Do you spank your kids?

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Anonymous wrote:I am also shocked that this is happening in 2015. I was spanked as a child and, just like our parents smoked and drank while pregnant and no one wore seatbelts, I assume it was because these were uneducated people that didn't know any better. I cannot believe that anyone thinks this is ok and ESPECIALLY do it in such a sick, sadistic way as laying them over your lap and hugging and kissing them afterward. Dear Lord! No wonder people are in abusive relationships as adults!

Spanking has not proven to be harmful the way smoking during pregnancy, or not wearing seatbelts has.

I'm not saying it is just as harmful. I'm saying that I assumed people spanked their kids because they didn't know any better. Now that people know better, why are they still doing it? (PS I am also amazed that people still smoke or drink while pregnant or drive without seatbelts)

There's nothing to "know better" regarding spanking. Used carefully and correctly, it's very effective.

I could not disagree more.

Why? Have you tried it and found that it wasn't useful in your case?

I'm another PP, but yes I did it twice, and it made me feel terrible, and made my child cry. It didn't work at all. And there has been a slew of research - good research that shows it does not work. If it works so well, why do you have to keep spanking? If it worked, wouldn't you only have to do it once?

Flawed logic. If time outs or taking away a privilege works so well, why do you have to it more than once? I don't know how many times my kids have lost electronic time (their favorite thing in this entire world), and yet, they still occasionally do things that lead to loss of the privilege.

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Anonymous wrote:I am also shocked that this is happening in 2015. I was spanked as a child and, just like our parents smoked and drank while pregnant and no one wore seatbelts, I assume it was because these were uneducated people that didn't know any better. I cannot believe that anyone thinks this is ok and ESPECIALLY do it in such a sick, sadistic way as laying them over your lap and hugging and kissing them afterward. Dear Lord! No wonder people are in abusive relationships as adults!

Spanking has not proven to be harmful the way smoking during pregnancy, or not wearing seatbelts has.

I'm not saying it is just as harmful. I'm saying that I assumed people spanked their kids because they didn't know any better. Now that people know better, why are they still doing it? (PS I am also amazed that people still smoke or drink while pregnant or drive without seatbelts)

There's nothing to "know better" regarding spanking. Used carefully and correctly, it's very effective.

I could not disagree more.

Why? Have you tried it and found that it wasn't useful in your case?

I'm another PP, but yes I did it twice, and it made me feel terrible, and made my child cry. It didn't work at all. And there has been a slew of research - good research that shows it does not work. If it works so well, why do you have to keep spanking? If it worked, wouldn't you only have to do it once?

With any sort of discipline, you have to be consistent. If you feel terrible and are not willing to actually impose it, it will not work. It works for us because our kids know that we will not hesitate to use it, and yes, they do cry. That's OK sometimes. It works well, but like any other punishment, it's not 100%. I'm sure people give more than one timeout, too. In my estimation, using spanking, or the possibility of a spanking, keeps the overall level of punishment way, way down in a house. It's an effective deterrent in a way that other punishments are not.

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Anonymous wrote:I am also shocked that this is happening in 2015. I was spanked as a child and, just like our parents smoked and drank while pregnant and no one wore seatbelts, I assume it was because these were uneducated people that didn't know any better. I cannot believe that anyone thinks this is ok and ESPECIALLY do it in such a sick, sadistic way as laying them over your lap and hugging and kissing them afterward. Dear Lord! No wonder people are in abusive relationships as adults!

Spanking has not proven to be harmful the way smoking during pregnancy, or not wearing seatbelts has.

I'm not saying it is just as harmful. I'm saying that I assumed people spanked their kids because they didn't know any better. Now that people know better, why are they still doing it? (PS I am also amazed that people still smoke or drink while pregnant or drive without seatbelts)

There's nothing to "know better" regarding spanking. Used carefully and correctly, it's very effective.

I could not disagree more.

Why? Have you tried it and found that it wasn't useful in your case?

Do you spank?

I'm another PP, but yes I did it twice, and it made me feel terrible, and made my child cry. It didn't work at all. And there has been a slew of research - good research that shows it does not work. If it works so well, why do you have to keep spanking? If it worked, wouldn't you only have to do it once?

Flawed logic. If time outs or taking away a privilege works so well, why do you have to it more than once? I don't know how many times my kids have lost electronic time (their favorite thing in this entire world), and yet, they still occasionally do things that lead to loss of the privilege.

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Anonymous wrote:I am also shocked that this is happening in 2015. I was spanked as a child and, just like our parents smoked and drank while pregnant and no one wore seatbelts, I assume it was because these were uneducated people that didn't know any better. I cannot believe that anyone thinks this is ok and ESPECIALLY do it in such a sick, sadistic way as laying them over your lap and hugging and kissing them afterward. Dear Lord! No wonder people are in abusive relationships as adults!

