Indian Matchmaking on Netflix - anyone watching?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm married to an Indian guy and I had no idea height was such a big deal!

I liked the show but wish they had provided more updates on the couples. Hoping for a season 2 for answers!

Me too! I’m 5’2 American with Indian - American husband of 20 years. I keep telling him I had no idea I would not have made the cut!

Are you white? Your pale skin made up for your lack of height.
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Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain why Indian Matchmaking in general is unnecessarily shallow? So much focus on physical attributes which people have no control over! And while there was some comments about values and personality, it's like they were all looking for a unicorn without putting in any effort themselves.

Don't you see the biodata sheets? I have been pausing the show and reading the biodata info and it is fascinating. The education is listed very prominently so obviously families are screening for education and background first, then on physical attributes. There wasn't anyone who only had a high school diploma. The model had a college degree.

Right? Education is so shallow. They should only be looking for the least clothes wearing women like on American dating shows.

That's not what I meant. Of course, the families would like someone with a college degree. But that didn't seem enough. I'm sure that college counselor guy has a college degree. Degrees seem to be the minimum standard but then they want this person to think the sun shines out of their behind and that of their families. It's just unrealistic to me. I totally LOL'ed at Ankira's contradictory demands (I want someone who likes to travel but must be okay staying at home). All I'm getting is that they really want someone to CONFORM to them and their families and that is soooo unhealthy. No give-and-take...all 'she must adjust'. Which sane Indian woman wants to marry if she's only going to get treated like $&%&^?

Yet you still have enlightened us all on how American reality dating shows are so not shallow and show women in a better light.

You mean men acting like horny teens and women dressed as sexy and dolled up as possible makes American men and women look so much more civilized?

American dating shows are completely fake. That is not a process anyone follows in real life. This show seems to be pretty fake, as well, but it is at least represented as a window into a common process in Indian society.

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Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain why Indian Matchmaking in general is unnecessarily shallow? So much focus on physical attributes which people have no control over! And while there was some comments about values and personality, it's like they were all looking for a unicorn without putting in any effort themselves.

Isn't that the basis of every single American reality TV show?

I think the American ones put more emphasis on how the person is as an individual but not so much their entire family. With the Indians, it's like they're condemned to a life of singledom if the parents have issues, like the guy whose dad went to prison. Something about 'respectability'. That's sad and shallow AF.

And people from other countries may think it’s sad and shallow AF that Americans are so individualistic and not think of family and community.

It’s a different worldview. One way is not better than the other, each has benefits, each has faults. Try not to view everything through a narrow lens.

I don’t think it’s viewing things through a “narrow lens” to be critical of the emphasis in Indian society on caste. It’s just another form of racism. The State of California is suing Cisco for unfair workplace discrimination based on caste. Good for them.

https://abcnews.go.com/Technology/wireStory/california-sues-cisco-bias-based-indian-caste-system-71563900

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm married to an Indian guy and I had no idea height was such a big deal!

I liked the show but wish they had provided more updates on the couples. Hoping for a season 2 for answers!

Me too! I’m 5’2 American with Indian - American husband of 20 years. I keep telling him I had no idea I would not have made the cut!

Are you white? Your pale skin made up for your lack of height.
D

Lol. So true.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm married to an Indian guy and I had no idea height was such a big deal!

I liked the show but wish they had provided more updates on the couples. Hoping for a season 2 for answers!

Me too! I’m 5’2 American with Indian - American husband of 20 years. I keep telling him I had no idea I would not have made the cut!

Are you white? Your pale skin made up for your lack of height.
D

Lol. So true.

Nooo...you would need to look white but not be white. They want someone indian.

The colorism in India is sickening. Someone upthread said the rich people are lighter skinned. I don’t know if that’s true, there are lots of business people etc who are not light, but if you look at Bollywood or any TV/ commercials, everyone looks almost white. And a light skinned girl can definitely “marry up” and improve her station in life just based on that. There is a huge skin face lightening industry there as well. I have never seen a kid in India with a non-white doll. Indian children’s book characters look white. It is very sad.

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I am only 2 episodes in and love this show. It is fascinating and I am rooting for everyone. I also want Sima to be my auntie and adopt me (even though I am already happily married).

To those criticizing aspects of the show - omg, people, there are fake and highly edited aspects to all reality tv, this is not unique to this show.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm married to an Indian guy and I had no idea height was such a big deal!

I liked the show but wish they had provided more updates on the couples. Hoping for a season 2 for answers!

Me too! I’m 5’2 American with Indian - American husband of 20 years. I keep telling him I had no idea I would not have made the cut!

Are you white? Your pale skin made up for your lack of height.
D

Lol. So true.

Nooo...you would need to look white but not be white. They want someone indian.

