What do you the most judgemental about?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I judge conservative people. I think most of them are @ssholes.

I just find that sad. I'm pretty conservative and the funny thing is I doubt most people know that about me. I'm white, husband is black, DD is biracial. DH and I both have college degrees - I have a Master's - we are middle class. DH is a journalist and I'm a CPA. Our close circle of friends cover quite a wide birth - conservatives, liberals, gays, straights, Christians to wiccans, black, white, asian, goth, professionals, self-employed, etc.

I like that our group of friends have chosen friendship based on the actual person than instead of a label. It's too bad that can't happen more in society.

Come on, you're a CPA. There are liberal CPA's so of course you are conservative!

I'm conservative because there are liberal CPAs? Ummm - not sure what that means. Did you mean there are no liberal CPAs? You surely have never met the CPAs/Accountants I work with! Most of the CPAs I work with are Democrats (not sure if moderate or liberal) - as they freely talk about their political persuasion. I'm the only conservative I know of in my department (30+ CPAs/Accountants). One of my good friends (also a conservative) worked at a large regional CPA firm in Northern VA - she was only one of a handful of conservatives.

Most CPAs in the DC area I've met seem to be Democrats - not sure if that's liberal or moderate. It really doesn't matter to me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I judge conservative people. I think most of them are @ssholes.

I judge uber-liberal people. I work hard for my salary. I struggled to put myself through college and I deserve every penny I earn. I think it is ridiculous that I need to share my income with the baby-mama who can't pinpoint who the baby-daddy is... Those who are into wealth redistribution need to get on the next flight to communist wherever, asap.

You just proved her point.

LOL!!

I am the "I judge conservative people..." poster. And I am both amused and confused. I thought the purpose of this thread was just to put your topic of bias "out there", not for someone to get their knickers in a bunch over what is stated.

And for the record, many "uber-liberals" (I can not believe I just typed "uber", talk about an overused term! blech!!) also work hard for their salaries as well as struggled to put themselves through college. This is not something that is unique to conservatives.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I judge conservative people. I think most of them are @ssholes.

I judge uber-liberal people. I work hard for my salary. I struggled to put myself through college and I deserve every penny I earn. I think it is ridiculous that I need to share my income with the baby-mama who can't pinpoint who the baby-daddy is... Those who are into wealth redistribution need to get on the next flight to communist wherever, asap.

You just proved her point.

LOL!!

I am the "I judge conservative people..." poster. And I am both amused and confused. I thought the purpose of this thread was just to put your topic of bias "out there", not for someone to get their knickers in a bunch over what is stated.

And for the record, many "uber-liberals" (I can not believe I just typed "uber", talk about an overused term! blech!!) also work hard for their salaries as well as struggled to put themselves through college. This is not something that is unique to conservatives.

Okay, good stuff on putting your bias "out there" -- NP here, and here's mine: I judge people who are stupid enough and/or uneducated enough and/or ignorant enough to think that being either a "conservative" or "liberal," in and of itself, makes you an a-hole. There appear to be plenty of you here on DCUM. Mostly of the self-identified liberal persuasion.

And I judge people who attend poorly ranked graduate school programs. I'm a school snob. And a conservative. And possibly an a-hole. But I went to really good schools.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I judge conservative people. I think most of them are @ssholes.

I judge uber-liberal people. I work hard for my salary. I struggled to put myself through college and I deserve every penny I earn. I think it is ridiculous that I need to share my income with the baby-mama who can't pinpoint who the baby-daddy is... Those who are into wealth redistribution need to get on the next flight to communist wherever, asap.

You just proved her point.

LOL!!

I am the "I judge conservative people..." poster. And I am both amused and confused. I thought the purpose of this thread was just to put your topic of bias "out there", not for someone to get their knickers in a bunch over what is stated.

And for the record, many "uber-liberals" (I can not believe I just typed "uber", talk about an overused term! blech!!) also work hard for their salaries as well as struggled to put themselves through college. This is not something that is unique to conservatives.

