Was accidentally on a group text...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OK, OP here. I replied with Wow - had no idea you felt that way about my kid. And hate finding out this way.

The texter replied - "I'm sorry. Having a bad day and he was really loud last time we were together. Not personal. Must be too much time with family this weekend" with a stressed wine emoji.

So I guess that's that...

Of course she's going to save face. Keep your kid away from her and these people.

You handled it better than I would have. I would now stay away from these people.

It does sound like the mean texter has a problem with alcohol; enough so that she crossed a social boundary in a very public way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If I were that woman I’d want to melt into the face of the earth. Based on her response she really has no shame. Not someone I’d want to be friends with.

+1. Her non-apology response was so lame. I don’t think you even need to reply further. Just drop this woman/the whole group unless you think your son really benefits from it. If you do stay in the group, I just would not engage w this particular woman any further. What a clueless jerk.

No one defended OP’s son means the others agreed.

[Anonymous]

Interesting that some people are identifying with having loud kids and some people are identifying with not liking loud kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If I were that woman I’d want to melt into the face of the earth. Based on her response she really has no shame. Not someone I’d want to be friends with.

+1. Her non-apology response was so lame. I don’t think you even need to reply further. Just drop this woman/the whole group unless you think your son really benefits from it. If you do stay in the group, I just would not engage w this particular woman any further. What a clueless jerk.

No one defended OP’s son means the others agreed.

Or it means they're cliquey little girls afraid to rock the boat with the Regina George of their group.

We don't know what it means, if it means anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If I were that woman I’d want to melt into the face of the earth. Based on her response she really has no shame. Not someone I’d want to be friends with.

+1. Her non-apology response was so lame. I don’t think you even need to reply further. Just drop this woman/the whole group unless you think your son really benefits from it. If you do stay in the group, I just would not engage w this particular woman any further. What a clueless jerk.

No one defended OP’s son means the others agreed.

Most grown ups don't get involved in such nastiness. Especially through text.

I'm in a large group of friends and there is one toxic mom always shit talking. Not all of us are on board with her cancer, but we just politely keep her at arms length.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP are you in the DC area? I would be concerned that these women will read this thread

Not OP, but why would that be concerning?? Like what will happen?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Interesting that some people are identifying with having loud kids and some people are identifying with not liking loud kids.

This is the thing.

Some people think kids should be seen and not heard... other think kids should be kids and have fun.

These 2 groups do not have to be friends.

We just stopped inviting the crazy moms that need wine to deal with kids that like to have fun.

Go create your own group and do crafts.

[Anonymous]

Op, do take the feedback. No one responded or disagreed so that does mean your child might have behavior issues. The person who texted was unapologetic. She apologized for saying it but you know it was the truth. Most parents know their children are difficult. They must all like you very much. The group usually filters out difficult families.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If I were that woman I’d want to melt into the face of the earth. Based on her response she really has no shame. Not someone I’d want to be friends with.

+1. Her non-apology response was so lame. I don’t think you even need to reply further. Just drop this woman/the whole group unless you think your son really benefits from it. If you do stay in the group, I just would not engage w this particular woman any further. What a clueless jerk.

No one defended OP’s son means the others agreed.

Or it means they're cliquey little girls afraid to rock the boat with the Regina George of their group.

We don't know what it means, if it means anything.

Queen Bees do not apologize at all. So it’s not that, OP. There are probably dozens of texts discussing your son and your parenting. You just weren’t accidentally included on those.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Interesting that some people are identifying with having loud kids and some people are identifying with not liking loud kids.

This is the thing.

Some people think kids should be seen and not heard... other think kids should be kids and have fun.

These 2 groups do not have to be friends.

We just stopped inviting the crazy moms that need wine to deal with kids that like to have fun.

Go create your own group and do crafts.

+1

Watch out for parents who put a small child in khakis, a button-down shirt, sweater, and Top-Siders for everyday messy outdoor play

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Interesting that some people are identifying with having loud kids and some people are identifying with not liking loud kids.

This is the thing.

Some people think kids should be seen and not heard... other think kids should be kids and have fun.

These 2 groups do not have to be friends.

We just stopped inviting the crazy moms that need wine to deal with kids that like to have fun.

Go create your own group and do crafts.

Kids having fun does not have to be so loud that it gives an adult a headache. In fact, it seemed only one kid in this group does that. I’m sure OP can find a play group of kids like her son with zero volume control. Hopefully they meet in the woods.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Interesting that some people are identifying with having loud kids and some people are identifying with not liking loud kids.

This is the thing.

Some people think kids should be seen and not heard... other think kids should be kids and have fun.

These 2 groups do not have to be friends.

We just stopped inviting the crazy moms that need wine to deal with kids that like to have fun.

Go create your own group and do crafts.

Kids having fun does not have to be so loud that it gives an adult a headache. In fact, it seemed only one kid in this group does that. I’m sure OP can find a play group of kids like her son with zero volume control. Hopefully they meet in the woods.

If you get headaches from loud kids you need a therapist and to try meditation.

My kids have zero volume requirements when playing and we have plenty of friends and more who wish they had the invite.

But if you want to sit and do crafts ... go for it, we don’t care and we don’t miss you.

[Anonymous]

Haha we once had a play date where one kid complained about the kids throwing balls because they sometime hit him.

The mom said, no more balls of you can’t control them.

Bye. Felicia!

Some kids just can’t hang... go find other like kids but don’t try to teach all kids to be afraid of a ball hitting you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They started a separate group text without you on it.

This is what happened.

I’d drop it op. Personally I wouldn’t want to be “friends” with this group anyways. Also I don’t think confronting them will make them feel bad or make them change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Just got a bunch of side texts from a few other moms horrified and apologizing.
I have yet to chime into the group thread (nobody has).
Letting it sit for a few.

I wouldn’t trust those moms either.

It’s likely that the mean poster felt very comfortable posting the nasty comment because they’ve discussed it in the past.

A side text is a way to talk out of both sides. If they were truly horrified they would have replied all. It’s not rocket science.