The colorism in India is sickening. Someone upthread said the rich people are lighter skinned. I don’t know if that’s true, there are lots of business people etc who are not light, but if you look at Bollywood or any TV/ commercials, everyone looks almost white. And a light skinned girl can definitely “marry up” and improve her station in life just based on that. There is a huge skin face lightening industry there as well. I have never seen a kid in India with a non-white doll. Indian children’s book characters look white. It is very sad.

White skin, bleach blonde hair and fake big boobs can marry up in America.

Which is also home to a huge plastic surgery/Botox/fillers industry. Which only the rich people can partake in.
And where teen girls and adult women are laying out by the pool all day or in their yards to get tan.

I certainly haven’t found many reality tv shows here where these things aren’t obviously a big part of the female characters looks.

And this country doesn’t even have 1000 years legacy of being controlled by invaders that valued those things, they’re just inherently valued in America.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm married to an Indian guy and I had no idea height was such a big deal!

I liked the show but wish they had provided more updates on the couples. Hoping for a season 2 for answers!

Me too! I’m 5’2 American with Indian - American husband of 20 years. I keep telling him I had no idea I would not have made the cut!

Are you white? Your pale skin made up for your lack of height.
D

Lol. So true.

Nooo...you would need to look white but not be white. They want someone indian.

The colorism in India is sickening. Someone upthread said the rich people are lighter skinned. I don’t know if that’s true, there are lots of business people etc who are not light, but if you look at Bollywood or any TV/ commercials, everyone looks almost white. And a light skinned girl can definitely “marry up” and improve her station in life just based on that. There is a huge skin face lightening industry there as well. I have never seen a kid in India with a non-white doll. Indian children’s book characters look white. It is very sad.

White skin, bleach blonde hair and fake big boobs can marry up in America.

Which is also home to a huge plastic surgery/Botox/fillers industry. Which only the rich people can partake in.
And where teen girls and adult women are laying out by the pool all day or in their yards to get tan.

I certainly haven’t found many reality tv shows here where these things aren’t obviously a big part of the female characters looks.

And this country doesn’t even have 1000 years legacy of being controlled by invaders that valued those things, they’re just inherently valued in America.

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Lol, there is some relevant historical context here, too. 😳😳

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG Pradhyuman made the dresses for his god dolls.

This show is great and agree this was very ... interesting . He certainly is creative.

I find myself rooting for everyone, especially the women. I love the idea of love!

Also I warmed to Aparna quickly which surprised me - she has a prickly exterior but seems a defense mechanism, and agree with one of her matches who said she seems like she is fiercely loyal.

I want Nadia as my DIL.

[Anonymous]

Can someone explain why the dad of the Sikh divorced lady said 'no' to the biodata of the Sikh divorced guy with a kid and an American ex-wife? His son-in-law is AA. Also, is there a stigma against blended families among Indian families? What would happen to the children of women who marry another divorced guy?

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Why does watching this show make me want to order Indian food?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain why the dad of the Sikh divorced lady said 'no' to the biodata of the Sikh divorced guy with a kid and an American ex-wife? His son-in-law is AA. Also, is there a stigma against blended families among Indian families? What would happen to the children of women who marry another divorced guy?

I can’t explain the Sikh dad, he was ignorant.

As far as divorce and blended families go. You have to remember that the whole concept is to find compatibility. This doesn’t mean there is no compatibility with say a divorced person with kids and a never been married childless person. It’s that most likely there is more compatibility with someone who has gone through a similar life experience. You would ‘get’ each other and understand each other’s experiences.

A person that’s never been married would be learning along side a partner that’s also never been married. You are sharing a similar experience. A person who shared custody of kids understands better the life of another person that shares custody of kids.

Finding the right the right match, especially for a professional matchmaker, is about finding compatibility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain why the dad of the Sikh divorced lady said 'no' to the biodata of the Sikh divorced guy with a kid and an American ex-wife? His son-in-law is AA. Also, is there a stigma against blended families among Indian families? What would happen to the children of women who marry another divorced guy?

It might have just been staged/scripted for drama.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain why the dad of the Sikh divorced lady said 'no' to the biodata of the Sikh divorced guy with a kid and an American ex-wife? His son-in-law is AA. Also, is there a stigma against blended families among Indian families? What would happen to the children of women who marry another divorced guy?

It might have just been staged/scripted for drama.

He deserves an Oscar if this was scripted.

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Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain why the dad of the Sikh divorced lady said 'no' to the biodata of the Sikh divorced guy with a kid and an American ex-wife? His son-in-law is AA. Also, is there a stigma against blended families among Indian families? What would happen to the children of women who marry another divorced guy?

Probably because her sikh husband must have cheated with an American. Dad probably thinks that Americans have loose morals and anyone picking up an American wife in the first place is also not a moral person.