Family wedding - no kids allowed

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It IS sad that people have lost sight of what wedding celebrations are about. Hint: not a money grabbing occasion where you pretend to be a princess. But, people reveal their values in their plans.

It is about the bride and groom. It is not about you or extended family.

I guess it depends on the viewpoint. As a bride, my day was about celebrating with friends and loved ones and doing everything I could to be a great host, which included making out of town guests as comfortable as possible.

I think it's hilarious that people will spend endless hours scouring Pinterest looking for items for welcome bags and favors and other things, that much more about making themselves look good and clever than about making their guests comfortable.

Bless your heart.

Sorry I didn't want your kid screeching during my vows or tripping my grandma on the dance floor. I wanted to celebrate my wedding with the adults that most mattered in an occassion that represented the importance of the moment to me, not host a family friendly funfest with preschoolers

You sound like a lovely person.

[Anonymous]

I love kid free weddings and I have 2 kids that I adore!

[Anonymous]

When we got the save the date for my Sister In Law's wedding, I reached out to ask if kids would be invited. I did not assume either way, and I would have been fine either way. If she had said our kids weren't invited, my husband would have just attended alone. No big deal. It is her wedding and her decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It IS sad that people have lost sight of what wedding celebrations are about. Hint: not a money grabbing occasion where you pretend to be a princess. But, people reveal their values in their plans.

It is about the bride and groom. It is not about you or extended family.

I guess it depends on the viewpoint. As a bride, my day was about celebrating with friends and loved ones and doing everything I could to be a great host, which included making out of town guests as comfortable as possible.

I think it's hilarious that people will spend endless hours scouring Pinterest looking for items for welcome bags and favors and other things, that much more about making themselves look good and clever than about making their guests comfortable.

Bless your heart.

Sorry I didn't want your kid screeching during my vows or tripping my grandma on the dance floor. I wanted to celebrate my wedding with the adults that most mattered in an occassion that represented the importance of the moment to me, not host a family friendly funfest with preschoolers

You sound like a lovely person.

I have 3 kids under 5. I love and adore them. We have plenty of family events entirely geared towards them. I didn’t want kids at my own wedding and don’t begrudge anyone the slightest to not want my kids at theirs. Can you really not fathom that someone may want to keep the moment they get married as a calm, serious event? Many Churches send kids to the kids rooms during service so the that adults can focus on their weekly service, a wedding certainly ranks above that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m just curious how others feel and would handle out of state, family weddings where your child isn’t invited. I would like to go, we have a small family and it’s my only cousin but I think it’s rude to not invite our daughter since, in my opinion, weddings are about celebrating with family and friends (including kids!). My parents will be at the wedding and my husbands family lives abroad so they are unable to help.... most likely my husband will be skipping the festivities, which makes me sad. Again, just curious how people would react - it’s making me feel sad but I don’t want to cause hurt feelings by not attending.

I have 12 cousins. Each has multiple children. No kids were invited. The added cost would have been ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Pp here, hit submit too soon. Not inviting kids was a blanket decision for all — not just my cousins’ kids. If I would have invited their kids, I would have had to invite the children of all guests.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pp here, hit submit too soon. Not inviting kids was a blanket decision for all — not just my cousins’ kids. If I would have invited their kids, I would have had to invite the children of all guests.

No, you wouldn't. I invited my sister's kids and my husband's sisters kids. Those are our nieces and nephews. We didn't invite every other guest's kids. If anyone had a problem with that, oh well. Send regrets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are many reasons why kids aren't included. Money, space, venue, headcount limitations, etc.

This. Don’t take it personally. You could just decline or find a sitter enjoy yourself for the evening with your dh, parents and family. It’s ok for whatever option you choose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:It IS sad that people have lost sight of what wedding celebrations are about. Hint: not a money grabbing occasion where you pretend to be a princess. But, people reveal their values in their plans.

It is about the bride and groom. It is not about you or extended family.

I guess it depends on the viewpoint. As a bride, my day was about celebrating with friends and loved ones and doing everything I could to be a great host, which included making out of town guests as comfortable as possible.

I think it's hilarious that people will spend endless hours scouring Pinterest looking for items for welcome bags and favors and other things, that much more about making themselves look good and clever than about making their guests comfortable.

Bless your heart.

