Redshirting my son for pre-k - May birthday

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Anonymous wrote:This is private school? You don’t have much choice. If you don’t want to redshirt your option is another private school or public.

There are a lot of anti-redshirters on DCUM who really don’t seem to understand how private school admissions work or even the difference between public and private so you have to take DCUM with a grain of salt.

If your appropriately-aged child doesn't get into private Kindergarten (and you applied, as OP clearly stated, to multiple schools), then it is pretty obvious that there is something wrong with him or with the parents.

Or there is just a lot of demand for private school and limited spots, and this was presented as an alternative for the child to be admitted to the family’s school of choice. If there was really “something wrong” they likely would have just rejected the application.

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Anonymous wrote:There will be a lot of “red-shirted” kids as a result of the pandemic. Many delayed starting kindergarten last year so a bunch of six year olds headed off to kinder this year. Our child switched schools to one that uses a different birthday cut off (July 1st) so ended up repeating a year (we moved to private to escape public virtual). It is what it is and people should stop making a big fuss about how old kids are, especially parents of other students. It just isn’t that big a deal.

You are far too rational for DCUMs hissing anti-redshirters. But of course you are right.

What an outstanding argument.

You can’t argue with DCUM anti redshirters. They are too irrational. You just have to pat them on the head and let them whine.

Yes, so irrational that they send their children to school on time. You have to pat your child on the head and whine that you have a low level child that they cannot handle the grade they are supposed to be in.

I am one of the PPs who did not redshirt. I just don’t understand the copious amounts of irrational whining from DCUM anti-redshirters.

The copious amount of redshirting is the reason.

My kids aren’t redshirted and I see no reason to whine like DCUMs anti-redshirters do. The excessive whining is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: OMG OP. People will make fun of you and your child for redshirting a May birthday. They will wonder why you did that - does he have a disability, ADHD, does he hit/fight with other kids? Parents will keep their kids away from him because they think there is something wrong with him.

And anti-redshirters wonder why so many people think DCUM anti-redshirters are socially stunted oddballs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is private school? You don’t have much choice. If you don’t want to redshirt your option is another private school or public.

There are a lot of anti-redshirters on DCUM who really don’t seem to understand how private school admissions work or even the difference between public and private so you have to take DCUM with a grain of salt.

If your appropriately-aged child doesn't get into private Kindergarten (and you applied, as OP clearly stated, to multiple schools), then it is pretty obvious that there is something wrong with him or with the parents.

Another person ignorant of private school admissions. They’d just reject him if they thought something was wrong. This is a kid who got into multiple private schools in a year where private school applications were through the roof. No, the kid is fine. As are the parents. They just want him in preK instead of K. And because admissions is competitive, they can do this.

But as was pointed out earlier OP is almost certainly a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: OMG OP. People will make fun of you and your child for redshirting a May birthday. They will wonder why you did that - does he have a disability, ADHD, does he hit/fight with other kids? Parents will keep their kids away from him because they think there is something wrong with him.

May birthday redshirt DS. No learning or developmental disabilities. . Never made fun of. Doing fine. If anything the trouble comes from the youngest in class. When they get in trouble parents always say, well he/she is really young. They are nice about it but it’s the youngest that are noted. And that is also fine. Kids mature differently. The only time oldest are mentioned is when the kid is tall. It almost always comes from short kids’ parents (who are also short) who are defensive about their kids size - hoping they won’t stay short. My DD is really tall but not redshirted and it’s like, yes she’s taller than your kid and you can’t make redshirt claims. Just like her redshirt brother, who is tall according to CDC growth charts which os done by age down to the month, not grade. They both do well in school.


Get over it. It depends on each kid - every child is different.

