Baby Now or Wait 2 Years?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why not do med school if you are so smart? Oh yeah, you aren't.

She probably went to pharmacy to begin with because she couldn't make the med school. Then she realized she cared less about prestige than about the day to day work. But will still insist nursing is like a totally prestigious incredibly competitive profession.

You're ignorant. I'm not OP but I'm a doctor. I wonder what you you do that you feel you're superior? Is nursing hard? Yes. Is it prestigious? No. Is CRNA hard and prestigious? Yes. You are completely ignorant to what a CRNA even does or how hard the work to become one. A CRNA deals with ICU patients by checking vitals, intubating, standing in for anesthesiologists, etc., but no, they and OP are dumb. Spend one day in that life and then tell me how easy it is.

you must be a pediatrician

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, why not do med school if you are so smart? Oh yeah, you aren't.

She probably went to pharmacy to begin with because she couldn't make the med school. Then she realized she cared less about prestige than about the day to day work. But will still insist nursing is like a totally prestigious incredibly competitive profession.

You're ignorant. I'm not OP but I'm a doctor. I wonder what you you do that you feel you're superior? Is nursing hard? Yes. Is it prestigious? No. Is CRNA hard and prestigious? Yes. You are completely ignorant to what a CRNA even does or how hard the work to become one. A CRNA deals with ICU patients by checking vitals, intubating, standing in for anesthesiologists, etc., but no, they and OP are dumb. Spend one day in that life and then tell me how easy it is.

Geez, your grammar is atrocious. You’re a doctor? I guess doctors just aren’t very smart nowadays. OP, you sound ridiculous. You’ve only been married for 3 years to a lawyer on partner track who wants 3-4 kids? He may be indulging your silly idea now to become a CRNA and have 3 kids later, but let’s see what happens 3 years later when you’re struggling to deliver on your promise. He’ll find a younger, hotter wife and breeder so fast...

Op here. I have to laugh at this dumb response. I wanted to be a CRNA before I even met my husband. He fully supports me. We are very happily married. I am wise enough to know you don't have a child when you're not ready for one, or you don't think you can handle it. You may be fine with a nanny or daycare raising your children, but I'm not.

oh you are so career oriented (unlike us SAHMs) that you are going to raise your children without outside help.

you are 32 and totally clueless. and because you are so obnoxious i am kind of glad you are making stupid decisions.

[Anonymous]

The women on this thread show their true colors, don't they? They should be ashamed, disparaging nurses and the idea you want to further your education.

Good for you. Getting through your program is the priority now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The women on this thread show their true colors, don't they? They should be ashamed, disparaging nurses and the idea you want to further your education.

Good for you. Getting through your program is the priority now.

nobody would bother to write about nursing if not for this extremely arrogant nurse who dismissed every response on the grounds that we can't possibly grasp the rigor of her training.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm so confused. How are you going to have 2-4 children in a short time frame, not burdening your MIL, with a partner husband working long hours - without a nanny or daycare?

+1

I know OP said she's signing off this thread, but I'm also deeply curious to know the answer to this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm so confused. How are you going to have 2-4 children in a short time frame, not burdening your MIL, with a partner husband working long hours - without a nanny or daycare?

+1

I know OP said she's signing off this thread, but I'm also deeply curious to know the answer to this.

+2. OP said "You might be okay with your children being raised by a nanny or daycare, but I'm not." The being so worried / wanting kids so much that she froze her eggs at 19 but is now casually pushing off TTC until mid-30s is confusing to me, but THIS is where there's just such a big disconnect that I'm truly baffled and just not understanding OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, why not do med school if you are so smart? Oh yeah, you aren't.

She probably went to pharmacy to begin with because she couldn't make the med school. Then she realized she cared less about prestige than about the day to day work. But will still insist nursing is like a totally prestigious incredibly competitive profession.

You're ignorant. I'm not OP but I'm a doctor. I wonder what you you do that you feel you're superior? Is nursing hard? Yes. Is it prestigious? No. Is CRNA hard and prestigious? Yes. You are completely ignorant to what a CRNA even does or how hard the work to become one. A CRNA deals with ICU patients by checking vitals, intubating, standing in for anesthesiologists, etc., but no, they and OP are dumb. Spend one day in that life and then tell me how easy it is.

Geez, your grammar is atrocious. You’re a doctor? I guess doctors just aren’t very smart nowadays. OP, you sound ridiculous. You’ve only been married for 3 years to a lawyer on partner track who wants 3-4 kids? He may be indulging your silly idea now to become a CRNA and have 3 kids later, but let’s see what happens 3 years later when you’re struggling to deliver on your promise. He’ll find a younger, hotter wife and breeder so fast...

Op here. I have to laugh at this dumb response. I wanted to be a CRNA before I even met my husband. He fully supports me. We are very happily married. I am wise enough to know you don't have a child when you're not ready for one, or you don't think you can handle it. You may be fine with a nanny or daycare raising your children, but I'm not.

If you wanted to become a crna before you even met your husband, why didn’t you do the program before? You could have finished it by now. Did you not get in? Honestly, it sounds like you’re a dumb trophy wife that your husband primarily married to have kids. I bet he doesn’t know about the egg freezing. Who freezes their eggs when they’re 19 just for kicks? Seriously that’s just weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, why not do med school if you are so smart? Oh yeah, you aren't.

She probably went to pharmacy to begin with because she couldn't make the med school. Then she realized she cared less about prestige than about the day to day work. But will still insist nursing is like a totally prestigious incredibly competitive profession.

