What’s the best housing situation during divorce?

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Anonymous wrote:How long have you been bouncing around? Why did you file for divorce without a plan for where to live with your children?

It’s only been ~7 weeks and some of that was spent traveling for work on trips that have been planned since last spring, so it’s time that has always been planned around me being away for work.

I’m making the plan now. It would have been wasteful to spend money on a lease before I really needed it.

Only would be wasteful if you didn't value having custody with your kids. You have just demonstrated that they weren't important enough to you to spend time with them and make them feel at home with you during the hardest moment in their lives. But this is actually super helpful for everyone to see, as you clearly can't be more than an every other weekend dad. Get furnished and let them choose some accents that they love - you don't care enough to make it a true home for them.

This is hard for me and arguably for their mom, but it is not hard for the kids. Their lives aren’t changing and they still have two parents who love them and friends and school and their activities. If anything this is the moment in their lives when everything is getting better.

Oh my God. Your custody evaluation is going to go *so badly*.

Tell me again why they refuse to unpack at your house, if their life is great and they aren't having a hard time.

They don’t bring anything over and won’t stay over, presumably because their mother is preventing them from doing so. The custody evaluator will see that. My wife is going to come across as emotional and not able to support the kids. I can provide the financial stability they need.

It isn't hard for the kids?? Their father just left their family and decided that work was more important than being with them for the transition. It is incredibly hard for them. But it is good that you prioritized work now if that is your goal. You are now just a $$$ dad.

That’s a bunch of nonsense. The transition has hardly started and if they want a roof over their head, I have to work. I don’t have a choice.

It really isn’t hard for them. I’m the one juggling work with finding an entire new house and dealing with huge expenses and legal obligations. They go to school and to fun activities and see their friends. They are fine.

You don't think their refusal to unpack or enter their new bedrooms indicates anything of concern?

If juggling all of this is hard for you, maybe more advance planning would have helped. Advance planning is an important part of parenting, so you're going to have to learn to do it.

Yes, it brings up concerns that the kids are too lazy to set up their rooms because they’re spoiled by their mother, and won’t go into them because she’s told them not to.

I pray you are a troll because you are just a horrible person, parent, and spouse. Why do you have to blame their mom for everything? You are obnoxious.

Billy Eddy has written a variety of books on people just like this in divorce. Promise they exist. Splitting people into all-good and all-bad is a hallmark of type b personality disorder traits (and you don't have to have a fullblown disorder to just have more than a usual amount of the traits).

But I really hope this one is a troll.

I don’t have any kind of disorder, but I think the custody evaluation will reveal that my wife is out of control and not mentally stable enough to take care of the kids.

Out of control in what way? You keep saying she’s crazy, but you left your kids with her. It doesn’t add up. You’re not getting more than 50-50 and may get less, because you’ve already established precedent that you’re fine leaving them with her.

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Anonymous wrote:How long have you been bouncing around? Why did you file for divorce without a plan for where to live with your children?

It’s only been ~7 weeks and some of that was spent traveling for work on trips that have been planned since last spring, so it’s time that has always been planned around me being away for work.

I’m making the plan now. It would have been wasteful to spend money on a lease before I really needed it.

Only would be wasteful if you didn't value having custody with your kids. You have just demonstrated that they weren't important enough to you to spend time with them and make them feel at home with you during the hardest moment in their lives. But this is actually super helpful for everyone to see, as you clearly can't be more than an every other weekend dad. Get furnished and let them choose some accents that they love - you don't care enough to make it a true home for them.

This is hard for me and arguably for their mom, but it is not hard for the kids. Their lives aren’t changing and they still have two parents who love them and friends and school and their activities. If anything this is the moment in their lives when everything is getting better.

Oh my God. Your custody evaluation is going to go *so badly*.

Tell me again why they refuse to unpack at your house, if their life is great and they aren't having a hard time.

They don’t bring anything over and won’t stay over, presumably because their mother is preventing them from doing so. The custody evaluator will see that. My wife is going to come across as emotional and not able to support the kids. I can provide the financial stability they need.

It isn't hard for the kids?? Their father just left their family and decided that work was more important than being with them for the transition. It is incredibly hard for them. But it is good that you prioritized work now if that is your goal. You are now just a $$$ dad.

That’s a bunch of nonsense. The transition has hardly started and if they want a roof over their head, I have to work. I don’t have a choice.

