Redshirting my son for pre-k - May birthday

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re fine, OP - especially since your school is on board. We sent out son to a second year of pre-K at the suggestion of our school, and we are so glad we did. There are March (!!) and April birthdays in his class who were held. Our son is late August so we are really glad we did it just with the composition of the grade.

If you agree with it, why put the !! behind the March month. Obviously, even you know it’s over the top.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did not red shirt my May kid and he was always 1 step behind. It was not earth shattering but it was clear he could have used another year. Most kids weren’t 1 month older most weeks 6-9 months older. It was obvious in 3rd, It was worst in middle school.

The problem was he was tall, personable and athletic… so he seemed more mature in K-5, but he clearly struggled socially and academically (except in math).

Just redshirt him.

Sound like you child was delayed regardless.

[Anonymous]

No, only for summer birthday or a developmental delay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But I can't help wondering....did this (or another) redshirted kid edge out my non-redshirted kid for pre k spots? Would my kid have been accepted instead of waitlisted if they had only to compete with kids within their age band and not with half of the K applicants as well...

Maybe. And maybe that's what happened to OP's kid for K. And maybe you'll choose to apply to pre-K again next year as a result.

[Anonymous]

Yikes. Poor kid.

[Anonymous]

Redshirting in pre-k for a 5 year old? Are you out of your mind? You should be getting flack.

[Anonymous]

Is this is a troll, do not redshirt.
If this is not a troll, still do not redshirt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t listen to the anti-redshirt hysteria on here. Most of it comes from scarcity mindset. Certain parents believe that kids are marked as advanced or whatever early on, and that redshirted kids have an advantage over their non-redshirted kid in that regard. That is the real source of pushback here. If what they believe is true, they’d rather it be your kid that is disadvantaged. BTW, I don’t think it is true and neither of my DC’s redshirted.

+1

I didn’t redshirt and I think DCUM anti-redshirters are largely insane and bizarrely competitive weirdos.

If they were bizarrely competitive, then they would be pro-redshirters.

They are very bizarrely competitive, being anti-redshirters on this forum.
They just don't want other redshirted kids to be in the same cohort with their kids. It shows they know the benefit of redshirting, and they don't want their own kids to have to compete with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But I can't help wondering....did this (or another) redshirted kid edge out my non-redshirted kid for pre k spots? Would my kid have been accepted instead of waitlisted if they had only to compete with kids within their age band and not with half of the K applicants as well...

Maybe, but though it sounds harsh, it's because they wanted the other kid more than they wanted yours. OP applied for kindergarten and got offered a spot in Prek, which means admissions decided they wanted him but he wasn't ready for kindergarten.

Or maybe they wanted your kid but thought he wasn't ready for PreK, and there's not a pre-preK to which they could admit him. Apply to k next year and see what happens - maybe he'll be admitted to either K or PreK.

[Anonymous]

The “can’t get a to anywhere for kinder” is bs. Send him elsewhere. You’re going to redshirt him over some schools not willing to let him in? That is not a reason to withhold him from the grade he should be in. That is absurd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t listen to the anti-redshirt hysteria on here. Most of it comes from scarcity mindset. Certain parents believe that kids are marked as advanced or whatever early on, and that redshirted kids have an advantage over their non-redshirted kid in that regard. That is the real source of pushback here. If what they believe is true, they’d rather it be your kid that is disadvantaged. BTW, I don’t think it is true and neither of my DC’s redshirted.

+1

I didn’t redshirt and I think DCUM anti-redshirters are largely insane and bizarrely competitive weirdos.

If they were bizarrely competitive, then they would be pro-redshirters.

They are very bizarrely competitive, being anti-redshirters on this forum.
They just don't want other redshirted kids to be in the same cohort with their kids. It shows they know the benefit of redshirting, and they don't want their own kids to have to compete with them.

You redshirted because your child can’t keep up, huh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t listen to the anti-redshirt hysteria on here. Most of it comes from scarcity mindset. Certain parents believe that kids are marked as advanced or whatever early on, and that redshirted kids have an advantage over their non-redshirted kid in that regard. That is the real source of pushback here. If what they believe is true, they’d rather it be your kid that is disadvantaged. BTW, I don’t think it is true and neither of my DC’s redshirted.

+1

I didn’t redshirt and I think DCUM anti-redshirters are largely insane and bizarrely competitive weirdos.

If they were bizarrely competitive, then they would be pro-redshirters.

They are very bizarrely competitive, being anti-redshirters on this forum.
They just don't want other redshirted kids to be in the same cohort with their kids. It shows they know the benefit of redshirting, and they don't want their own kids to have to compete with them.

More like your redshirted kid loses any advantage that you’ve tried to give him.

[Anonymous]

For those who are saying so strongly don't redshirt, I'm wondering what you suggest OP do? It's not as if she can send her child to kindergarten at their chosen school instead; the school has offered him a preK spot only. So you want her to say, "No, the people of the internet are very against redshirting, so we'll just decline admission altogether? Because the anonymous strangers think redshirting is very bad."

If you disagree with redshirting IN GENERAL, take it up with the schools (or maybe with parents who seek out redshirting by delaying application a year), not this particular poster. She has to work within the options given, and this poster turning down this spot isn't going to change the system, just deny her son a spot at the school they chose.

[Anonymous]

Don’t do it. May is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t listen to the anti-redshirt hysteria on here. Most of it comes from scarcity mindset. Certain parents believe that kids are marked as advanced or whatever early on, and that redshirted kids have an advantage over their non-redshirted kid in that regard. That is the real source of pushback here. If what they believe is true, they’d rather it be your kid that is disadvantaged. BTW, I don’t think it is true and neither of my DC’s redshirted.

+1

I didn’t redshirt and I think DCUM anti-redshirters are largely insane and bizarrely competitive weirdos.

If they were bizarrely competitive, then they would be pro-redshirters.

They are very bizarrely competitive, being anti-redshirters on this forum.
They just don't want other redshirted kids to be in the same cohort with their kids. It shows they know the benefit of redshirting, and they don't want their own kids to have to compete with them.

You redshirted because your child can’t keep up, huh?

You are a weirdo.
According to your comment, should I then assume that your child was not eligible to redshirt, or you did not reshirt for some reason, and have regrets now because your child is behind of those redshirted kids. Is this how the game is played here?