Overdressed and status symbols

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At DC’s school, many moms are totally overdressed for whatever the occasion is, and wear multiple, yet identical to each other, status symbols. Ie, the whole set of Van Cleef Alhambra jewelry, several Cartier or Tiffany bracelets (like 5 or so on each wrist). It’s all so OTT, and I don’t get it at all. I may wear one nice watch, or so, but even though I think I am well put together, these women make me feel like some sort of Cinderella covered in ashes. What is this style and do moms wear these items at your private?

Get therapy before you start drinking OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would feel like an idiot wearing a 10k bracelet.

Meanwhile, people in Europe and Asia will wonder what is wrong with you and this perspective on life. IMO, this guilt and self-consciousness are connected with American women's poor body image, overeating, and sexual disfunction. 43% of American women experience sexual disfunction, over 70% are overweight, almost half are obese. There is so much guilt or shame about everything in this country. You shouldn't feel like an idiot because of your outfit. 99% of people won't even pay attention and why would you care if the 1% judge you? Just live a little.

https://www.instagram.com/p/CncGf2sBVoM/

https://www.instagram.com/reel/CmFSIbtJpF6/

https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cm4oyVCBmhd/

Europeans have always been more fashionable. High fashion is much more common throughout Europe, then most of the United States. I would imagine that at some of the elite private schools throughout Europe you’re seeing purses, jewelry, etc. that are breathtaking.

The green Chanel blazer above is flawless. As is the rest of her outfit..

None of these women look elite or highly educated to me. Fashionable women do not wear name brands everywhere and those Prada clunky loafers with the name on them would not be considered fashionable. I like the blazer though.

You only say this because you have a very narrow set of experiences with highly educated/elite people. There’s a whole globe out there but you only know American WASPs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not at our school at all (and I've never heard of Van Cleef Alhambra). Very laid back vibe.

Really?

It's these:

Starting at $3500 for a full-size pendant. It's what all the sheeple are wearing. Now the teenagers are starting.

OMG my tween just bought one of these with her pocket money!

I'd never wear that.... then again. I'm mostly wearing lulu and Patagonia, so the most I go in diamond stud earrings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not at our school at all (and I've never heard of Van Cleef Alhambra). Very laid back vibe.

Really?

It's these:

Starting at $3500 for a full-size pendant. It's what all the sheeple are wearing. Now the teenagers are starting.

OMG my tween just bought one of these with her pocket money!

I'd never wear that.... then again. I'm mostly wearing lulu and Patagonia, so the most I go in diamond stud earrings.

They are definitely reached the stage of "mass marketing of fakes".
I was at Old Navy and the 16 year old clerk had on a necklace.
Two of my friends have fake earrings.
All are interchangeable with the real necklace to anyone viewing it from a foot away (it's a very simple design to copy).
I actually feel badly for anyone who paid thousands for the real.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Many of the moms who dress like this aren't new money but just have so f-ing much now its like brainless how they spend money and they all like nice things. These women are married to men who make millions per year, investing part of it and then making a ton of those investments. For some they cant even spend all that they have, it isn't really "keeping up with the jones." It's more like I saw Jane had this great necklace/bag etc. and I want it too and I can have it since I have a ton of disposable money. I find the women who actually work and make big incomes (over 500k per year) are somewhat disheveled, don't care and are aspie or are dressing just as nicely... the women who make money arent at pick up to see.

Disagree. There is a look and you can spot it instantly. It screams bad taste and flashy. It’s hard to explain but you can tell by looking. There is a vibe more fashionable women have and it can wreak of money but it doesn’t involve wearing all of this stuff to pick up. It is couture clothing, expensive but simple jewelry, nice purse and shoes but no labels showing. You would recognize the items if you shop at those places but they are subtle. That is how the truly wealthy and fashionable dress.

And those who don't dress that way don't deserve to be in your illustrious presence, I suppose. How this affects you in any way is truly beyond me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would feel like an idiot wearing a 10k bracelet.

Meanwhile, people in Europe and Asia will wonder what is wrong with you and this perspective on life. IMO, this guilt and self-consciousness are connected with American women's poor body image, overeating, and sexual disfunction. 43% of American women experience sexual disfunction, over 70% are overweight, almost half are obese. There is so much guilt or shame about everything in this country. You shouldn't feel like an idiot because of your outfit. 99% of people won't even pay attention and why would you care if the 1% judge you? Just live a little.

https://www.instagram.com/p/CncGf2sBVoM/

https://www.instagram.com/reel/CmFSIbtJpF6/

https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cm4oyVCBmhd/

Europeans have always been more fashionable. High fashion is much more common throughout Europe, then most of the United States. I would imagine that at some of the elite private schools throughout Europe you’re seeing purses, jewelry, etc. that are breathtaking.

The green Chanel blazer above is flawless. As is the rest of her outfit..

