Sorority recruitment

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Anonymous wrote:Also, remember that each house has a large number of sisters. A girl may have 10 girls she knows and likes in the sorority. If she goes to a rush party and just talks to them, she likely won’t get in. Not because they “turn” on her because the other girls in the sorority who she doesn’t know still don’t know her after the party. It’s critical that a girl meet as many sisters as possible at each party.

In 20 minutes.

The whole process is strange. Pick "your best friends" for the next 4 years from 3-4 meetings, of 3-5 mins with 4 or 5 girls each time, all while you are working your hardest to "present yourself"---or rather let others pick your best friends for the next 4 years.

That's not how normal people pick friends. You hang out with people, get to know them by spending hours with them, not minutes. Hang out watching movies, go to dinner, shopping, playing games, going to parties, playing sports, studying, etc.. And you decide if they are for you once you really get to know them, not the other way around.

My daughter is a member of a sorority. I assure you she is very normal and this was not how she picked her best friends ; nor did she let others pick them for her. She is also on a varsity sports team and a member of a club that focuses on what she hopes to pursue as her career. Her two closest friends are not in her sorority. They are not even on her team or in the professional club. Imagine that! But please, go ahead and stereotype if that makes you feel better.

And you go ahead and try to convince yourself that what your daughter has is the norm.

I had an upfront seat, just on the outside for sorority rush my freshman year, during new student week, before classes even started. I had the luck of living in THE party dorm on campus in the center of the fraternity quad, everyone on my floor sans me and one other girl (we were both poorer and she was black at a school with less than 5 % blacks, at a time when there were not many POC in the traditional Panhellic sororities). So I watched as the girls on my floor had begun making friends the first 4-5 days. Then rush started and every single friendship went by the wayside because they all ended being picked by different sororities. As pledging happened and classes started, they didn't have time for much else besides sorority events. Even afterwards, they had to be at mandatory dinners multiple nights per week and several other activities each week, even after rush. So I watched 30+ girls stop hanging out with girls they were becoming friends with simply because the sorority activities didn't allow time for them to do much else. Many of the girls couldn't go to parties with their "friends" from the dorm because "those sororities don't mix". So after a few months, they were just acquaintances, not real friends.
to me that is a sad state. It happens to many due to the peer pressure of being 18-20 and the desire to fit in with your sorority or groups.

Most people don’t stay friends with their first people they meet on campus, those are friendships of convenience.

DP. Most people do indeed stay friends with the people they meet during their first semester in college. That's when tight bonds are formed - naturally, not through some ranked Hunger Games system.

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Anonymous wrote:The whole rush process is demented. I don't know about SLACs, but I went to UGA 30 years ago, and it was bad then. From what I hear from friend's kids, social media has not made it better/

My DC is at my alma mater (where I was in a sorority) and I can conclusively say that social media has made the entire process much worse. This school (not Bama!) has had some students with fairly high social media profiles and the number of women going out for rush and having their hearts set on the “top” houses has ballooned. What used to be just an informal, niche, rumor mill kind of “ranking” system has become very entrenched and documented on the internet/social media and now everyone thinks they’re a failure if they don’t pledge XYZ house. That thing about having a bid for everyone? Doesn’t work that way anymore. Too many girls. It’s kind of interesting — the boys seem unaffected by it and, if anything, less interested in frats. Guys are still rushing, but numbers are down, and plenty of guys are looking at the pledge process (hazing) and saying “no thanks.” Social media ruins everything.

Agree. At my DD’s school, rush for the girls was the miserable, one bid nightmare the girls fear. Run by a grad student who didn’t care about the girls’ experiences at all. They didn’t open enough spaces for the increased enrollment to intentionally force the one unpopular house to grow, counting on all those one bid girls to settle instead of quit: USING those girls, their first college experience, and their emotions to reach their goals of saving that house.

The boys on the other hand just dirty rush, no formal recruitment. So laid back.

Immature women just love to hurt other women and rush lets them pick “winners” and “losers” and continuing the hierarchy that they claim doesn’t exist but secretly love and take pride in. And all of this misery is endorsed by the school and the directors of recruitment. At this school, it got so bad that mothers were telling their girls to go to a different state U of they wanted to rush.

All schools give girls one bid.

