Redshirting my son for pre-k - May birthday

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Anonymous wrote:While yes, there are some raging anti-red shirters here, please consider me a rational anti-red shirter. I did not redshirt my early July son. Do I think school would have been easier for him if I had, like all the time? Yes. But he was born before the cut off and one must learn to bloom where they are planted. Despite people saying only crazy anti-red shirters will make fun of him, I can tell you, there are cracks about the "8th grader driving himself to school" and the 22-year-old senior all the time, from all walks of parent and kid. The kids know who the spring hold backs are and they don't like it. July or Aug can sort of get away with it. There's a May hold back in my kid's class at one of the "big 3," and he's shooting for top schools next year and already the talk is, well, when you give yourself an extra year to rise above everybody else, etc. Really. Do not kid yourself, spring hold backs are not looked upon nicely. On top of that, it seems like you're holding your kid back just because you didn't get the private school you want? That's the worst part of all of this.

I am always so surprised when parents brag about how they teach their children to be bullies. It’s one of the most remarkable consistent self-owns on DCUM from the anti-redshirt posters.

I can assure you that my much more well-raised children do not make fun of kids because of their birthdays, and neither to the rest of the well-raised teens. I get that isn’t your children but your deficits as a parent aren’t their fault.

I didn't say it was my kid, did I? It's not. As I said, which you would know had you read more carefully, is that I hear others--kids and parents alike, saying it. It's typically at sporting events, but still. I was simply letting the OP know that she would be kidding herself if she thinks her kid won't be talked about. He will. Not one single word in my post said that I or my kids bullied others. We don't. Frankly, you are much more of a judgy name-caller here. You're insecure about your choice, I get it. But don't put down others when it's not deserved.

There you go judging again. But I do agree with you that the kid will be talked about and will carry that stigma. Nothing will be on his own merit.

Nothing a child ever does will be on their own merit simply because they may be a few months older than their peers? Really?

My kid technically just made the cut off but we didn’t think he was ready to go to kindergarten yet at age 4 so we waited another year and so far it’s proven to be the right decision. He’s only a few months older than most of his classmates.

Name one state or district that says a 4 year old can enter kindergarten. I’ve lived in 4 states and taught in the last 10 years and none did this.

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Anonymous wrote:While yes, there are some raging anti-red shirters here, please consider me a rational anti-red shirter. I did not redshirt my early July son. Do I think school would have been easier for him if I had, like all the time? Yes. But he was born before the cut off and one must learn to bloom where they are planted. Despite people saying only crazy anti-red shirters will make fun of him, I can tell you, there are cracks about the "8th grader driving himself to school" and the 22-year-old senior all the time, from all walks of parent and kid. The kids know who the spring hold backs are and they don't like it. July or Aug can sort of get away with it. There's a May hold back in my kid's class at one of the "big 3," and he's shooting for top schools next year and already the talk is, well, when you give yourself an extra year to rise above everybody else, etc. Really. Do not kid yourself, spring hold backs are not looked upon nicely. On top of that, it seems like you're holding your kid back just because you didn't get the private school you want? That's the worst part of all of this.

I am always so surprised when parents brag about how they teach their children to be bullies. It’s one of the most remarkable consistent self-owns on DCUM from the anti-redshirt posters.

I can assure you that my much more well-raised children do not make fun of kids because of their birthdays, and neither to the rest of the well-raised teens. I get that isn’t your children but your deficits as a parent aren’t their fault.

I didn't say it was my kid, did I? It's not. As I said, which you would know had you read more carefully, is that I hear others--kids and parents alike, saying it. It's typically at sporting events, but still. I was simply letting the OP know that she would be kidding herself if she thinks her kid won't be talked about. He will. Not one single word in my post said that I or my kids bullied others. We don't. Frankly, you are much more of a judgy name-caller here. You're insecure about your choice, I get it. But don't put down others when it's not deserved.

There you go judging again. But I do agree with you that the kid will be talked about and will carry that stigma. Nothing will be on his own merit.

Nothing a child ever does will be on their own merit simply because they may be a few months older than their peers? Really?

My kid technically just made the cut off but we didn’t think he was ready to go to kindergarten yet at age 4 so we waited another year and so far it’s proven to be the right decision. He’s only a few months older than most of his classmates.

Name one state or district that says a 4 year old can enter kindergarten. I’ve lived in 4 states and taught in the last 10 years and none did this.

