Do any of your boyfriends/ husbands like you a normal weight vs skinny?

[Anonymous]

Depending on age, OP is in a healthy weight range at 23% body fat:

Women:

20-40 yrs old: Underfat: under 21 percent, Healthy: 21-33 percent, Overweight: 33-39 percent, Obese: Over 39 percent
41-60 yrs old: Underfat: under 23 percent, Healthy: 23-35 percent, Overweight : 35-40 percent Obese: over 40 percent
61-79 yrs old: Underfat: under 24 percent, Healthy: 24-36 percent, Overweight: 36-42 percent, Obese: over 42 percent

Her boyfriend’s preference is probably what most men find attractive. He’s not an outlier, nor is OP. I think the triggered people are those who are actually overweight or obese. OP seems very healthy.

[Anonymous]

I don't think people who feel good about their lives and bodies mock other people for their weight, either online or in person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like my women to be like my vehicles, big and comfy.

So....they're like the Love Boat while you're the little Dinghy.

Your Mom likes my little Dinghy

[Anonymous]

This thread has gone off the rails. OP didn’t ask about fat women she said skinny vs normal weight.

Most men (not all) are not as obsessed with women being thin as women are. Women like to be skinny to impress other women. Men do not generally find skinny to be sexually attractive.

I’ve never been fat but, within the normal BMI range, men consistently and noticeably find me more attractive at a higher weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread has gone off the rails. OP didn’t ask about fat women she said skinny vs normal weight.

Most men (not all) are not as obsessed with women being thin as women are. Women like to be skinny to impress other women. Men do not generally find skinny to be sexually attractive.

I’ve never been fat but, within the normal BMI range, men consistently and noticeably find me more attractive at a higher weight.

OP said her bf likes her at 23% body fat, which is healthy as per chart above. She can even go up some and be considered healthy. I bet men would find women in the range of healthy (which is pretty wide) to be sexy, but would find women over that range to be unattractive.

[Anonymous]

this may be a DCUM first, but this thread has actually had a positive and healthy impact on my life and habits! I've been thin (size 0 or 2) forever, from my teens to my current age, 40, sometimes obsessively so. yoga, exercies, diet, -- i am very aware of all these things. I love the way i look in clothes, always have a partner, etc.

But this thread is making me think that maybe I actually *can* eat a burger now and then, maybe inch up to a size 4, and still be lovable? I asked my husband and he said his upper limit is "i have to be able to pick you up." but he also agreed that indeed that is a lower limit beyond which you are so thin you no longer look that attractive.

mind blown. this is not a joke. I am honestly eating a bit more now after reading this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread has gone off the rails. OP didn’t ask about fat women she said skinny vs normal weight.

Most men (not all) are not as obsessed with women being thin as women are. Women like to be skinny to impress other women. Men do not generally find skinny to be sexually attractive.

I’ve never been fat but, within the normal BMI range, men consistently and noticeably find me more attractive at a higher weight.

This.

“You shouldn’t eat that. Your butt won’t fit into size 2 jeans”

- Said no straight man ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Im not sure what you mean by “normal weight”. I’m 5’5 and 115 pounds. I’m 55 years old. Other than when I was pregnant, I’ve been the same weight since high school. 115 is normal for me. I eat a ton. I’m just very active. I’ll never be heavier than this. My husband seems ok with it given the obesity too often seen in women my age.

Presumably "normal weight" as in the normal weight range as designated by the government. You would probably be underweight, aka not that range

Considering OP mentions stomach fat I assume she means America "Normal" or overweight. The pp you are replying to is not underweight.

Dp. Yes she is

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread has gone off the rails. OP didn’t ask about fat women she said skinny vs normal weight.

Most men (not all) are not as obsessed with women being thin as women are. Women like to be skinny to impress other women. Men do not generally find skinny to be sexually attractive.

I’ve never been fat but, within the normal BMI range, men consistently and noticeably find me more attractive at a higher weight.

This.

“You shouldn’t eat that. Your butt won’t fit into size 2 jeans”

- Said no straight man ever.

I had an abusive boyfriend who was negative about my body when I started lifting and eating and stopped being a size 0. Never say never.

[Anonymous]

I’m 5’6”. My husband wasn’t really a fan of me being 106 because my chest got smaller, but 136 would be way too much for him.

[Anonymous]

Some of you weigh the same as a healthy tween child. That would be a huge red flag for a man to be attracted to. Yikes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:this may be a DCUM first, but this thread has actually had a positive and healthy impact on my life and habits! I've been thin (size 0 or 2) forever, from my teens to my current age, 40, sometimes obsessively so. yoga, exercies, diet, -- i am very aware of all these things. I love the way i look in clothes, always have a partner, etc.

But this thread is making me think that maybe I actually *can* eat a burger now and then, maybe inch up to a size 4, and still be lovable? I asked my husband and he said his upper limit is "i have to be able to pick you up." but he also agreed that indeed that is a lower limit beyond which you are so thin you no longer look that attractive.

mind blown. this is not a joke. I am honestly eating a bit more now after reading this thread.[/quote

Awesome happy for you! Eat that burger girl!

[Anonymous]

My husband has gained 60 pounds since we got married. I have no idea how he feels about the 25 pounds I've gained while birthing his children, working full time and running the household.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 5’6”. My husband wasn’t really a fan of me being 106 because my chest got smaller, but 136 would be way too much for him.

That’s a normal weight. That’s not a normal husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:this may be a DCUM first, but this thread has actually had a positive and healthy impact on my life and habits! I've been thin (size 0 or 2) forever, from my teens to my current age, 40, sometimes obsessively so. yoga, exercies, diet, -- i am very aware of all these things. I love the way i look in clothes, always have a partner, etc.

But this thread is making me think that maybe I actually *can* eat a burger now and then, maybe inch up to a size 4, and still be lovable? I asked my husband and he said his upper limit is "i have to be able to pick you up." but he also agreed that indeed that is a lower limit beyond which you are so thin you no longer look that attractive.

mind blown. this is not a joke. I am honestly eating a bit more now after reading this thread.

I was also a size 0-2 all my life. Then I hit menopause and Covid quarantine at the same time and I gained weight. I became obsessed about getting back to my original weight. Counting calories and IF was miserable. DH encouraged me to stop that negative thinking about my body. At first, I thought he was lying when he said I was still beautiful. He wasn’t lying. I needed to feel better about myself. I started doing a sport I used to love but stopped because I got too busy. I started lifting weights for the first time. I stopped dieting. After a rough start because I was so out of shape, I gradually got my old fitness back and lost all the weight gain. I’m back into my size 25 jeans and most importantly feeling great about myself. DH is also athletic and loves that I’m strong and fit. I have boobs and hips and visible abs and feel confident about my body that bore children and can still be strong at 50+ years-old. I eat whatever I want but have always had good habits regarding food. I eat a burger now and then and pie for breakfast after thanksgiving.