[Anonymous]

The only time I would say definitely do not redshirt is when the child is exceptionally bright - not just smart, but exceptional. This child may end up being bored and not challenged ( which can lead to other issues). In this case balance the possible social immaturity of the child with the intellectual needs. Otherwise red shirt according to your own understanding of YOUR child and no one else’s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: OMG OP. People will make fun of you and your child for redshirting a May birthday. They will wonder why you did that - does he have a disability, ADHD, does he hit/fight with other kids? Parents will keep their kids away from him because they think there is something wrong with him.

Step away from Fantasyland where parents act like this. Or if you aren't full of shit (highly unlikely) please name your welcoming and nurturing school where this is the norm?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: OMG OP. People will make fun of you and your child for redshirting a May birthday. They will wonder why you did that - does he have a disability, ADHD, does he hit/fight with other kids? Parents will keep their kids away from him because they think there is something wrong with him.

Step away from Fantasyland where parents act like this. Or if you aren't full of shit (highly unlikely) please name your welcoming and nurturing school where this is the norm?

You need to step away from Fantasyland in thinking that everything is all roses.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: OMG OP. People will make fun of you and your child for redshirting a May birthday. They will wonder why you did that - does he have a disability, ADHD, does he hit/fight with other kids? Parents will keep their kids away from him because they think there is something wrong with him.

Step away from Fantasyland where parents act like this. Or if you aren't full of shit (highly unlikely) please name your welcoming and nurturing school where this is the norm?

You need to step away from Fantasyland in thinking that everything is all roses.

Name the school or this didn't happen. You said it does, where?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: OMG OP. People will make fun of you and your child for redshirting a May birthday. They will wonder why you did that - does he have a disability, ADHD, does he hit/fight with other kids? Parents will keep their kids away from him because they think there is something wrong with him.

Step away from Fantasyland where parents act like this. Or if you aren't full of shit (highly unlikely) please name your welcoming and nurturing school where this is the norm?

+1 😂

[Anonymous]

Inappropriate to hold back a child without a valid reason which is one of two reasons-developmental delay or illness.
Most are disingenuous in their reason and do it to give their child a comparative advantage. They are essentially labeling their child as low level and low performing. It’s a tactic to gain a competitive edge but it burdens the child with the stigma of being less than which gets exasperated in their upper grades when others become aware.
Some teachers may selfishly suggest it as they believe more mature children are easier to handle. They confuse maturity with ability. Any payoff is diminished by third grade.
It’s also triggering because it cause great disparity among peers within a grade.

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Anonymous wrote: OMG OP. People will make fun of you and your child for redshirting a May birthday. They will wonder why you did that - does he have a disability, ADHD, does he hit/fight with other kids? Parents will keep their kids away from him because they think there is something wrong with him.

Step away from Fantasyland where parents act like this. Or if you aren't full of shit (highly unlikely) please name your welcoming and nurturing school where this is the norm?

You need to step away from Fantasyland in thinking that everything is all roses.

Name the school or this didn't happen. You said it does, where?

Name the school where you think everything is roses and all the kids are “welcoming and nurturing.” Give us all a break.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: OMG OP. People will make fun of you and your child for redshirting a May birthday. They will wonder why you did that - does he have a disability, ADHD, does he hit/fight with other kids? Parents will keep their kids away from him because they think there is something wrong with him.

Step away from Fantasyland where parents act like this. Or if you aren't full of shit (highly unlikely) please name your welcoming and nurturing school where this is the norm?

Are you confused? Fantasyland would be where none of those things happen.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: OMG OP. People will make fun of you and your child for redshirting a May birthday. They will wonder why you did that - does he have a disability, ADHD, does he hit/fight with other kids? Parents will keep their kids away from him because they think there is something wrong with him.

Step away from Fantasyland where parents act like this. Or if you aren't full of shit (highly unlikely) please name your welcoming and nurturing school where this is the norm?

Are you confused? Fantasyland would be where none of those things happen.

Still don’t want to name your school, huh?

[Anonymous]

I do think it’s kind of sad when a kid needs a six month boost over his peers just to get by in school.