Would you be upset if your kid was served mocktails & got a makeover at a party?

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Anonymous wrote:would you all be good if I gave your kids those fake candy cigarettes that were popular is the 70's? we loved pretending we were so cool smoking them. and yes, I did end up being a smoker because I did think it was cool. don't smoke now but based on my experience, I would not want to glamorize drinking. give them the drink but dont let them think it is a margarita.

I got that fake candy cigarettes in the late 1990s and have never smoked a cigarette. You smoked because you are old and didnt knoe better back then. You are probably old enough to be my mom. Different times.

Actually it was already pretty well-established in the 1970s, when dinosaurs roamed the earth, that cigarettes were bad for you.

-a dinosaur

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter went to a party with an Indian friend and came home with henna all over her arms. I was not pleased that we had something that lasted weeks without checking with us first.

How old was your daughter when this happened?

And why on earth would it bother you? Afraid of what people would think? Why do they need to check with you when it's completely safe, does your daughter have no autonomy?

you rreally need to ask this question??? I would be livid as I would be livid if she came home from a party where they had their hair cut or got their ears or nose pierced. What if the child was participating in a wedding or getting a class picture? No, t hi is is not a.decision another parent or my child can make.without running or by me, no matter how safe it is. would you be good with your child coming home with fake tattoos all over them, or blue hair the day before a funeral? when I highlighted my hair, I ran it by my husband not because I need his permission but so he is at least aware of what I'm doing. it is common courtesy.

My daughter has enough common sense to figure it out so I'd be totally fine. She'd know the difference between something permanent and temporary and whether anything was coming up. As far as pictures go, you are capturing that moment in time - who that kid was at that particular moment. No one's wedding will be ruined because your kid had henna on her hands in the picture. Some of the most interesting pictures of my kids are not the boring ones with pristine clothes and fake smiles, but when there was something was different or even off.

My husband would look at me like I had three heads if I told him I'm highlighting my hair. He'd wonder why I was telling him.

Different strokes.

That's great that you wouldn't be bothered but maybe someone else would like just once nice family photo where everyone looks nice. Is that so hard to imagine? Being courteous is thinking about what others might want not what you might want. That's how it works.

Hahah what a controlling psychopath. 100% guaranteed that your kid will rebel and most likely show up with green hair and piercings and ruin your Stepford family photo.

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Anonymous wrote:did we ever find out that the hostess called them "mocktails"?

or is that just OP calling them that.

OP, don't be this mom. your daughter will most likely rebel, if not now, in college. At most, decline invites but don't engage like this with the other mom. Talk with your therapist about this. I struggle to with my DD who is my oldest (not about this but other things) but it isn't fair to freak out over this.

I'll never forget being punished for swimming at a birthday party (in clothes and they weren't fancy) Everyone for fun jumped in. My dad was irate and I was grounded at 10/11 for the rest of the weekend. Just for being fancy free and having fun. I had to stress out over every little thing after that and hid sooo much

OP here - yes the mom told the girls they had mocktail options to pick from while getting hair, make up, and nails done. Explained what mocktails were to the girls who didn’t know.

Yeah, not cool. They get enough encouragement from media and peers.

I guess my husband and I, along with our neighbors and friends are all terrible parents. When we get together, we always make a version of our alcoholic drink for the kids, and there are usually between 10-20 kids in each get together. So if we make margaritas, Caipirinhas or pina coladas, we'll make one virgin drink version for each kid. They love it. Last time my friend made a delicious virgin sangria for the kids while we drank wine. Seriously, lighten up people.

Gross. That reminds me of when people throw proms for preschoolers and get them all dolled up. Trashy. Let kids be kids. Some things are reserved for adults. Why do parents have such a hard time with that? Boundaries.

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I guess my husband and I, along with our neighbors and friends are all terrible parents. When we get together, we always make a version of our alcoholic drink for the kids, and there are usually between 10-20 kids in each get together. So if we make margaritas, Caipirinhas or pina coladas, we'll make one virgin drink version for each kid. They love it. Last time my friend made a delicious virgin sangria for the kids while we drank wine. Seriously, lighten up people.

Aka "fruit juice". And a "virgin caipirinha" is sugar water with lime juice.

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Anonymous wrote:would you all be good if I gave your kids those fake candy cigarettes that were popular is the 70's? we loved pretending we were so cool smoking them. and yes, I did end up being a smoker because I did think it was cool. don't smoke now but based on my experience, I would not want to glamorize drinking. give them the drink but dont let them think it is a margarita.

I got that fake candy cigarettes in the late 1990s and have never smoked a cigarette. You smoked because you are old and didnt knoe better back then. You are probably old enough to be my mom. Different times.

Actually it was already pretty well-established in the 1970s, when dinosaurs roamed the earth, that cigarettes were bad for you.

-a dinosaur

Your memory is failing you. Happens to the best of us.