It really isn’t hard for them. I’m the one juggling work with finding an entire new house and dealing with huge expenses and legal obligations. They go to school and to fun activities and see their friends. They are fine.

You don't think their refusal to unpack or enter their new bedrooms indicates anything of concern?

If juggling all of this is hard for you, maybe more advance planning would have helped. Advance planning is an important part of parenting, so you're going to have to learn to do it.

Yes, it brings up concerns that the kids are too lazy to set up their rooms because they’re spoiled by their mother, and won’t go into them because she’s told them not to.

I pray you are a troll because you are just a horrible person, parent, and spouse. Why do you have to blame their mom for everything? You are obnoxious.

Billy Eddy has written a variety of books on people just like this in divorce. Promise they exist. Splitting people into all-good and all-bad is a hallmark of type b personality disorder traits (and you don't have to have a fullblown disorder to just have more than a usual amount of the traits).

But I really hope this one is a troll.

I don’t have any kind of disorder, but I think the custody evaluation will reveal that my wife is out of control and not mentally stable enough to take care of the kids.

Says the dad who is dragging his feet getting a place, doesn’t know how many sheets/towels are needed..while his wife is caring for said kids.

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Anonymous wrote:How long have you been bouncing around? Why did you file for divorce without a plan for where to live with your children?

It’s only been ~7 weeks and some of that was spent traveling for work on trips that have been planned since last spring, so it’s time that has always been planned around me being away for work.

I’m making the plan now. It would have been wasteful to spend money on a lease before I really needed it.

Only would be wasteful if you didn't value having custody with your kids. You have just demonstrated that they weren't important enough to you to spend time with them and make them feel at home with you during the hardest moment in their lives. But this is actually super helpful for everyone to see, as you clearly can't be more than an every other weekend dad. Get furnished and let them choose some accents that they love - you don't care enough to make it a true home for them.

This is hard for me and arguably for their mom, but it is not hard for the kids. Their lives aren’t changing and they still have two parents who love them and friends and school and their activities. If anything this is the moment in their lives when everything is getting better.

Oh my God. Your custody evaluation is going to go *so badly*.

Tell me again why they refuse to unpack at your house, if their life is great and they aren't having a hard time.

They don’t bring anything over and won’t stay over, presumably because their mother is preventing them from doing so. The custody evaluator will see that. My wife is going to come across as emotional and not able to support the kids. I can provide the financial stability they need.

It isn't hard for the kids?? Their father just left their family and decided that work was more important than being with them for the transition. It is incredibly hard for them. But it is good that you prioritized work now if that is your goal. You are now just a $$$ dad.

That’s a bunch of nonsense. The transition has hardly started and if they want a roof over their head, I have to work. I don’t have a choice.

It really isn’t hard for them. I’m the one juggling work with finding an entire new house and dealing with huge expenses and legal obligations. They go to school and to fun activities and see their friends. They are fine.

You don't think their refusal to unpack or enter their new bedrooms indicates anything of concern?

If juggling all of this is hard for you, maybe more advance planning would have helped. Advance planning is an important part of parenting, so you're going to have to learn to do it.

Yes, it brings up concerns that the kids are too lazy to set up their rooms because they’re spoiled by their mother, and won’t go into them because she’s told them not to.

I pray you are a troll because you are just a horrible person, parent, and spouse. Why do you have to blame their mom for everything? You are obnoxious.

Billy Eddy has written a variety of books on people just like this in divorce. Promise they exist. Splitting people into all-good and all-bad is a hallmark of type b personality disorder traits (and you don't have to have a fullblown disorder to just have more than a usual amount of the traits).

But I really hope this one is a troll.

I don’t have any kind of disorder, but I think the custody evaluation will reveal that my wife is out of control and not mentally stable enough to take care of the kids.

So what does that say about the person who left the kids with her?

Also you seem to have an odd understanding of what a custody evaluation covers.

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Guys, either this is a troll, or this man is delusional and beyond help. Either way, no point in trying to explain things to him.

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Anonymous wrote:So your message to your wife is "I'm divorcing you, but I want you to store my childhood stuff until I decide it's convenient for me to pick it up". You don't get to have it both ways! Either she's your wife or she's not!

Technically it’s still my house that we bought together, so I have a right to use that space and it doesn’t make sense to pay for a storage space when I literally own a storage space.

