Seeking opinions on an incident involving another family member disciplining my child

[Anonymous]

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OMG I can't believe some of you people. You are going to find yourselves with teenage kids who feel like they aren't supported by you and can't count on you. I truly feel sorry for them.

+ a million

+ another million

Actually, you are wrong. People who parent like you are going to end up with rebelious teenagers who do whatever they want, or precious snowflakes who melt tue first time they have a coach correct them or a teacher grade them harshly or a boss who lets them know that the world does not revolve around them.

If my kid faces adversity, he will know that he can come to me and he will fell safe and supported and loved. But your kids will not. Your kids are going to end up with kids who feel they can't turn to you. They will need to fend for themselves. They are learning that early, based on what some of you post here. They will not feel close to you, though.

If my kid climbs on the couch at his uncle's house and the uncle yells at him, my kid can feel safe knowing he can come to me and I will say: "Serves you right dumbass. Don't climb on the fucking couch, you moron!"

[Anonymous]

BIL way overreacted. Do not stay there again.

[Anonymous]

"My house my rules" was bil's response to something critical OP or her husband said to try to justify OP's kid walking on the couch. That is what caused any subsequent yelling. OP is a liar because she left out the part where she made some kind of rude dismissive remark to bil instead of disciplining her child so bil wouldn't have to. Most likely OP said something like "You have no right telling my children to get off your couch!" "My house, my rules" is a natural response.

And we all know someone who parents as badly as OP would have said something pretty close to that to the bil. Her husband doesn't know what she said to bil to start the fight and she lied about it to her husband. The bil apologized to keep the peace. OP being a huge drama queen wants to keep the family in turmoil over this nonsense. OP is toxic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:BIL way overreacted. Do not stay there again.

OP shouldn't stay there again because she refuses to properly supervise her children and gets upset at others doing the job she is supposednto do, but won't.

[Anonymous]

OP, are you still reading? Have you spoken to your sister? How are things now with the family? Hopefully things have smoothed over some.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you still reading? Have you spoken to your sister? How are things now with the family? Hopefully things have smoothed over some.

op here. I had stopped reading because some of the posts were so nasty. We left my sister on decent terms that weekend. We were smiling and having fun at the party, and we said amicable goodbyes. We have not talked since (this was very recently).

Oh and he most certainly DID scream. Not yell or talk loudly, but screamed. And no one said anything to incite him. My DH was saying "it's okay" to my 6yo.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, are you still reading? Have you spoken to your sister? How are things now with the family? Hopefully things have smoothed over some.

op here. I had stopped reading because some of the posts were so nasty. We left my sister on decent terms that weekend. We were smiling and having fun at the party, and we said amicable goodbyes. We have not talked since (this was very recently).

Oh and he most certainly DID scream. Not yell or talk loudly, but screamed. And no one said anything to incite him. My DH was saying "it's okay" to my 6yo.

So he apologized; you enjoyed the party; you left on good terms; yet you are still looking for ammo to cause strife in the family.

How about this OP: teach your kids manners and to mind their aunts and uncles and supervise them properly when you visit. Oh but that wokd mean you have to take responsibility so forget it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, are you still reading? Have you spoken to your sister? How are things now with the family? Hopefully things have smoothed over some.

op here. I had stopped reading because some of the posts were so nasty. We left my sister on decent terms that weekend. We were smiling and having fun at the party, and we said amicable goodbyes. We have not talked since (this was very recently).

Oh and he most certainly DID scream. Not yell or talk loudly, but screamed. And no one said anything to incite him. My DH was saying "it's okay" to my 6yo.

Therein lies the problem. No, it wasnt ok. Your younger daughter did something in someone elses home that is unacceptable and neither you or your DH address that issue. You walked out, Your DH followed and i suppose your older daughter followed. NOBODY addressed the issue your BIL had. no wonder he was yelling, both you and your DH need to get a clue. I am sure they will be happy not to have to have you visit again

[Anonymous]

Does anyone think that just maybe OP and her brood are "the in laws from hell"?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, are you still reading? Have you spoken to your sister? How are things now with the family? Hopefully things have smoothed over some.

op here. I had stopped reading because some of the posts were so nasty. We left my sister on decent terms that weekend. We were smiling and having fun at the party, and we said amicable goodbyes. We have not talked since (this was very recently).

Oh and he most certainly DID scream. Not yell or talk loudly, but screamed. And no one said anything to incite him. My DH was saying "it's okay" to my 6yo.

Therein lies the problem. No, it wasnt ok. Your younger daughter did something in someone elses home that is unacceptable and neither you or your DH address that issue. You walked out, Your DH followed and i suppose your older daughter followed. NOBODY addressed the issue your BIL had. no wonder he was yelling, both you and your DH need to get a clue. I am sure they will be happy not to have to have you visit again

Me thinks OP is what is commonly known as a "shit stirrer." For some reason a cloud of chaos follows such people around; they seem to enjoy the drama they create. Her ultimate goal is to cause trouble between her sister and bil and this silliness is merely the latest excuse. I'll bet she is extremely sexually attracted to him too. As between the two brothers he is clearly the dominant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh my god. Why am I so addicted to this thread when same stuff gets repeated over and over again..... I think OP left the room.

Stormed out in tears maybe LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah agree standards are more lax in own home than outside. I'd object if my kids were breaking someone else's family heirlooms or tearing books or drawing on the walls or something, but I really wouldnt care if they were climbing on someone's couch. Sorry

Your utter disrespect for other people's property and rules indicates that you are ghetto. You and your animals would not be welcome in my house, family or not.

[Anonymous]

OK Im confused. You first said this was your sister and BIL, but then mentions your SIL... Who is the SIL here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OK Im confused. You first said this was your sister and BIL, but then mentions your SIL... Who is the SIL here?

OP later clarified mid-thread: she just can't type. Her fingers write SIL when she means sister.

[Anonymous]

That's the Freudian slip that proves OP wants the dominant bil in law sexually. Her fingers betrayed her. I'll bet she ran out of the room because her panties were drenched at bil's dominating behavior. She role reversed, her sister became the sil.