Another my daughter was too good for the sorority she gotten into so the system is judgmental and superficial, but my kid is not post.

This is not true. At my DC’s school, there were only enough bids for about 50% of the girls who went through rush.

And my DC is a boy, so I don’t have any personal interest in it. I just heard a lot about the aftermath, and it wasn’t pretty.

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Anonymous wrote:To summarize op, if your daughter will be traumatized if she is not given a bid to a “top” sorority, she should consider whether sorority rush is right for her. If she is open minded and looking for a group of girls that she might be compatible with, then she will likely do well.

The trauma is not about “top houses”. It’s about getting dropped by all but one house (and maybe one they didn’t like) only half way through rush. If that scenario is ok with your DD, then it’s ok.

That’s how the process works, both the girls and sororities winnow down so no girl will have more than 3 options on the last night. Other girls may have one or two. This is all explained to the girls beforehand.

If not getting invited back to any particular sorority is going to be traumatic for a girl, rush isn’t for them. Some girls aren’t as invested in a particular sorority or are fine with dropping out of rush if they don’t get into the one they want.

So every girl who starts the rush process and doesn’t drop out will have 1, 2, or 3 invitations to the final night? No girl will have zero invitations?

And if you’re invited to 1, 2, or 3 final night parties you’re guaranteed to get into one of them/there’s no chance that all of them drop you at that point?

(DP just trying to understand).

Yes that is correct. There is no cuts after the final night, the girls and sororities jusr make their lists. As long as a girl lists all the sororities that she was invited to that night on her match card, she will get a bid.

Don’t know how many times we have to say this. This may be true at your school. This is NOT true at every school.

[Anonymous]

I see we’ve entered the crazy sock puppeting stage of this thread. Happens every time . .

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The whole rush process is demented. I don't know about SLACs, but I went to UGA 30 years ago, and it was bad then. From what I hear from friend's kids, social media has not made it better/

My DC is at my alma mater (where I was in a sorority) and I can conclusively say that social media has made the entire process much worse. This school (not Bama!) has had some students with fairly high social media profiles and the number of women going out for rush and having their hearts set on the “top” houses has ballooned. What used to be just an informal, niche, rumor mill kind of “ranking” system has become very entrenched and documented on the internet/social media and now everyone thinks they’re a failure if they don’t pledge XYZ house. That thing about having a bid for everyone? Doesn’t work that way anymore. Too many girls. It’s kind of interesting — the boys seem unaffected by it and, if anything, less interested in frats. Guys are still rushing, but numbers are down, and plenty of guys are looking at the pledge process (hazing) and saying “no thanks.” Social media ruins everything.

Agree. At my DD’s school, rush for the girls was the miserable, one bid nightmare the girls fear. Run by a grad student who didn’t care about the girls’ experiences at all. They didn’t open enough spaces for the increased enrollment to intentionally force the one unpopular house to grow, counting on all those one bid girls to settle instead of quit: USING those girls, their first college experience, and their emotions to reach their goals of saving that house.

The boys on the other hand just dirty rush, no formal recruitment. So laid back.

Immature women just love to hurt other women and rush lets them pick “winners” and “losers” and continuing the hierarchy that they claim doesn’t exist but secretly love and take pride in. And all of this misery is endorsed by the school and the directors of recruitment. At this school, it got so bad that mothers were telling their girls to go to a different state U of they wanted to rush.

All schools give girls one bid.

Another my daughter was too good for the sorority she gotten into so the system is judgmental and superficial, but my kid is not post.

This is not true. At my DC’s school, there were only enough bids for about 50% of the girls who went through rush.

And my DC is a boy, so I don’t have any personal interest in it. I just heard a lot about the aftermath, and it wasn’t pretty.

I’m sure as a mom of a college aged boy you have more accurate info than a woman who handled in charge of rush at her sorority.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The whole rush process is demented. I don't know about SLACs, but I went to UGA 30 years ago, and it was bad then. From what I hear from friend's kids, social media has not made it better/

My DC is at my alma mater (where I was in a sorority) and I can conclusively say that social media has made the entire process much worse. This school (not Bama!) has had some students with fairly high social media profiles and the number of women going out for rush and having their hearts set on the “top” houses has ballooned. What used to be just an informal, niche, rumor mill kind of “ranking” system has become very entrenched and documented on the internet/social media and now everyone thinks they’re a failure if they don’t pledge XYZ house. That thing about having a bid for everyone? Doesn’t work that way anymore. Too many girls. It’s kind of interesting — the boys seem unaffected by it and, if anything, less interested in frats. Guys are still rushing, but numbers are down, and plenty of guys are looking at the pledge process (hazing) and saying “no thanks.” Social media ruins everything.

