Disagreement with DH about breast lift

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What if you get it done and you still feel unattractive? I'd worry that it's like home improvement: the new area looks great but it makes you see flaws in the surrounding area.

I got a lift and an implant. This was 5 years ago. I still feel so good naked. The surgery prompted me to start to really up my exercise and tighten my diet. After surgery I now have double the amount of sex with my DH than I did prior. My DH loved my body before and after, now I love my body just ad much and am not afraid to be naked and sexual in front of DH because I'm happy with the way I looked. So for me surgery had such a positive impact on my overall health. Also it was great going from a 10 to a 6 in m y 40s and being motivated to look better all around.

OP needs to ignore the nasty troll and get it done. She will not regret it and it will not be the first step towards surgery addiction. That's just a ludicrous assumption.

[Anonymous]

Did your DH give birth and breastfeed? No. Until your husband experiences the massive bodily changes resulting from giving him two children,, he has limited input. The only reason you shouldn’t be able to have this done is if you truly can’t afford it and it will affect the family finances too much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Serious question, OP:

Would you stop at a breast lift? Or would a year from now you decide you want a facial procedure? Or work done on your arms? Or a tummy tuck?

Honestly, I'm genuinely fairly satisfied with the remainder of my appearance - there's nothing else I'd like to change that would require cosmetic surgery. After the kids are out of braces (which will be in a year or two), I am going to consider getting them for myself, but that's about it.

So breast surgery, then braces. That is atleast 12K right there. 2 nice vacations for your family.

Then when the wrinkles start coming in, and you will want fillers.

OP just stop. Elective surgery is a waste of money unless you are very wealthy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am 33 and getting Botox and fillers somewhat regularly. When time comes I will be happy to intervene with more invasive procedures. I am lucky to not need boob job, nose job or tummy tuck (maybe after baby number 3???) I feel better (I look really good from what friends and family say), my husband is really happy and proud and my kids are proud to have such a pretty mom. Win-win for everyone!

Also, I come from a family where looking good is important (men and women) so I value it a lot.

This is kind of sad..no not kind of.. it is sad.

The whole post is sad. I do not know a single 33 year old who needs Botox of fillers. WTF!

Somewhat regularly? The girl has issues and does not even realize it.

[Anonymous]

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He said he likes your boobs!

He didn't exactly say that. He said he's still attracted to me overall and the sagging doesn't particularly bother him. I am fairly sure that his position is that he liked them better the way they used to be, but the current situation isn't a deal-breaker in terms of his attraction to me.

I definitely have zero interest in a divorce or pleasing some other person besides DH and myself.

Honestly, OP, it sounds more like you need some therapy to help with your self-image than a breast lift. Can you at least try that first? Because what you wrote is 100% about YOUR self image, not what your DH thinks.

Why are people trying to make OP feel even worse about herself. She wants to feel attractive and she is lucky to be able to do that with a quick fix since her breasts seem to be the only thing she wants to change.

Because when you need perky breasts at 44 to fill attractive, you have issues. Period. Go see a therapist OP

It doesn't matter that many of you do it. Many of you have issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

He said he likes your boobs!

He didn't exactly say that. He said he's still attracted to me overall and the sagging doesn't particularly bother him. I am fairly sure that his position is that he liked them better the way they used to be, but the current situation isn't a deal-breaker in terms of his attraction to me.

I definitely have zero interest in a divorce or pleasing some other person besides DH and myself.

Honestly, OP, it sounds more like you need some therapy to help with your self-image than a breast lift. Can you at least try that first? Because what you wrote is 100% about YOUR self image, not what your DH thinks.

Why are people trying to make OP feel even worse about herself. She wants to feel attractive and she is lucky to be able to do that with a quick fix since her breasts seem to be the only thing she wants to change.

Because when you need perky breasts at 44 to fill attractive, you have issues. Period. Go see a therapist OP

It doesn't matter that many of you do it. Many of you have issues.

feel not fill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

As for the universal studios comment, they've been like four times already and their grandparents generally take them on a fun vacation over spring break (this year to a resort in Mexico) so it's not like they'll miss out on having a vacation. DH just thinks the money would be better put towards an additional vacation with the 4 of us.

There you go, there's your week to get it done without having to explain anything to your kids. It's probably too late for this year, but start planning ahead for next year.


(I mean, I have issues with the idea of how the kids will be extra traumatized for life if something happens to you and they never knew you were even going to have surgery... mommy not only died but mommy died while lying to me?!? But that's a pretty minor risk statistically-wise. Plus they will be traumatized anyhow if you die.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

He said he likes your boobs!

He didn't exactly say that. He said he's still attracted to me overall and the sagging doesn't particularly bother him. I am fairly sure that his position is that he liked them better the way they used to be, but the current situation isn't a deal-breaker in terms of his attraction to me.

I definitely have zero interest in a divorce or pleasing some other person besides DH and myself.

Honestly, OP, it sounds more like you need some therapy to help with your self-image than a breast lift. Can you at least try that first? Because what you wrote is 100% about YOUR self image, not what your DH thinks.

Why are people trying to make OP feel even worse about herself. She wants to feel attractive and she is lucky to be able to do that with a quick fix since her breasts seem to be the only thing she wants to change.

Because when you need perky breasts at 44 to fill attractive, you have issues. Period. Go see a therapist OP

It doesn't matter that many of you do it. Many of you have issues.

Do you have issues if you color your hair? If you wear a bra that provides some lift? If you spend a lot on a haircut? If you get pedicures? Why do you get to decide on what beauty treatments mean you have issues? You seem awfully judgemental. People value different things. Why are you a bad person if you want decent boobs? It’s not that OP desires 20 year old boobs but that she wants to improve her own. The only way to do this is through breast implants / lift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Serious question, OP:

Would you stop at a breast lift? Or would a year from now you decide you want a facial procedure? Or work done on your arms? Or a tummy tuck?

