to ANY wedding. They are very boring and expensive. Unless it was my niece or nephew.

Thanks for the big chuckle!

So you really don't have a life, and you need to kick it up on the Internet. Got it. No friends to talk this through with, eh? Bye.

whatever you need to think to make yourself feel better go for it, toots. LOL Sounds like you are talking about yourself, not me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems like many people are confusing wedding with family reunion. Yes it’s great to see family and all the cousins babies friends plus1s and anyone else who wants to show up. BUT a wedding is about two people getting married and considerably expensive. It’s their choice not yours.

That is kind of an interesting perspective.

I never really thought about it as being about the two of us. The marriage is about the two of us, for sure. We invited people to the ceremony because people wanted to come and see us get married. We had a reception because a lot of people were flying in or driving a long way, and it seemed kind of crappy not to at least feed them after the ceremony. Maybe the wedding is about the two people getting married, but the reception is for the people who came out to be with you. It isn't about everyone you know trying to give you this special, magical day.

OK Kim Kardashian, everybody doesn’t have thousands or even millions of dollars to invite and pay for hundreds of all of their friends and relatives. And it’s really asinine that you would not admit that, realize that, or take that into consideration when talking about other people’s’ plans for, YES, THEIR special day !
Guess what? It’s a wedding it’s just that it’s a wedding it’s one of event, it’s not a lifetime and if you judge a lifetime of familial relationships
over one event that your behind is not paying for that says more about you than it does about the couple.

I guess you can see your family how you want to. I felt grateful that the people who came wanted to be present.
I didn’t feel entitled to have everyone I know jump hoops to make my SPECIAL DAY all about me. It’s just a different perspective.

Are you stupid? It’s about budget everybody does not have the budget to have all the kids in their family at their wedding what is it that you weren’t understanding about that?

It’s rarely about budget. If it were about budget, then the kids wouldn’t be invited to the family reunion either.
IME, the more expensive a wedding is, the less likely it is that children are invited.

Family reunions are paid for by multiple adults, not just one couple, moron.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here - wow, this blew up, fun to hear the different perspectives and polarity this topic has! I was interested to hear perspectives and you all certainly brought them! And part of the reason I brought to an anonymous forum was because I wanted to share how this made me feel and hear perspectives - I’m not bringing any drama or questions to the bride and groom! They can certainly plan what they prefer and I can attend or not..... but please continue this entertaining debate!

No one cares about your feelings about an event someone else is paying for.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids belong at weddings, if only pour encourager les autres.

Dunno what I'd do if I had a close relative throw a No Kids Allowed one. I guess I'd go, were not not too inconvenient logistically, but would sit with other parents, passive-aggressively discussing how adorable infants are.

What a miserable way to spend an evening with your spouse? I’d enjoy a lovely meal where I didn’t have to remind anyone that napkins go in laps, enjoy a few glasses of wine without doing the math about when I needed to nurse, look amazing for my husband without worrying about spit up on my clothes or whether my dress allowed me to breastfeed...and see the adorable infants literally hours later. I would be bored to tears if all anyone wanted to talk about was children, and I’m a huge fan of mine!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems like many people are confusing wedding with family reunion. Yes it’s great to see family and all the cousins babies friends plus1s and anyone else who wants to show up. BUT a wedding is about two people getting married and considerably expensive. It’s their choice not yours.

That is kind of an interesting perspective.

I never really thought about it as being about the two of us. The marriage is about the two of us, for sure. We invited people to the ceremony because people wanted to come and see us get married. We had a reception because a lot of people were flying in or driving a long way, and it seemed kind of crappy not to at least feed them after the ceremony. Maybe the wedding is about the two people getting married, but the reception is for the people who came out to be with you. It isn't about everyone you know trying to give you this special, magical day.

OK Kim Kardashian, everybody doesn’t have thousands or even millions of dollars to invite and pay for hundreds of all of their friends and relatives. And it’s really asinine that you would not admit that, realize that, or take that into consideration when talking about other people’s’ plans for, YES, THEIR special day !
Guess what? It’s a wedding it’s just that it’s a wedding it’s one of event, it’s not a lifetime and if you judge a lifetime of familial relationships
over one event that your behind is not paying for that says more about you than it does about the couple.

I guess you can see your family how you want to. I felt grateful that the people who came wanted to be present.
I didn’t feel entitled to have everyone I know jump hoops to make my SPECIAL DAY all about me. It’s just a different perspective.

Are you stupid? It’s about budget everybody does not have the budget to have all the kids in their family at their wedding what is it that you weren’t understanding about that?

It’s rarely about budget. If it were about budget, then the kids wouldn’t be invited to the family reunion either.
IME, the more expensive a wedding is, the less likely it is that children are invited.

Are you smoking meth? a wedding is not the same as a family reunion are you kidding me just one person or just one couple throw do not throw a family reunion.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t want to bring my kids to a wedding. They are too much work and I wouldn’t be able to enjoy myself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems like many people are confusing wedding with family reunion. Yes it’s great to see family and all the cousins babies friends plus1s and anyone else who wants to show up. BUT a wedding is about two people getting married and considerably expensive. It’s their choice not yours.

That is kind of an interesting perspective.

I never really thought about it as being about the two of us. The marriage is about the two of us, for sure. We invited people to the ceremony because people wanted to come and see us get married. We had a reception because a lot of people were flying in or driving a long way, and it seemed kind of crappy not to at least feed them after the ceremony. Maybe the wedding is about the two people getting married, but the reception is for the people who came out to be with you. It isn't about everyone you know trying to give you this special, magical day.

OK Kim Kardashian, everybody doesn’t have thousands or even millions of dollars to invite and pay for hundreds of all of their friends and relatives. And it’s really asinine that you would not admit that, realize that, or take that into consideration when talking about other people’s’ plans for, YES, THEIR special day !
Guess what? It’s a wedding it’s just that it’s a wedding it’s one of event, it’s not a lifetime and if you judge a lifetime of familial relationships
over one event that your behind is not paying for that says more about you than it does about the couple.

I guess you can see your family how you want to. I felt grateful that the people who came wanted to be present.
I didn’t feel entitled to have everyone I know jump hoops to make my SPECIAL DAY all about me. It’s just a different perspective.

Are you stupid? It’s about budget everybody does not have the budget to have all the kids in their family at their wedding what is it that you weren’t understanding about that?

It’s rarely about budget. If it were about budget, then the kids wouldn’t be invited to the family reunion either.
IME, the more expensive a wedding is, the less likely it is that children are invited.

Are you smoking meth? a wedding is not the same as a family reunion are you kidding me just one person or just one couple throw do not throw a family reunion.

Lol...I think I’m a bit more country than you guys are . I don’t think I have ever received a line item bill for my part of a family get together, and I’ve never issued one when I’ve hosted.
I’ve also been to a number of weddings where people other than the couple contributed food and drinks, (typically kids invited), and ones where people were expected to show up with envelopes full of hundreds (typically no kids invited).
It has NOT been my experience that people aren’t inviting kids because they can’t afford it.