None of these women look elite or highly educated to me. Fashionable women do not wear name brands everywhere and those Prada clunky loafers with the name on them would not be considered fashionable. I like the blazer though.

You only say this because you have a very narrow set of experiences with highly educated/elite people. There’s a whole globe out there but you only know American WASPs.

I went to an Ivy and all those WASP witches coming from Andover were carrying 2.55 and epis to class.

[Anonymous]

Big 3 parent here, and I couldn't begin identify a Cartier bracelet or a Van Cleef Alhambra (whatever that is, it sounds ridiculous). I couldn't tell you what anyone wore (or didn't wear) at any school gathering since we joined 3 years ago. I never look at people's jewelry or shoes or handbags, so if they are wearing it to impress me it was money wasted (spoiler alert: it is always money wasted even if people do notice or care -- to me it has always seem needy and super desperate and frankly, sad).

You can free yourself from the hegemony of status symbols any time that you want: just stop paying attention to what other people wear (and, by extension, the cars they drive and the vacations they take). Trust me, none of that is a reliable indication of how much money people actually have, and more importantly, why do you care how much money other people have? You say you feel like Cinderella, but you are doing that to yourself. JUST IGNORE IT.

It is incredibly freeing to not care about this kind of nonsense. I read posts like this and I honestly feel sorry for people who are so desperate for the affirmation, admiration, and approval of others that they buy a bunch of useless junk and display it on their bodies in a bid for the attention they need and crave. What kind of childhood emotional neglect, or lack of nurturing leads to such vapidness and superficiality? I have never understood this kind of neediness but I am so grateful to have been spared the envy and insecurity that accompanies it.

OP, work on your interior life and ignore the status symbols. While your post approaches this subject with a critical tone, in angsting over other people's status symbols you are just every bit as caught up in it as they are. Free yourself. Stop noticing and stop caring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Big 3 parent here, and I couldn't begin identify a Cartier bracelet or a Van Cleef Alhambra (whatever that is, it sounds ridiculous). I couldn't tell you what anyone wore (or didn't wear) at any school gathering since we joined 3 years ago. I never look at people's jewelry or shoes or handbags, so if they are wearing it to impress me it was money wasted (spoiler alert: it is always money wasted even if people do notice or care -- to me it has always seem needy and super desperate and frankly, sad).

You can free yourself from the hegemony of status symbols any time that you want: just stop paying attention to what other people wear (and, by extension, the cars they drive and the vacations they take). Trust me, none of that is a reliable indication of how much money people actually have, and more importantly, why do you care how much money other people have? You say you feel like Cinderella, but you are doing that to yourself. JUST IGNORE IT.

It is incredibly freeing to not care about this kind of nonsense. I read posts like this and I honestly feel sorry for people who are so desperate for the affirmation, admiration, and approval of others that they buy a bunch of useless junk and display it on their bodies in a bid for the attention they need and crave. What kind of childhood emotional neglect, or lack of nurturing leads to such vapidness and superficiality? I have never understood this kind of neediness but I am so grateful to have been spared the envy and insecurity that accompanies it.

OP, work on your interior life and ignore the status symbols. While your post approaches this subject with a critical tone, in angsting over other people's status symbols you are just every bit as caught up in it as they are. Free yourself. Stop noticing and stop caring.

Girl you just said “big 3” though which is way worse than wearing those goose sneakers!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would feel like an idiot wearing a 10k bracelet.

Meanwhile, people in Europe and Asia will wonder what is wrong with you and this perspective on life. IMO, this guilt and self-consciousness are connected with American women's poor body image, overeating, and sexual disfunction. 43% of American women experience sexual disfunction, over 70% are overweight, almost half are obese. There is so much guilt or shame about everything in this country. You shouldn't feel like an idiot because of your outfit. 99% of people won't even pay attention and why would you care if the 1% judge you? Just live a little.

https://www.instagram.com/p/CncGf2sBVoM/

https://www.instagram.com/reel/CmFSIbtJpF6/

https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cm4oyVCBmhd/

These women all look great and I am happy for their happiness but the point is that they look the same as the woman wearing H&M to most of us and the parents at DC private schools would knock them over running to kiss up to John Roberts or whoever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would feel like an idiot wearing a 10k bracelet.

Meanwhile, people in Europe and Asia will wonder what is wrong with you and this perspective on life. IMO, this guilt and self-consciousness are connected with American women's poor body image, overeating, and sexual disfunction. 43% of American women experience sexual disfunction, over 70% are overweight, almost half are obese. There is so much guilt or shame about everything in this country. You shouldn't feel like an idiot because of your outfit. 99% of people won't even pay attention and why would you care if the 1% judge you? Just live a little.

https://www.instagram.com/p/CncGf2sBVoM/

https://www.instagram.com/reel/CmFSIbtJpF6/

https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cm4oyVCBmhd/

These women all look great and I am happy for their happiness but the point is that they look the same as the woman wearing H&M to most of us and the parents at DC private schools would knock them over running to kiss up to John Roberts or whoever.

