How can you cheat and not think about how it will affect your kids?

[Anonymous]

Exactly this. I shield my kids from adult things that are none of their business. I have no trouble keeping an affair separate from my family life.

It’s not their business until it blows up their lives. I am so so glad my spouse has a better moral code than you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think about how it could affect the kids which is why I am super careful about not getting caught. You can ask my spouse why spouse thinks neglecting the marriage won't affect the kids.

Which makes it even worse. You sound like my Dad who cheated for years. It destroyed any positive thoughts of my childhood as reality is we were not a family and he was pretending. You can blame her but reality is when you are with your AP and not putting the time into the marriage, it isn't her, its you neglecting the marriage. Its easy for you to blame her for your actions, but its 100% you. Any parts of my Dad being a good Dad are long gone in my mind and we barely have a relationship. His lady friends are far more important than his family. The problem now is he's old and no one wants him except for his money and he's now destroyed our family relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You won't believe me and that's ok, but divorce is the easy way out. My spouse isn't interested in sex and I am not interested in splitting up my kids on a custody schedule.

Actually, you have contradicted yourself. Divorce is not the easy way out, you don’t want to put your kids on a custody schedule, among other things.

[Anonymous]

Some people need to realize that the carefree feeling of college life in your 20s doesn't last forever. Life health and hormones change. They are dry spells. You work through it. I married my H because I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him. I didn't choose him to be my boy toy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You won't believe me and that's ok, but divorce is the easy way out. My spouse isn't interested in sex and I am not interested in splitting up my kids on a custody schedule.

Actually, you have contradicted yourself. Divorce is not the easy way out, you don’t want to put your kids on a custody schedule, among other things.

But the sexless spouse doesn't want divorce, and neither does PP, so what gives YOU the right to any opinion?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some people need to realize that the carefree feeling of college life in your 20s doesn't last forever. Life health and hormones change. They are dry spells. You work through it. I married my H because I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him. I didn't choose him to be my boy toy.

Some lose interest in sex, others lose interest in monogamy. If one is OK then so is the other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some people need to realize that the carefree feeling of college life in your 20s doesn't last forever. Life health and hormones change. They are dry spells. You work through it. I married my H because I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him. I didn't choose him to be my boy toy.

Some lose interest in sex, others lose interest in monogamy. If one is OK then so is the other.

But one is about lying and secrets. See the difference?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You won't believe me and that's ok, but divorce is the easy way out. My spouse isn't interested in sex and I am not interested in splitting up my kids on a custody schedule.

Actually, you have contradicted yourself. Divorce is not the easy way out, you don’t want to put your kids on a custody schedule, among other things.

But the sexless spouse doesn't want divorce, and neither does PP, so what gives YOU the right to any opinion?

I’m not the pp but how do you know what ANY wife wants unless you let her know of your thoughts/plans? Not sure why you’re so upset by what the pp posted?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some people need to realize that the carefree feeling of college life in your 20s doesn't last forever. Life health and hormones change. They are dry spells. You work through it. I married my H because I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him. I didn't choose him to be my boy toy.

Some lose interest in sex, others lose interest in monogamy. If one is OK then so is the other.

But one is about lying and secrets. See the difference?

There aren't any secrets: a sexless spouse clearly knows the normal spouse is going elsewhere.
And any lying is just to avoid affecting kids, which is the whole point of subject thread.
Sorry but no, there is no difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You won't believe me and that's ok, but divorce is the easy way out. My spouse isn't interested in sex and I am not interested in splitting up my kids on a custody schedule.

Actually, you have contradicted yourself. Divorce is not the easy way out, you don’t want to put your kids on a custody schedule, among other things.

But the sexless spouse doesn't want divorce, and neither does PP, so what gives YOU the right to any opinion?

I’m not the pp but how do you know what ANY wife wants unless you let her know of your thoughts/plans? Not sure why you’re so upset by what the pp posted?

Ok let's assume the sexless party is the wife. If the sexless wife wanted divorce, she would just get divorced. But since she's NOT divorced, she must not want divorce. Do you follow?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some people need to realize that the carefree feeling of college life in your 20s doesn't last forever. Life health and hormones change. They are dry spells. You work through it. I married my H because I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him. I didn't choose him to be my boy toy.

Some lose interest in sex, others lose interest in monogamy. If one is OK then so is the other.

But one is about lying and secrets. See the difference?

There aren't any secrets: a sexless spouse clearly knows the normal spouse is going elsewhere.
And any lying is just to avoid affecting kids, which is the whole point of subject thread.
Sorry but no, there is no difference.

Wait are you that angry guy from the other thread?

Let me tell you that your assumption is incorrect that wives know their husbands will cheat if the sex doesn’t happen as per the husband’s need. Many wives don’t know this and so cheating is about secrets and lying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some people need to realize that the carefree feeling of college life in your 20s doesn't last forever. Life health and hormones change. They are dry spells. You work through it. I married my H because I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him. I didn't choose him to be my boy toy.

Some lose interest in sex, others lose interest in monogamy. If one is OK then so is the other.

But one is about lying and secrets. See the difference?

There aren't any secrets: a sexless spouse clearly knows the normal spouse is going elsewhere.
And any lying is just to avoid affecting kids, which is the whole point of subject thread.
Sorry but no, there is no difference.

Wait are you that angry guy from the other thread?

Let me tell you that your assumption is incorrect that wives know their husbands will cheat if the sex doesn’t happen as per the husband’s need. Many wives don’t know this and so cheating is about secrets and lying.

If you need to invoke the "wives are total idiots" clause to make your point, that is quite a unflattering reach!!

[Anonymous]

There aren't any secrets: a sexless spouse clearly knows the normal spouse is going elsewhere.
And any lying is just to avoid affecting kids, which is the whole point of subject thread.
Sorry but no, there is no difference.

no. Just, no. The moment your argument require your spouse to read minds, you lose. Use your Big Boy word and say what you want and what you plan to do. I you cant do that, you deserve the situation you are in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some people need to realize that the carefree feeling of college life in your 20s doesn't last forever. Life health and hormones change. They are dry spells. You work through it. I married my H because I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him. I didn't choose him to be my boy toy.

Some lose interest in sex, others lose interest in monogamy. If one is OK then so is the other.

But one is about lying and secrets. See the difference?

There aren't any secrets: a sexless spouse clearly knows the normal spouse is going elsewhere.
And any lying is just to avoid affecting kids, which is the whole point of subject thread.
Sorry but no, there is no difference.

Wait are you that angry guy from the other thread?

Let me tell you that your assumption is incorrect that wives know their husbands will cheat if the sex doesn’t happen as per the husband’s need. Many wives don’t know this and so cheating is about secrets and lying.

If you need to invoke the "wives are total idiots" clause to make your point, that is quite a unflattering reach!!

Nothing idiotic about wives not knowing. You are the person who can’t talk to your wife. You do know that there are normal relationships where things get discussed?
Your mind is playing tricks on you.....it’s assuming that only what you think is what’s real. You should be glad someone is pointing this out to you to help you out.

[Anonymous]

This guy is such a tool. No wonder his wife doesnt want to have sex with him! PSA for angry sexless guy... no woman finds it attractive when a passive man acts like a petulant child, refuses to use his words to communicate his needs, and then blames HER when he misbehaves. No. Just, no! Until you can grow up and ACT like a man, dont expect women to treat you like a man. If you want to settle for some emotionally damaged side piece, that's probably the best you can hope for given your own level of maturity.