And my reason for thinking we should sell it is that she can’t afford it on her own and can’t afford to buy me out. So I shouldn’t have to keep spending my post-marital income on it. We are divorcing and it isn’t my responsibility to provide her with the house just because she says she isn’t ready to move. It would be best for both of us to sell it quickly and move on.

I think both my kids and my wife are too focused on stuff and houses and maybe a positive of the divorce will show them that they should focus on experiences and travel and things like studying for school, preparing for the future, etc. If my wife spent the time she’s worried about decorating for Christmas and preparing for holidays over the years on a career, she wouldn’t be in the financial situation she claims she’s in.

I seriously hope your lawyer is telling you to shut up and to run all communications with your spouse by her. If not, you're about to be taken to the cleaners (justifiably so).

My attorney writes all of my emails for me now because my wife kept trying to set up traps for me via email. That is no longer a concern and I’m fortunate to have such a hands-on attorney who understands the level of crazy I am dealing with when it comes to trying to communicate with my wife.

It’s really impressive that she can attain lucidity long enough to send you trap emails.

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Anonymous wrote:So your message to your wife is "I'm divorcing you, but I want you to store my childhood stuff until I decide it's convenient for me to pick it up". You don't get to have it both ways! Either she's your wife or she's not!

Technically it’s still my house that we bought together, so I have a right to use that space and it doesn’t make sense to pay for a storage space when I literally own a storage space.

And my reason for thinking we should sell it is that she can’t afford it on her own and can’t afford to buy me out. So I shouldn’t have to keep spending my post-marital income on it. We are divorcing and it isn’t my responsibility to provide her with the house just because she says she isn’t ready to move. It would be best for both of us to sell it quickly and move on.

I think both my kids and my wife are too focused on stuff and houses and maybe a positive of the divorce will show them that they should focus on experiences and travel and things like studying for school, preparing for the future, etc. If my wife spent the time she’s worried about decorating for Christmas and preparing for holidays over the years on a career, she wouldn’t be in the financial situation she claims she’s in.

I seriously hope your lawyer is telling you to shut up and to run all communications with your spouse by her. If not, you're about to be taken to the cleaners (justifiably so).

My attorney writes all of my emails for me now because my wife kept trying to set up traps for me via email. That is no longer a concern and I’m fortunate to have such a hands-on attorney who understands the level of crazy I am dealing with when it comes to trying to communicate with my wife.

Thank God, because you should not be saying or writing a word to anyone who could put any of your communications in front of the court. Good god.

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Anonymous wrote:So your message to your wife is "I'm divorcing you, but I want you to store my childhood stuff until I decide it's convenient for me to pick it up". You don't get to have it both ways! Either she's your wife or she's not!

Technically it’s still my house that we bought together, so I have a right to use that space and it doesn’t make sense to pay for a storage space when I literally own a storage space.

And my reason for thinking we should sell it is that she can’t afford it on her own and can’t afford to buy me out. So I shouldn’t have to keep spending my post-marital income on it. We are divorcing and it isn’t my responsibility to provide her with the house just because she says she isn’t ready to move. It would be best for both of us to sell it quickly and move on.

I think both my kids and my wife are too focused on stuff and houses and maybe a positive of the divorce will show them that they should focus on experiences and travel and things like studying for school, preparing for the future, etc. If my wife spent the time she’s worried about decorating for Christmas and preparing for holidays over the years on a career, she wouldn’t be in the financial situation she claims she’s in.

I seriously hope your lawyer is telling you to shut up and to run all communications with your spouse by her. If not, you're about to be taken to the cleaners (justifiably so).

My attorney writes all of my emails for me now because my wife kept trying to set up traps for me via email. That is no longer a concern and I’m fortunate to have such a hands-on attorney who understands the level of crazy I am dealing with when it comes to trying to communicate with my wife.

Thank God, because you should not be saying or writing a word to anyone who could put any of your communications in front of the court. Good god.

I mean, the lawyer obviously knew this and decided it was either give up the case or find an excuse to tell this guy to knock off communicating entirely. "Trap emails" is the lawyer finding an excuse to get this guy to stop talking.

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Anonymous wrote:So your message to your wife is "I'm divorcing you, but I want you to store my childhood stuff until I decide it's convenient for me to pick it up". You don't get to have it both ways! Either she's your wife or she's not!

