Why so much disgust felt towards men for dating significantly younger?

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Anonymous wrote:It's hilarious to me that older men brag about them being better in bed than younger ones. Unless the old dude slept with a younger one, how would they know that? Oh, the women told them that. So you can see that men are idiots who believe whatever we tell them, at any age.
IMO, the opposite is true. Older men have more hang-ups about sex and are more selfish, in addition to stamina problems. If you read any of the sex ed books written by boomers, oral sex is recommended as a very special event to be offered very rarely, so it won't diminish its appeal. This is not a jab to only the boomer men; a lot of boomer women are also uncomfortable with oral sex, both giving and receiving it. For us, younger people, it's very normal. It was normalized by genX; before it was considered perverse behavior, as it would be sexual activity avoiding reproduction.

GenX, you did not come up with oral sex. Trust me.

(I can assure you that in the free love 60's, not a lot of young people were considering it "perverse.")

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Anonymous wrote:It's hilarious to me that older men brag about them being better in bed than younger ones. Unless the old dude slept with a younger one, how would they know that? Oh, the women told them that. So you can see that men are idiots who believe whatever we tell them, at any age.
IMO, the opposite is true. Older men have more hang-ups about sex and are more selfish, in addition to stamina problems. If you read any of the sex ed books written by boomers, oral sex is recommended as a very special event to be offered very rarely, so it won't diminish its appeal. This is not a jab to only the boomer men; a lot of boomer women are also uncomfortable with oral sex, both giving and receiving it. For us, younger people, it's very normal. It was normalized by genX; before it was considered perverse behavior, as it would be sexual activity avoiding reproduction.

Why do you care so much?

I don't - it was in the Recent Topics.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's hilarious to me that older men brag about them being better in bed than younger ones. Unless the old dude slept with a younger one, how would they know that? Oh, the women told them that. So you can see that men are idiots who believe whatever we tell them, at any age.
IMO, the opposite is true. Older men have more hang-ups about sex and are more selfish, in addition to stamina problems. If you read any of the sex ed books written by boomers, oral sex is recommended as a very special event to be offered very rarely, so it won't diminish its appeal. This is not a jab to only the boomer men; a lot of boomer women are also uncomfortable with oral sex, both giving and receiving it. For us, younger people, it's very normal. It was normalized by genX; before it was considered perverse behavior, as it would be sexual activity avoiding reproduction.

GenX, you did not come up with oral sex. Trust me.

(I can assure you that in the free love 60's, not a lot of young people were considering it "perverse.")

Seriously wtf are you talking about oral sex is as old as creation.

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Anonymous wrote:People using judgement as a way to cope and reconcile with their own regrettable life choices. Typical method these days of shaming men into compliance rather than being an adult and accepting the choices you made.

I see the incels have entered the chat. You all are pathetic! Get over yourselves!

I am a woman and don’t find the previous statement misogynistic or incel like. There are multiple women who posted to share these exact sentiments. They were naive 22 year olds with poor judgement who dated scumbag older men. In hindsight, they do indeed regret that choice. I’m not sure what is controversial about this.

You're misreading the comment you're agreeing with. He believes you are using judgment (calling them "scumbag older men") to cope with your regrettable life choices that led to being a lonely older woman who failed to lock down a "high value man."

No, I read it fine and still agree with it. Naive 22 year old women get with older scumbag older men. Only years later they regret the decision and describe how the older guy was a scumbag who they now feel took advantage of them.

Yes he is.

Do you not think a 35yo (+) man is taking advantage when “dating” women 10+ years younger?

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Anonymous wrote:It's hilarious to me that older men brag about them being better in bed than younger ones. Unless the old dude slept with a younger one, how would they know that? Oh, the women told them that. So you can see that men are idiots who believe whatever we tell them, at any age.
IMO, the opposite is true. Older men have more hang-ups about sex and are more selfish, in addition to stamina problems. If you read any of the sex ed books written by boomers, oral sex is recommended as a very special event to be offered very rarely, so it won't diminish its appeal. This is not a jab to only the boomer men; a lot of boomer women are also uncomfortable with oral sex, both giving and receiving it. For us, younger people, it's very normal. It was normalized by genX; before it was considered perverse behavior, as it would be sexual activity avoiding reproduction.