Correct me if I’m wrong but it’s my understanding that H&M is single stitched, cheap materials, and doesn’t last very long but very fun. Nothing wrong with that but it’s my understanding that people shop there to get ultra trendy clothes really cheap and don’t care if they last very long. That’s not the same thing as not caring about fashion.

Also, I completely disagree with your description that DC area moms are easily starstruck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Big 3 parent here, and I couldn't begin identify a Cartier bracelet or a Van Cleef Alhambra (whatever that is, it sounds ridiculous). I couldn't tell you what anyone wore (or didn't wear) at any school gathering since we joined 3 years ago. I never look at people's jewelry or shoes or handbags, so if they are wearing it to impress me it was money wasted (spoiler alert: it is always money wasted even if people do notice or care -- to me it has always seem needy and super desperate and frankly, sad).

You can free yourself from the hegemony of status symbols any time that you want: just stop paying attention to what other people wear (and, by extension, the cars they drive and the vacations they take). Trust me, none of that is a reliable indication of how much money people actually have, and more importantly, why do you care how much money other people have? You say you feel like Cinderella, but you are doing that to yourself. JUST IGNORE IT.

It is incredibly freeing to not care about this kind of nonsense. I read posts like this and I honestly feel sorry for people who are so desperate for the affirmation, admiration, and approval of others that they buy a bunch of useless junk and display it on their bodies in a bid for the attention they need and crave. What kind of childhood emotional neglect, or lack of nurturing leads to such vapidness and superficiality? I have never understood this kind of neediness but I am so grateful to have been spared the envy and insecurity that accompanies it.

OP, work on your interior life and ignore the status symbols. While your post approaches this subject with a critical tone, in angsting over other people's status symbols you are just every bit as caught up in it as they are. Free yourself. Stop noticing and stop caring.

I love when (barely there) new money chimes in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Big 3 parent here, and I couldn't begin identify a Cartier bracelet or a Van Cleef Alhambra (whatever that is, it sounds ridiculous). I couldn't tell you what anyone wore (or didn't wear) at any school gathering since we joined 3 years ago. I never look at people's jewelry or shoes or handbags, so if they are wearing it to impress me it was money wasted (spoiler alert: it is always money wasted even if people do notice or care -- to me it has always seem needy and super desperate and frankly, sad).

You can free yourself from the hegemony of status symbols any time that you want: just stop paying attention to what other people wear (and, by extension, the cars they drive and the vacations they take). Trust me, none of that is a reliable indication of how much money people actually have, and more importantly, why do you care how much money other people have? You say you feel like Cinderella, but you are doing that to yourself. JUST IGNORE IT.

It is incredibly freeing to not care about this kind of nonsense. I read posts like this and I honestly feel sorry for people who are so desperate for the affirmation, admiration, and approval of others that they buy a bunch of useless junk and display it on their bodies in a bid for the attention they need and crave. What kind of childhood emotional neglect, or lack of nurturing leads to such vapidness and superficiality? I have never understood this kind of neediness but I am so grateful to have been spared the envy and insecurity that accompanies it.

OP, work on your interior life and ignore the status symbols. While your post approaches this subject with a critical tone, in angsting over other people's status symbols you are just every bit as caught up in it as they are. Free yourself. Stop noticing and stop caring.

PP, you are my kind of people. I would totally have coffee with you. In sweat pants!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would feel like an idiot wearing a 10k bracelet.

Meanwhile, people in Europe and Asia will wonder what is wrong with you and this perspective on life. IMO, this guilt and self-consciousness are connected with American women's poor body image, overeating, and sexual disfunction. 43% of American women experience sexual disfunction, over 70% are overweight, almost half are obese. There is so much guilt or shame about everything in this country. You shouldn't feel like an idiot because of your outfit. 99% of people won't even pay attention and why would you care if the 1% judge you? Just live a little.

https://www.instagram.com/p/CncGf2sBVoM/

https://www.instagram.com/reel/CmFSIbtJpF6/

https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cm4oyVCBmhd/

OMG okay well then replace H&M with whatever level of quality comes in between.
These women all look great and I am happy for their happiness but the point is that they look the same as the woman wearing H&M to most of us and the parents at DC private schools would knock them over running to kiss up to John Roberts or whoever.

Correct me if I’m wrong but it’s my understanding that H&M is single stitched, cheap materials, and doesn’t last very long but very fun. Nothing wrong with that but it’s my understanding that people shop there to get ultra trendy clothes really cheap and don’t care if they last very long. That’s not the same thing as not caring about fashion.

Also, I completely disagree with your description that DC area moms are easily starstruck.

[Anonymous]

NO! that Van Cleef Alhambra jewelry is hideous

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NO! that Van Cleef Alhambra jewelry is hideous

Oh please. It is gorgeous.