Why so much disgust felt towards men for dating significantly younger?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's hilarious to me that older men brag about them being better in bed than younger ones. Unless the old dude slept with a younger one, how would they know that? Oh, the women told them that. So you can see that men are idiots who believe whatever we tell them, at any age.
IMO, the opposite is true. Older men have more hang-ups about sex and are more selfish, in addition to stamina problems. If you read any of the sex ed books written by boomers, oral sex is recommended as a very special event to be offered very rarely, so it won't diminish its appeal. This is not a jab to only the boomer men; a lot of boomer women are also uncomfortable with oral sex, both giving and receiving it. For us, younger people, it's very normal. It was normalized by genX; before it was considered perverse behavior, as it would be sexual activity avoiding reproduction.

You are obviously from another planet.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:And as PP said it creates a weird power imbalance, it’s almost as if older men prey on the nievete of young women.

And the women feed the old men's fragile egos, because they are so easily impressed (with world experiences and material status).

If you have ever had child in their young 20's, you should recognize why they don't make an appropriate life PARTNER.

But maybe this set up most appeals to men who don't seek an equal partner?

None of the men on this thread who are bragging (?) about dating women much younger than them do not sound as though they’re looking for an equal partner, or in fact a partner at all. They are openly objectifying these young women and with them it seems exclusively for their appearance (along with a fetishization of youth and a seeming hatred and/or resentment of older women). It’s a very tired trope.

Not me. I'm mid-50s dating a late-20s women who is finishing her PhD in STEM. I like that she is smart and honest, she likes that I treat her like a human being, and not a piece of meat as guys her age do. Our dates mostly involve cooking together and hours of conversation. Sometimes we go to a museum, or go for a hike.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why so much disgust and judgement? Isn't there also a significant number of women, especially in their 20's, who don't want to date men their age and prefer older guys? It takes two consenting adults for these relationships to happen.

It's 100% pure jealousy. I'm divorced mid 40s and in excellent shape. I've dated women as young as late 20s (rare). Most of the women I date are early to mid 30s and they have no issue with me being 10 years older. In fact, I would say they love it. I'm more mature, financially stable, great in bed, etc.

Woman want stability. Men want well put together women.

The funny part is that you think you are impressing people with your younger dates...but they think you are pathetic.

Read these posts again, and let them sink in.

You are missing an important point. We don't care what you think! We care about being happy and devoting our resources to those who we care about.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why so much disgust and judgement? Isn't there also a significant number of women, especially in their 20's, who don't want to date men their age and prefer older guys? It takes two consenting adults for these relationships to happen.

It's 100% pure jealousy. I'm divorced mid 40s and in excellent shape. I've dated women as young as late 20s (rare). Most of the women I date are early to mid 30s and they have no issue with me being 10 years older. In fact, I would say they love it. I'm more mature, financially stable, great in bed, etc.

Woman want stability. Men want well put together women.

The funny part is that you think you are impressing people with your younger dates...but they think you are pathetic.

Read these posts again, and let them sink in.

You are missing an important point. We don't care what you think! We care about being happy and devoting our resources to those who we care about.

If that were true, you wouldn’t be here. Confident people don’t defend themselves.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:And as PP said it creates a weird power imbalance, it’s almost as if older men prey on the nievete of young women.

And the women feed the old men's fragile egos, because they are so easily impressed (with world experiences and material status).

If you have ever had child in their young 20's, you should recognize why they don't make an appropriate life PARTNER.

But maybe this set up most appeals to men who don't seek an equal partner?

None of the men on this thread who are bragging (?) about dating women much younger than them do not sound as though they’re looking for an equal partner, or in fact a partner at all. They are openly objectifying these young women and with them it seems exclusively for their appearance (along with a fetishization of youth and a seeming hatred and/or resentment of older women). It’s a very tired trope.

Not me. I'm mid-50s dating a late-20s women who is finishing her PhD in STEM. I like that she is smart and honest, she likes that I treat her like a human being, and not a piece of meat as guys her age do. Our dates mostly involve cooking together and hours of conversation. Sometimes we go to a museum, or go for a hike.

That’s only how young assholes act. There are plenty of late 20s men looking for meaningful relationships with the women they will marry. I wonder what’s wrong with her that she can’t figure out how to date them and get her life on track.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Power imbalance. No need to explain it further. Society socialized everyone to accept this mate pairing as ideal for men with money and women with no career ambition using their bodies to gain money. Their body is their power but it fades over time whereas men with money still have money and power even when their balls hit their ankles.