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No one is talking about mere months and you know that.

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Anonymous wrote:19 pages in 24 hours for this?

Anti-redshirters are always solid DCUM entertainment. Gift that keeps giving.

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Anonymous wrote:People who redshirt their kids (those without a developmental delay) want to believe it is no big deal. They want to believe other kids don’t notice the physical differences between them when they are in middle school. They want to believe kids and parents aren’t talking about the fact that the kid was held back. However, kids and parents are talking about these redshirted kids. Also, the redshirted kids absolutely know they are older than most of the class and that their parents didn’t think they could succeed with kids their own age.

This, completely! I am a 49-year-old who was "red shirted" for kindergarten obviously a very very long time ago. I remember to this day how bad I felt about myself, at the time, and for many years, even into college. Don't get me wrong. I don't have issues with self-esteem to this day, but it was just a constant, nagging, uncomfortable feeling. And I was pretty irritated with my parents (mostly my mother because I know she was behind it) for a long time.

Wow. Maybes consider therapy? I’m exactly your age and was pushed ahead (so always the youngest by far) largely for my parents’ egos and it was a bit of a disaster but I sure as heck am not perseverating on that decision like you are. Yikes.

This person has posted about this before. She's failed at life and blames her parents for everything wrong with it. It's really bizarre.

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Anonymous wrote:While yes, there are some raging anti-red shirters here, please consider me a rational anti-red shirter. I did not redshirt my early July son. Do I think school would have been easier for him if I had, like all the time? Yes. But he was born before the cut off and one must learn to bloom where they are planted. Despite people saying only crazy anti-red shirters will make fun of him, I can tell you, there are cracks about the "8th grader driving himself to school" and the 22-year-old senior all the time, from all walks of parent and kid. The kids know who the spring hold backs are and they don't like it. July or Aug can sort of get away with it. There's a May hold back in my kid's class at one of the "big 3," and he's shooting for top schools next year and already the talk is, well, when you give yourself an extra year to rise above everybody else, etc. Really. Do not kid yourself, spring hold backs are not looked upon nicely. On top of that, it seems like you're holding your kid back just because you didn't get the private school you want? That's the worst part of all of this.

I am always so surprised when parents brag about how they teach their children to be bullies. It’s one of the most remarkable consistent self-owns on DCUM from the anti-redshirt posters.

I can assure you that my much more well-raised children do not make fun of kids because of their birthdays, and neither to the rest of the well-raised teens. I get that isn’t your children but your deficits as a parent aren’t their fault.

I didn't say it was my kid, did I? It's not. As I said, which you would know had you read more carefully, is that I hear others--kids and parents alike, saying it. It's typically at sporting events, but still. I was simply letting the OP know that she would be kidding herself if she thinks her kid won't be talked about. He will. Not one single word in my post said that I or my kids bullied others. We don't. Frankly, you are much more of a judgy name-caller here. You're insecure about your choice, I get it. But don't put down others when it's not deserved.

There you go judging again. But I do agree with you that the kid will be talked about and will carry that stigma. Nothing will be on his own merit.

Speak for your own toxic school environment.

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Anonymous wrote:While yes, there are some raging anti-red shirters here, please consider me a rational anti-red shirter. I did not redshirt my early July son. Do I think school would have been easier for him if I had, like all the time? Yes. But he was born before the cut off and one must learn to bloom where they are planted. Despite people saying only crazy anti-red shirters will make fun of him, I can tell you, there are cracks about the "8th grader driving himself to school" and the 22-year-old senior all the time, from all walks of parent and kid. The kids know who the spring hold backs are and they don't like it. July or Aug can sort of get away with it. There's a May hold back in my kid's class at one of the "big 3," and he's shooting for top schools next year and already the talk is, well, when you give yourself an extra year to rise above everybody else, etc. Really. Do not kid yourself, spring hold backs are not looked upon nicely. On top of that, it seems like you're holding your kid back just because you didn't get the private school you want? That's the worst part of all of this.

I am always so surprised when parents brag about how they teach their children to be bullies. It’s one of the most remarkable consistent self-owns on DCUM from the anti-redshirt posters.

I can assure you that my much more well-raised children do not make fun of kids because of their birthdays, and neither to the rest of the well-raised teens. I get that isn’t your children but your deficits as a parent aren’t their fault.