Spanking has not proven to be harmful the way smoking during pregnancy, or not wearing seatbelts has.

I'm not saying it is just as harmful. I'm saying that I assumed people spanked their kids because they didn't know any better. Now that people know better, why are they still doing it? (PS I am also amazed that people still smoke or drink while pregnant or drive without seatbelts)

There's nothing to "know better" regarding spanking. Used carefully and correctly, it's very effective.

I could not disagree more.

Why? Have you tried it and found that it wasn't useful in your case?

Do you spank?

I'm another PP, but yes I did it twice, and it made me feel terrible, and made my child cry. It didn't work at all. And there has been a slew of research - good research that shows it does not work. If it works so well, why do you have to keep spanking? If it worked, wouldn't you only have to do it once?

Flawed logic. If time outs or taking away a privilege works so well, why do you have to it more than once? I don't know how many times my kids have lost electronic time (their favorite thing in this entire world), and yet, they still occasionally do things that lead to loss of the privilege.

Do you spank is what I am asking?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am also shocked that this is happening in 2015. I was spanked as a child and, just like our parents smoked and drank while pregnant and no one wore seatbelts, I assume it was because these were uneducated people that didn't know any better. I cannot believe that anyone thinks this is ok and ESPECIALLY do it in such a sick, sadistic way as laying them over your lap and hugging and kissing them afterward. Dear Lord! No wonder people are in abusive relationships as adults!

Spanking has not proven to be harmful the way smoking during pregnancy, or not wearing seatbelts has.

Oh my god, YES IT HAS. Read the research. But I know you won't. Keep justifying it if you want but you are on the wrong side of history.

I have read the research. As has already been stated by multiple other posters, the research is not conducted scientifically with controls or even an attempt to separate mild physical correction with severe physical abuse. It lumps it all together as a binary variable, does not tease out socioeconomic factors, and declares that spanking is bad.

The research is worthless.

Sure. Keep hitting your kids and keep telling yourself that.

She wants a double-blind clinical trial for the research to be valid but then believes that he own anecdotal evidence is iron-clad.

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Anonymous wrote:I am also shocked that this is happening in 2015. I was spanked as a child and, just like our parents smoked and drank while pregnant and no one wore seatbelts, I assume it was because these were uneducated people that didn't know any better. I cannot believe that anyone thinks this is ok and ESPECIALLY do it in such a sick, sadistic way as laying them over your lap and hugging and kissing them afterward. Dear Lord! No wonder people are in abusive relationships as adults!

Spanking has not proven to be harmful the way smoking during pregnancy, or not wearing seatbelts has.

I'm not saying it is just as harmful. I'm saying that I assumed people spanked their kids because they didn't know any better. Now that people know better, why are they still doing it? (PS I am also amazed that people still smoke or drink while pregnant or drive without seatbelts)

There's nothing to "know better" regarding spanking. Used carefully and correctly, it's very effective.

I could not disagree more.

Why? Have you tried it and found that it wasn't useful in your case?

No, it is not necessary or useful and there are many other ways to teach your children right from wrong.

[Anonymous]

Just wondering if it is just a few people who enthusiastically support spanking or lots of different people because I am so amazed at how many supportive responses there are for spanking on this thread. And then they get into comparing how exactly they do it. Yuck.

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Anonymous wrote:I am also shocked that this is happening in 2015. I was spanked as a child and, just like our parents smoked and drank while pregnant and no one wore seatbelts, I assume it was because these were uneducated people that didn't know any better. I cannot believe that anyone thinks this is ok and ESPECIALLY do it in such a sick, sadistic way as laying them over your lap and hugging and kissing them afterward. Dear Lord! No wonder people are in abusive relationships as adults!

Spanking has not proven to be harmful the way smoking during pregnancy, or not wearing seatbelts has.

Oh my god, YES IT HAS. Read the research. But I know you won't. Keep justifying it if you want but you are on the wrong side of history.

I have read the research. As has already been stated by multiple other posters, the research is not conducted scientifically with controls or even an attempt to separate mild physical correction with severe physical abuse. It lumps it all together as a binary variable, does not tease out socioeconomic factors, and declares that spanking is bad.

The research is worthless.

Sure. Keep hitting your kids and keep telling yourself that.

She wants a double-blind clinical trial for the research to be valid but then believes that he own anecdotal evidence is iron-clad.

It wouldn't even have to be double blind. Just do the same surveys, but control it for socioeconomic status, and control it for the type of spanking, the frequency, the severity. That would at least be a start.