GenX, you did not come up with oral sex. Trust me.

(I can assure you that in the free love 60's, not a lot of young people were considering it "perverse.")

Those were the outliers. Boomers are conservative and have been attending religious services regularly since youth.

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Anonymous wrote:Just turned 62, widowed past 15 years. and still dating women in their 40s to early 50s. I get the cringe factor of guys still dating women in their 20s but, at my age, a decade younger with children who have left home just seems perfect. The women my age or even within 5 years of my age that I see on dating sites, or who pursue me just haven't held up very well at all, with some rare exceptions.

Guess what, you aren’t holding up well either.

Men take note: on this forum, the go-to line of argument for women is the ad hominem attack.

DP. The comment regarding you aren't holding up either was after a man mentioned older women not holding up well in age. I guess it is the same both ways huh. I mean lets be honest once both sexes hit 60+ they certainly look their age, they look old, no matter how deluded they are.

Tell that to Robert Redford and Warren Beatty!

Lol you are not Robert Redford or Warren Beatty or Paul Neumann or George Clooney. You are an aging loser who does not know the value of a good woman.

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Anonymous wrote:Just turned 62, widowed past 15 years. and still dating women in their 40s to early 50s. I get the cringe factor of guys still dating women in their 20s but, at my age, a decade younger with children who have left home just seems perfect. The women my age or even within 5 years of my age that I see on dating sites, or who pursue me just haven't held up very well at all, with some rare exceptions.

Guess what, you aren’t holding up well either.

Men take note: on this forum, the go-to line of argument for women is the ad hominem attack.

DP. The comment regarding you aren't holding up either was after a man mentioned older women not holding up well in age. I guess it is the same both ways huh. I mean lets be honest once both sexes hit 60+ they certainly look their age, they look old, no matter how deluded they are.

Tell that to Robert Redford and Warren Beatty!

Lol you are not Robert Redford or Warren Beatty or Paul Neumann or George Clooney. You are an aging loser who does not know the value of a good woman.

Lol yes they do not know the value of a good women!

[Anonymous]

I’m a woman dating someone 16 years older. Won’t lie there are issues. Erectile issues and also his ass is a deflated balloon. He is almost entirely bald. He is otherwise fit and handsome and loves sex but these things do matter and he has to make up for it a lot in personality, intelligence, kindness and relationship skills to make it worth thinking about long term. He’s healthy and vigorous now but I know that could change at any time—he’s already on a bunch of medication. I am very fond of him but really need to think of myself first bc obviously there is little downside here for him and a lot of future downside for me, esp considering his money will I assume go to his kids (which I support).

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This is one of those posts where I wonder if it's a small subset of vocal women or if it tapped into something.

I am 45 and generally date around my age group, but I get asked out by women in their 20s (and recently by one in her mid-20s) and I don't see it as that strange. I am just dating for fun, who cares? I declined the one in her mid-20s because I know they are looking for something long-term and potentially a husband and father and I will be none of those things again.

I have female friends my age who occasionally hook up or even date younger men. Who cares?

I get the idea of a 60 something marrying a 20 something, but 10-15 year age gap once you are out of college isn't that strange.

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Anonymous wrote:Just turned 62, widowed past 15 years. and still dating women in their 40s to early 50s. I get the cringe factor of guys still dating women in their 20s but, at my age, a decade younger with children who have left home just seems perfect. The women my age or even within 5 years of my age that I see on dating sites, or who pursue me just haven't held up very well at all, with some rare exceptions.

Guess what, you aren’t holding up well either.

Men take note: on this forum, the go-to line of argument for women is the ad hominem attack.

DP. The comment regarding you aren't holding up either was after a man mentioned older women not holding up well in age. I guess it is the same both ways huh. I mean lets be honest once both sexes hit 60+ they certainly look their age, they look old, no matter how deluded they are.

