Aftercare is cruel to kindergarteners

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Anonymous wrote:This has been covered before. Some folks have to work full time and don't really have a choice. .

Sure they do. Downsize, downsize, downsize. You don't need to live in a 3,000 sq ft place, hire help for cleaning and yardwork, wear the best clothes, have an iPhone5, drive an SUV with only one or two kids, use coupons and shop the specials. Cook more, go out to eat once a month or less.

It can easily be done, even in this area. But people here are too set on keeping up their extravagant lifestyles.

Priorities.

Hey, we won't judge you for living poor ok?

Nope, not living poor. Living within our means, comfortably. I can't help it if this is a foreign concept to you. However, "worth" is relative. My children are worth more than outsourcing them to someone else for most of their waking hours.

Said by someone who isn't smart enough to get a good paying job from which the earnings can enhance all family members' quality of life at home (e.g., hiring a lawn crew to cut once a week frees up dad to go to Johnny's little league games/swim meets etc. every Saturday and then go out for lunch or ice cream b/c he doesn't have to hurry home and take care of yard all afternoon.)

Nope. We enjoy taking care of our home and yard. Yardwork, especially gardening, is relaxing. We clean our homes because, well, people should take care of that which they live in every day. I wouldn't want strangers in my things.

The fact that you don't know how to use your time more efficiently isn't my problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread makes no sense. This is the daycare mindset so why are you surprised? You drop your kids off to be raised by someone else at 3 months old, hardly see them until they are 14, then you justify it by saying they need you now, right before they leave for college. Those are the only 4 years that matter. Then you pat yourself on the back for being a good mom and in 15 years you will wonder why your kids don't have time for you.

Well, since you obviously have the intellectual capacity of a small child, it's no wonder you're confused. That must really suck for you.

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Seriously is this one lunatic ranting against modernity for 15 pages? Or are there clones?

Anti-aftercare patrol, you must be one hell of a parent yourself if you have spent the entire day writing vicious little commentaries about strangers' lives and decisions on the internet. I'm glad your kids won't be in aftercare; less time for them to wield their well-honed bully skills against the rest of our kids.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread makes no sense. This is the daycare mindset so why are you surprised? You drop your kids off to be raised by someone else at 3 months old, hardly see them until they are 14, then you justify it by saying they need you now, right before they leave for college. Those are the only 4 years that matter. Then you pat yourself on the back for being a good mom and in 15 years you will wonder why your kids don't have time for you.

NO MORE SCHOOL! NO MORE SCHOOL! Keep kids at home! You must need me forever, child!

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Anonymous wrote:You should probably take it up with your "friends." (and please report back)

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Anonymous wrote:This has been covered before. Some folks have to work full time and don't really have a choice. .

Sure they do. Downsize, downsize, downsize. You don't need to live in a 3,000 sq ft place, hire help for cleaning and yardwork, wear the best clothes, have an iPhone5, drive an SUV with only one or two kids, use coupons and shop the specials. Cook more, go out to eat once a month or less.

It can easily be done, even in this area. But people here are too set on keeping up their extravagant lifestyles.

Priorities.

Hey, we won't judge you for living poor ok?

Nope, not living poor. Living within our means, comfortably. I can't help it if this is a foreign concept to you. However, "worth" is relative. My children are worth more than outsourcing them to someone else for most of their waking hours.

Said by someone who isn't smart enough to get a good paying job from which the earnings can enhance all family members' quality of life at home (e.g., hiring a lawn crew to cut once a week frees up dad to go to Johnny's little league games/swim meets etc. every Saturday and then go out for lunch or ice cream b/c he doesn't have to hurry home and take care of yard all afternoon.)

Nope. We enjoy taking care of our home and yard. Yardwork, especially gardening, is relaxing. We clean our homes because, well, people should take care of that which they live in every day. I wouldn't want strangers in my things.

The fact that you don't know how to use your time more efficiently isn't my problem. [/quote]

Ah, but we do. We use it very efficiently to do fun things in our big house and yard, out with others, really anything we want to do we can. And do.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread makes no sense. This is the daycare mindset so why are you surprised? You drop your kids off to be raised by someone else at 3 months old, hardly see them until they are 14, then you justify it by saying they need you now, right before they leave for college. Those are the only 4 years that matter. Then you pat yourself on the back for being a good mom and in 15 years you will wonder why your kids don't have time for you.

No actually, I intend to work 40 hours a week for all of the first 18 years of my kids' lives.

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"Nope. We enjoy taking care of our home and yard. Yardwork, especially gardening, is relaxing. We clean our homes because, well, people should take care of that which they live in every day. I wouldn't want strangers in my things.

The fact that you don't know how to use your time more efficiently isn't my problem. "

I hate cleaning my house and doing yard work. I'd rather spend time playing with my kids

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Anonymous wrote:This thread makes no sense. This is the daycare mindset so why are you surprised? You drop your kids off to be raised by someone else at 3 months old, hardly see them until they are 14, then you justify it by saying they need you now, right before they leave for college. Those are the only 4 years that matter. Then you pat yourself on the back for being a good mom and in 15 years you will wonder why your kids don't have time for you.