Why do women hate this? Obvious town. We women don’t have the same power longevity men yield.

Well, thank God it is 2022 and women now have ways to acquire power beyond their bodies.

People who still chose to re-enact that dated life (i.e., melania & donald) are sad anachronisms.

Trump's age gap is not much different that JFK's or Woodrow Wilson's. Harrison Ford's age gap is twice as large.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why so much disgust and judgement? Isn't there also a significant number of women, especially in their 20's, who don't want to date men their age and prefer older guys? It takes two consenting adults for these relationships to happen.

It's 100% pure jealousy. I'm divorced mid 40s and in excellent shape. I've dated women as young as late 20s (rare). Most of the women I date are early to mid 30s and they have no issue with me being 10 years older. In fact, I would say they love it. I'm more mature, financially stable, great in bed, etc.

Woman want stability. Men want well put together women.

The funny part is that you think you are impressing people with your younger dates...but they think you are pathetic.

Read these posts again, and let them sink in.

You are missing an important point. We don't care what you think! We care about being happy and devoting our resources to those who we care about.

If that were true, you wouldn’t be here. Confident people don’t defend themselves.

That’s a bizarre statement.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just turned 62, widowed past 15 years. and still dating women in their 40s to early 50s. I get the cringe factor of guys still dating women in their 20s but, at my age, a decade younger with children who have left home just seems perfect. The women my age or even within 5 years of my age that I see on dating sites, or who pursue me just haven't held up very well at all, with some rare exceptions.

Guess what, you aren’t holding up well either.

Men take note: on this forum, the go-to line of argument for women is the ad hominem attack.

DP. The comment regarding you aren't holding up either was after a man mentioned older women not holding up well in age. I guess it is the same both ways huh. I mean lets be honest once both sexes hit 60+ they certainly look their age, they look old, no matter how deluded they are.

Tell that to Robert Redford and Warren Beatty!

They both look their ages. They look good for their ages, but neither is passing for 20 years younger than they are.

They are both in their mid or late 80s now. But they looked pretty darn good when they were 60.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:And as PP said it creates a weird power imbalance, it’s almost as if older men prey on the nievete of young women.

And the women feed the old men's fragile egos, because they are so easily impressed (with world experiences and material status).

If you have ever had child in their young 20's, you should recognize why they don't make an appropriate life PARTNER.

But maybe this set up most appeals to men who don't seek an equal partner?

None of the men on this thread who are bragging (?) about dating women much younger than them do not sound as though they’re looking for an equal partner, or in fact a partner at all. They are openly objectifying these young women and with them it seems exclusively for their appearance (along with a fetishization of youth and a seeming hatred and/or resentment of older women). It’s a very tired trope.

Not me. I'm mid-50s dating a late-20s women who is finishing her PhD in STEM. I like that she is smart and honest, she likes that I treat her like a human being, and not a piece of meat as guys her age do. Our dates mostly involve cooking together and hours of conversation. Sometimes we go to a museum, or go for a hike.

That’s only how young assholes act. There are plenty of late 20s men looking for meaningful relationships with the women they will marry. I wonder what’s wrong with her that she can’t figure out how to date them and get her life on track.

I've dated at least 10 women in their 20s and hear the same complaints from every single one of them about men their age.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is one of those posts where I wonder if it's a small subset of vocal women or if it tapped into something.

I am 45 and generally date around my age group, but I get asked out by women in their 20s (and recently by one in her mid-20s) and I don't see it as that strange. I am just dating for fun, who cares? I declined the one in her mid-20s because I know they are looking for something long-term and potentially a husband and father and I will be none of those things again.

I have female friends my age who occasionally hook up or even date younger men. Who cares?

I get the idea of a 60 something marrying a 20 something, but 10-15 year age gap once you are out of college isn't that strange.

I think it’s sad that at 45 all you want to do is date young women for the rest of your life.

Do you also think it's sad that divorced women never want to marry again? Or is your ire towards only men?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And as PP said it creates a weird power imbalance, it’s almost as if older men prey on the nievete of young women.

And the women feed the old men's fragile egos, because they are so easily impressed (with world experiences and material status).

If you have ever had child in their young 20's, you should recognize why they don't make an appropriate life PARTNER.

But maybe this set up most appeals to men who don't seek an equal partner?

