What’s the best housing situation during divorce?

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Anonymous wrote:I’d pick the place you like that you can stay long term. If that is unfurnished, I’d then rent furniture to get thru the short term (thru Cort) while you work to furnish it with stuff you like and they like.

Thanks- that makes sense and could quickly take care of couch and table and then I have time to wait for delivery of something nicer and permanent.

Any ideas for a service that could furnish all of my kitchen needs and things like towels and bedding in one go? If I could just get it all picked out and delivered instead of spending a weekend running around getting everything, it would be more time I could spend doing fun stuff with my kids.

Yeah, Target or Macy's. You can get everything for a kitchen and bathrooms there. Don't forget to wash all bedding and towels before using.

Is there a normal amount of things like towels that people have? Is there a way to get a list of this stuff?

You don't know how many sets of sheets a bed needs? Or how many towels a kid or an adult go through per day/ week? Haven't you ever done laundry and changed bedding? You're an adult, right? How can't you figure this out?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’d pick the place you like that you can stay long term. If that is unfurnished, I’d then rent furniture to get thru the short term (thru Cort) while you work to furnish it with stuff you like and they like.

Thanks- that makes sense and could quickly take care of couch and table and then I have time to wait for delivery of something nicer and permanent.

Any ideas for a service that could furnish all of my kitchen needs and things like towels and bedding in one go? If I could just get it all picked out and delivered instead of spending a weekend running around getting everything, it would be more time I could spend doing fun stuff with my kids.

Google is your friend - Amazon shopping is pretty solid. I wouldn’t go in person to shop unless I had to - You can buy your furniture on pottery barn online. You can hire someone on thumbtack to do this for you - or a home organizer who would do it too

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’d pick the place you like that you can stay long term. If that is unfurnished, I’d then rent furniture to get thru the short term (thru Cort) while you work to furnish it with stuff you like and they like.

Thanks- that makes sense and could quickly take care of couch and table and then I have time to wait for delivery of something nicer and permanent.

Any ideas for a service that could furnish all of my kitchen needs and things like towels and bedding in one go? If I could just get it all picked out and delivered instead of spending a weekend running around getting everything, it would be more time I could spend doing fun stuff with my kids.

Yeah, Target or Macy's. You can get everything for a kitchen and bathrooms there. Don't forget to wash all bedding and towels before using.

Is there a normal amount of things like towels that people have? Is there a way to get a list of this stuff?

You don't know how many sets of sheets a bed needs? Or how many towels a kid or an adult go through per day/ week? Haven't you ever done laundry and changed bedding? You're an adult, right? How can't you figure this out?

Like most households we divided up responsibility at home and hired help, too. I’m asking for help now so I can learn.

[Anonymous]

I would use Amazon - you can get fun sheets and bedding and towels overnighted easily.
You probably need 2 sets of sheets for each bed, one comforter and a few blankets to have around. Probably about 10 bath towels for the three of you to be safe, and then some hand towels and smaller towels.
For the kitchen, I would just start with silverware, a few frying pans, a few pots, and then some spatula in wooden spoons. And plate plates and bowls. That is probably 90% of what you will use in the kitchen.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you filed for divorce before you had thought it through. Managing a family home is time-consuming and full of tedious tasks. You can hire, but then you're managing the person you hired. I think you're going to really struggle if this basic stuff is hard for you to plan and implement.

[Anonymous]

Just a question as a woman who’s going through this… if you can afford your old house on half of your salary, why can’t she afford your old house on half of her your salary? Won’t she get 50% of your salary for alimony?

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you filed for divorce before you had thought it through. Managing a family home is time-consuming and full of tedious tasks. You can hire, but then you're managing the person you hired. I think you're going to really struggle if this basic stuff is hard for you to plan and implement.

Hey village - what if we HELP this man in crisis instead of berating him?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you filed for divorce before you had thought it through. Managing a family home is time-consuming and full of tedious tasks. You can hire, but then you're managing the person you hired. I think you're going to really struggle if this basic stuff is hard for you to plan and implement.

Hey village - what if we HELP this man in crisis instead of berating him?

Because he needs to open his eyes, very soon.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do whichever is more affordable and/or in a better location. In either situation get the kids new bedding that they pick out and immediately frame and put up some photos of you with them and extended family on your side.

Location is similar. Furnished place is larger and more expensive but the lease is only until the spring and then I would need to find another place, which wouldn’t be the worst thing if our settlement allows me to buy out our marital home. There’s also the possibility that my office would move and I would want my residence to be closer to work anyway. The kids are in private school so school district staying the same isn’t the concern it would otherwise be.

I would do what's cheapest and closer to school. I'd probably go with unfurnished and decorate yourself. If she's not giving up the house and you are moving out, plan for long term and let the house go. Pick your battles.

I already moved out. I make way more money than her (she makes 10% of my salary in a good year) so I doubt she’ll find a way to keep the house. I’ve been thinking and I might want it as part of the settlement. I think I could get more custody because I don’t think DW can afford to stay anywhere close to our old neighborhood. She’ll probably have to move pretty far out and the kids won’t like the kinds of neighborhoods she’ll be able to afford with half our assets. It will give me an advantage to offer the kids their familiar house, proximity to friends, and the things we have in our neighborhood like the swim club and shopping nearby.

You are an a$$hole. While you may make more money than your STBX, you have no idea how to house your children without her help.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am assuming you can afford this. Call Potomac Concierge now. If they can't help you...pretty sure they can...they can tell you who else to call.
https://potomacconcierge.com/personal-assistant

Tell them you need someone to select household goods for you. If you want, they could make a list for you to buy or if you trust them, maybe they can use a card to buy it. Discuss.

[Anonymous]

Oh jesus, its the dead beat dad again. Are you still trying for 50/50 even though you don't even have a place to live?! You are such a bad parent I can't even believe this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just a question as a woman who’s going through this… if you can afford your old house on half of your salary, why can’t she afford your old house on half of her your salary? Won’t she get 50% of your salary for alimony?

I don’t live in the DMV. It’s possible that she could get alimony. It won’t be 50% of my salary and would be for a maximum of 3 or 4 years and that’s only if she doesn’t accept my offer for slightly more equity or a larger share of assets. No way would she qualify for her own mortgage on that.

[Anonymous]

Is this the guy that missed his parenting class?

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1298389.page

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d pick the place you like that you can stay long term. If that is unfurnished, I’d then rent furniture to get thru the short term (thru Cort) while you work to furnish it with stuff you like and they like.

Thanks- that makes sense and could quickly take care of couch and table and then I have time to wait for delivery of something nicer and permanent.

Any ideas for a service that could furnish all of my kitchen needs and things like towels and bedding in one go? If I could just get it all picked out and delivered instead of spending a weekend running around getting everything, it would be more time I could spend doing fun stuff with my kids.

Yeah, Target or Macy's. You can get everything for a kitchen and bathrooms there. Don't forget to wash all bedding and towels before using.

Is there a normal amount of things like towels that people have? Is there a way to get a list of this stuff?

You don't know how many sets of sheets a bed needs? Or how many towels a kid or an adult go through per day/ week? Haven't you ever done laundry and changed bedding? You're an adult, right? How can't you figure this out?

Like most households we divided up responsibility at home and hired help, too. I’m asking for help now so I can learn.

Consider ChatGPT.

And don't fight it when your wife is awarded alimony. I am 100% sure she deserves every penny and more.

[Anonymous]

Nordstrom can assign a shopper to you in their home department, OP. Other department stores have registries and are used to advising young couples what to select.