I didn't say it was my kid, did I? It's not. As I said, which you would know had you read more carefully, is that I hear others--kids and parents alike, saying it. It's typically at sporting events, but still. I was simply letting the OP know that she would be kidding herself if she thinks her kid won't be talked about. He will. Not one single word in my post said that I or my kids bullied others. We don't. Frankly, you are much more of a judgy name-caller here. You're insecure about your choice, I get it. But don't put down others when it's not deserved.

There you go judging again. But I do agree with you that the kid will be talked about and will carry that stigma. Nothing will be on his own merit.

Speak for your own toxic school environment.

The hypocrisy you have speaks for itself. I can get toxic environment right here just from you.

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Anonymous wrote:While yes, there are some raging anti-red shirters here, please consider me a rational anti-red shirter. I did not redshirt my early July son. Do I think school would have been easier for him if I had, like all the time? Yes. But he was born before the cut off and one must learn to bloom where they are planted. Despite people saying only crazy anti-red shirters will make fun of him, I can tell you, there are cracks about the "8th grader driving himself to school" and the 22-year-old senior all the time, from all walks of parent and kid. The kids know who the spring hold backs are and they don't like it. July or Aug can sort of get away with it. There's a May hold back in my kid's class at one of the "big 3," and he's shooting for top schools next year and already the talk is, well, when you give yourself an extra year to rise above everybody else, etc. Really. Do not kid yourself, spring hold backs are not looked upon nicely. On top of that, it seems like you're holding your kid back just because you didn't get the private school you want? That's the worst part of all of this.

I am always so surprised when parents brag about how they teach their children to be bullies. It’s one of the most remarkable consistent self-owns on DCUM from the anti-redshirt posters.

I can assure you that my much more well-raised children do not make fun of kids because of their birthdays, and neither to the rest of the well-raised teens. I get that isn’t your children but your deficits as a parent aren’t their fault.

I didn't say it was my kid, did I? It's not. As I said, which you would know had you read more carefully, is that I hear others--kids and parents alike, saying it. It's typically at sporting events, but still. I was simply letting the OP know that she would be kidding herself if she thinks her kid won't be talked about. He will. Not one single word in my post said that I or my kids bullied others. We don't. Frankly, you are much more of a judgy name-caller here. You're insecure about your choice, I get it. But don't put down others when it's not deserved.

There you go judging again. But I do agree with you that the kid will be talked about and will carry that stigma. Nothing will be on his own merit.

Nothing a child ever does will be on their own merit simply because they may be a few months older than their peers? Really?

My kid technically just made the cut off but we didn’t think he was ready to go to kindergarten yet at age 4 so we waited another year and so far it’s proven to be the right decision. He’s only a few months older than most of his classmates.

Name one state or district that says a 4 year old can enter kindergarten. I’ve lived in 4 states and taught in the last 10 years and none did this.

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No one is talking about mere months and you know that.

DP. Um OP is exactly talking about mere months.

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Anonymous wrote:While yes, there are some raging anti-red shirters here, please consider me a rational anti-red shirter. I did not redshirt my early July son. Do I think school would have been easier for him if I had, like all the time? Yes. But he was born before the cut off and one must learn to bloom where they are planted. Despite people saying only crazy anti-red shirters will make fun of him, I can tell you, there are cracks about the "8th grader driving himself to school" and the 22-year-old senior all the time, from all walks of parent and kid. The kids know who the spring hold backs are and they don't like it. July or Aug can sort of get away with it. There's a May hold back in my kid's class at one of the "big 3," and he's shooting for top schools next year and already the talk is, well, when you give yourself an extra year to rise above everybody else, etc. Really. Do not kid yourself, spring hold backs are not looked upon nicely. On top of that, it seems like you're holding your kid back just because you didn't get the private school you want? That's the worst part of all of this.

I am always so surprised when parents brag about how they teach their children to be bullies. It’s one of the most remarkable consistent self-owns on DCUM from the anti-redshirt posters.

I can assure you that my much more well-raised children do not make fun of kids because of their birthdays, and neither to the rest of the well-raised teens. I get that isn’t your children but your deficits as a parent aren’t their fault.

I didn't say it was my kid, did I? It's not. As I said, which you would know had you read more carefully, is that I hear others--kids and parents alike, saying it. It's typically at sporting events, but still. I was simply letting the OP know that she would be kidding herself if she thinks her kid won't be talked about. He will. Not one single word in my post said that I or my kids bullied others. We don't. Frankly, you are much more of a judgy name-caller here. You're insecure about your choice, I get it. But don't put down others when it's not deserved.