Agree. At my DD’s school, rush for the girls was the miserable, one bid nightmare the girls fear. Run by a grad student who didn’t care about the girls’ experiences at all. They didn’t open enough spaces for the increased enrollment to intentionally force the one unpopular house to grow, counting on all those one bid girls to settle instead of quit: USING those girls, their first college experience, and their emotions to reach their goals of saving that house.

The boys on the other hand just dirty rush, no formal recruitment. So laid back.

Immature women just love to hurt other women and rush lets them pick “winners” and “losers” and continuing the hierarchy that they claim doesn’t exist but secretly love and take pride in. And all of this misery is endorsed by the school and the directors of recruitment. At this school, it got so bad that mothers were telling their girls to go to a different state U of they wanted to rush.

All schools give girls one bid.

Another my daughter was too good for the sorority she gotten into so the system is judgmental and superficial, but my kid is not post.

This is not true. At my DC’s school, there were only enough bids for about 50% of the girls who went through rush.

And my DC is a boy, so I don’t have any personal interest in it. I just heard a lot about the aftermath, and it wasn’t pretty.

I’m sure as a mom of a college aged boy you have more accurate info than a woman who handled in charge of rush at her sorority.

And once again, just because your sorority at your school doesn't do it does NOT mean it doesn't happen elsewhere. You only have accurate information about rush at your sorority at your school.
There are hundreds of schools that Rush.
Plenty of people are stating that NOT EVERYONE gets bids at their school. So it obviously happens at many schools.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The whole rush process is demented. I don't know about SLACs, but I went to UGA 30 years ago, and it was bad then. From what I hear from friend's kids, social media has not made it better/

My DC is at my alma mater (where I was in a sorority) and I can conclusively say that social media has made the entire process much worse. This school (not Bama!) has had some students with fairly high social media profiles and the number of women going out for rush and having their hearts set on the “top” houses has ballooned. What used to be just an informal, niche, rumor mill kind of “ranking” system has become very entrenched and documented on the internet/social media and now everyone thinks they’re a failure if they don’t pledge XYZ house. That thing about having a bid for everyone? Doesn’t work that way anymore. Too many girls. It’s kind of interesting — the boys seem unaffected by it and, if anything, less interested in frats. Guys are still rushing, but numbers are down, and plenty of guys are looking at the pledge process (hazing) and saying “no thanks.” Social media ruins everything.

Agree. At my DD’s school, rush for the girls was the miserable, one bid nightmare the girls fear. Run by a grad student who didn’t care about the girls’ experiences at all. They didn’t open enough spaces for the increased enrollment to intentionally force the one unpopular house to grow, counting on all those one bid girls to settle instead of quit: USING those girls, their first college experience, and their emotions to reach their goals of saving that house.

The boys on the other hand just dirty rush, no formal recruitment. So laid back.

Immature women just love to hurt other women and rush lets them pick “winners” and “losers” and continuing the hierarchy that they claim doesn’t exist but secretly love and take pride in. And all of this misery is endorsed by the school and the directors of recruitment. At this school, it got so bad that mothers were telling their girls to go to a different state U of they wanted to rush.

All schools give girls one bid.

Another my daughter was too good for the sorority she gotten into so the system is judgmental and superficial, but my kid is not post.

This is not true. At my DC’s school, there were only enough bids for about 50% of the girls who went through rush.

And my DC is a boy, so I don’t have any personal interest in it. I just heard a lot about the aftermath, and it wasn’t pretty.

I’m sure as a mom of a college aged boy you have more accurate info than a woman who handled in charge of rush at her sorority.

And once again, just because your sorority at your school doesn't do it does NOT mean it doesn't happen elsewhere. You only have accurate information about rush at your sorority at your school.
There are hundreds of schools that Rush.
Plenty of people are stating that NOT EVERYONE gets bids at their school. So it obviously happens at many schools.

