Redshirting my son for pre-k - May birthday

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do think it’s kind of sad when a kid needs a six month boost over his peers just to get by in school.

I think it’s kind of sad a parent is threatened by a child six months older than theirs. Maybe their child isn’t doing as well as they hoped and maybe they are channeling their anger in some way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I do think it’s kind of sad when a kid needs a six month boost over his peers just to get by in school.

I think it’s kind of sad a parent is threatened by a child six months older than theirs. Maybe their child isn’t doing as well as they hoped and maybe they are channeling their anger in some way.

Nice reach as you conveniently leave out the wider age gap. I am also baffled by red shirters being threatened by children their own child’s age.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I do think it’s kind of sad when a kid needs a six month boost over his peers just to get by in school.

I think it’s kind of sad a parent is threatened by a child six months older than theirs. Maybe their child isn’t doing as well as they hoped and maybe they are channeling their anger in some way.

Yes, they redshirt when they think their child can’t do as well as they hope. This makes them angry so they can only opt to retain to try to keep up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: OMG OP. People will make fun of you and your child for redshirting a May birthday. They will wonder why you did that - does he have a disability, ADHD, does he hit/fight with other kids? Parents will keep their kids away from him because they think there is something wrong with him.

Step away from Fantasyland where parents act like this. Or if you aren't full of shit (highly unlikely) please name your welcoming and nurturing school where this is the norm?

Are you confused? Fantasyland would be where none of those things happen.

Still don’t want to name your school, huh?

DP. I wouldn’t worry about it. This isn’t something that happens with normal, well-adjusted folks (in other words, people other than DCUM anti-redshirters). You should just pity the original PP and especially her poor kids. Can you imagine living like that? What levels of paranoia that PP experiences on a daily basis? I mean it’s obviously paranoid rantings not based in any reality. It’s sad to watch but ultimately there isn’t much you can do about it. The school is of course almost entirely in her imagination, but what a cruel and hostile place her mind lives in.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: OMG OP. People will make fun of you and your child for redshirting a May birthday. They will wonder why you did that - does he have a disability, ADHD, does he hit/fight with other kids? Parents will keep their kids away from him because they think there is something wrong with him.

Step away from Fantasyland where parents act like this. Or if you aren't full of shit (highly unlikely) please name your welcoming and nurturing school where this is the norm?

You need to step away from Fantasyland in thinking that everything is all roses.

Name the school or this didn't happen. You said it does, where?

Name the school where you think everything is roses and all the kids are “welcoming and nurturing.” Give us all a break.

No school is perfectly welcoming and nurturing, though in my experience they’re a lot more so than when we were kids. And when teasing does occur from kids, it seems so strange that you think it has anything to do with when the child started kindergarten - that’s just not a normal playground (or hallway or sports field for older kids) taunt. And if it’s something the adults are saying, shame on them.

Maybe we could all just agree that everyone is doing the best they can and making the best choices they can. Those choices may not be the same as ours and that’s okay. Those choices may not be ones we agree with, but in a lot of cases that’s okay too. Start by assuming others are doing their best and acting with good intentions and go from there.

OP, if you’re still around and haven’t been scared off by all this, why not start by calling the school and asking them why they offered preK instead of kindergarten. Listen with an open mind and then think about whether the reasons make sense and whether you agree. Then make an informed decision.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: OMG OP. People will make fun of you and your child for redshirting a May birthday. They will wonder why you did that - does he have a disability, ADHD, does he hit/fight with other kids? Parents will keep their kids away from him because they think there is something wrong with him.

Step away from Fantasyland where parents act like this. Or if you aren't full of shit (highly unlikely) please name your welcoming and nurturing school where this is the norm?

Are you confused? Fantasyland would be where none of those things happen.

Still don’t want to name your school, huh?

DP. I wouldn’t worry about it. This isn’t something that happens with normal, well-adjusted folks (in other words, people other than DCUM anti-redshirters). You should just pity the original PP and especially her poor kids. Can you imagine living like that? What levels of paranoia that PP experiences on a daily basis? I mean it’s obviously paranoid rantings not based in any reality. It’s sad to watch but ultimately there isn’t much you can do about it. The school is of course almost entirely in her imagination, but what a cruel and hostile place her mind lives in.

