Aftercare is cruel to kindergarteners

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was just talking to a SAHM of teens (she teaches rec center classes during school hours) and she told me that she actually feels it's more important for her to be a SAHM now than it was when her kids were my age (2 and 3). I really hope we can continue to afford me SAH as the kids get older. I have a PhD, so maybe I can find some part-time flexible consulting work for during school hours.

+1 I got the same advice from a coworker when I was deciding to come back full or part time after maternity leave. So, I'm working full time now, paying as much off as possible and saving as much as possible so when they go to school I can drop to 50 or 80%.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This has been covered before. Some folks have to work full time and don't really have a choice. .

Sure they do. Downsize, downsize, downsize. You don't need to live in a 3,000 sq ft place, hire help for cleaning and yardwork, wear the best clothes, have an iPhone5, drive an SUV with only one or two kids, use coupons and shop the specials. Cook more, go out to eat once a month or less.

It can easily be done, even in this area. But people here are too set on keeping up their extravagant lifestyles.

Priorities.

I have not read through the whole thread so I am sure your post has been responded to but what an ignorant piece of work you are.

What a lovely little bubble you live in that you think everyone whose kid is in aftercare lives as you have described above. I mean surely, none of the kids in aftercare have parents who have taken three buses from their job to pick them up from aftercare and will take another bus home to what I would bet good money is not a 3,000 square foot residence, feed the kid dinner then depart for job number two.

You know what, clearly they have absolutely no understanding of priorities.

And you are an idiot.

I'm sure the PP you quoted believes that anyone who has to take a bus to their job should not have been allowed to have children in the first place.

And, with one fell swoop you have confirmed that you are, indeed a troll.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was just talking to a SAHM of teens (she teaches rec center classes during school hours) and she told me that she actually feels it's more important for her to be a SAHM now than it was when her kids were my age (2 and 3). I really hope we can continue to afford me SAH as the kids get older. I have a PhD, so maybe I can find some part-time flexible consulting work for during school hours.

Can I just ask why on earth you got a PhD if your intent was to be a SAHM for 20 years? Where I come from, you maybe get a BA if this is your life goal, but you certainly don't spend 10+ years and go into debt for a PhD you will never use.

I don't get this either.

You don't have to. Not your life, not your problem, not your business. Why is this so difficult for some people?

[Anonymous]

An actual oncologist would have described him/herself that way. Not as a "cancer surgeon."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This has been covered before. Some folks have to work full time and don't really have a choice. .

Sure they do. Downsize, downsize, downsize. You don't need to live in a 3,000 sq ft place, hire help for cleaning and yardwork, wear the best clothes, have an iPhone5, drive an SUV with only one or two kids, use coupons and shop the specials. Cook more, go out to eat once a month or less.

It can easily be done, even in this area. But people here are too set on keeping up their extravagant lifestyles.

Priorities.

Hey, we won't judge you for living poor ok?

Nope, not living poor. Living within our means, comfortably. I can't help it if this is a foreign concept to you. However, "worth" is relative. My children are worth more than outsourcing them to someone else for most of their waking hours.

Said by someone who isn't smart enough to get a good paying job from which the earnings can enhance all family members' quality of life at home (e.g., hiring a lawn crew to cut once a week frees up dad to go to Johnny's little league games/swim meets etc. every Saturday and then go out for lunch or ice cream b/c he doesn't have to hurry home and take care of yard all afternoon.)

Hope little Susie can find new playmates now that her old ones will be playing together at aftercare and forget all about her!
No more visits over to their big houses to play with fun toys...she'll be *stuck* at home saving money every afternoon with you.
Woo. Fun city.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have three friends whose children are starting kindergarten with my daughter. They will be dropping them off at 7:45 am, and not picking them up until 6 pm!! These poor kids are going to be in aftercare from 2:30 on. Why on earth would you do this to a five year old??

I don't get how they are comfortable only seeing their children about 2-3 hours a day. It would break my heart.

What do others think?

Some people are not as fortunate as you to have a choice. You can take the time you have with your children to teach them not to judge others. That would be constructive use of your time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was just talking to a SAHM of teens (she teaches rec center classes during school hours) and she told me that she actually feels it's more important for her to be a SAHM now than it was when her kids were my age (2 and 3). I really hope we can continue to afford me SAH as the kids get older. I have a PhD, so maybe I can find some part-time flexible consulting work for during school hours.

Can I just ask why on earth you got a PhD if your intent was to be a SAHM for 20 years? Where I come from, you maybe get a BA if this is your life goal, but you certainly don't spend 10+ years and go into debt for a PhD you will never use.

I don't get this either.

You don't have to. Not your life, not your problem, not your business. Why is this so difficult for some people?