No, it isn’t obvious. Identify the school where you claim not everyone gets bids so we can get to the bottom of this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The whole rush process is demented. I don't know about SLACs, but I went to UGA 30 years ago, and it was bad then. From what I hear from friend's kids, social media has not made it better/

My DC is at my alma mater (where I was in a sorority) and I can conclusively say that social media has made the entire process much worse. This school (not Bama!) has had some students with fairly high social media profiles and the number of women going out for rush and having their hearts set on the “top” houses has ballooned. What used to be just an informal, niche, rumor mill kind of “ranking” system has become very entrenched and documented on the internet/social media and now everyone thinks they’re a failure if they don’t pledge XYZ house. That thing about having a bid for everyone? Doesn’t work that way anymore. Too many girls. It’s kind of interesting — the boys seem unaffected by it and, if anything, less interested in frats. Guys are still rushing, but numbers are down, and plenty of guys are looking at the pledge process (hazing) and saying “no thanks.” Social media ruins everything.

Agree. At my DD’s school, rush for the girls was the miserable, one bid nightmare the girls fear. Run by a grad student who didn’t care about the girls’ experiences at all. They didn’t open enough spaces for the increased enrollment to intentionally force the one unpopular house to grow, counting on all those one bid girls to settle instead of quit: USING those girls, their first college experience, and their emotions to reach their goals of saving that house.

The boys on the other hand just dirty rush, no formal recruitment. So laid back.

Immature women just love to hurt other women and rush lets them pick “winners” and “losers” and continuing the hierarchy that they claim doesn’t exist but secretly love and take pride in. And all of this misery is endorsed by the school and the directors of recruitment. At this school, it got so bad that mothers were telling their girls to go to a different state U of they wanted to rush.

All schools give girls one bid.

Another my daughter was too good for the sorority she gotten into so the system is judgmental and superficial, but my kid is not post.

This is not true. At my DC’s school, there were only enough bids for about 50% of the girls who went through rush.

And my DC is a boy, so I don’t have any personal interest in it. I just heard a lot about the aftermath, and it wasn’t pretty.

I’m sure as a mom of a college aged boy you have more accurate info than a woman who handled in charge of rush at her sorority.

+1 name the school.

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Anonymous wrote:Also, remember that each house has a large number of sisters. A girl may have 10 girls she knows and likes in the sorority. If she goes to a rush party and just talks to them, she likely won’t get in. Not because they “turn” on her because the other girls in the sorority who she doesn’t know still don’t know her after the party. It’s critical that a girl meet as many sisters as possible at each party.

In 20 minutes.

The whole process is strange. Pick "your best friends" for the next 4 years from 3-4 meetings, of 3-5 mins with 4 or 5 girls each time, all while you are working your hardest to "present yourself"---or rather let others pick your best friends for the next 4 years.

That's not how normal people pick friends. You hang out with people, get to know them by spending hours with them, not minutes. Hang out watching movies, go to dinner, shopping, playing games, going to parties, playing sports, studying, etc.. And you decide if they are for you once you really get to know them, not the other way around.

My daughter is a member of a sorority. I assure you she is very normal and this was not how she picked her best friends ; nor did she let others pick them for her. She is also on a varsity sports team and a member of a club that focuses on what she hopes to pursue as her career. Her two closest friends are not in her sorority. They are not even on her team or in the professional club. Imagine that! But please, go ahead and stereotype if that makes you feel better.

Where?

Rush and joining a sorority at St Mary’s or George Mason is an entirely different ballgame than UGA or Alabama. Completely different animals. And if your daughter didn’t grow up in the south, you don’t understand the pressure those girls get. It’s a different world.

You’ve made my point. Rush and sorority membership vary by school. Don’t stereotype.

And don’t judge the girls who’ve had horrible experiences. Because you don’t know how different it was for them or why.

