I do not like the parent population at my kids school

[Anonymous]

I love the hateful little striver poster. She's a b, but she owns it, and really gives good insight into her twisted brain.

Please come back and post more.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you’ve been in the area for 10 plus years and we don’t either already know each other or have several mutual acquaintances, I’m frankly not interested in a new friend. Nothing personal. And if you act pushy and elbowy, I’ll cease even acknowledging you with smiles and nods at pickup and matches. Back off.

Do you stand by these comments when your name is revealed and publicly announced with all of your shitty comments?

If wealthy and successful parents at my kid's school won't befriend me, I will ruin them! Really warm and balanced disposition, sweetie. No wonder you're socially irrelevant.

[Anonymous]

Please name the schools that you’re talking about so we can avoid them!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please name the schools that you’re talking about so we can avoid them!!

It doesn’t matter which one. Just look at the schools that cost more than $35k/yr. All these schools are like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please name the schools that you’re talking about so we can avoid them!!

Families who can afford these schools already have friends and associates at them before they apply. It's a small handful of social climbing interlopers who genuinely struggle. The rest of this babble is public school trolls who serial post about how everyone richer, skinnier, smarter and/or more successful than them is cruel, with druggy kids, and must be financially overextended. It's all a cope. Idle malcontents on the outside looking in.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Please name the schools that you’re talking about so we can avoid them!!

Families who can afford these schools already have friends and associates at them before they apply. It's a small handful of social climbing interlopers who genuinely struggle. The rest of this babble is public school trolls who serial post about how everyone richer, skinnier, smarter and/or more successful than them is cruel, with druggy kids, and must be financially overextended. It's all a cope. Idle malcontents on the outside looking in.

Which school do your kids attend?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Please name the schools that you’re talking about so we can avoid them!!

Families who can afford these schools already have friends and associates at them before they apply. It's a small handful of social climbing interlopers who genuinely struggle. The rest of this babble is public school trolls who serial post about how everyone richer, skinnier, smarter and/or more successful than them is cruel, with druggy kids, and must be financially overextended. It's all a cope. Idle malcontents on the outside looking in.

We've been in DC since PK but my kid ended up at a Big3 where we didn't know anyone well. We probably know 10+ families (well) at each of the other two.
I wouldn't recommend doing this. It's been a rough adjustment for my kid who is now a sophomore. He/she is finally hitting his/her social stride. It's hard to break into a school where
many of the friendships are between the lifers. They have been very insular and the rest of the grade sort of just floats around in isolation to one degree or another.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please name the schools that you’re talking about so we can avoid them!!

Families who can afford these schools already have friends and associates at them before they apply. It's a small handful of social climbing interlopers who genuinely struggle. The rest of this babble is public school trolls who serial post about how everyone richer, skinnier, smarter and/or more successful than them is cruel, with druggy kids, and must be financially overextended. It's all a cope. Idle malcontents on the outside looking in.

Lady, you're so pathetic it is actually pretty sad. Richer, skinnier, smarter and/more successful - in that particular order..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please name the schools that you’re talking about so we can avoid them!!

Families who can afford these schools already have friends and associates at them before they apply. It's a small handful of social climbing interlopers who genuinely struggle. The rest of this babble is public school trolls who serial post about how everyone richer, skinnier, smarter and/or more successful than them is cruel, with druggy kids, and must be financially overextended. It's all a cope. Idle malcontents on the outside looking in.

We've been in DC since PK but my kid ended up at a Big3 where we didn't know anyone well. We probably know 10+ families (well) at each of the other two.
I wouldn't recommend doing this. It's been a rough adjustment for my kid who is now a sophomore. He/she is finally hitting his/her social stride. It's hard to break into a school where
many of the friendships are between the lifers. They have been very insular and the rest of the grade sort of just floats around in isolation to one degree or another.

It makes total sense and is normal for the lifer students and their families, with lifelong ties and large giving and connections to the board, have stronger bonds than relatively transient and transactional first-gen high school families. You’re just a visitor. People treat transient renters the same way. If you’re a homeowner long-term invested in a community, you’re not going to bend over backwards to befriend some bureaucrat you know will be moving on in 12 months. What’s the point.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’ve been in the area for 10 plus years and we don’t either already know each other or have several mutual acquaintances, I’m frankly not interested in a new friend. Nothing personal. And if you act pushy and elbowy, I’ll cease even acknowledging you with smiles and nods at pickup and matches. Back off.