You're ignorant. I'm not OP but I'm a doctor. I wonder what you you do that you feel you're superior? Is nursing hard? Yes. Is it prestigious? No. Is CRNA hard and prestigious? Yes. You are completely ignorant to what a CRNA even does or how hard the work to become one. A CRNA deals with ICU patients by checking vitals, intubating, standing in for anesthesiologists, etc., but no, they and OP are dumb. Spend one day in that life and then tell me how easy it is.

Geez, your grammar is atrocious. You’re a doctor? I guess doctors just aren’t very smart nowadays. OP, you sound ridiculous. You’ve only been married for 3 years to a lawyer on partner track who wants 3-4 kids? He may be indulging your silly idea now to become a CRNA and have 3 kids later, but let’s see what happens 3 years later when you’re struggling to deliver on your promise. He’ll find a younger, hotter wife and breeder so fast...

Op here. I have to laugh at this dumb response. I wanted to be a CRNA before I even met my husband. He fully supports me. We are very happily married. I am wise enough to know you don't have a child when you're not ready for one, or you don't think you can handle it. You may be fine with a nanny or daycare raising your children, but I'm not.

If you wanted to become a crna before you even met your husband, why didn’t you do the program before? You could have finished it by now. Did you not get in? Honestly, it sounds like you’re a dumb trophy wife that your husband primarily married to have kids. I bet he doesn’t know about the egg freezing. Who freezes their eggs when they’re 19 just for kicks? Seriously that’s just weird.

exactly. and now OP is not delivering. but she is confident that her 1 year old marriage is very strong.

[Anonymous]

I call BS on this whole thing.

If OP is 33 and had her eggs frozen at 19 then it was done 14 years ago.

EGG freezing technology was in it's infancy 14 years ago. Places like Shady Grove or Dominion fertility (the two major DC clinics) DIDN'T OFFER IT. Maybe there was a single clinic in NYC that did. Next we're supposed to believe that OP when there.

OP is lying. I'd be a million dollars.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I call BS on this whole thing.

If OP is 33 and had her eggs frozen at 19 then it was done 14 years ago.

EGG freezing technology was in it's infancy 14 years ago. Places like Shady Grove or Dominion fertility (the two major DC clinics) DIDN'T OFFER IT. Maybe there was a single clinic in NYC that did. Next we're supposed to believe that OP when there.

OP is lying. I'd be a million dollars.

As soon as she brought up the frozen eggs, I thought it was made up, too. I looked into it in 2007 (10 years ago); I was 35, my husband was possibly deploying, and it seemed like we might need to do this. At that point, prices were coming down and the technology was improving, but the places I was looking at had only been offering it as an elective, reasonably guaranteed option for a couple of years. I guess it's possible, but very unlikely.

But the rest of it sounds legit. Like a lot of us before we actually got pregnant or had babies, we think of them as something that can be scheduled and planned for just like school, work, family obligations. It's not until you actually have children that you realize that you don't get to decide which hours that child sleeps, or when that child will get sick and have to stay home, or that feeding the child takes actual time that you thought would just get rolled into your own meal times ... It's just so much easier to compartmentalize in theory, and we all think that parents who find this difficult must be doing it wrong, especially if they have money to hire help. Then we have our own, and realize that it doesn't work that way.

[Anonymous]

Looks like many people think she is lying about egg freezing. Myself included.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:these nurses boasting about their certificates are like general contractors boasting about making hundreds of thousands of dollars.

i was a top student at a top college. many people went to professional and graduate schools; not a single one went to nursing (maybe they should have. clearly the fields is full of morons)

also: nursing journals are where you send your junk that gets rejected by medical journals.

The U.S. is on the verge of a major nursing shortage and despite your lack of respect for the profession, they play an integral role in our health care system. Your comment is incredibly condescending and there is no doubt that perpetuation of this negativity is contributing to the impending shortage. Some of the best schools in the nation (such as Georgetown and Duke, for example) offer CRNA graduate programs and I would guess that graduates from your top college would be pleased to attend one of those prestigious programs if obtaining such a degree was their passion. I am not a nurse, but I have relied on their expertise and appreciated their compassion many times in my life.

[Anonymous]

Nothing in life is guaranteed. Start working on the thing now that you would be most upset about not having experienced in your life, and then start the next thing as it makes sense in your life. Chances are, things will work out. But there are also chances that they don't (job prospects, job loss, infertility, loss, etc). At a later age, it could be hard to "recover" when things do go wrong.

This isn't an easy choice, and a choice random me on the internet can't make for you. I would recommend being really honest with yourself and your husband , and make your decisions from there. Best of luck to you.

[Anonymous]

Definitely lying about the egg freezing, that was obvious.

[Anonymous]

I'm surprised no one has pointed out the choppy spacing on OP's previous commitments. She went to college, then nannied for five years, then went to school to do retail pharmacy (in an early post, OP said she went to nursing school - wonder if that was a typo or if she wasn't a full fledged pharmacist), then worked for two years and hates it. Met her DH three years ago and got married. Now wants to go back to school. OP seems like she lacks focus or maturity about just doing something *anything* for more than a few years. Her "I've got everything so figured out" attitude that several people noted makes her seem *off* just adds to this weirdness. For someone who is so perfect, she hasn't shown it through a commitment to anything. It all just seems off.

I'd bet that OP goes to school, has a baby at the end , her DH is busy with work, she works a year or so half heartedly maybe has another baby, and then quits and stays home. And then fast forward five years and her cycle will continue with some new great idea that she just has to do.