And don’t act as though your DDs experience is the norm.it’s the same old arguments on this thread as usual. Just accept that the process works most of the time and your mileage may vary.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The whole rush process is demented. I don't know about SLACs, but I went to UGA 30 years ago, and it was bad then. From what I hear from friend's kids, social media has not made it better/

My DC is at my alma mater (where I was in a sorority) and I can conclusively say that social media has made the entire process much worse. This school (not Bama!) has had some students with fairly high social media profiles and the number of women going out for rush and having their hearts set on the “top” houses has ballooned. What used to be just an informal, niche, rumor mill kind of “ranking” system has become very entrenched and documented on the internet/social media and now everyone thinks they’re a failure if they don’t pledge XYZ house. That thing about having a bid for everyone? Doesn’t work that way anymore. Too many girls. It’s kind of interesting — the boys seem unaffected by it and, if anything, less interested in frats. Guys are still rushing, but numbers are down, and plenty of guys are looking at the pledge process (hazing) and saying “no thanks.” Social media ruins everything.

Agree. At my DD’s school, rush for the girls was the miserable, one bid nightmare the girls fear. Run by a grad student who didn’t care about the girls’ experiences at all. They didn’t open enough spaces for the increased enrollment to intentionally force the one unpopular house to grow, counting on all those one bid girls to settle instead of quit: USING those girls, their first college experience, and their emotions to reach their goals of saving that house.

The boys on the other hand just dirty rush, no formal recruitment. So laid back.

Immature women just love to hurt other women and rush lets them pick “winners” and “losers” and continuing the hierarchy that they claim doesn’t exist but secretly love and take pride in. And all of this misery is endorsed by the school and the directors of recruitment. At this school, it got so bad that mothers were telling their girls to go to a different state U of they wanted to rush.

All schools give girls one bid.

Another my daughter was too good for the sorority she gotten into so the system is judgmental and superficial, but my kid is not post.

This is not true. At my DC’s school, there were only enough bids for about 50% of the girls who went through rush.

And my DC is a boy, so I don’t have any personal interest in it. I just heard a lot about the aftermath, and it wasn’t pretty.

I’m sure as a mom of a college aged boy you have more accurate info than a woman who handled in charge of rush at her sorority.

And once again, just because your sorority at your school doesn't do it does NOT mean it doesn't happen elsewhere. You only have accurate information about rush at your sorority at your school.
There are hundreds of schools that Rush.
Plenty of people are stating that NOT EVERYONE gets bids at their school. So it obviously happens at many schools.

No, it isn’t obvious. Identify the school where you claim not everyone gets bids so we can get to the bottom of this.

Not the person you’re responding to but I understand this is true at UT Knoxville.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I see we’ve entered the crazy sock puppeting stage of this thread. Happens every time . .

Actually can't believe we have 16 pages of inane babbling and temper tantrums of how mean a voluntary process that 750,00 college students participate in.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The whole rush process is demented. I don't know about SLACs, but I went to UGA 30 years ago, and it was bad then. From what I hear from friend's kids, social media has not made it better/

My DC is at my alma mater (where I was in a sorority) and I can conclusively say that social media has made the entire process much worse. This school (not Bama!) has had some students with fairly high social media profiles and the number of women going out for rush and having their hearts set on the “top” houses has ballooned. What used to be just an informal, niche, rumor mill kind of “ranking” system has become very entrenched and documented on the internet/social media and now everyone thinks they’re a failure if they don’t pledge XYZ house. That thing about having a bid for everyone? Doesn’t work that way anymore. Too many girls. It’s kind of interesting — the boys seem unaffected by it and, if anything, less interested in frats. Guys are still rushing, but numbers are down, and plenty of guys are looking at the pledge process (hazing) and saying “no thanks.” Social media ruins everything.

Agree. At my DD’s school, rush for the girls was the miserable, one bid nightmare the girls fear. Run by a grad student who didn’t care about the girls’ experiences at all. They didn’t open enough spaces for the increased enrollment to intentionally force the one unpopular house to grow, counting on all those one bid girls to settle instead of quit: USING those girls, their first college experience, and their emotions to reach their goals of saving that house.

The boys on the other hand just dirty rush, no formal recruitment. So laid back.

Immature women just love to hurt other women and rush lets them pick “winners” and “losers” and continuing the hierarchy that they claim doesn’t exist but secretly love and take pride in. And all of this misery is endorsed by the school and the directors of recruitment. At this school, it got so bad that mothers were telling their girls to go to a different state U of they wanted to rush.

All schools give girls one bid.

