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[quote=Anonymous]Big 3 parent here, and I couldn't begin identify a Cartier bracelet or a Van Cleef Alhambra (whatever that is, it sounds ridiculous). I couldn't tell you what anyone wore (or didn't wear) at any school gathering since we joined 3 years ago. I never look at people's jewelry or shoes or handbags, so if they are wearing it to impress me it was money wasted (spoiler alert: it is always money wasted even if people do notice or care -- to me it has always seem needy and super desperate and frankly, sad).

You can free yourself from the hegemony of status symbols any time that you want: just stop paying attention to what other people wear (and, by extension, the cars they drive and the vacations they take).  Trust me, none of that is a reliable indication of how much money people actually have, and more importantly, why do you care how much money other people have? You say you feel like Cinderella, but you are doing that to yourself. JUST IGNORE IT.

It is incredibly freeing to not care about this kind of nonsense. I read posts like this and I honestly feel sorry for people who are so desperate for the affirmation, admiration, and approval of others that they buy a bunch of useless junk and display it on their bodies in a bid for the attention they need and crave. What kind of childhood emotional neglect, or lack of nurturing leads to such vapidness and superficiality? I have never understood this kind of neediness but I am so grateful to have been spared the envy and insecurity that accompanies it.

OP, work on your interior life and ignore the status symbols.  While your post approaches this subject with a critical tone, in angsting over other people's status symbols you are just every bit as caught up in it as they are. Free yourself. Stop noticing and stop caring. [/quote]

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