There you go judging again. But I do agree with you that the kid will be talked about and will carry that stigma. Nothing will be on his own merit.

Speak for your own toxic school environment.

The hypocrisy you have speaks for itself. I can get toxic environment right here just from you.

Interesting. The families at my school have a very different way of "talking" about redshirted kids I guess. Of the ones I know, they seem popular, have lots of friends, and get good grades. I'm not even sure beyond a few who has been and who hasn't. I wonder when all this bad gossip is supposed to start? High school? Never? If it's a problem it's not very apparent. I guess it just your school.

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Anonymous wrote:While yes, there are some raging anti-red shirters here, please consider me a rational anti-red shirter. I did not redshirt my early July son. Do I think school would have been easier for him if I had, like all the time? Yes. But he was born before the cut off and one must learn to bloom where they are planted. Despite people saying only crazy anti-red shirters will make fun of him, I can tell you, there are cracks about the "8th grader driving himself to school" and the 22-year-old senior all the time, from all walks of parent and kid. The kids know who the spring hold backs are and they don't like it. July or Aug can sort of get away with it. There's a May hold back in my kid's class at one of the "big 3," and he's shooting for top schools next year and already the talk is, well, when you give yourself an extra year to rise above everybody else, etc. Really. Do not kid yourself, spring hold backs are not looked upon nicely. On top of that, it seems like you're holding your kid back just because you didn't get the private school you want? That's the worst part of all of this.

I am always so surprised when parents brag about how they teach their children to be bullies. It’s one of the most remarkable consistent self-owns on DCUM from the anti-redshirt posters.

I can assure you that my much more well-raised children do not make fun of kids because of their birthdays, and neither to the rest of the well-raised teens. I get that isn’t your children but your deficits as a parent aren’t their fault.

I didn't say it was my kid, did I? It's not. As I said, which you would know had you read more carefully, is that I hear others--kids and parents alike, saying it. It's typically at sporting events, but still. I was simply letting the OP know that she would be kidding herself if she thinks her kid won't be talked about. He will. Not one single word in my post said that I or my kids bullied others. We don't. Frankly, you are much more of a judgy name-caller here. You're insecure about your choice, I get it. But don't put down others when it's not deserved.

Of course it was your kid. Nobody normal and well-adjusted notices age like that. I’ve been to many, many sporting events for elite teen athletes and those conversations don’t happen. But you encourage it from your kid, so your kid does act badly. I’m sorry about that, but that doesn’t make your behavior typical, thankfully.

I didn’t redshirt either. I just dislike parents like you who brag about how they are raising little bullies, which a lot of the DCUM anti-redshirters do.

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Anonymous wrote:While yes, there are some raging anti-red shirters here, please consider me a rational anti-red shirter. I did not redshirt my early July son. Do I think school would have been easier for him if I had, like all the time? Yes. But he was born before the cut off and one must learn to bloom where they are planted. Despite people saying only crazy anti-red shirters will make fun of him, I can tell you, there are cracks about the "8th grader driving himself to school" and the 22-year-old senior all the time, from all walks of parent and kid. The kids know who the spring hold backs are and they don't like it. July or Aug can sort of get away with it. There's a May hold back in my kid's class at one of the "big 3," and he's shooting for top schools next year and already the talk is, well, when you give yourself an extra year to rise above everybody else, etc. Really. Do not kid yourself, spring hold backs are not looked upon nicely. On top of that, it seems like you're holding your kid back just because you didn't get the private school you want? That's the worst part of all of this.

I am always so surprised when parents brag about how they teach their children to be bullies. It’s one of the most remarkable consistent self-owns on DCUM from the anti-redshirt posters.

I can assure you that my much more well-raised children do not make fun of kids because of their birthdays, and neither to the rest of the well-raised teens. I get that isn’t your children but your deficits as a parent aren’t their fault.

I didn't say it was my kid, did I? It's not. As I said, which you would know had you read more carefully, is that I hear others--kids and parents alike, saying it. It's typically at sporting events, but still. I was simply letting the OP know that she would be kidding herself if she thinks her kid won't be talked about. He will. Not one single word in my post said that I or my kids bullied others. We don't. Frankly, you are much more of a judgy name-caller here. You're insecure about your choice, I get it. But don't put down others when it's not deserved.

