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[quote=Anonymous]I am the one who said to keep her name and nickname her Champ.

I stand by what I said. A child's name does not define her. If her new parents treat her with love and respect instead of underlying hate or disrespect the girl will turn out fine. She will love her name as part of her identity, because her parents do the same.

I wonder how close-minded some people can be...expecting children to treat her differently because she is named Champagne is a self fulfilling prophecy, nothing more. Take her as the beautiful girl she is and love her for that instead of trying to conform her to your or other people's standards. That's just horrible.

I once met a boy who had the same name as a German laundry detergent. I was just as close minded as you folks and thought "What a horrible name". After having known him for a bit it turned out the name feels totally natural for him and if I try to imagine him with a different name it just doesn't feel right. Just because a name feel strange at first doesn't mean you have the right to just go ahead and change it. It's her name. The first thing her Mom gave to her. Probably the only thing she will have left from her birth mother for the rest of her life - or until SHE is old enough to decide for herself if she wants to take on a different name. Nobody has the right to make that decision for her...[/quote]

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