Sorry I didn't want your kid screeching during my vows or tripping my grandma on the dance floor. I wanted to celebrate my wedding with the adults that most mattered in an occassion that represented the importance of the moment to me, not host a family friendly funfest with preschoolers

You sound like a lovely person.

I have 3 kids under 5. I love and adore them. We have plenty of family events entirely geared towards them. I didn’t want kids at my own wedding and don’t begrudge anyone the slightest to not want my kids at theirs. Can you really not fathom that someone may want to keep the moment they get married as a calm, serious event? Many Churches send kids to the kids rooms during service so the that adults can focus on their weekly service, a wedding certainly ranks above that

Yes, I can understand it. Your view of your weeding and the tone you want to set is paramount, which is your prerogative. You think that kids will ruin your day or have the potential to interfere with the atmosphere you want to create. That's your decision based on your priorities. Mine differ, but are equally valid.

You don't have to resort to depicting other people's children as ill-behaved brats to defend your priorities. There is so much defensiveness on this thread. It's ok to say that you want the day to be exactly as you want it without ad hominem attacks.

[dalebon]

I remember when I was at the festival in London, something similar sounded. On good speakers, the sound is completely different. That's probably why they are so expensive. Seriously, have you seen the prices ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It IS sad that people have lost sight of what wedding celebrations are about. Hint: not a money grabbing occasion where you pretend to be a princess. But, people reveal their values in their plans.

It is about the bride and groom. It is not about you or extended family.

I guess it depends on the viewpoint. As a bride, my day was about celebrating with friends and loved ones and doing everything I could to be a great host, which included making out of town guests as comfortable as possible.

I think it's hilarious that people will spend endless hours scouring Pinterest looking for items for welcome bags and favors and other things, that much more about making themselves look good and clever than about making their guests comfortable.

Bless your heart.

Sorry I didn't want your kid screeching during my vows or tripping my grandma on the dance floor. I wanted to celebrate my wedding with the adults that most mattered in an occassion that represented the importance of the moment to me, not host a family friendly funfest with preschoolers

You sound like a lovely person.

I have 3 kids under 5. I love and adore them. We have plenty of family events entirely geared towards them. I didn’t want kids at my own wedding and don’t begrudge anyone the slightest to not want my kids at theirs. Can you really not fathom that someone may want to keep the moment they get married as a calm, serious event? Many Churches send kids to the kids rooms during service so the that adults can focus on their weekly service, a wedding certainly ranks above that

Yes, I can understand it. Your view of your weeding and the tone you want to set is paramount, which is your prerogative. You think that kids will ruin your day or have the potential to interfere with the atmosphere you want to create. That's your decision based on your priorities. Mine differ, but are equally valid.

You don't have to resort to depicting other people's children as ill-behaved brats to defend your priorities. There is so much defensiveness on this thread. It's ok to say that you want the day to be exactly as you want it without ad hominem attacks.

Not potential..kids DO change the atmosphere of any event. Most people prefer an adult event.

[Anonymous]

If it's a blanket "no kids" i totally understand. it's nice if there is childcare provided OR if there is a list of sitters in the area. I do think it's rude/annoying when some kids are invited but not all kids, esp when there are not a lot of kids who would potentially be on the invite list.

[Anonymous]

It’s totally fine to not invite kids. I have no problem with that.

However, if the wedding requires travel- we either decline or just one of us attends (whoever’s side of the family, or friend it is)

[Anonymous]

After DH’s cousin did not include our baby on the invitation, my MIL urged us to “double check” because the cousin may have just forgotten that we had a kid months prior, and who would care anyway since the baby wouldn’t be eating. Hard pass, as I’m firmly in the take-the-invitation-at-face-value camp. DH attended, I stayed home with the baby, and the world kept on spinning. It wouldn’t occur to me to be offended by an invite excluding kids, and as far as I know the cousin wasn’t offended by my absence.

Not your wedding, not your call on whom to invite. Attend or don’t based on your own needs, and don’t be salty about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When we got the save the date for my Sister In Law's wedding, I reached out to ask if kids would be invited. I did not assume either way, and I would have been fine either way. If she had said our kids weren't invited, my husband would have just attended alone. No big deal. It is her wedding and her decision.

Why did you need to reach out to see if kids weee invited? If kids or “& family” are on the invitation, then they are invited. If not, they aren’t.