There you go judging again. But I do agree with you that the kid will be talked about and will carry that stigma. Nothing will be on his own merit.

Nothing a child ever does will be on their own merit simply because they may be a few months older than their peers? Really?

My kid technically just made the cut off but we didn’t think he was ready to go to kindergarten yet at age 4 so we waited another year and so far it’s proven to be the right decision. He’s only a few months older than most of his classmates.

Name one state or district that says a 4 year old can enter kindergarten. I’ve lived in 4 states and taught in the last 10 years and none did this.

Virginia, Maryland, DC and many other states have children entering kindergarten at 4. For example, in FCPS, the cutoff date is 9/30. For a kid born on 9/28/2017, they are eligible to enter kindergarten in August 2022 but will remain 4 years old for the first 4-5 weeks of school or so.

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Anonymous wrote:While yes, there are some raging anti-red shirters here, please consider me a rational anti-red shirter. I did not redshirt my early July son. Do I think school would have been easier for him if I had, like all the time? Yes. But he was born before the cut off and one must learn to bloom where they are planted. Despite people saying only crazy anti-red shirters will make fun of him, I can tell you, there are cracks about the "8th grader driving himself to school" and the 22-year-old senior all the time, from all walks of parent and kid. The kids know who the spring hold backs are and they don't like it. July or Aug can sort of get away with it. There's a May hold back in my kid's class at one of the "big 3," and he's shooting for top schools next year and already the talk is, well, when you give yourself an extra year to rise above everybody else, etc. Really. Do not kid yourself, spring hold backs are not looked upon nicely. On top of that, it seems like you're holding your kid back just because you didn't get the private school you want? That's the worst part of all of this.

I am always so surprised when parents brag about how they teach their children to be bullies. It’s one of the most remarkable consistent self-owns on DCUM from the anti-redshirt posters.

I can assure you that my much more well-raised children do not make fun of kids because of their birthdays, and neither to the rest of the well-raised teens. I get that isn’t your children but your deficits as a parent aren’t their fault.

I didn't say it was my kid, did I? It's not. As I said, which you would know had you read more carefully, is that I hear others--kids and parents alike, saying it. It's typically at sporting events, but still. I was simply letting the OP know that she would be kidding herself if she thinks her kid won't be talked about. He will. Not one single word in my post said that I or my kids bullied others. We don't. Frankly, you are much more of a judgy name-caller here. You're insecure about your choice, I get it. But don't put down others when it's not deserved.

There you go judging again. But I do agree with you that the kid will be talked about and will carry that stigma. Nothing will be on his own merit.

Nothing a child ever does will be on their own merit simply because they may be a few months older than their peers? Really?

My kid technically just made the cut off but we didn’t think he was ready to go to kindergarten yet at age 4 so we waited another year and so far it’s proven to be the right decision. He’s only a few months older than most of his classmates.

Name one state or district that says a 4 year old can enter kindergarten. I’ve lived in 4 states and taught in the last 10 years and none did this.

At least in Virginia, if the child is age 4 on the first day of school and turns 5 by September 30th, they may enroll in kinder. Our kid with a September 29th birthday was not ready for kinder last fall. And the guidelines clearly give partners the option to decide whether the child is ready to enroll. He turned 6 several weeks intkk on school this year, followed by several of his classmates who have had sixth birthdays this winter and spring.

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I think the person insisting the cutoff does not allow four-year-olds in K is natural law anti-redshirter. She has a tenuous grasp on reality.

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NP -if you guys are going to nit-pick about a few weeks of being 4 in kinder (which is very rare) then the anti redshirters can certainly nit-pick about having kids monumentally more weeks older than the norm.

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Anonymous wrote:While yes, there are some raging anti-red shirters here, please consider me a rational anti-red shirter. I did not redshirt my early July son. Do I think school would have been easier for him if I had, like all the time? Yes. But he was born before the cut off and one must learn to bloom where they are planted. Despite people saying only crazy anti-red shirters will make fun of him, I can tell you, there are cracks about the "8th grader driving himself to school" and the 22-year-old senior all the time, from all walks of parent and kid. The kids know who the spring hold backs are and they don't like it. July or Aug can sort of get away with it. There's a May hold back in my kid's class at one of the "big 3," and he's shooting for top schools next year and already the talk is, well, when you give yourself an extra year to rise above everybody else, etc. Really. Do not kid yourself, spring hold backs are not looked upon nicely. On top of that, it seems like you're holding your kid back just because you didn't get the private school you want? That's the worst part of all of this.

