DD’s butt pinched in the pool

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It wasn't appropriate, but neither is raising a child to get hysterical over every slight. Sometimes, better to save ones energy for more worthwhile endeavors than exacting justice on a 13 yr old who pinched a butt in a pool.

What is hysterical here? Somebody pinches your butt and you are angry or scared. Is that hysterical? Are you supposed to pretend it didn’t happen? Supposed to say “well sometimes boys do things like that”? What are you supposed to do so you aren’t considered “hysterical”? Is the only acceptable response to shake it off and ignore?

Maybe you were ugly. Did you never get pinched in a$$ as a kid by other kids?

Kids say mean things, they push, they hit, they steal, they pinch. Are you signing up to police all bad schoolchild behavior for your whiney tattletale kid, who in turn will never learn from her parents how to be confident and stand up for herself?

I teach my child to be tough. If somebody touches her in a way she doesn't like, believe me, she lets them know it. Sometimes, she shrugs things off and could care less. She is not even 11.

[Anonymous]

Why are so many of you so frightful about confronting people? Are you truly that timid in all your interactions?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It wasn't appropriate, but neither is raising a child to get hysterical over every slight. Sometimes, better to save ones energy for more worthwhile endeavors than exacting justice on a 13 yr old who pinched a butt in a pool.

What is hysterical here? Somebody pinches your butt and you are angry or scared. Is that hysterical? Are you supposed to pretend it didn’t happen? Supposed to say “well sometimes boys do things like that”? What are you supposed to do so you aren’t considered “hysterical”? Is the only acceptable response to shake it off and ignore?

Maybe you were ugly. Did you never get pinched in a$$ as a kid by other kids?

Kids say mean things, they push, they hit, they steal, they pinch. Are you signing up to police all bad schoolchild behavior for your whiney tattletale kid, who in turn will never learn from her parents how to be confident and stand up for herself?

I teach my child to be tough. If somebody touches her in a way she doesn't like, believe me, she lets them know it. Sometimes, she shrugs things off and could care less. She is not even 11.

Not PP but F kind of response is this? Are you a teenager bc I can’t imagine a grown person being this immature. What does being ugly have to do with it? Are only pretty people assaulted? If so, wouldn’t that make it about attraction and therefore sexual? These weren’t school children or preschoolers. They were teens. If a tween/teen doesn’t understand the implications of pinching someone’s butt, then they have issues. You can teach your kid to stand up against others and hold people accountable for their actions. Why is this such a complicated concept to you?

[Anonymous]

OP, I haven't read all the responses to your original post, but I wanted to share something I remember from reading Miss Manners (Judith Martin) about how to handle fanny pinchers in a social situation.

She says you should shriek loudly and stare at the offender; then say "You startled me" and walk away.

I love this because you don't need to get involved in a back and forth about what they did and whether it was a deliberate assault or an accident and you aren't making any judgments about their actions. But you aren't letting it slide, either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It wasn't appropriate, but neither is raising a child to get hysterical over every slight. Sometimes, better to save ones energy for more worthwhile endeavors than exacting justice on a 13 yr old who pinched a butt in a pool.

What is hysterical here? Somebody pinches your butt and you are angry or scared. Is that hysterical? Are you supposed to pretend it didn’t happen? Supposed to say “well sometimes boys do things like that”? What are you supposed to do so you aren’t considered “hysterical”? Is the only acceptable response to shake it off and ignore?

Maybe you were ugly. Did you never get pinched in a$$ as a kid by other kids?

Kids say mean things, they push, they hit, they steal, they pinch. Are you signing up to police all bad schoolchild behavior for your whiney tattletale kid, who in turn will never learn from her parents how to be confident and stand up for herself?

I teach my child to be tough. If somebody touches her in a way she doesn't like, believe me, she lets them know it. Sometimes, she shrugs things off and could care less. She is not even 11.

Maybe I was ugly. But what does that have to do with anything? You do know that sexual harassment does not only happen to conventionally attractive people?