Tell that to Robert Redford and Warren Beatty!

Lol you are not Robert Redford or Warren Beatty or Paul Neumann or George Clooney. You are an aging loser who does not know the value of a good woman.

Lol yes they do not know the value of a good women!

Paul Neumann has been married to the same woman for decades and George Clooney is married to a gorgeous woman of substance who is one of the more accomplished people on the planet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is one of those posts where I wonder if it's a small subset of vocal women or if it tapped into something.

I am 45 and generally date around my age group, but I get asked out by women in their 20s (and recently by one in her mid-20s) and I don't see it as that strange. I am just dating for fun, who cares? I declined the one in her mid-20s because I know they are looking for something long-term and potentially a husband and father and I will be none of those things again.

I have female friends my age who occasionally hook up or even date younger men. Who cares?

I get the idea of a 60 something marrying a 20 something, but 10-15 year age gap once you are out of college isn't that strange.

I think it’s sad that at 45 all you want to do is date young women for the rest of your life.

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Anonymous wrote:Just turned 62, widowed past 15 years. and still dating women in their 40s to early 50s. I get the cringe factor of guys still dating women in their 20s but, at my age, a decade younger with children who have left home just seems perfect. The women my age or even within 5 years of my age that I see on dating sites, or who pursue me just haven't held up very well at all, with some rare exceptions.

Guess what, you aren’t holding up well either.

Men take note: on this forum, the go-to line of argument for women is the ad hominem attack.

DP. The comment regarding you aren't holding up either was after a man mentioned older women not holding up well in age. I guess it is the same both ways huh. I mean lets be honest once both sexes hit 60+ they certainly look their age, they look old, no matter how deluded they are.

I made both Comme ts. I'm very fortunate to not look anywhere near my age along with pretty good health, all my teeth and most of my hair. Barely a single wrinkle in my face. It's all genetics, nothing I've really done except avoid the sun and eat healthy.

“All my teeth and most of my hair” omg. Imagine what kind of 20 something hears that and thinks those are legitimate plus factors! I’m mid 30s and the idea of a guy bragging about having his teeth makes me shudder.

Right? When I was younger, I remember getting asked out by an older guy who had some white chest hair. I wanted to vomit. Just the thought of seeing white pubes made me have dry heaves. Still does, TBH. I love my H to death and we've been married for decades but another thing that nobody mentions is that gravity works in cruel ways for men too. The ba** sagging is real. I would have died seeing something like this in my 20s and 30s. We are fortunate that we can lift almost everything - a breast lift is only 5K, men not so much.

Oh God yikes. I’m in my mid 30s now… I guess that’s what I have to look forward to. Luckily DH is less than a year older than me so it’s a ways off for me. But I’m gonna go rub some rogaine on his head right now, because I really hate receding hairlines, especially when there are spots on the scalp where the hair used to be (gag)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is one of those posts where I wonder if it's a small subset of vocal women or if it tapped into something.

I am 45 and generally date around my age group, but I get asked out by women in their 20s (and recently by one in her mid-20s) and I don't see it as that strange. I am just dating for fun, who cares? I declined the one in her mid-20s because I know they are looking for something long-term and potentially a husband and father and I will be none of those things again.

I have female friends my age who occasionally hook up or even date younger men. Who cares?

I get the idea of a 60 something marrying a 20 something, but 10-15 year age gap once you are out of college isn't that strange.

I think it’s sad that at 45 all you want to do is date young women for the rest of your life.

I think it’s bizarre that anyone wants to spend middle age and elderly years dating at all. Why??

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Anonymous wrote:When someone in their 60s dates people in their 40s, I assume their really looking to secure a nursemaid for their elderly years.

And you’re wrong.

How so?

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Anonymous wrote:When someone in their 60s dates people in their 40s, I assume their really looking to secure a nursemaid for their elderly years.

And you’re wrong.

How so?

I’m 62 and not looking for a nursemaid from anyone. A relationship partner, yes. A sex partner, yes.