None of the men on this thread who are bragging (?) about dating women much younger than them do not sound as though they’re looking for an equal partner, or in fact a partner at all. They are openly objectifying these young women and with them it seems exclusively for their appearance (along with a fetishization of youth and a seeming hatred and/or resentment of older women). It’s a very tired trope.

Not me. I'm mid-50s dating a late-20s women who is finishing her PhD in STEM. I like that she is smart and honest, she likes that I treat her like a human being, and not a piece of meat as guys her age do. Our dates mostly involve cooking together and hours of conversation. Sometimes we go to a museum, or go for a hike.

That’s only how young assholes act. There are plenty of late 20s men looking for meaningful relationships with the women they will marry. I wonder what’s wrong with her that she can’t figure out how to date them and get her life on track.

Oh please. I had similar aged boyfriends in my 20s that would go to museums with me.

[Anonymous]

The posters who are arguing consenting adult women in their 20s are being "groomed" by older men are way off base, and frankly sexist.

Women in their 20s are adults with brains and agency to date whoever they please. I am a guy, and in my 20s dated a divorced woman in her late 30s. I was an attractive, but poor, student. She was divorced, had way more money than me at the time, and I was a rebound guy she could have fun with. Of course, she did not "groom" me. We just had a lot of good sex and then moved on.

Nobody judged me or her for this. In fact her girlfriends cheered her on because I represented her moving past her ex-husband. I do not understand why, when the genders are reversed, that people get so judgmental about what two consenting adults do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:And as PP said it creates a weird power imbalance, it’s almost as if older men prey on the nievete of young women.

And the women feed the old men's fragile egos, because they are so easily impressed (with world experiences and material status).

If you have ever had child in their young 20's, you should recognize why they don't make an appropriate life PARTNER.

But maybe this set up most appeals to men who don't seek an equal partner?

None of the men on this thread who are bragging (?) about dating women much younger than them do not sound as though they’re looking for an equal partner, or in fact a partner at all. They are openly objectifying these young women and with them it seems exclusively for their appearance (along with a fetishization of youth and a seeming hatred and/or resentment of older women). It’s a very tired trope.

Not me. I'm mid-50s dating a late-20s women who is finishing her PhD in STEM. I like that she is smart and honest, she likes that I treat her like a human being, and not a piece of meat as guys her age do. Our dates mostly involve cooking together and hours of conversation. Sometimes we go to a museum, or go for a hike.

That’s only how young assholes act. There are plenty of late 20s men looking for meaningful relationships with the women they will marry. I wonder what’s wrong with her that she can’t figure out how to date them and get her life on track.

I've dated at least 10 women in their 20s and hear the same complaints from every single one of them about men their age.

Uh yeah because you keep dating women with the same defect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The posters who are arguing consenting adult women in their 20s are being "groomed" by older men are way off base, and frankly sexist.

Women in their 20s are adults with brains and agency to date whoever they please. I am a guy, and in my 20s dated a divorced woman in her late 30s. I was an attractive, but poor, student. She was divorced, had way more money than me at the time, and I was a rebound guy she could have fun with. Of course, she did not "groom" me. We just had a lot of good sex and then moved on.

Nobody judged me or her for this. In fact her girlfriends cheered her on because I represented her moving past her ex-husband. I do not understand why, when the genders are reversed, that people get so judgmental about what two consenting adults do.

I would have judged you if you had been in my friend circle. Maybe your friends did, but they didn’t waste their breath trying to talk you out of it.

And her friends probably talked mad shit behind her back.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The posters who are arguing consenting adult women in their 20s are being "groomed" by older men are way off base, and frankly sexist.

Women in their 20s are adults with brains and agency to date whoever they please. I am a guy, and in my 20s dated a divorced woman in her late 30s. I was an attractive, but poor, student. She was divorced, had way more money than me at the time, and I was a rebound guy she could have fun with. Of course, she did not "groom" me. We just had a lot of good sex and then moved on.

Nobody judged me or her for this. In fact her girlfriends cheered her on because I represented her moving past her ex-husband. I do not understand why, when the genders are reversed, that people get so judgmental about what two consenting adults do.

I would have judged you if you had been in my friend circle. Maybe your friends did, but they didn’t waste their breath trying to talk you out of it.

And her friends probably talked mad shit behind her back.

My friends were mostly 20-something guys back then. They definitely were not judging me for having a fling with a cougar.