Indian Matchmaking on Netflix - anyone watching?

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Anonymous wrote:I think Ashkays finance (the woman he finally agreed with Mom on) was really beautiful.

The jewelry the Mom gave her was absolutely incredible. I didn’t understand if that was from the family business
or purchased over the years, handed down. Can anyone comment on this-is it a tradition and what is the price take here-
Was she to be given a million dollars worth of jewelry and clothing.

What is this family worth? And the others?

I was really grossed out by how blatant the mom was in her attitude of "She should conform to my way of doing things - just take the jewelry and shut up and do everything I tell you."

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Yeah I couldn’t get over the fact that that poor guy was basically done for by Auntie because of something his dad did. Other than the dad the family seemed great

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Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain why Indian Matchmaking in general is unnecessarily shallow? So much focus on physical attributes which people have no control over! And while there was some comments about values and personality, it's like they were all looking for a unicorn without putting in any effort themselves.

Isn't that the basis of every single American reality TV show?

I think the American ones put more emphasis on how the person is as an individual but not so much their entire family. With the Indians, it's like they're condemned to a life of singledom if the parents have issues, like the guy whose dad went to prison. Something about 'respectability'. That's sad and shallow AF.

And people from other countries may think it’s sad and shallow AF that Americans are so individualistic and not think of family and community.

It’s a different worldview. One way is not better than the other, each has benefits, each has faults. Try not to view everything through a narrow lens.

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I agree it did seem a bit much for the Mom to expect her daughter in law to conform by bribery but is this a normal custom? The extreme jewelry
and like to know what net worth these families are in.

Also sibling of brother who was married 32 years-where do you live-was this common among your friends too?

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Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain why Indian Matchmaking in general is unnecessarily shallow? So much focus on physical attributes which people have no control over! And while there was some comments about values and personality, it's like they were all looking for a unicorn without putting in any effort themselves.

Don't you see the biodata sheets? I have been pausing the show and reading the biodata info and it is fascinating. The education is listed very prominently so obviously families are screening for education and background first, then on physical attributes. There wasn't anyone who only had a high school diploma. The model had a college degree.

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Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain why Indian Matchmaking in general is unnecessarily shallow? So much focus on physical attributes which people have no control over! And while there was some comments about values and personality, it's like they were all looking for a unicorn without putting in any effort themselves.

Don't you see the biodata sheets? I have been pausing the show and reading the biodata info and it is fascinating. The education is listed very prominently so obviously families are screening for education and background first, then on physical attributes. There wasn't anyone who only had a high school diploma. The model had a college degree.

Right? Education is so shallow. They should only be looking for the least clothes wearing women like on American dating shows.

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Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain why Indian Matchmaking in general is unnecessarily shallow? So much focus on physical attributes which people have no control over! And while there was some comments about values and personality, it's like they were all looking for a unicorn without putting in any effort themselves.

Don't you see the biodata sheets? I have been pausing the show and reading the biodata info and it is fascinating. The education is listed very prominently so obviously families are screening for education and background first, then on physical attributes. There wasn't anyone who only had a high school diploma. The model had a college degree.

Right? Education is so shallow. They should only be looking for the least clothes wearing women like on American dating shows.

That's not what I meant. Of course, the families would like someone with a college degree. But that didn't seem enough. I'm sure that college counselor guy has a college degree. Degrees seem to be the minimum standard but then they want this person to think the sun shines out of their behind and that of their families. It's just unrealistic to me. I totally LOL'ed at Ankira's contradictory demands (I want someone who likes to travel but must be okay staying at home). All I'm getting is that they really want someone to CONFORM to them and their families and that is soooo unhealthy. No give-and-take...all 'she must adjust'. Which sane Indian woman wants to marry if she's only going to get treated like $&%&^?

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Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain why Indian Matchmaking in general is unnecessarily shallow? So much focus on physical attributes which people have no control over! And while there was some comments about values and personality, it's like they were all looking for a unicorn without putting in any effort themselves.

Don't you see the biodata sheets? I have been pausing the show and reading the biodata info and it is fascinating. The education is listed very prominently so obviously families are screening for education and background first, then on physical attributes. There wasn't anyone who only had a high school diploma. The model had a college degree.

Right? Education is so shallow. They should only be looking for the least clothes wearing women like on American dating shows.

That's not what I meant. Of course, the families would like someone with a college degree. But that didn't seem enough. I'm sure that college counselor guy has a college degree. Degrees seem to be the minimum standard but then they want this person to think the sun shines out of their behind and that of their families. It's just unrealistic to me. I totally LOL'ed at Ankira's contradictory demands (I want someone who likes to travel but must be okay staying at home). All I'm getting is that they really want someone to CONFORM to them and their families and that is soooo unhealthy. No give-and-take...all 'she must adjust'. Which sane Indian woman wants to marry if she's only going to get treated like $&%&^?