Okay, good stuff on putting your bias "out there" -- NP here, and here's mine: I judge people who are stupid enough and/or uneducated enough and/or ignorant enough to think that being either a "conservative" or "liberal," in and of itself, makes you an a-hole. There appear to be plenty of you here on DCUM. Mostly of the self-identified liberal persuasion.

And I judge people who attend poorly ranked graduate school programs. I'm a school snob. And a conservative. And possibly an a-hole. But I went to really good schools.

Well, you're an a-hole, but at least you know you're an a-hole. Do you see any irony in the fact that you just talked about how only stupid people judge others for being liberal or conservative, and then went on to bash liberals?

But good for you for attending a top ranked graduate program. That makes you special.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And I judge people who attend poorly ranked graduate school programs. I'm a school snob. And a conservative. And possibly an a-hole. But I went to really good schools.

Wait, you're not the attorney who refused to say hello to me, a lowly staff person, in front of other lawyers at the firm because you went to Harvard and it wouldn't be right to have anyone think you were friendly terms with someone of lesser quality? Was that you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I judge people who have 5 year olds in stroller at the mall. If your kid's foot can touch the floor, they should NOT be in a stroller. Teach you kids some manners or don't take them to the mall.

I judge people who cannot fathom that an older child in a stroller might have special needs (sometimes they aren't visible) and cannot walk around the mall.

I judge people who think that a child in a stroller is displaying bad manners.

I judge narrowmindedness.

I judge people who don't know what the f* I'm talking about and judge me anyway. The child I saw in the stroller did NOT have special needs (I saw him in and out of a stroller, talking to his mom and his sister - also in a stroller, but she was younger). The reason WHY he was in a stroller is clearly because his mother was tired of chasing him around and tired of dragging him when she wanted to walk faster, but he wanted to keep looking at something else. Being in the stroller doesn't display bad manners. Being in a stroller because you have bad manners, however, does.

So...if it was just one child you saw, why are you judging all children whose feet can touch the floor, and saying they shouldn't be in strollers? My child CAN'T WALK. I would literally weep tears of joy if I didn't have to bring my stroller everywhere I went. The last thing I need is some judgmental asshole sneering at me because we are displaying "bad manners." (Actually, I'd probably laugh my head off, come to think of it.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:we all have public schools, we all know the rules and the way to success - study hard and work hard and get an education, so I judge those that cry victimization when clearly it is not an obstacle. I love the example of recent african immigrants who have the highest education level of any group in this country. bravo to my kenyan and ghanan brothers and sisters!

It's not just about the public schools. Families and home environments make a massive difference, and that's why not everyone has equal access. Some people have to deal with obstacles that some of us never even know others have to deal with. It's hard to concentrate at school if you're a kid whose parents beat you up. It's hard to do your homework if your parents are never home, are drugged out, or constantly yelling at each other in the background.

Many immigrant families are very tight-knit, warm, loving families with a strong work ethic. Not all kids grow up in such families.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:we all have public schools, we all know the rules and the way to success - study hard and work hard and get an education, so I judge those that cry victimization when clearly it is not an obstacle. I love the example of recent african immigrants who have the highest education level of any group in this country. bravo to my kenyan and ghanan brothers and sisters!

It's not just about the public schools. Families and home environments make a massive difference, and that's why not everyone has equal access. Some people have to deal with obstacles that some of us never even know others have to deal with. It's hard to concentrate at school if you're a kid whose parents beat you up. It's hard to do your homework if your parents are never home, are drugged out, or constantly yelling at each other in the background.

Many immigrant families are very tight-knit, warm, loving families with a strong work ethic. Not all kids grow up in such families.

Plus not all public schools are of equal quality. Far from it. And I can't imagine how much I'd have been able to concentrate on my education if I was hungry, or worried about getting jumped walking to/from school. If my personal safety were a concern, in my neighborhood or at home, I suspect that'd make a little harder to worry about those multiplication tables.

I grew up in a safe stable home with money and enough to eat, two parents who loved each other and me, and who stressed the importance of a good education. I lived in a safe neighborhood where the neighbors knew me and generally looked out for me. I went to a nice public school, in a good building, where we had enough educational materials for all the kids. My parents were present through my childhood, always assured me I'd go to college, and helped me to apply for financial aid when the time came. My teachers encouraged and helped me navigate the college application process.