Well, since you obviously have the intellectual capacity of a small child, it's no wonder you're confused. That must really suck for you.

I know it hurts to hear that you should give your kids up for adoption but maybe the new parents will let you visit on weekend mornings. That is what you want anyway, right?

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Anonymous wrote:I have three friends whose children are starting kindergarten with my daughter. They will be dropping them off at 7:45 am, and not picking them up until 6 pm!! These poor kids are going to be in aftercare from 2:30 on. Why on earth would you do this to a five year old??

I don't get how they are comfortable only seeing their children about 2-3 hours a day. It would break my heart.

What do others think?

My own children notice this too. They come home from school and talk about the kids in aftercare and how they feel sorry for them. They say everyone knows who they are and those kids are always sad.

Ha. I was a SAHM mom until my DD entered Kindergarten. All her friends went to aftercare so there was no one to have playdates with. I ended up getting a part time job just so I could qualify and now she goes to after care too, loves it.

Wow, I think you might be the worst person on here, by taking up a space from a family that really needs it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread makes no sense. This is the daycare mindset so why are you surprised? You drop your kids off to be raised by someone else at 3 months old, hardly see them until they are 14, then you justify it by saying they need you now, right before they leave for college. Those are the only 4 years that matter. Then you pat yourself on the back for being a good mom and in 15 years you will wonder why your kids don't have time for you.

On what universe do you live in where working parents don't parent their children, engage in their lives, and participate actively in their growth? My kid is in school and aftercare for a total of 8 hours a day. That leaves 5-6 waking hours where we play, read together, ride bikes, do homework, eat our meals together, and a host of other things. You really think you're so much more virtuous as a parent because instead of aftercare you take your kid home and let them play by themselves or do their homework or watch TV. Stop fooling yourself.

In addition, I want to see the research that shows that children of working parents have less positive relationships with their kids. Many of the adult kids of SAHMs I know, including DH, talk about how smothering their moms could be and that they lived vicariously through their kids.

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P.s. I know several moms without jobs who spend WAY less time with their kids (put them in nearly FT daycare, use daycare at the gym, babysitters every weekend, vacations at least once a year without kids and use those kids camps when they do bother to take the kids along) than I, a 50ish hour a week mom with a job, do.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread makes no sense. This is the daycare mindset so why are you surprised? You drop your kids off to be raised by someone else at 3 months old, hardly see them until they are 14, then you justify it by saying they need you now, right before they leave for college. Those are the only 4 years that matter. Then you pat yourself on the back for being a good mom and in 15 years you will wonder why your kids don't have time for you.

Well, since you obviously have the intellectual capacity of a small child, it's no wonder you're confused. That must really suck for you.

I know it hurts to hear that you should give your kids up for adoption but maybe the new parents will let you visit on weekend mornings. That is what you want anyway, right?

No. What I really, really want is for people like you to engage in therapy to understand why you are so damaged and small-minded. The world would be a much better place.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This thread makes no sense. This is the daycare mindset so why are you surprised? You drop your kids off to be raised by someone else at 3 months old, hardly see them until they are 14, then you justify it by saying they need you now, right before they leave for college. Those are the only 4 years that matter. Then you pat yourself on the back for being a good mom and in 15 years you will wonder why your kids don't have time for you.

NO MORE SCHOOL! NO MORE SCHOOL! Keep kids at home! You must need me forever, child!

Exactly. As soon as you push them out of your womb, wait until you stop bleeding, then wash your hands of them. That was a tough 11 months of work. If you are really sophiscated, who needs to wait for the bleeding to stop? Just stick a pad in those drawers. Now you can resume your life and do more important things. But be sure to take lots of pics for facebook, ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This has been covered before. Some folks have to work full time and don't really have a choice. .

Sure they do. Downsize, downsize, downsize. You don't need to live in a 3,000 sq ft place, hire help for cleaning and yardwork, wear the best clothes, have an iPhone5, drive an SUV with only one or two kids, use coupons and shop the specials. Cook more, go out to eat once a month or less.

It can easily be done, even in this area. But people here are too set on keeping up their extravagant lifestyles.

Priorities.

Hey, we won't judge you for living poor ok?

Nope, not living poor. Living within our means, comfortably. I can't help it if this is a foreign concept to you. However, "worth" is relative. My children are worth more than outsourcing them to someone else for most of their waking hours.

Said by someone who isn't smart enough to get a good paying job from which the earnings can enhance all family members' quality of life at home (e.g., hiring a lawn crew to cut once a week frees up dad to go to Johnny's little league games/swim meets etc. every Saturday and then go out for lunch or ice cream b/c he doesn't have to hurry home and take care of yard all afternoon.)

Nope. We enjoy taking care of our home and yard. Yardwork, especially gardening, is relaxing. We clean our homes because, well, people should take care of that which they live in every day. I wouldn't want strangers in my things.

The fact that you don't know how to use your time more efficiently isn't my problem.

You are a riot!!