Honestly, I'm genuinely fairly satisfied with the remainder of my appearance - there's nothing else I'd like to change that would require cosmetic surgery. After the kids are out of braces (which will be in a year or two), I am going to consider getting them for myself, but that's about it.

So breast surgery, then braces. That is atleast 12K right there. 2 nice vacations for your family.

Then when the wrinkles start coming in, and you will want fillers.

OP just stop. Elective surgery is a waste of money unless you are very wealthy.

Not OP but I would so rather have a lift and my kids have braces than go on two expensive vacations! Not even a question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

He said he likes your boobs!

He didn't exactly say that. He said he's still attracted to me overall and the sagging doesn't particularly bother him. I am fairly sure that his position is that he liked them better the way they used to be, but the current situation isn't a deal-breaker in terms of his attraction to me.

I definitely have zero interest in a divorce or pleasing some other person besides DH and myself.

Honestly, OP, it sounds more like you need some therapy to help with your self-image than a breast lift. Can you at least try that first? Because what you wrote is 100% about YOUR self image, not what your DH thinks.

Why are people trying to make OP feel even worse about herself. She wants to feel attractive and she is lucky to be able to do that with a quick fix since her breasts seem to be the only thing she wants to change.

Because when you need perky breasts at 44 to fill attractive, you have issues. Period. Go see a therapist OP

It doesn't matter that many of you do it. Many of you have issues.

Do you have issues if you color your hair? If you wear a bra that provides some lift? If you spend a lot on a haircut? If you get pedicures? Why do you get to decide on what beauty treatments mean you have issues? You seem awfully judgemental. People value different things. Why are you a bad person if you want decent boobs? It’s not that OP desires 20 year old boobs but that she wants to improve her own. The only way to do this is through breast implants / lift.

+100
World of difference between perky 20 year old boobs and saggy, deflated breasts. Anyone trying to shame OP for considering improving the appearance of her saggy, deflated breasts has issues.
It's not a requirement, no one has to do it if they don't want to. It's fine to be enthusiastic and in love with your own saggy, deflated breasts. But if OP wants to seek improvement there really is no reason why she shouldn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Serious question, OP:

Would you stop at a breast lift? Or would a year from now you decide you want a facial procedure? Or work done on your arms? Or a tummy tuck?

Honestly, I'm genuinely fairly satisfied with the remainder of my appearance - there's nothing else I'd like to change that would require cosmetic surgery. After the kids are out of braces (which will be in a year or two), I am going to consider getting them for myself, but that's about it.

So breast surgery, then braces. That is atleast 12K right there. 2 nice vacations for your family.

Then when the wrinkles start coming in, and you will want fillers.

OP just stop. Elective surgery is a waste of money unless you are very wealthy.

Not OP but I would so rather have a lift and my kids have braces than go on two expensive vacations! Not even a question.

I've spent 12K on my braces and it was the best decision of my life. Would not hesitate for a second to do this instead of vacations.

[Anonymous]

If Helen Gurley Brown got a boob job after 70, you can certainly get yours at 44!

[Anonymous]

I've had a nose job (at 20), invisalign (at 29) and have taken accutane in the past for bad skin. These have immeasurably improved my quality of life. I cannot tell you how much happier I am.

Don't listen to this chorus. Make sure you inform yourself of the surgery risks (and so you are aware of what they are and can pick up on any early complication signs, like infection, most of which are treatable if caught early), pick the absolute best surgeon you can afford and whom you trust (interview at least 12+), and go for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What if you get it done and you still feel unattractive? I'd worry that it's like home improvement: the new area looks great but it makes you see flaws in the surrounding area.

I got a lift and an implant. This was 5 years ago. I still feel so good naked. The surgery prompted me to start to really up my exercise and tighten my diet. After surgery I now have double the amount of sex with my DH than I did prior. My DH loved my body before and after, now I love my body just ad much and am not afraid to be naked and sexual in front of DH because I'm happy with the way I looked. So for me surgery had such a positive impact on my overall health. Also it was great going from a 10 to a 6 in m y 40s and being motivated to look better all around.

OP needs to ignore the nasty troll and get it done. She will not regret it and it will not be the first step towards surgery addiction. That's just a ludicrous assumption.

I posted this and I think it's legit. It's not that I think a boob lift is the gateway to surgery addiction. It's that this is at root a self-esteem issue. She's not saying, I'm so annoyed by my breasts, I'd like to fix themand have them as they were before. She's saying she doesn't want or enjoy intimacy because she can't believe her DH still finds her attractive (despite him saying he does).

It doesn't sound like she likes herself, and surgery won't fix that.

FWIW, I think getting exercise and having your kids get older often lead to more sex and happier intimacy, with or without surgery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 33 and getting Botox and fillers somewhat regularly. When time comes I will be happy to intervene with more invasive procedures. I am lucky to not need boob job, nose job or tummy tuck (maybe after baby number 3???) I feel better (I look really good from what friends and family say), my husband is really happy and proud and my kids are proud to have such a pretty mom. Win-win for everyone!

Also, I come from a family where looking good is important (men and women) so I value it a lot.

This is kind of sad..no not kind of.. it is sad.

The whole post is sad. I do not know a single 33 year old who needs Botox of fillers. WTF!

Somewhat regularly? The girl has issues and does not even realize it.

Im 32 and look so much better with Botox. It’s also about prevention at this age- once the lines are there, they are difficult to get rid of.