Technically it’s still my house that we bought together, so I have a right to use that space and it doesn’t make sense to pay for a storage space when I literally own a storage space.

And my reason for thinking we should sell it is that she can’t afford it on her own and can’t afford to buy me out. So I shouldn’t have to keep spending my post-marital income on it. We are divorcing and it isn’t my responsibility to provide her with the house just because she says she isn’t ready to move. It would be best for both of us to sell it quickly and move on.

I think both my kids and my wife are too focused on stuff and houses and maybe a positive of the divorce will show them that they should focus on experiences and travel and things like studying for school, preparing for the future, etc. If my wife spent the time she’s worried about decorating for Christmas and preparing for holidays over the years on a career, she wouldn’t be in the financial situation she claims she’s in.

I seriously hope your lawyer is telling you to shut up and to run all communications with your spouse by her. If not, you're about to be taken to the cleaners (justifiably so).

My attorney writes all of my emails for me now because my wife kept trying to set up traps for me via email. That is no longer a concern and I’m fortunate to have such a hands-on attorney who understands the level of crazy I am dealing with when it comes to trying to communicate with my wife.

Thank God, because you should not be saying or writing a word to anyone who could put any of your communications in front of the court. Good god.

I mean, the lawyer obviously knew this and decided it was either give up the case or find an excuse to tell this guy to knock off communicating entirely. "Trap emails" is the lawyer finding an excuse to get this guy to stop talking.

Well, and she gets her hourly rate for writing his emails for him. Found the real winner here.

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Anonymous wrote:So your message to your wife is "I'm divorcing you, but I want you to store my childhood stuff until I decide it's convenient for me to pick it up". You don't get to have it both ways! Either she's your wife or she's not!

Technically it’s still my house that we bought together, so I have a right to use that space and it doesn’t make sense to pay for a storage space when I literally own a storage space.

And my reason for thinking we should sell it is that she can’t afford it on her own and can’t afford to buy me out. So I shouldn’t have to keep spending my post-marital income on it. We are divorcing and it isn’t my responsibility to provide her with the house just because she says she isn’t ready to move. It would be best for both of us to sell it quickly and move on.

I think both my kids and my wife are too focused on stuff and houses and maybe a positive of the divorce will show them that they should focus on experiences and travel and things like studying for school, preparing for the future, etc. If my wife spent the time she’s worried about decorating for Christmas and preparing for holidays over the years on a career, she wouldn’t be in the financial situation she claims she’s in.

I seriously hope your lawyer is telling you to shut up and to run all communications with your spouse by her. If not, you're about to be taken to the cleaners (justifiably so).

My attorney writes all of my emails for me now because my wife kept trying to set up traps for me via email. That is no longer a concern and I’m fortunate to have such a hands-on attorney who understands the level of crazy I am dealing with when it comes to trying to communicate with my wife.

Thank God, because you should not be saying or writing a word to anyone who could put any of your communications in front of the court. Good god.

I mean, the lawyer obviously knew this and decided it was either give up the case or find an excuse to tell this guy to knock off communicating entirely. "Trap emails" is the lawyer finding an excuse to get this guy to stop talking.

Well, and she gets her hourly rate for writing his emails for him. Found the real winner here.

OP and my attorney is excellent, and it’s my understanding that it is quite standard in a contentious divorce for both parties to rely on attorneys to screen or edit their communications for the protection of their client. My wife has been pretending that her attorney doesn’t write everything she says and even made me sign up for one of those coparenting app things, presumably to bleed me of an extra $20/month on top of whatever her attorney is charging for her emails.

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Anonymous wrote:So your message to your wife is "I'm divorcing you, but I want you to store my childhood stuff until I decide it's convenient for me to pick it up". You don't get to have it both ways! Either she's your wife or she's not!

Technically it’s still my house that we bought together, so I have a right to use that space and it doesn’t make sense to pay for a storage space when I literally own a storage space.

And my reason for thinking we should sell it is that she can’t afford it on her own and can’t afford to buy me out. So I shouldn’t have to keep spending my post-marital income on it. We are divorcing and it isn’t my responsibility to provide her with the house just because she says she isn’t ready to move. It would be best for both of us to sell it quickly and move on.

