Indian Matchmaking on Netflix - anyone watching?

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Anonymous wrote:Does anyone actually think Rushali, the model Pradhyuman liked, is pretty? She’s fair and that’s a big deal for Indians but she has a hook nose and a manly face. I think she looks worse than Aparna, who’s not attractive.

I thought she was very pretty in that unusual model looking way. Like Gisselle Bundchen. Not really pretty in a conventional way but takes amazing photos.

I also don’t think her nose is ugly. Small, Eurocentric style noses are not the only ones that are beautiful in India. Even Aishwarya Rai has a slight hook to her nose. Western beauty standards are not the only acceptable look.

+1. I think she’s gorgeous!

+2 Prettier from the front, but still lovely.

Yes and from one of my favorite poets

“ My issue with what they consider beautiful
is their concept of beauty centers around excluding people.
I find hair beautiful, when a woman wears it like a garden on her skin
that is the definition of beauty,
big hooked noses pointing upward to the sky like they’re rising to the occasion
skin the color of earth
my ancestors planted crops on
to feed a lineage of women
with thighs thick as tree trunks
eyes like almonds
deeply hooded with conviction
the rivers of Punjab
flow through my bloodstream
so don’t tell me my women
aren’t as beautiful
as the ones in your country.
Our backs
Tell stories
No books
Have the spine to carry.”

-Rupi Kaur

Wow! Loved this. Thanks for sharing

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I think Ashkays finance (the woman he finally agreed with Mom on) was really beautiful.

The jewelry the Mom gave her was absolutely incredible. I didn’t understand if that was from the family business
or purchased over the years, handed down. Can anyone comment on this-is it a tradition and what is the price take here-
Was she to be given a million dollars worth of jewelry and clothing.

What is this family worth? And the others?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone actually think Rushali, the model Pradhyuman liked, is pretty? She’s fair and that’s a big deal for Indians but she has a hook nose and a manly face. I think she looks worse than Aparna, who’s not attractive.

Rushali is very beautiful, and she seems humble. Her face does not look manly and her nose doesn't make her any less beautiful.

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https://www.gqindia.com/entertainment/content/indian-matchmaking-where-are-the-couples-who-featured-netflix-series-now-sima-taparia

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Anonymous wrote:I think Ashkays finance (the woman he finally agreed with Mom on) was really beautiful.

The jewelry the Mom gave her was absolutely incredible. I didn’t understand if that was from the family business
or purchased over the years, handed down. Can anyone comment on this-is it a tradition and what is the price take here-
Was she to be given a million dollars worth of jewelry and clothing.

What is this family worth? And the others?

Probably at least hundreds of thousands of dollars worth, if it's all gold. Sometimes it's silver plated with gold, but a family like that would probably be insulted I even suggested the possibility. South Asian brides get clothes and jewelry from the groom's family as well as a trousseau of clothes made before their wedding to wear after they wed. Traditionally they'd give away their old clothes to younger sister/cousins.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think Ashkays finance (the woman he finally agreed with Mom on) was really beautiful.

The jewelry the Mom gave her was absolutely incredible. I didn’t understand if that was from the family business
or purchased over the years, handed down. Can anyone comment on this-is it a tradition and what is the price take here-
Was she to be given a million dollars worth of jewelry and clothing.

What is this family worth? And the others?

Probably at least hundreds of thousands of dollars worth, if it's all gold. Sometimes it's silver plated with gold, but a family like that would probably be insulted I even suggested the possibility. South Asian brides get clothes and jewelry from the groom's family as well as a trousseau of clothes made before their wedding to wear after they wed. Traditionally they'd give away their old clothes to younger sister/cousins.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone actually think Rushali, the model Pradhyuman liked, is pretty? She’s fair and that’s a big deal for Indians but she has a hook nose and a manly face. I think she looks worse than Aparna, who’s not attractive.

I thought she was very pretty in that unusual model looking way. Like Gisselle Bundchen. Not really pretty in a conventional way but takes amazing photos.

