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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How long have you been bouncing around? Why did you file for divorce without a plan for where to live with your children? [/quote]

It’s only been ~7 weeks and some of that was spent traveling for work on trips that have been planned since last spring, so it’s time that has always been planned around me being away for work.

I’m making the plan now. It would have been wasteful to spend money on a lease before I really needed it.[/quote]

Only would be wasteful if you didn't value having custody with your kids.  You have just demonstrated that they weren't important enough to you to spend time with them and make them feel at home with you during [b]the hardest moment in their lives[/b].  But this is actually super helpful for everyone to see, as you clearly can't be more than an every other weekend dad.  Get furnished and let them choose some accents that they love - you don't care enough to make it a true home for them.[/quote]

This is hard for me and arguably for their mom, but it is not hard for the kids. Their lives aren’t changing and they still have two parents who love them and friends and school and their activities. If anything this is the moment in their lives when everything is getting better.[/quote]

Oh my God. Your custody evaluation is going to go *so badly*.

Tell me again why they refuse to unpack at your house, if their life is great and they aren't having a hard time.[/quote]

They don’t bring anything over and won’t stay over, presumably because their mother is preventing them from doing so. The custody evaluator will see that. My wife is going to come across as emotional and not able to support the kids. I can provide the financial stability they need.[/quote]

It isn't hard for the kids?:??   Their father just left their family and decided that work was more important than being with them for the transition.  It is incredibly hard for them.  But it is good that you prioritized work now if that is your goal.  You are now just a $$$ dad.[/quote]

That’s a bunch of nonsense. The transition has hardly started and if they want a roof over their head, I have to work. I don’t have a choice.

It really isn’t hard for them. I’m the one juggling work with finding an entire new house and dealing with huge expenses and legal obligations. They go to school and to fun activities and see their friends. They are fine. [/quote]

You don't think their refusal to unpack or enter their new bedrooms indicates [b]anything of concern[/b]?

If juggling all of this is hard for you, maybe more advance planning would have helped. Advance planning is an important part of parenting, so you're going to have to learn to do it. [/quote]

Yes, it brings up concerns that the kids are too lazy to set up their rooms because they’re spoiled by their mother, and won’t go into them because she’s told them not to.
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I pray you are a troll because you are just a horrible person, parent, and spouse.  Why do you have to blame their mom for everything?  You are obnoxious.[/quote]

Billy Eddy has written a variety of books on people just like this in divorce. Promise they exist. Splitting people into all-good and all-bad is a hallmark of type b personality disorder traits (and you don't have to have a fullblown disorder to just have more than a usual amount of the traits).

But I really hope this one is a troll.[/quote]

I don’t have any kind of disorder, but I think the custody evaluation will reveal that [b]my wife is out of control and not mentally stable enough to take care of the kids.[/b][/quote]

So what does that say about the person who left the kids with her?

Also you seem to have an odd understanding of what a custody evaluation covers.[/quote]

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