How can you cheat and not think about how it will affect your kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

You SERIOUSLY think that once-per-week sex with a bread winning medically diagnosed sick wife is the cheating scenario in this thread?

It easily could be, based on the angry guy's point of view. He would look at that situation and think "wow, wife is checked out. Therefore, this gives me permission to get some action elsewhere. She's given me tacit approval. I don't have to actually discuss anything with her or tell her my plans, or even verbally express my take on the situation with her because she should just know that such a dramatic reduction in the frequency of sex is a dealbreaker for fidelity." It's a scenario to demonstrate why mature adults who enter into a marriage should use their words to communicate with each other about their needs and assumptions.

Um, no, you are trying to obfuscate the normal sexless marriage=cheating issue with an extreme scenario involving an asshole cheater married to a wife who is at least trying. That is a a statistical anomaly. That is NOT the scenario of subject thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You SERIOUSLY think that once-per-week sex with a bread winning medically diagnosed sick wife is the cheating scenario in this thread?

Angry sexless guy is no better than this woman’s pathetic ex-husband. Both are so self absorbed and don’t want to work towards making anything better.

None of these types of guys, including the ones who marry only for sex, should ever get married or pro-create. They should live life only for themselves and not have responsibility for anyone else’s. They will be happier and hopefully make fewer people so miserable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You SERIOUSLY think that once-per-week sex with a bread winning medically diagnosed sick wife is the cheating scenario in this thread?

Angry sexless guy is no better than this woman’s pathetic ex-husband. Both are so self absorbed and don’t want to work towards making anything better.

None of these types of guys, including the ones who marry only for sex, should ever get married or pro-create. They should live life only for themselves and not have responsibility for anyone else’s. They will be happier and hopefully make fewer people so miserable.

All the angry sexless rejecting wives who are SHOCKED to discover his cheating should definitely never get married. I mean, if you are so dumb as to think that YOUR loss of interest would mean HE stops having sex, there just is no hope for you to succeed in a heterosexual marriage.

[Anonymous]

^perfect. This means communicating with your SO.

[Anonymous]

Sex drive and testosterone are powerful drugs. Men don't think clearly and know exactly how this happens

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sex drive and testosterone are powerful drugs. Men don't think clearly and know exactly how this happens

Agreed. The thing is that as humans, we have agency and can choose a behavior. So this reason then just becomes an excuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sex drive and testosterone are powerful drugs. Men don't think clearly and know exactly how this happens

Agreed. The thing is that as humans, we have agency and can choose a behavior. So this reason then just becomes an excuse.

And if your agency has you choosing not to have a normal human sex life then no excuse is needed because each of you have made your choice.

[Anonymous]

Angry sexless guy's stubborn obtuse behavior is so hot. I kind of want to have sex with him! Oh wait... nope. That's the feeling of wanting to get far, far away from him. He has that effect on women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sex drive and testosterone are powerful drugs. Men don't think clearly and know exactly how this happens

Agreed. The thing is that as humans, we have agency and can choose a behavior. So this reason then just becomes an excuse.

PP you are responding to, of course humans have will power but are also weak. It's no different than a fat person claiming their hunger is more than a skinny person. Of course, if a fat person had self control, they wouldn't eat so much. You can play this game forever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sex drive and testosterone are powerful drugs. Men don't think clearly and know exactly how this happens

Agreed. The thing is that as humans, we have agency and can choose a behavior. So this reason then just becomes an excuse.

PP you are responding to, of course humans have will power but are also weak. It's no different than a fat person claiming their hunger is more than a skinny person. Of course, if a fat person had self control, they wouldn't eat so much. You can play this game forever.

Exactly,!this game can be played forever and with many issues. So what should happen? No one should try and let everyone do whatever they want?

[Anonymous]

I have 3 teens amd I am a serial cheater. I demand discretion and have never been caught. I won’t get caught as I am ultra careful and leave no evidence whatsoever. How do I not think about my kids? Simple. That is not part of their lives.

[Anonymous]

Everyone should not try to control what no one ever does. Because if the wife hadnt not agreed to have sex, the precondition wouldn't have been broken, thus requiring her husband to seek sex elsewhere. She wittingly consented to his affair when she unwittingly o him revoked his right to regular sex which was tacitly given during the marriage ceremony, which means it should not require anything but implicit notification.

[Anonymous]

So I’m curious for all of the men who cheat and have daughters: how would you feel if your daughter’s husband cheats on her ? What if you find your son in law cheats, would you also hide that information from your daughter? Whose back do you have in that situation? How important is your daughter’s well being vs. your well being as a man?

[Anonymous]

I have 3 teens amd I am a serial cheater. I demand discretion and have never been caught. I won’t get caught as I am ultra careful and leave no evidence whatsoever. How do I not think about my kids? Simple. That is not part of their lives.

You "demand" discretion? FYI, if your AP decides to talk there's nothing you can do about it. You are so selfish. It IS part of their lives. It is their dad completely disrespecting their mom, and taking time and probably money away from the family, at a minimum. When you are caught - and no matter how careful you are, it will eventually happen - you will likely wreck your relationship with your kids, who will then see you for the rest of your life as a liar and cheater who puts himself before everyone else. Then you will see exactly how much a part of their lives it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have 3 teens amd I am a serial cheater. I demand discretion and have never been caught. I won’t get caught as I am ultra careful and leave no evidence whatsoever. How do I not think about my kids? Simple. That is not part of their lives.

My dad was like you. Found out later in life. Only so long you can hide it. It destroyed my relationship with both my parents, especially my dad. I no longer trust him and think any of the good in my childhood was a shame.