I also don’t think her nose is ugly. Small, Eurocentric style noses are not the only ones that are beautiful in India. Even Aishwarya Rai has a slight hook to her nose. Western beauty standards are not the only acceptable look.

+1. I think she’s gorgeous!

+2 Prettier from the front, but still lovely.

Yes and from one of my favorite poets

“ My issue with what they consider beautiful
is their concept of beauty centers around excluding people.
I find hair beautiful, when a woman wears it like a garden on her skin
that is the definition of beauty,
big hooked noses pointing upward to the sky like they’re rising to the occasion
skin the color of earth
my ancestors planted crops on
to feed a lineage of women
with thighs thick as tree trunks
eyes like almonds
deeply hooded with conviction
the rivers of Punjab
flow through my bloodstream
so don’t tell me my women
aren’t as beautiful
as the ones in your country.
Our backs
Tell stories
No books
Have the spine to carry.”

-Rupi Kaur

Wow! Loved this. Thanks for sharing

Me too! Just binge-watched this show this week and I gotta say I am sorry I have not spent more time learning about Indian culture. I've now begun to read up about history, religion, etc. Even if the show itself is banal, it if makes people like me begin to learn more then that's a good thing!

[Anonymous]

I am an Indian man and I think Aparna is hot.

I would make her my wife.

Aparna I am here for you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am an Indian man and I think Aparna is hot.

I would make her my wife.

Aparna I am here for you!

Head out there or send your friends, seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am an Indian man and I think Aparna is hot.

I would make her my wife.

Aparna I am here for you!

I doubt you are an Indian man. She is quite bad looking.

[Anonymous]

Can someone explain why Indian Matchmaking in general is unnecessarily shallow? So much focus on physical attributes which people have no control over! And while there was some comments about values and personality, it's like they were all looking for a unicorn without putting in any effort themselves.

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Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain why Indian Matchmaking in general is unnecessarily shallow? So much focus on physical attributes which people have no control over! And while there was some comments about values and personality, it's like they were all looking for a unicorn without putting in any effort themselves.

Please point me to the American dating and matchmaking shows that are so cerebral and not shallow at all.

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Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain why Indian Matchmaking in general is unnecessarily shallow? So much focus on physical attributes which people have no control over! And while there was some comments about values and personality, it's like they were all looking for a unicorn without putting in any effort themselves.

It is shallow because of it being a reality show and the two guys are very shallow and weird - Akshay and Pradyumna.

Many years back our family was looking for a match for my eldest brother. My other siblings and I were in relationships and eventually we all got married to our SOs. Since we were younger we had to wait until my brother got married. So we used matrimonial ads, friends and relatives etc. It is very common to ask people "We are looking for a suitable boy/girl for our daughter/son. PLease let us know if you know of someone."

I remember that in the first go around it was a very detailed biodata/resume with - age, religion, caste, height, complexion, looks, education, occupation, occupation if parents and family members, number, gender and marital status of siblings, vegetarian/non-veg household etc.

When the proposals came (similar biodatas only), then based on what was written and the pictures, there was a short list of people. Let me tell you, it was a harrowing experience for my brother because he found it awkward to go and "see" a girl. My siblings and I went with him because we did not want him to say "yes" just because he felt obligated.

Anyways, long story short, he eventually married a girl who was recommended by a family friend. They have been happily married for 32 years now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain why Indian Matchmaking in general is unnecessarily shallow? So much focus on physical attributes which people have no control over! And while there was some comments about values and personality, it's like they were all looking for a unicorn without putting in any effort themselves.

Isn't that the basis of every single American reality TV show?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain why Indian Matchmaking in general is unnecessarily shallow? So much focus on physical attributes which people have no control over! And while there was some comments about values and personality, it's like they were all looking for a unicorn without putting in any effort themselves.

Isn't that the basis of every single American reality TV show?

I think the American ones put more emphasis on how the person is as an individual but not so much their entire family. With the Indians, it's like they're condemned to a life of singledom if the parents have issues, like the guy whose dad went to prison. Something about 'respectability'. That's sad and shallow AF.