I am not Indian but I don't think you understand the matchmaker is getting all the background info so she can match people to cut to the chase. It isn't just that the families would like someone with a college degree- it also where they got the degree. Rashi the vet graduated from UC Berkeley in microbiology and went to vet school at Ohio State. It wouldn't make for interesting TV if the families talked about education and things like that. Obviously the director is going to cut the footage so there is interesting conversations about shallow things.

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Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain why Indian Matchmaking in general is unnecessarily shallow? So much focus on physical attributes which people have no control over! And while there was some comments about values and personality, it's like they were all looking for a unicorn without putting in any effort themselves.

Don't you see the biodata sheets? I have been pausing the show and reading the biodata info and it is fascinating. The education is listed very prominently so obviously families are screening for education and background first, then on physical attributes. There wasn't anyone who only had a high school diploma. The model had a college degree.

Right? Education is so shallow. They should only be looking for the least clothes wearing women like on American dating shows.

That's not what I meant. Of course, the families would like someone with a college degree. But that didn't seem enough. I'm sure that college counselor guy has a college degree. Degrees seem to be the minimum standard but then they want this person to think the sun shines out of their behind and that of their families. It's just unrealistic to me. I totally LOL'ed at Ankira's contradictory demands (I want someone who likes to travel but must be okay staying at home). All I'm getting is that they really want someone to CONFORM to them and their families and that is soooo unhealthy. No give-and-take...all 'she must adjust'. Which sane Indian woman wants to marry if she's only going to get treated like $&%&^?

Yet you still have enlightened us all on how American reality dating shows are so not shallow and show women in a better light.

You mean men acting like horny teens and women dressed as sexy and dolled up as possible makes American men and women look so much more civilized?

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Anonymous wrote:I am an Indian man and I think Aparna is hot.

I would make her my wife.

Aparna I am here for you!

I doubt you are an Indian man. She is quite bad looking.

Stop talking that way about my queen. Aparna I will bring you champagne and chocolates and buy you beautiful dresses and jewelry. I think she is exquisite.

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Just finished season 1. Couldn't get enough.

-40 something indian immigrant that had a love marriage

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Anonymous wrote:I am an Indian man and I think Aparna is hot.

I would make her my wife.

Aparna I am here for you!

I doubt you are an Indian man. She is quite bad looking.

Stop talking that way about my queen. Aparna I will bring you champagne and chocolates and buy you beautiful dresses and jewelry. I think she is exquisite.

Aparna is actually very pretty when she smiles. Cute cheeks, nice full lips, and pretty eyes. (And yes, I found her horrid in the first couple episodes, but her attitude grew on me)

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Anonymous wrote:Is Nadia actually 100% Indian?

I have a close friend who is Guyanese-American but identifies as black who has very Indian features. There’s no intermarriage? Is that why a lot of the Indian men aren’t interested in her? She’s very pretty and tall (which apparently is a very desirable quality)

I cringed when she said I'm not actually Indian, I'm actually from Guyana, but my ancestors are Indian. I have family like this, even though there is no intermarriage,
amd they're 100%. It's incredibly odd. Other than that, I like Nadia. I think she's pretty, caring, and fun. I read an article earlier where she was saying that it did not work out between her and Shekar after the show. Too bad the dynamic changed once the cameras were off, they seemed to hit it off.

What is wrong with saying this? I am Indian American. My kids are third generation but ethnically fully Indian. I imagine they would say something similar. It would be weird if them to leave the impression that they were more familiar with India than they are.

I thought it was odd that Nadia uses the Indian matchmaker. Most people who do old school arranged marriages are looking for someone who speaks the same language, is the same caste etc. So those people would be biased against someone like Nadia.

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Anonymous wrote:Is Nadia actually 100% Indian?

I have a close friend who is Guyanese-American but identifies as black who has very Indian features. There’s no intermarriage? Is that why a lot of the Indian men aren’t interested in her? She’s very pretty and tall (which apparently is a very desirable quality)

I cringed when she said I'm not actually Indian, I'm actually from Guyana, but my ancestors are Indian. I have family like this, even though there is no intermarriage,
amd they're 100%. It's incredibly odd. Other than that, I like Nadia. I think she's pretty, caring, and fun. I read an article earlier where she was saying that it did not work out between her and Shekar after the show. Too bad the dynamic changed once the cameras were off, they seemed to hit it off.

What is wrong with saying this? I am Indian American. My kids are third generation but ethnically fully Indian. I imagine they would say something similar. It would be weird if them to leave the impression that they were more familiar with India than they are.

I thought it was odd that Nadia uses the Indian matchmaker. Most people who do old school arranged marriages are looking for someone who speaks the same language, is the same caste etc. So those people would be biased against someone like Nadia.

She probably did it thinking what she had done so far hadn't worked and this might be what works for her.

I liked this show. I would do a matchmaker. I hope the really gregarious guy finds his love match.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm married to an Indian guy and I had no idea height was such a big deal!

I liked the show but wish they had provided more updates on the couples. Hoping for a season 2 for answers!

Me too! I’m 5’2 American with Indian - American husband of 20 years. I keep telling him I had no idea I would not have made the cut!