I think both my kids and my wife are too focused on stuff and houses and maybe a positive of the divorce will show them that they should focus on experiences and travel and things like studying for school, preparing for the future, etc. If my wife spent the time she’s worried about decorating for Christmas and preparing for holidays over the years on a career, she wouldn’t be in the financial situation she claims she’s in.

I seriously hope your lawyer is telling you to shut up and to run all communications with your spouse by her. If not, you're about to be taken to the cleaners (justifiably so).

My attorney writes all of my emails for me now because my wife kept trying to set up traps for me via email. That is no longer a concern and I’m fortunate to have such a hands-on attorney who understands the level of crazy I am dealing with when it comes to trying to communicate with my wife.

Thank God, because you should not be saying or writing a word to anyone who could put any of your communications in front of the court. Good god.

I mean, the lawyer obviously knew this and decided it was either give up the case or find an excuse to tell this guy to knock off communicating entirely. "Trap emails" is the lawyer finding an excuse to get this guy to stop talking.

Well, and she gets her hourly rate for writing his emails for him. Found the real winner here.

OP and my attorney is excellent, and it’s my understanding that it is quite standard in a contentious divorce for both parties to rely on attorneys to screen or edit their communications for the protection of their client. My wife has been pretending that her attorney doesn’t write everything she says and even made me sign up for one of those coparenting app things, presumably to bleed me of an extra $20/month on top of whatever her attorney is charging for her emails.

Or perhaps she hopes to use the app instead of attorneys. It's a good idea to keep all child-centered communications (and calendar, expenses, etc.) in one place. The apps usually have a feature where you can grant attorneys or other parties access if you would like. This could actually cost less if you use it.

You should also consider reconciling your use of "my wife" with "post-marital" and your general demeanor towards her. Try "soon to be ex wife" (STBX).

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Anonymous wrote:So your message to your wife is "I'm divorcing you, but I want you to store my childhood stuff until I decide it's convenient for me to pick it up". You don't get to have it both ways! Either she's your wife or she's not!

Technically it’s still my house that we bought together, so I have a right to use that space and it doesn’t make sense to pay for a storage space when I literally own a storage space.

And my reason for thinking we should sell it is that she can’t afford it on her own and can’t afford to buy me out. So I shouldn’t have to keep spending my post-marital income on it. We are divorcing and it isn’t my responsibility to provide her with the house just because she says she isn’t ready to move. It would be best for both of us to sell it quickly and move on.

I think both my kids and my wife are too focused on stuff and houses and maybe a positive of the divorce will show them that they should focus on experiences and travel and things like studying for school, preparing for the future, etc. If my wife spent the time she’s worried about decorating for Christmas and preparing for holidays over the years on a career, she wouldn’t be in the financial situation she claims she’s in.

I seriously hope your lawyer is telling you to shut up and to run all communications with your spouse by her. If not, you're about to be taken to the cleaners (justifiably so).

My attorney writes all of my emails for me now because my wife kept trying to set up traps for me via email. That is no longer a concern and I’m fortunate to have such a hands-on attorney who understands the level of crazy I am dealing with when it comes to trying to communicate with my wife.

Thank God, because you should not be saying or writing a word to anyone who could put any of your communications in front of the court. Good god.

I mean, the lawyer obviously knew this and decided it was either give up the case or find an excuse to tell this guy to knock off communicating entirely. "Trap emails" is the lawyer finding an excuse to get this guy to stop talking.

Well, and she gets her hourly rate for writing his emails for him. Found the real winner here.

OP and my attorney is excellent, and it’s my understanding that it is quite standard in a contentious divorce for both parties to rely on attorneys to screen or edit their communications for the protection of their client. My wife has been pretending that her attorney doesn’t write everything she says and even made me sign up for one of those coparenting app things, presumably to bleed me of an extra $20/month on top of whatever her attorney is charging for her emails.

Is this the excellent attorney who told you that you and your STBX-wife have aligned financial interests in this divorce, and that you should have legal representation but she should not?

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Anonymous wrote:So your message to your wife is "I'm divorcing you, but I want you to store my childhood stuff until I decide it's convenient for me to pick it up". You don't get to have it both ways! Either she's your wife or she's not!

Technically it’s still my house that we bought together, so I have a right to use that space and it doesn’t make sense to pay for a storage space when I literally own a storage space.

