Do you spank your kids?

[Anonymous]

I was reading that time out thread, and the topic of spanking came up. I was not spanked as a kid; DH was. He felt it was fine, but we both agree that other methods are preferable. Our kids are only 2 and 4, and we've not spanked either yet.

Is this something parents do now days, or has it kind of fallen out of favor?

[Anonymous]

I spank but very rarely (once a month, maybe). It works, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't feel bad about doing it. Sometimes it's the only thing that will get my kid to shape up.

I think on DCUM you'll find that a majority of the posters will tell you it's unnecessary and abusive.

[Anonymous]

Never.

[Anonymous]

Well, I am not above a swat on the rear, but I've only ever used that to get their attention. It's not used as a punishment. The kind of spankings I grew up with, where it was a long-drawn out process (ie "you're getting a spanking when we get home", I'd have have to lay over my parent's lap, etc.) is pretty sadistic, if you ask me,

[Anonymous]

Really? You haven't read the numerous threads on here about it? I would not spank a 2 yr old, though.

[Anonymous]

No but I wish I had.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Really? You haven't read the numerous threads on here about it? I would not spank a 2 yr old, though.

I haven't. Sorry, I'm new here. Feel free to move on if you're not interested in discussing.

[Anonymous]

I spanked DD on the butt probably less than 5 times between the age of 18 mos and 2.5. Now she is almost 3.5 and I have not. She is receptive to time outs and loss of TV or a snack after dinner. I don't intend to now that she is old enough to have some sense of reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I spank but very rarely (once a month, maybe). It works, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't feel bad about doing it. Sometimes it's the only thing that will get my kid to shape up.

I think on DCUM you'll find that a majority of the posters will tell you it's unnecessary and abusive.

You think spanking once a month equates to "very rarely"?

[Anonymous]

Yes. It's a consequence for a few particular behaviors, and my kids know this.

[Anonymous]

I don't. My mom spanked me when I was young. I have memories of running away from her while she chased me with a yard stick. I don't want my kid to have those types of memories of me. Plus, I don't remember the spankings (or being hit with a yard stick) being much of a deterrent for me either. I just don't see the point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I spank but very rarely (once a month, maybe). It works, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't feel bad about doing it. Sometimes it's the only thing that will get my kid to shape up.

I think on DCUM you'll find that a majority of the posters will tell you it's unnecessary and abusive.

You think spanking once a month equates to "very rarely"?

It's all relative, babe.

[Anonymous]

No. And no one I know around here does

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I spank but very rarely (once a month, maybe). It works, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't feel bad about doing it. Sometimes it's the only thing that will get my kid to shape up.

I think on DCUM you'll find that a majority of the posters will tell you it's unnecessary and abusive.

You think spanking once a month equates to "very rarely"?

It's all relative, babe.

If you're doing it once a month and feel bad about it, maybe it's time to consider that it's not working.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I spank but very rarely (once a month, maybe). It works, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't feel bad about doing it. Sometimes it's the only thing that will get my kid to shape up.

I think on DCUM you'll find that a majority of the posters will tell you it's unnecessary and abusive.

You think spanking once a month equates to "very rarely"?

It's all relative, babe.

If you're doing it once a month and feel bad about it, maybe it's time to consider that it's not working.

Like I said...it works. I do have a conscience and don't enjoy smacking my kid's bottom, but sometimes it's the only thing that nips the offending behavior in the bud.