A lot of people grew up under similar circumstances, but will tell you they did it all themselves, no one ever helped them, so why doesn't everyone live just like them? I say I was incredibly lucky and privileged to have had the opportunities I did, and I don't presume to judge people who weren't.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I judge people who conceive using anonymous donor eggs and/or sperm. I have to wonder about the kind of parent who is willing to deprive her child of something fundamental from the very start.

I judge people who like Tory Burch and spend a lot of money on other overrated American designers. Dior forever!

I judge people who can't wrap their heads around the fact that not everybody can have babies the "regular" way. It doesn't mean they will not be good parents. In most cases it means they have a stable life, a big heart and a lot of love to give. And they want kids to share that with. I judge people who think like you as being ignorant.


I judge people who say things like "_______ forever!"

Of course not everyone can have kids the normal way. But what I really can't wrap my head around is that some people pretend like there are no moral issues involved in using donor gametes. We just can't gloss over the fact that to fulfill the dream of parenthood it was unfortunately necessary to sever the biological tie and condemn the child to never knowing his biological parents. There are millions of stable, big-hearted people who are sadly selfish as well. Contradictions in human nature abound.

I agree with the PP who said it is ironic that people have no problem with possibly giving birth to the offspring of felons or miscreants or creating situations in which incest could happen. The fertility industry in the U.S. is virtually unregulated, as Octomom proved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I judge people who conceive using anonymous donor eggs and/or sperm. I have to wonder about the kind of parent who is willing to deprive her child of something fundamental from the very start.

I judge people who like Tory Burch and spend a lot of money on other overrated American designers. Dior forever!

I judge people who can't wrap their heads around the fact that not everybody can have babies the "regular" way. It doesn't mean they will not be good parents. In most cases it means they have a stable life, a big heart and a lot of love to give. And they want kids to share that with. I judge people who think like you as being ignorant.


I judge people who say things like "_______ forever!"

Of course not everyone can have kids the normal way. But what I really can't wrap my head around is that some people pretend like there are no moral issues involved in using donor gametes. We just can't gloss over the fact that to fulfill the dream of parenthood it was unfortunately necessary to sever the biological tie and condemn the child to never knowing his biological parents. There are millions of stable, big-hearted people who are sadly selfish as well. Contradictions in human nature abound.

I agree with the PP who said it is ironic that people have no problem with possibly giving birth to the offspring of felons or miscreants or creating situations in which incest could happen. The fertility industry in the U.S. is virtually unregulated, as Octomom proved.

Condemn people to never knowing their biological parents?

Ironic that people have no problem with giving birth to the offspring of felons?

What is this, 1922?

[Anonymous]

Reading through these . . . people wonder why those of us on the "negativity" thread are the way they are . . . Nasty, nasty people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Reading through these . . . people wonder why those of us on the "negativity" thread are the way they are . . . Nasty, nasty people.

For real. These guys plus the poster on another thread complaining about the reckless driving ticket she got for going 90 mph. Yiiiiiiiiiiikes.

[Anonymous]

Ooh! That made me think of something I'm judgmental about. I'm judgmental about women who say, "I just don't get along with women as much as men. Women are so bitchy and catty." This immediately tells me that you are hard to get along with.

[Anonymous]

Please offer a cogent countargument. Relentless skirting actually will not make the ethical issues vanish. Do you know your biological parents? It is easy to dismiss the pain of those who will never know theirs, easy to breezily declare that the loss is not great.

I will gladly shut up if several anonymous gamete children will tell me I am making too big a deal of this. Am I really so horrible for raising these issues?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please offer a cogent countargument. Relentless skirting actually will not make the ethical issues vanish. Do you know your biological parents? It is easy to dismiss the pain of those who will never know theirs, easy to breezily declare that the loss is not great.

I will gladly shut up if several anonymous gamete children will tell me I am making too big a deal of this. Am I really so horrible for raising these issues?

How is this different from a closed adoption? Should my friends who adopted an abandoned mixed race Russian child be accused of severing the family bond and condemning the child to a lifetime of agony over not knowing his bio parents?