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Anonymous wrote:I am also shocked that this is happening in 2015. I was spanked as a child and, just like our parents smoked and drank while pregnant and no one wore seatbelts, I assume it was because these were uneducated people that didn't know any better. I cannot believe that anyone thinks this is ok and ESPECIALLY do it in such a sick, sadistic way as laying them over your lap and hugging and kissing them afterward. Dear Lord! No wonder people are in abusive relationships as adults!

Spanking has not proven to be harmful the way smoking during pregnancy, or not wearing seatbelts has.

I'm not saying it is just as harmful. I'm saying that I assumed people spanked their kids because they didn't know any better. Now that people know better, why are they still doing it? (PS I am also amazed that people still smoke or drink while pregnant or drive without seatbelts)

There's nothing to "know better" regarding spanking. Used carefully and correctly, it's very effective.

I could not disagree more.

Why? Have you tried it and found that it wasn't useful in your case?

No, it is not necessary or useful and there are many other ways to teach your children right from wrong.

It may not be absolutely necessary, but it's definitely useful, and it's the most effective for certain infractions and certain ages.

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Anonymous wrote:Just wondering if it is just a few people who enthusiastically support spanking or lots of different people because I am so amazed at how many supportive responses there are for spanking on this thread. And then they get into comparing how exactly they do it. Yuck.

You realize that about 90% of parents in America spank, right?

And what's wrong with discussing specifics?

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Anonymous wrote:I am also shocked that this is happening in 2015. I was spanked as a child and, just like our parents smoked and drank while pregnant and no one wore seatbelts, I assume it was because these were uneducated people that didn't know any better. I cannot believe that anyone thinks this is ok and ESPECIALLY do it in such a sick, sadistic way as laying them over your lap and hugging and kissing them afterward. Dear Lord! No wonder people are in abusive relationships as adults!

Spanking has not proven to be harmful the way smoking during pregnancy, or not wearing seatbelts has.

I'm not saying it is just as harmful. I'm saying that I assumed people spanked their kids because they didn't know any better. Now that people know better, why are they still doing it? (PS I am also amazed that people still smoke or drink while pregnant or drive without seatbelts)

There's nothing to "know better" regarding spanking. Used carefully and correctly, it's very effective.

I could not disagree more.

Why? Have you tried it and found that it wasn't useful in your case?

No, it is not necessary or useful and there are many other ways to teach your children right from wrong.

How would you know?

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My father would spank me while pressing his throbbing peni$ on me

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Anonymous wrote:My father would spank me while pressing his throbbing peni$ on me

oh for God's sake

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Anonymous wrote:I get anxiety just reading a lot of these post. Particular those that talk about how they talk to the children first then spank them, followed up by demonstrations of affection. I can't imagine how a kid must feel. The anticipation of pain, having to be an active participant in what I can only describe as a farce....it just sounds awful.

Active participant?

The child has to walk into a different room. Has to have a conversation. Lie over the parents lap and position themselves to receive physical punishment. The hugs and kisses afterwards. They have to participate in all of it. I don't agree with it, but I can almost understand a spank in the heat of the moment--don't support it, but can wrap my head around why a parent might do it. But this dragged out, almost ritualized process? Like I said, it gives me anxiety just reading about it. I can only imagine the terror a child feels as the anticipation grows as they get closer to that moment of pain. And then forced to display affection towards someone who just hit you immediately afterwards?

Sounds like the roots of S/M.

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Anonymous wrote:I am also shocked that this is happening in 2015. I was spanked as a child and, just like our parents smoked and drank while pregnant and no one wore seatbelts, I assume it was because these were uneducated people that didn't know any better. I cannot believe that anyone thinks this is ok and ESPECIALLY do it in such a sick, sadistic way as laying them over your lap and hugging and kissing them afterward. Dear Lord! No wonder people are in abusive relationships as adults!

Spanking has not proven to be harmful the way smoking during pregnancy, or not wearing seatbelts has.

I'm not saying it is just as harmful. I'm saying that I assumed people spanked their kids because they didn't know any better. Now that people know better, why are they still doing it? (PS I am also amazed that people still smoke or drink while pregnant or drive without seatbelts)

There's nothing to "know better" regarding spanking. Used carefully and correctly, it's very effective.

I could not disagree more.

Why? Have you tried it and found that it wasn't useful in your case?

No, it is not necessary or useful and there are many other ways to teach your children right from wrong.

How would you know?

Because I was spanked as a child, and it wasn't necessary or useful. In turn, I do NOT spank my children because I am aware of other ways to teach them right from wrong besides spanking.