Family wedding - no kids allowed

[Anonymous]

I’m just curious how others feel and would handle out of state, family weddings where your child isn’t invited. I would like to go, we have a small family and it’s my only cousin but I think it’s rude to not invite our daughter since, in my opinion, weddings are about celebrating with family and friends (including kids!). My parents will be at the wedding and my husbands family lives abroad so they are unable to help.... most likely my husband will be skipping the festivities, which makes me sad. Again, just curious how people would react - it’s making me feel sad but I don’t want to cause hurt feelings by not attending.

[Anonymous]

There are many reasons why kids aren't included. Money, space, venue, headcount limitations, etc.

[Anonymous]

I love kid free weddings. Wouldn't at all be offended if DS wasn't included. How old? I'd either set up a sleep over with a friend or bring a babysitter and have her handle DD at the hotel.

[Anonymous]

Ask her to provide a list of local sitters.

[Anonymous]

lol - why is your opinion of any importance here?

[Anonymous]

They know you are out of state with a child. They know you can't bring the child. So they are probably assuming you won't be attending. They made the rules.

[Anonymous]

My brother has a no kid wedding. We had to hire a babysitter to stay with our kids. Since this is just a cousin, I think you should just go alone.

[Anonymous]

I love kid free weddings.

Leave your child or don’t go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m just curious how others feel and would handle out of state, family weddings where your child isn’t invited. I would like to go, we have a small family and it’s my only cousin but I think it’s rude to not invite our daughter since, in my opinion, weddings are about celebrating with family and friends (including kids!). My parents will be at the wedding and my husbands family lives abroad so they are unable to help.... most likely my husband will be skipping the festivities, which makes me sad. Again, just curious how people would react - it’s making me feel sad but I don’t want to cause hurt feelings by not attending.

How far out of state? Drive or flight? I attended my cousin's wedding solo while my husband stayed with the kids. It worked for us, but it wasn't a far trip. I didn't notice (or frankly care) about how other guests reacted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m just curious how others feel and would handle out of state, family weddings where your child isn’t invited. I would like to go, we have a small family and it’s my only cousin but I think it’s rude to not invite our daughter since, in my opinion, weddings are about celebrating with family and friends (including kids!). My parents will be at the wedding and my husbands family lives abroad so they are unable to help.... most likely my husband will be skipping the festivities, which makes me sad. Again, just curious how people would react - it’s making me feel sad but I don’t want to cause hurt feelings by not attending.

Your wedding was about that, their wedding may not be. If you're not paying for it, you can't get mad about the way they celebrate. It's pretty normal to have a kid free wedding. You can feel however you want, it won't change anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lol - why is your opinion of any importance here?

Because everyone should want to celebrate with her DD. Can already tell OP is one of those moms that I stay far far away from.

[Anonymous]

I can understand not wanting kids at a wedding, but in our case we wouldn’t be able to attend without our kids (special needs). If you want to go, go alone. If you don’t want to go alone, say you can’t come bc you can’t leave kid with sitter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lol - why is your opinion of any importance here?

OP is the type of parent who makes people prefer kid free weddings. "My child should be welcome everywhere" are rarely the types who have children who anyone wants to see.

"It was SEWWWW CEWWWWT when MacLyinnaa interrupted the ceremony!" No. It wasn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can understand not wanting kids at a wedding, but in our case we wouldn’t be able to attend without our kids (special needs). If you want to go, go alone. If you don’t want to go alone, say you can’t come bc you can’t leave kid with sitter.

If you don’t want to go alone, politely decline the invitation.

FTFY

[Anonymous]

“ I think it’s rude to not invite our daughter since, in my opinion, weddings are about celebrating with family and friends (including kids!).”

This is all wrong. Sorry.