You sound exactly like the parents you criticize.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: OMG OP. People will make fun of you and your child for redshirting a May birthday. They will wonder why you did that - does he have a disability, ADHD, does he hit/fight with other kids? Parents will keep their kids away from him because they think there is something wrong with him.

Step away from Fantasyland where parents act like this. Or if you aren't full of shit (highly unlikely) please name your welcoming and nurturing school where this is the norm?

You need to step away from Fantasyland in thinking that everything is all roses.

Name the school or this didn't happen. You said it does, where?

Name the school where you think everything is roses and all the kids are “welcoming and nurturing.” Give us all a break.

No school is perfectly welcoming and nurturing, though in my experience they’re a lot more so than when we were kids. And when teasing does occur from kids, it seems so strange that you think it has anything to do with when the child started kindergarten - that’s just not a normal playground (or hallway or sports field for older kids) taunt. And if it’s something the adults are saying, shame on them.

Maybe we could all just agree that everyone is doing the best they can and making the best choices they can. Those choices may not be the same as ours and that’s okay. Those choices may not be ones we agree with, but in a lot of cases that’s okay too. Start by assuming others are doing their best and acting with good intentions and go from there.

OP, if you’re still around and haven’t been scared off by all this, why not start by calling the school and asking them why they offered preK instead of kindergarten. Listen with an open mind and then think about whether the reasons make sense and whether you agree. Then make an informed decision.

Still in La La land?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do think it’s kind of sad when a kid needs a six month boost over his peers just to get by in school.

I think it’s kind of sad a parent is threatened by a child six months older than theirs. Maybe their child isn’t doing as well as they hoped and maybe they are channeling their anger in some way.

Nice reach as you conveniently leave out the wider age gap. I am also baffled by red shirters being threatened by children their own child’s age.

Nowhere has anyone posted that their child is threatened by a child their own age. It’s the other way around in the comments (people having issues with their younger child being around older kids).

[Anonymous]

There could be a lot of valid reasons for holding back at the pre-k mark. If you holdback after 6th grade....you are redshirting your kid.
Not a huge deal in grand scheme of things. Makes for great MS banter in sports, and gives some boys the confidence that they lack if they weren't one the older side of the class.

I happen to love the fact that my June bday son isn't a holdback and competes both academically and athletically with older boys.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: OMG OP. People will make fun of you and your child for redshirting a May birthday. They will wonder why you did that - does he have a disability, ADHD, does he hit/fight with other kids? Parents will keep their kids away from him because they think there is something wrong with him.

Step away from Fantasyland where parents act like this. Or if you aren't full of shit (highly unlikely) please name your welcoming and nurturing school where this is the norm?

You need to step away from Fantasyland in thinking that everything is all roses.

Name the school or this didn't happen. You said it does, where?

Name the school where you think everything is roses and all the kids are “welcoming and nurturing.” Give us all a break.

No school is perfectly welcoming and nurturing, though in my experience they’re a lot more so than when we were kids. And when teasing does occur from kids, it seems so strange that you think it has anything to do with when the child started kindergarten - that’s just not a normal playground (or hallway or sports field for older kids) taunt. And if it’s something the adults are saying, shame on them.

Maybe we could all just agree that everyone is doing the best they can and making the best choices they can. Those choices may not be the same as ours and that’s okay. Those choices may not be ones we agree with, but in a lot of cases that’s okay too. Start by assuming others are doing their best and acting with good intentions and go from there.

OP, if you’re still around and haven’t been scared off by all this, why not start by calling the school and asking them why they offered preK instead of kindergarten. Listen with an open mind and then think about whether the reasons make sense and whether you agree. Then make an informed decision.

Still in La La land?

Your mind is such a sad, bitter, delusional space.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: OMG OP. People will make fun of you and your child for redshirting a May birthday. They will wonder why you did that - does he have a disability, ADHD, does he hit/fight with other kids? Parents will keep their kids away from him because they think there is something wrong with him.

Step away from Fantasyland where parents act like this. Or if you aren't full of shit (highly unlikely) please name your welcoming and nurturing school where this is the norm?

You need to step away from Fantasyland in thinking that everything is all roses.

Name the school or this didn't happen. You said it does, where?

Name the school where you think everything is roses and all the kids are “welcoming and nurturing.” Give us all a break.