Do you stand by these comments when your name is revealed and publicly announced with all of your shitty comments?

If wealthy and successful parents at my kid's school won't befriend me, I will ruin them! Really warm and balanced disposition, sweetie. No wonder you're socially irrelevant.

Nope that’s not it. I am probably wealthier than you and have more friends as well but I don’t like your comments. They are cruel and divisive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’ve been in the area for 10 plus years and we don’t either already know each other or have several mutual acquaintances, I’m frankly not interested in a new friend. Nothing personal. And if you act pushy and elbowy, I’ll cease even acknowledging you with smiles and nods at pickup and matches. Back off.

Do you stand by these comments when your name is revealed and publicly announced with all of your shitty comments?

If wealthy and successful parents at my kid's school won't befriend me, I will ruin them! Really warm and balanced disposition, sweetie. No wonder you're socially irrelevant.

Nope that’s not it. I am probably wealthier than you and have more friends as well but I don’t like your comments. They are cruel and divisive.

Furthermore if you are part of a community that values inclusivity and you are saying you don’t abide by those values and are telling new parents to quote “back off” then the school should know you are a poison.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’ve been in the area for 10 plus years and we don’t either already know each other or have several mutual acquaintances, I’m frankly not interested in a new friend. Nothing personal. And if you act pushy and elbowy, I’ll cease even acknowledging you with smiles and nods at pickup and matches. Back off.

Do you stand by these comments when your name is revealed and publicly announced with all of your shitty comments?

If wealthy and successful parents at my kid's school won't befriend me, I will ruin them! Really warm and balanced disposition, sweetie. No wonder you're socially irrelevant.

Nope that’s not it. I am probably wealthier than you and have more friends as well but I don’t like your comments. They are cruel and divisive.

Furthermore if you are part of a community that values inclusivity and you are saying you don’t abide by those values and are telling new parents to quote “back off” then the school should know you are a poison.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’ve been in the area for 10 plus years and we don’t either already know each other or have several mutual acquaintances, I’m frankly not interested in a new friend. Nothing personal. And if you act pushy and elbowy, I’ll cease even acknowledging you with smiles and nods at pickup and matches. Back off.

Do you stand by these comments when your name is revealed and publicly announced with all of your shitty comments?

If wealthy and successful parents at my kid's school won't befriend me, I will ruin them! Really warm and balanced disposition, sweetie. No wonder you're socially irrelevant.

Nope that’s not it. I am probably wealthier than you and have more friends as well but I don’t like your comments. They are cruel and divisive.

Do you all even hear yourselves?

Well, of course I am wealthy - wealthier than you AND I have more friends. But of course that doesn’t matter. Which is why I didn’t mention it. Oh wait…

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Please name the schools that you’re talking about so we can avoid them!!

Families who can afford these schools already have friends and associates at them before they apply. It's a small handful of social climbing interlopers who genuinely struggle. The rest of this babble is public school trolls who serial post about how everyone richer, skinnier, smarter and/or more successful than them is cruel, with druggy kids, and must be financially overextended. It's all a cope. Idle malcontents on the outside looking in.

Standard private school playbook.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

Cool outgoing rich parents come to you. They size you up pretty quickly and invite you into their circle if they deem you a peer. They can glance at your LinkedIn and Facebook for 30 seconds to see the friends you have in common, where you went to college, where you work, and where you live. Zillow stalking takes another 30 seconds. I'm afraid they don't see you as being on their level. But it sounds like your kids are having better luck and that's what it's all about, right?

We are nobodies (feds in a small house with no social cred) and our kids are at the Cathedral schools. IME some of the most connected, wealthiest parents are actually the nicest and most inclusive. It's the strivers (who are far more like us on paper then they'd ever admit) that can be mean.
It's a tale as old as time. If you've really "made it" then you're free to be nice to the small people--many of whom are actually very interesting people. If you're continually clawing and insecure you're often preoccupied by who else may move into your spot.

+1

Exactly this.