Hmm. One could ask the same of OP and her trollmates.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have three friends whose children are starting kindergarten with my daughter. They will be dropping them off at 7:45 am, and not picking them up until 6 pm!! These poor kids are going to be in aftercare from 2:30 on. Why on earth would you do this to a five year old??

I don't get how they are comfortable only seeing their children about 2-3 hours a day. It would break my heart.

What do others think?

Some people are not as fortunate as you to have a choice. You can take the time you have with your children to teach them not to judge others. That would be constructive use of your time.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This has been covered before. Some folks have to work full time and don't really have a choice. .

Sure they do. Downsize, downsize, downsize. You don't need to live in a 3,000 sq ft place, hire help for cleaning and yardwork, wear the best clothes, have an iPhone5, drive an SUV with only one or two kids, use coupons and shop the specials. Cook more, go out to eat once a month or less.

It can easily be done, even in this area. But people here are too set on keeping up their extravagant lifestyles.

Priorities.

I have not read through the whole thread so I am sure your post has been responded to but what an ignorant piece of work you are.

What a lovely little bubble you live in that you think everyone whose kid is in aftercare lives as you have described above. I mean surely, none of the kids in aftercare have parents who have taken three buses from their job to pick them up from aftercare and will take another bus home to what I would bet good money is not a 3,000 square foot residence, feed the kid dinner then depart for job number two.

You know what, clearly they have absolutely no understanding of priorities.

And you are an idiot.

I'm sure the PP you quoted believes that anyone who has to take a bus to their job should not have been allowed to have children in the first place.

And, with one fell swoop you have confirmed that you are, indeed a troll.

Huh? I'm the PP you're responding to. None of the previous comments were mine. You seem confused.

[Anonymous]

Mine goes to school at 8.45 am and I won't pick him up 'til 6 pm.If I picked him up at 3.15 pm when school lets out, he'd be running around my house with way too much energy. I'm so grateful for the aftercare where he can play and spend time with kids of different ages!
He loves it too!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine goes to school at 8.45 am and I won't pick him up 'til 6 pm.If I picked him up at 3.15 pm when school lets out, he'd be running around my house with way too much energy. I'm so grateful for the aftercare where he can play and spend time with kids of different ages!
He loves it too!

My child is entering K but this is what I've heard too - that the kids enjoy the playtime together after school because the school hours only allow for 30 mins recess and not much play time.
I think if you're not using aftercare, you'd have to arrange for some playdates or other activities to use up that energy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This has been covered before. Some folks have to work full time and don't really have a choice. .

Sure they do. Downsize, downsize, downsize. You don't need to live in a 3,000 sq ft place, hire help for cleaning and yardwork, wear the best clothes, have an iPhone5, drive an SUV with only one or two kids, use coupons and shop the specials. Cook more, go out to eat once a month or less.

It can easily be done, even in this area. But people here are too set on keeping up their extravagant lifestyles.

Priorities.

I have not read through the whole thread so I am sure your post has been responded to but what an ignorant piece of work you are.

What a lovely little bubble you live in that you think everyone whose kid is in aftercare lives as you have described above. I mean surely, none of the kids in aftercare have parents who have taken three buses from their job to pick them up from aftercare and will take another bus home to what I would bet good money is not a 3,000 square foot residence, feed the kid dinner then depart for job number two.

You know what, clearly they have absolutely no understanding of priorities.

And you are an idiot.

I'm sure the PP you quoted believes that anyone who has to take a bus to their job should not have been allowed to have children in the first place.

And, with one fell swoop you have confirmed that you are, indeed a troll.

Huh? I'm the PP you're responding to. None of the previous comments were mine. You seem confused.

I don't get it either. You were obviously being facetious.

[Anonymous]

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She also does homework at aftercare and has stated she prefers doing her homework with her classmates because they're "more helpful" than I am. It's more fun to do her homework with a group of friends than with a parent.

LOL! My 6 y/o daughter has told me before that I'm "not particularly helpful" with homework. Allrighty then. . . . .

My attempt to lighten things up and derail the trolliness of this post.

I'm happy to know I'm not the only parent who's apparently out-homeworked by a bunch of whippersnappers!

[Anonymous]

This thread makes no sense. This is the daycare mindset so why are you surprised? You drop your kids off to be raised by someone else at 3 months old, hardly see them until they are 14, then you justify it by saying they need you now, right before they leave for college. Those are the only 4 years that matter. Then you pat yourself on the back for being a good mom and in 15 years you will wonder why your kids don't have time for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread makes no sense. This is the daycare mindset so why are you surprised? You drop your kids off to be raised by someone else at 3 months old, hardly see them until they are 14, then you justify it by saying they need you now, right before they leave for college. Those are the only 4 years that matter. Then you pat yourself on the back for being a good mom and in 15 years you will wonder why your kids don't have time for you.

Just stop.