Another my daughter was too good for the sorority she gotten into so the system is judgmental and superficial, but my kid is not post.

This is not true. At my DC’s school, there were only enough bids for about 50% of the girls who went through rush.

And my DC is a boy, so I don’t have any personal interest in it. I just heard a lot about the aftermath, and it wasn’t pretty.

I’m sure as a mom of a college aged boy you have more accurate info than a woman who handled in charge of rush at her sorority.

And once again, just because your sorority at your school doesn't do it does NOT mean it doesn't happen elsewhere. You only have accurate information about rush at your sorority at your school.
There are hundreds of schools that Rush.
Plenty of people are stating that NOT EVERYONE gets bids at their school. So it obviously happens at many schools.

No, it isn’t obvious. Identify the school where you claim not everyone gets bids so we can get to the bottom of this.

Not the person you’re responding to but I understand this is true at UT Knoxville.

Here is info about how formal rush works at UTenn Knoxville, which is identical to the process described in this thread, https://gogreek.utk.edu/about-us/how-to-join/panhellenic-recruitment/ They also have an informal spring rush which suggests some sororities aren’t meeting quota and are allowed to informally add additional girls.

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Yes you can end up with no bids, you can also be dropped entirely from rush for poor behavior. One girl i know had her sights set on a top house so she was purposefully rude to all the other houses. Told them flat out that she didn't need to be there. Well guess what, she was dropped by everyone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The whole rush process is demented. I don't know about SLACs, but I went to UGA 30 years ago, and it was bad then. From what I hear from friend's kids, social media has not made it better/

My DC is at my alma mater (where I was in a sorority) and I can conclusively say that social media has made the entire process much worse. This school (not Bama!) has had some students with fairly high social media profiles and the number of women going out for rush and having their hearts set on the “top” houses has ballooned. What used to be just an informal, niche, rumor mill kind of “ranking” system has become very entrenched and documented on the internet/social media and now everyone thinks they’re a failure if they don’t pledge XYZ house. That thing about having a bid for everyone? Doesn’t work that way anymore. Too many girls. It’s kind of interesting — the boys seem unaffected by it and, if anything, less interested in frats. Guys are still rushing, but numbers are down, and plenty of guys are looking at the pledge process (hazing) and saying “no thanks.” Social media ruins everything.

Agree. At my DD’s school, rush for the girls was the miserable, one bid nightmare the girls fear. Run by a grad student who didn’t care about the girls’ experiences at all. They didn’t open enough spaces for the increased enrollment to intentionally force the one unpopular house to grow, counting on all those one bid girls to settle instead of quit: USING those girls, their first college experience, and their emotions to reach their goals of saving that house.

The boys on the other hand just dirty rush, no formal recruitment. So laid back.

Immature women just love to hurt other women and rush lets them pick “winners” and “losers” and continuing the hierarchy that they claim doesn’t exist but secretly love and take pride in. And all of this misery is endorsed by the school and the directors of recruitment. At this school, it got so bad that mothers were telling their girls to go to a different state U of they wanted to rush.

All schools give girls one bid.

Another my daughter was too good for the sorority she gotten into so the system is judgmental and superficial, but my kid is not post.

This is not true. At my DC’s school, there were only enough bids for about 50% of the girls who went through rush.

And my DC is a boy, so I don’t have any personal interest in it. I just heard a lot about the aftermath, and it wasn’t pretty.

I’m sure as a mom of a college aged boy you have more accurate info than a woman who handled in charge of rush at her sorority.

And once again, just because your sorority at your school doesn't do it does NOT mean it doesn't happen elsewhere. You only have accurate information about rush at your sorority at your school.
There are hundreds of schools that Rush.
Plenty of people are stating that NOT EVERYONE gets bids at their school. So it obviously happens at many schools.

No, it isn’t obvious. Identify the school where you claim not everyone gets bids so we can get to the bottom of this.

Identify yourself so we can understand why you, internet stranger, are capable of getting to the bottom of this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I see we’ve entered the crazy sock puppeting stage of this thread. Happens every time . .

Actually can't believe we have 16 pages of inane babbling and temper tantrums of how mean a voluntary process that 750,00 college students participate in.

Your replies, tone, and callousness validate every negative stereotype about sorority mean girl behavior.