And my reason for thinking we should sell it is that she can’t afford it on her own and can’t afford to buy me out. So I shouldn’t have to keep spending my post-marital income on it. We are divorcing and it isn’t my responsibility to provide her with the house just because she says she isn’t ready to move. It would be best for both of us to sell it quickly and move on.

I think both my kids and my wife are too focused on stuff and houses and maybe a positive of the divorce will show them that they should focus on experiences and travel and things like studying for school, preparing for the future, etc. If my wife spent the time she’s worried about decorating for Christmas and preparing for holidays over the years on a career, she wouldn’t be in the financial situation she claims she’s in.

I seriously hope your lawyer is telling you to shut up and to run all communications with your spouse by her. If not, you're about to be taken to the cleaners (justifiably so).

My attorney writes all of my emails for me now because my wife kept trying to set up traps for me via email. That is no longer a concern and I’m fortunate to have such a hands-on attorney who understands the level of crazy I am dealing with when it comes to trying to communicate with my wife.

Thank God, because you should not be saying or writing a word to anyone who could put any of your communications in front of the court. Good god.

I mean, the lawyer obviously knew this and decided it was either give up the case or find an excuse to tell this guy to knock off communicating entirely. "Trap emails" is the lawyer finding an excuse to get this guy to stop talking.

Well, and she gets her hourly rate for writing his emails for him. Found the real winner here.

OP and my attorney is excellent, and it’s my understanding that it is quite standard in a contentious divorce for both parties to rely on attorneys to screen or edit their communications for the protection of their client. My wife has been pretending that her attorney doesn’t write everything she says and even made me sign up for one of those coparenting app things, presumably to bleed me of an extra $20/month on top of whatever her attorney is charging for her emails.

Co-parenting apps ate much more common and less costly than paying a lawyers hourly rate to draft an email about school pickup. But I’m sure your excellent attorney told you this.

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Anonymous wrote:So your message to your wife is "I'm divorcing you, but I want you to store my childhood stuff until I decide it's convenient for me to pick it up". You don't get to have it both ways! Either she's your wife or she's not!

Technically it’s still my house that we bought together, so I have a right to use that space and it doesn’t make sense to pay for a storage space when I literally own a storage space.

And my reason for thinking we should sell it is that she can’t afford it on her own and can’t afford to buy me out. So I shouldn’t have to keep spending my post-marital income on it. We are divorcing and it isn’t my responsibility to provide her with the house just because she says she isn’t ready to move. It would be best for both of us to sell it quickly and move on.

I think both my kids and my wife are too focused on stuff and houses and maybe a positive of the divorce will show them that they should focus on experiences and travel and things like studying for school, preparing for the future, etc. If my wife spent the time she’s worried about decorating for Christmas and preparing for holidays over the years on a career, she wouldn’t be in the financial situation she claims she’s in.

I seriously hope your lawyer is telling you to shut up and to run all communications with your spouse by her. If not, you're about to be taken to the cleaners (justifiably so).

My attorney writes all of my emails for me now because my wife kept trying to set up traps for me via email. That is no longer a concern and I’m fortunate to have such a hands-on attorney who understands the level of crazy I am dealing with when it comes to trying to communicate with my wife.

Thank God, because you should not be saying or writing a word to anyone who could put any of your communications in front of the court. Good god.

I mean, the lawyer obviously knew this and decided it was either give up the case or find an excuse to tell this guy to knock off communicating entirely. "Trap emails" is the lawyer finding an excuse to get this guy to stop talking.

Well, and she gets her hourly rate for writing his emails for him. Found the real winner here.

OP and my attorney is excellent, and it’s my understanding that it is quite standard in a contentious divorce for both parties to rely on attorneys to screen or edit their communications for the protection of their client. My wife has been pretending that her attorney doesn’t write everything she says and even made me sign up for one of those coparenting app things, presumably to bleed me of an extra $20/month on top of whatever her attorney is charging for her emails.

"One of those coparenting app things"

Lol OP please keep going, it's entertaining

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Anonymous wrote:So your message to your wife is "I'm divorcing you, but I want you to store my childhood stuff until I decide it's convenient for me to pick it up". You don't get to have it both ways! Either she's your wife or she's not!

Technically it’s still my house that we bought together, so I have a right to use that space and it doesn’t make sense to pay for a storage space when I literally own a storage space.