Smoking was still allowed in airplanes, restaurants, work places, indoor malls, hospitals, and for the kicker, there were student smoking lounges in high schools.

Sounds very well established, smoking that is.

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Anonymous wrote:would you all be good if I gave your kids those fake candy cigarettes that were popular is the 70's? we loved pretending we were so cool smoking them. and yes, I did end up being a smoker because I did think it was cool. don't smoke now but based on my experience, I would not want to glamorize drinking. give them the drink but dont let them think it is a margarita.

I got that fake candy cigarettes in the late 1990s and have never smoked a cigarette. You smoked because you are old and didnt knoe better back then. You are probably old enough to be my mom. Different times.

Actually it was already pretty well-established in the 1970s, when dinosaurs roamed the earth, that cigarettes were bad for you.

-a dinosaur

Your memory is failing you. Happens to the best of us.

Smoking was still allowed in airplanes, restaurants, work places, indoor malls, hospitals, and for the kicker, there were student smoking lounges in high schools.

Sounds very well established, smoking that is.

Yes, smoking was well-established. The knowledge that smoking was bad for you was also well-established.

[Anonymous]

My kids went to the same middle school I did although we called it a junior high back then. It was always interesting to point out that the interior courtyard at the front of the school near the main office was the student smoking area when I was there.

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Anonymous wrote:A better choice would have been iced tea, lemonade, smoothie, seltzer with lemon or lime slices.

That would taste gross to 99.9% of teenagers.

Really? My teenager would be fine with all of those. I guess she's 1 in 1,000!

It sounded like PP suggested combining all those things together at once, which does sound gross.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter went to a party with an Indian friend and came home with henna all over her arms. I was not pleased that we had something that lasted weeks without checking with us first.

How old was your daughter when this happened?

And why on earth would it bother you? Afraid of what people would think? Why do they need to check with you when it's completely safe, does your daughter have no autonomy?

you rreally need to ask this question??? I would be livid as I would be livid if she came home from a party where they had their hair cut or got their ears or nose pierced. What if the child was participating in a wedding or getting a class picture? No, t hi is is not a.decision another parent or my child can make.without running or by me, no matter how safe it is. would you be good with your child coming home with fake tattoos all over them, or blue hair the day before a funeral? when I highlighted my hair, I ran it by my husband not because I need his permission but so he is at least aware of what I'm doing. it is common courtesy.

My daughter has enough common sense to figure it out so I'd be totally fine. She'd know the difference between something permanent and temporary and whether anything was coming up. As far as pictures go, you are capturing that moment in time - who that kid was at that particular moment. No one's wedding will be ruined because your kid had henna on her hands in the picture. Some of the most interesting pictures of my kids are not the boring ones with pristine clothes and fake smiles, but when there was something was different or even off.

My husband would look at me like I had three heads if I told him I'm highlighting my hair. He'd wonder why I was telling him.

Different strokes.

I think henna is beautiful, but at 13 I would not realize it does not wash off.

A heads up for something that is semi permanent is to be expected.

[Anonymous]

My 5 year old had a Shirley Temple at a wedding when i had a Dirty Shirley. Who knew I was encouraging alcohol use in my 5 year old! I would have let her have a virgin Daiquiri or a margarita too, but the bartender didn't have blenders.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids went to the same middle school I did although we called it a junior high back then. It was always interesting to point out that the interior courtyard at the front of the school near the main office was the student smoking area when I was there.

We had a student smoking area too at our high school.

I graduated 1989.

[Anonymous]

Are people just getting hung up on the label "mocktail"? Seriously, drinks without alcohol have been around since the beginning of time and people slowly started adding alcohol to them.
Nothing wrong with smoothies, which is basically what a pina colada and daquari are with no alcohol.
Why can't kids have fun drinks for parties? Juice is just sangria with no wine.

When you start looking for problems i guarantee you will find them every time.

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Some unbelievably uptight people on here. No, nothing about this party would bother me.

I "smoked" candy cigarettes as a kid and have never smoked.
I played with toy guns and have never owned or shot a gun.
I pretended I was a Dallas Cowboy cheerleader as a kid, and I'm a lawyer.

"Mocktails" does not guarantee an adolescence of drinking a parties. Geez.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are people just getting hung up on the label "mocktail"? Seriously, drinks without alcohol have been around since the beginning of time and people slowly started adding alcohol to them.
Nothing wrong with smoothies, which is basically what a pina colada and daquari are with no alcohol.
Why can't kids have fun drinks for parties? Juice is just sangria with no wine.

When you start looking for problems i guarantee you will find them every time.

Yup, they are clearly hung up on the label. If the host had offered "coconut slushies" or "frozen limeade" or "strawberry smoothies," that would be okay, but calling them virgin pina coladas, margaritas, or daiquiris is somehow crossing a line.