What’s the best housing situation during divorce?

[Anonymous]

I don’t get all this. First you cannot figure out housing, now complaining you need a custody evaluation. Why don’t your kids live with you a few days a week now. You are divorcing, she’s not your wife.

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe what an a-hole this guy is. Truly cannot believe what I just read. How did we as a society let someone like this come to exist? I hope her lawyers find this and take everything. He doesn’t want custody. He doesn’t want to provide for his kids. He wants to hurt them by hurting their mother bc she didn’t make enough money.

I’m not trying to hurt my kids, but I do think this is an learning opportunity for my wife to look at her life and think about the decisions she made that forced me into making this choice. I provide plenty well for my kids and I want them to have custody because my wife shouldn’t have it and isn’t capable of taking care of them and she’s shown that.

What you cheated and are blaming her? You need to look at your life. You wouldn’t up and leave them if she was that bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get all this. First you cannot figure out housing, now complaining you need a custody evaluation. Why don’t your kids live with you a few days a week now. You are divorcing, she’s not your wife.

From the day I filed she wouldn’t let them live with me, so I filed for a custody evaluation so I can prove that she is withholding them and that I should get at least 50/50 custody but preferably far more.

They don’t live with me now because I was traveling but then because I think their mother has told them they don’t want to be with me. That will change after the evaluation, I’m sure.

I didn’t cheat, by the way. Not sure where someone came up with that. I was just done with this marriage and my wife doesn’t bring anything good to my life and it didn’t make sense for me to get treated so badly by her and at the same time have to be financially responsible for her and live in the same space as such a nasty person. It’s better for us all to be in separate spaces and have our own separate lives.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t get all this. First you cannot figure out housing, now complaining you need a custody evaluation. Why don’t your kids live with you a few days a week now. You are divorcing, she’s not your wife.

From the day I filed she wouldn’t let them live with me, so I filed for a custody evaluation so I can prove that she is withholding them and that I should get at least 50/50 custody but preferably far more.

They don’t live with me now because I was traveling but then because I think their mother has told them they don’t want to be with me. That will change after the evaluation, I’m sure.

I didn’t cheat, by the way. Not sure where someone came up with that. I was just done with this marriage and my wife doesn’t bring anything good to my life and it didn’t make sense for me to get treated so badly by her and at the same time have to be financially responsible for her and live in the same space as such a nasty person. It’s better for us all to be in separate spaces and have our own separate lives.

So are you going to stop traveling? I don't get how you will have 50/50 if you don't. Because if your wife cannot competently care for the children, then she's not your backup.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t get all this. First you cannot figure out housing, now complaining you need a custody evaluation. Why don’t your kids live with you a few days a week now. You are divorcing, she’s not your wife.

From the day I filed she wouldn’t let them live with me, so I filed for a custody evaluation so I can prove that she is withholding them and that I should get at least 50/50 custody but preferably far more.

They don’t live with me now because I was traveling but then because I think their mother has told them they don’t want to be with me. That will change after the evaluation, I’m sure.

I didn’t cheat, by the way. Not sure where someone came up with that. I was just done with this marriage and my wife doesn’t bring anything good to my life and it didn’t make sense for me to get treated so badly by her and at the same time have to be financially responsible for her and live in the same space as such a nasty person. It’s better for us all to be in separate spaces and have our own separate lives.

How much do you make? Also, didn’t you not have a place when you filed - why would they have lived with you?

[Anonymous]

Your wife "wouldn't let" the kids live with you while you were - in your own words - "bouncing around" for at least the first 7 weeks after you left, living in hotels, AirBnBs, and traveling. But she's withholding them and she's crazy and unstable and cannot care for them. Mmkay.

Have fun with your custody evaluation!

[Anonymous]

I can’t believe I just read 17 pages of this. And I want more.

Wow, OP. Is he a textbook narcissist? A sociopath? Keep updating us, OP!

And why does OP think he won’t have to pay more than 3-4 years of alimony?

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Anonymous wrote:So your message to your wife is "I'm divorcing you, but I want you to store my childhood stuff until I decide it's convenient for me to pick it up". You don't get to have it both ways! Either she's your wife or she's not!

Technically it’s still my house that we bought together, so I have a right to use that space and it doesn’t make sense to pay for a storage space when I literally own a storage space.

And my reason for thinking we should sell it is that she can’t afford it on her own and can’t afford to buy me out. So I shouldn’t have to keep spending my post-marital income on it. We are divorcing and it isn’t my responsibility to provide her with the house just because she says she isn’t ready to move. It would be best for both of us to sell it quickly and move on.

I think both my kids and my wife are too focused on stuff and houses and maybe a positive of the divorce will show them that they should focus on experiences and travel and things like studying for school, preparing for the future, etc. If my wife spent the time she’s worried about decorating for Christmas and preparing for holidays over the years on a career, she wouldn’t be in the financial situation she claims she’s in.

I seriously hope your lawyer is telling you to shut up and to run all communications with your spouse by her. If not, you're about to be taken to the cleaners (justifiably so).

My attorney writes all of my emails for me now because my wife kept trying to set up traps for me via email. That is no longer a concern and I’m fortunate to have such a hands-on attorney who understands the level of crazy I am dealing with when it comes to trying to communicate with my wife.

Thank God, because you should not be saying or writing a word to anyone who could put any of your communications in front of the court. Good god.

I mean, the lawyer obviously knew this and decided it was either give up the case or find an excuse to tell this guy to knock off communicating entirely. "Trap emails" is the lawyer finding an excuse to get this guy to stop talking.

Well, and she gets her hourly rate for writing his emails for him. Found the real winner here.

I'm a lawyer but I don't charge hourly. Honestly, in this case, the lawyer probably gave sound advice separate from her financial interests to review all emails to the STBX wife. This guy is totally unhinged and lacks all basic self-awareness.