And my reason for thinking we should sell it is that she can’t afford it on her own and can’t afford to buy me out. So I shouldn’t have to keep spending my post-marital income on it. We are divorcing and it isn’t my responsibility to provide her with the house just because she says she isn’t ready to move. It would be best for both of us to sell it quickly and move on.

I think both my kids and my wife are too focused on stuff and houses and maybe a positive of the divorce will show them that they should focus on experiences and travel and things like studying for school, preparing for the future, etc. If my wife spent the time she’s worried about decorating for Christmas and preparing for holidays over the years on a career, she wouldn’t be in the financial situation she claims she’s in.

I seriously hope your lawyer is telling you to shut up and to run all communications with your spouse by her. If not, you're about to be taken to the cleaners (justifiably so).

My attorney writes all of my emails for me now because my wife kept trying to set up traps for me via email. That is no longer a concern and I’m fortunate to have such a hands-on attorney who understands the level of crazy I am dealing with when it comes to trying to communicate with my wife.

Thank God, because you should not be saying or writing a word to anyone who could put any of your communications in front of the court. Good god.

I mean, the lawyer obviously knew this and decided it was either give up the case or find an excuse to tell this guy to knock off communicating entirely. "Trap emails" is the lawyer finding an excuse to get this guy to stop talking.

Well, and she gets her hourly rate for writing his emails for him. Found the real winner here.

OP and my attorney is excellent, and it’s my understanding that it is quite standard in a contentious divorce for both parties to rely on attorneys to screen or edit their communications for the protection of their client. My wife has been pretending that her attorney doesn’t write everything she says and even made me sign up for one of those coparenting app things, presumably to bleed me of an extra $20/month on top of whatever her attorney is charging for her emails.

"One of those coparenting app things"

Lol OP please keep going, it's entertaining

Big job guy is being BLED of $20 a month for that coparenting app thing and crying about it. This can’t be real.

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Anonymous wrote:So your message to your wife is "I'm divorcing you, but I want you to store my childhood stuff until I decide it's convenient for me to pick it up". You don't get to have it both ways! Either she's your wife or she's not!

Technically it’s still my house that we bought together, so I have a right to use that space and it doesn’t make sense to pay for a storage space when I literally own a storage space.

And my reason for thinking we should sell it is that she can’t afford it on her own and can’t afford to buy me out. So I shouldn’t have to keep spending my post-marital income on it. We are divorcing and it isn’t my responsibility to provide her with the house just because she says she isn’t ready to move. It would be best for both of us to sell it quickly and move on.

I think both my kids and my wife are too focused on stuff and houses and maybe a positive of the divorce will show them that they should focus on experiences and travel and things like studying for school, preparing for the future, etc. If my wife spent the time she’s worried about decorating for Christmas and preparing for holidays over the years on a career, she wouldn’t be in the financial situation she claims she’s in.

I seriously hope your lawyer is telling you to shut up and to run all communications with your spouse by her. If not, you're about to be taken to the cleaners (justifiably so).

My attorney writes all of my emails for me now because my wife kept trying to set up traps for me via email. That is no longer a concern and I’m fortunate to have such a hands-on attorney who understands the level of crazy I am dealing with when it comes to trying to communicate with my wife.

Thank God, because you should not be saying or writing a word to anyone who could put any of your communications in front of the court. Good god.

I mean, the lawyer obviously knew this and decided it was either give up the case or find an excuse to tell this guy to knock off communicating entirely. "Trap emails" is the lawyer finding an excuse to get this guy to stop talking.

Well, and she gets her hourly rate for writing his emails for him. Found the real winner here.

OP and my attorney is excellent, and it’s my understanding that it is quite standard in a contentious divorce for both parties to rely on attorneys to screen or edit their communications for the protection of their client. My wife has been pretending that her attorney doesn’t write everything she says and even made me sign up for one of those coparenting app things, presumably to bleed me of an extra $20/month on top of whatever her attorney is charging for her emails.

"One of those coparenting app things"

Lol OP please keep going, it's entertaining

Big job guy is being BLED of $20 a month for that coparenting app thing and crying about it. This can’t be real.

It’s not about the $20. It’s about the fact that my wife can’t do anything without making it more complicated and adding layers of legal stuff to what could be normal interactions. She’s taking what could be a simple situation and creating conflict for the sake of complicating my life and spending my money just to show she can.