Why so much disgust felt towards men for dating significantly younger?

[Anonymous]

Envy from older women esp single ones

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why so much disgust and judgement? Isn't there also a significant number of women, especially in their 20's, who don't want to date men their age and prefer older guys? It takes two consenting adults for these relationships to happen.

It's 100% pure jealousy. I'm divorced mid 40s and in excellent shape. I've dated women as young as late 20s (rare). Most of the women I date are early to mid 30s and they have no issue with me being 10 years older. In fact, I would say they love it. I'm more mature, financially stable, great in bed, etc.

Woman want stability. Men want well put together women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Envy from older women esp single ones

That’s really not true.

I wouldn’t want to be with a man that thinks this is ok.

[Anonymous]

Jealously.

[Anonymous]

If you've waited until knee-deep into your 30s to get serious about finding a man, then don't be surprised that the men in your age range are dating and marrying 26-year-olds. That's the way it is. You waited too long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a woman. When I was 19-24 I dated significantly (10+ years) older. I had serious unaddressed and untreated trauma and was living hand to mouth.

In hindsight I recognize the profound power imbalance - I hardly knew anything about adult life and lacked savvy and sophistication in so many ways. There’s an “ick” factor when I consider what these men were attracted to in me. Why was a 36-year-old lawyer more interested in a 20-year-old cocktail waitress (me) than a professional woman closer to his age?

It’s exploitative and weird - I don’t care what any man says to justify it.

Maybe cause the 20 year old girl is hot and you're not? First, men being attracted to hot women doesn't have an "age" limit. If a girl is hot she's hot. Just because you're 36 doesn't mean men should be attractive to you...are you good looking? Do you have a great body like a 20 year old? I'm guessing no. That's you're answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you've waited until knee-deep into your 30s to get serious about finding a man, then don't be surprised that the men in your age range are dating and marrying 26-year-olds. That's the way it is. You waited too long.

No woman I know has trouble dating. Of any age. That’s just the way it is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a woman. When I was 19-24 I dated significantly (10+ years) older. I had serious unaddressed and untreated trauma and was living hand to mouth.

In hindsight I recognize the profound power imbalance - I hardly knew anything about adult life and lacked savvy and sophistication in so many ways. There’s an “ick” factor when I consider what these men were attracted to in me. Why was a 36-year-old lawyer more interested in a 20-year-old cocktail waitress (me) than a professional woman closer to his age?

It’s exploitative and weird - I don’t care what any man says to justify it.

Maybe cause the 20 year old girl is hot and you're not? First, men being attracted to hot women doesn't have an "age" limit. If a girl is hot she's hot. Just because you're 36 doesn't mean men should be attractive to you...are you good looking? Do you have a great body like a 20 year old? I'm guessing no. That's you're answer.

Did you even read my post? I was the 20-year-old.

Any 36-year-old man dating a 20-year-old has issues. Period. Point blank.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Envy from older women esp single ones

No, I would seriously not want to date a man who dates younger women. I’m the poster who did date older guys when I was younger and those men have concerning issues. Which is why they do so, they have predator tendencies. That’s why they target naive girls. Honest to God I would not be envious, a man like that does not command respect and really is looked at as a joke.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you've waited until knee-deep into your 30s to get serious about finding a man, then don't be surprised that the men in your age range are dating and marrying 26-year-olds. That's the way it is. You waited too long.

No woman I know has trouble dating. Of any age. That’s just the way it is.

THIS! It’s such an incel fantasy that women have no options after the mythical “wall.” Men hit the wall much faster and harder than women, who make an effort to eat nutritious food, exercise, keep up with their personal grooming, and dress well far more than men do.

[Anonymous]

People using judgement as a way to cope and reconcile with their own regrettable life choices. Typical method these days of shaming men into compliance rather than being an adult and accepting the choices you made.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you've waited until knee-deep into your 30s to get serious about finding a man, then don't be surprised that the men in your age range are dating and marrying 26-year-olds. That's the way it is. You waited too long.

No woman I know has trouble dating. Of any age. That’s just the way it is.

Duh...dating is easy for women. It's securing commitment from a desirable man that women won't stop moaning about.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Envy from older women esp single ones

No, I would seriously not want to date a man who dates younger women. I’m the poster who did date older guys when I was younger and those men have concerning issues. Which is why they do so, they have predator tendencies. That’s why they target naive girls. Honest to God I would not be envious, a man like that does not command respect and really is looked at as a joke.

This. I don’t know any men I respect who date/marry significantly younger. Most people bond over shared life experiences and having a similar world view. For context, I (36) have some friends in their twenties - male and female. I love their energy and their optimism but there is nothing about us that put us on equal footing in the context of a potential relationship. Financially, professionally, life experiences, travel, etc etc - I am light years beyond them. It baffles me how men can overlook these fundamental differences in order to “bang” a young “hottie.” Gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Envy from older women esp single ones

No, I would seriously not want to date a man who dates younger women. I’m the poster who did date older guys when I was younger and those men have concerning issues. Which is why they do so, they have predator tendencies. That’s why they target naive girls. Honest to God I would not be envious, a man like that does not command respect and really is looked at as a joke.

Or maybe they don't want to deal with frozen eggs and geriatric pregnancies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People using judgement as a way to cope and reconcile with their own regrettable life choices. Typical method these days of shaming men into compliance rather than being an adult and accepting the choices you made.

I see the incels have entered the chat. You all are pathetic! Get over yourselves!