In tears about my daughter

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please explain why you, not only need her to stay, but NEED her to stay? Why?

OP here. Having the double whammy of both an employable major AND the Ivy name-brand will set her up well for the rest of her life, especially in finance or tech.

If she doesn't have the temperament for law, why would she be able to make it in finance or tech?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was talking to an engineer last weekend. He hires for a major company in the DMV. He said he regularly interviews science and tech majors, including from Ivy schools, who can’t speak or write.

In the past year, he started focusing heavily on recruiting English majors. Why? They can communicate, a skill many of his STEM recruits lack.

Perhaps we shouldn’t look down on an English degree.

+100

My IT senior manager DH says the same thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have concerns about an English degree from a community college. But from Princeton, it’s fine.
I know English majors who run non-profits, are professors at fancy universities, and are computer programmers (that one minored on physics and basically just figured out programming on the side).

LMAO. Academia (especially in the humanities) is dying, and most good tech companies are hiring only CS majors straight out of college nowadays.

[Anonymous]

Oh my gosh. I have so many regrets about my parenting, but this one makes me sound like a gem. We don't have the money to pay for an Ivy out of pocket, but every decision about college is up to our kid. It is her life, and we will do anything in our power to help her, whatever it is she decides to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh my gosh. I have so many regrets about my parenting, but this one makes me sound like a gem. We don't have the money to pay for an Ivy out of pocket, but every decision about college is up to our kid. It is her life, and we will do anything in our power to help her, whatever it is she decides to do.

+1
This is exactly how I feel!

[Anonymous]

https://medium.com/@paigedodge/how-an-english-degree-can-lead-to-a-job-in-tech-1e04f65c82a8

[Anonymous]

OP: nobody, including several posters who are sympathetic to your pro STEM views, thinks you're in the right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh my gosh. I have so many regrets about my parenting, but this one makes me sound like a gem. We don't have the money to pay for an Ivy out of pocket, but every decision about college is up to our kid. It is her life, and we will do anything in our power to help her, whatever it is she decides to do.

+1
This is exactly how I feel!

We should show this to our kids to make them feel lucky, lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh my gosh. I have so many regrets about my parenting, but this one makes me sound like a gem. We don't have the money to pay for an Ivy out of pocket, but every decision about college is up to our kid. It is her life, and we will do anything in our power to help her, whatever it is she decides to do.

+1
This is exactly how I feel!

We should show this to our kids to make them feel lucky, lol.

Wrong. OP’s kid will thank her in 10 years for forcing her into STEM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You set the terms (which I disagree with); she is not following them; so you stop paying for the Ivy for next year and she can apply to an in state school for the fall or go to community college.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh my gosh. I have so many regrets about my parenting, but this one makes me sound like a gem. We don't have the money to pay for an Ivy out of pocket, but every decision about college is up to our kid. It is her life, and we will do anything in our power to help her, whatever it is she decides to do.

+1
This is exactly how I feel!

We should show this to our kids to make them feel lucky, lol.

Wrong. OP’s kid will thank her in 10 years for forcing her into STEM.

Maybe, maybe not. And that’s assuming they’re still talking to each other in 10 years

[jsteele]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh my gosh. I have so many regrets about my parenting, but this one makes me sound like a gem. We don't have the money to pay for an Ivy out of pocket, but every decision about college is up to our kid. It is her life, and we will do anything in our power to help her, whatever it is she decides to do.

+1
This is exactly how I feel!

We should show this to our kids to make them feel lucky, lol.

Wrong. OP’s kid will thank her in 10 years for forcing her into STEM.

This post is the OP speaking about herself in the third person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You set the terms (which I disagree with); she is not following them; so you stop paying for the Ivy for next year and she can apply to an in state school for the fall or go to community college.

This.

Following through on a promise to ruin a child's life for disobedience solely to save face is not "This." in any universe

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh my gosh. I have so many regrets about my parenting, but this one makes me sound like a gem. We don't have the money to pay for an Ivy out of pocket, but every decision about college is up to our kid. It is her life, and we will do anything in our power to help her, whatever it is she decides to do.

+1
This is exactly how I feel!

We should show this to our kids to make them feel lucky, lol.

Wrong. OP’s kid will thank her in 10 years for forcing her into STEM.

This post is the OP speaking about herself in the third person.

Also, ops daughter is not being forced into STEM. She's made clear she's not going.

[Anonymous]

My daughter (also at an Ivy) has been interviewing for consulting internships this semester (McKinsey, BCG). Both interviewers told her they accept all majors and they, themselves said they had seemingly odd majors (don't recall, but not econ/business). I don't know if it's just something they say or if it's true, but I'd look it up.

Also, depending on the school, it should be quite feasible to double major English/Econ.

Have her go by the career center and see what they say about job prospects. Also, at dd's school, there is a webpage listing employers of recent grads by major. A tons of people listed as, like, Classics were employed in consulting firms and/or finance. (We guessed that they probably had a second major that was more employable, but the career center would know.)