No school is perfectly welcoming and nurturing, though in my experience they’re a lot more so than when we were kids. And when teasing does occur from kids, it seems so strange that you think it has anything to do with when the child started kindergarten - that’s just not a normal playground (or hallway or sports field for older kids) taunt. And if it’s something the adults are saying, shame on them.

Maybe we could all just agree that everyone is doing the best they can and making the best choices they can. Those choices may not be the same as ours and that’s okay. Those choices may not be ones we agree with, but in a lot of cases that’s okay too. Start by assuming others are doing their best and acting with good intentions and go from there.

OP, if you’re still around and haven’t been scared off by all this, why not start by calling the school and asking them why they offered preK instead of kindergarten. Listen with an open mind and then think about whether the reasons make sense and whether you agree. Then make an informed decision.

Still in La La land?

Your mind is such a sad, bitter, delusional space.

Your mind is such a naive, incoherent, confused space.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do think it’s kind of sad when a kid needs a six month boost over his peers just to get by in school.

I think it’s kind of sad a parent is threatened by a child six months older than theirs. Maybe their child isn’t doing as well as they hoped and maybe they are channeling their anger in some way.

Nice reach as you conveniently leave out the wider age gap. I am also baffled by red shirters being threatened by children their own child’s age.

Nowhere has anyone posted that their child is threatened by a child their own age. It’s the other way around in the comments (people having issues with their younger child being around older kids).

If they weren’t threatened by children their own age, there would be no redshirting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: OMG OP. People will make fun of you and your child for redshirting a May birthday. They will wonder why you did that - does he have a disability, ADHD, does he hit/fight with other kids? Parents will keep their kids away from him because they think there is something wrong with him.

Step away from Fantasyland where parents act like this. Or if you aren't full of shit (highly unlikely) please name your welcoming and nurturing school where this is the norm?

Are you confused? Fantasyland would be where none of those things happen.

Still don’t want to name your school, huh?

DP. I wouldn’t worry about it. This isn’t something that happens with normal, well-adjusted folks (in other words, people other than DCUM anti-redshirters). You should just pity the original PP and especially her poor kids. Can you imagine living like that? What levels of paranoia that PP experiences on a daily basis? I mean it’s obviously paranoid rantings not based in any reality. It’s sad to watch but ultimately there isn’t much you can do about it. The school is of course almost entirely in her imagination, but what a cruel and hostile place her mind lives in.

You sound exactly like the parents you criticize.

I’m sorry you have problems with delusions. That must be challenging.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do think it’s kind of sad when a kid needs a six month boost over his peers just to get by in school.

I think it’s kind of sad a parent is threatened by a child six months older than theirs. Maybe their child isn’t doing as well as they hoped and maybe they are channeling their anger in some way.

Nice reach as you conveniently leave out the wider age gap. I am also baffled by red shirters being threatened by children their own child’s age.

Nowhere has anyone posted that their child is threatened by a child their own age. It’s the other way around in the comments (people having issues with their younger child being around older kids).

If they weren’t threatened by children their own age, there would be no redshirting.

God, you anti-redshirters are so weird. It’s kind of fascinating. I mean I feel sorry for you because your life seems terrible, but I have to admit I am entertained watching the train wreck of the DCUM anti-redshirters. I didn’t redshirt. I just find DCUM anti-redshirters entertaining because they are so strange.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do think it’s kind of sad when a kid needs a six month boost over his peers just to get by in school.

I think it’s kind of sad a parent is threatened by a child six months older than theirs. Maybe their child isn’t doing as well as they hoped and maybe they are channeling their anger in some way.

Nice reach as you conveniently leave out the wider age gap. I am also baffled by red shirters being threatened by children their own child’s age.

Nowhere has anyone posted that their child is threatened by a child their own age. It’s the other way around in the comments (people having issues with their younger child being around older kids).

There is a disparity in age. No child should be put at a disadvantage by others being put in a category to have an unfair edge not among his peers.
At this young of age the percentage of life difference is great. A one year old is very different to a two year old and it’s still a great disparity at age 5 compared to a a child who can be as close in age to nearly 7 in the same class. Later, it narrows but again, it’s still a major difference.
I know you understand that and being dismissive of that fact. It’s ridiculous.