I am always so surprised when parents brag about how they teach their children to be bullies. It’s one of the most remarkable consistent self-owns on DCUM from the anti-redshirt posters.

I can assure you that my much more well-raised children do not make fun of kids because of their birthdays, and neither to the rest of the well-raised teens. I get that isn’t your children but your deficits as a parent aren’t their fault.

I didn't say it was my kid, did I? It's not. As I said, which you would know had you read more carefully, is that I hear others--kids and parents alike, saying it. It's typically at sporting events, but still. I was simply letting the OP know that she would be kidding herself if she thinks her kid won't be talked about. He will. Not one single word in my post said that I or my kids bullied others. We don't. Frankly, you are much more of a judgy name-caller here. You're insecure about your choice, I get it. But don't put down others when it's not deserved.

There you go judging again. But I do agree with you that the kid will be talked about and will carry that stigma. Nothing will be on his own merit.

Nothing a child ever does will be on their own merit simply because they may be a few months older than their peers? Really?

My kid technically just made the cut off but we didn’t think he was ready to go to kindergarten yet at age 4 so we waited another year and so far it’s proven to be the right decision. He’s only a few months older than most of his classmates.

Name one state or district that says a 4 year old can enter kindergarten. I’ve lived in 4 states and taught in the last 10 years and none did this.

Virginia, Maryland, DC and many other states have children entering kindergarten at 4. For example, in FCPS, the cutoff date is 9/30. For a kid born on 9/28/2017, they are eligible to enter kindergarten in August 2022 but will remain 4 years old for the first 4-5 weeks of school or so.

A few weeks in nominal and very few children would fit into that.

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Anonymous wrote:While yes, there are some raging anti-red shirters here, please consider me a rational anti-red shirter. I did not redshirt my early July son. Do I think school would have been easier for him if I had, like all the time? Yes. But he was born before the cut off and one must learn to bloom where they are planted. Despite people saying only crazy anti-red shirters will make fun of him, I can tell you, there are cracks about the "8th grader driving himself to school" and the 22-year-old senior all the time, from all walks of parent and kid. The kids know who the spring hold backs are and they don't like it. July or Aug can sort of get away with it. There's a May hold back in my kid's class at one of the "big 3," and he's shooting for top schools next year and already the talk is, well, when you give yourself an extra year to rise above everybody else, etc. Really. Do not kid yourself, spring hold backs are not looked upon nicely. On top of that, it seems like you're holding your kid back just because you didn't get the private school you want? That's the worst part of all of this.

I am always so surprised when parents brag about how they teach their children to be bullies. It’s one of the most remarkable consistent self-owns on DCUM from the anti-redshirt posters.

I can assure you that my much more well-raised children do not make fun of kids because of their birthdays, and neither to the rest of the well-raised teens. I get that isn’t your children but your deficits as a parent aren’t their fault.

I didn't say it was my kid, did I? It's not. As I said, which you would know had you read more carefully, is that I hear others--kids and parents alike, saying it. It's typically at sporting events, but still. I was simply letting the OP know that she would be kidding herself if she thinks her kid won't be talked about. He will. Not one single word in my post said that I or my kids bullied others. We don't. Frankly, you are much more of a judgy name-caller here. You're insecure about your choice, I get it. But don't put down others when it's not deserved.

There you go judging again. But I do agree with you that the kid will be talked about and will carry that stigma. Nothing will be on his own merit.

Nothing a child ever does will be on their own merit simply because they may be a few months older than their peers? Really?

My kid technically just made the cut off but we didn’t think he was ready to go to kindergarten yet at age 4 so we waited another year and so far it’s proven to be the right decision. He’s only a few months older than most of his classmates.

Name one state or district that says a 4 year old can enter kindergarten. I’ve lived in 4 states and taught in the last 10 years and none did this.

Virginia, Maryland, DC and many other states have children entering kindergarten at 4. For example, in FCPS, the cutoff date is 9/30. For a kid born on 9/28/2017, they are eligible to enter kindergarten in August 2022 but will remain 4 years old for the first 4-5 weeks of school or so.

It’s hardly 4 years old in Maryland, maybe a week or two. I wouldn’t put much stock into saying one can enroll their child at 4 years of age. Seemingly makes it sound like they can be 4 years old at any age of 4. That’s not the case.