Disagreement with DH about breast lift

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He said he likes your boobs!

He didn't exactly say that. He said he's still attracted to me overall and the sagging doesn't particularly bother him. I am fairly sure that his position is that he liked them better the way they used to be, but the current situation isn't a deal-breaker in terms of his attraction to me.

I definitely have zero interest in a divorce or pleasing some other person besides DH and myself.

Honestly, OP, it sounds more like you need some therapy to help with your self-image than a breast lift. Can you at least try that first? Because what you wrote is 100% about YOUR self image, not what your DH thinks.

Why are people trying to make OP feel even worse about herself. She wants to feel attractive and she is lucky to be able to do that with a quick fix since her breasts seem to be the only thing she wants to change.

Because when you need perky breasts at 44 to fill attractive, you have issues. Period. Go see a therapist OP

It doesn't matter that many of you do it. Many of you have issues.

Including yourself. Anyone as emotionally invested as you are in what another woman does or thinks about her body, need serious psychological help.

You are a weirdo.

[Anonymous]

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Serious question, OP:

Would you stop at a breast lift? Or would a year from now you decide you want a facial procedure? Or work done on your arms? Or a tummy tuck?

Honestly, I'm genuinely fairly satisfied with the remainder of my appearance - there's nothing else I'd like to change that would require cosmetic surgery. After the kids are out of braces (which will be in a year or two), I am going to consider getting them for myself, but that's about it.

So breast surgery, then braces. That is atleast 12K right there. 2 nice vacations for your family.

Then when the wrinkles start coming in, and you will want fillers.

OP just stop. Elective surgery is a waste of money unless you are very wealthy.

I have lots of wrinkles and a breast lift and an implants. Never have considered botox. I love my 5yr old tits. So much that I love taking them on vacation with me to the beach and parade them all in front of angry sour women like you. I love flying my tots in the face of your nasty comments and judgement of my moral failings . Sun's out guns out. And BTW hon, the headlights are always on

Sorry, not sorry, love my perky DDs.

[Anonymous]

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Serious question, OP:

Would you stop at a breast lift? Or would a year from now you decide you want a facial procedure? Or work done on your arms? Or a tummy tuck?

Honestly, I'm genuinely fairly satisfied with the remainder of my appearance - there's nothing else I'd like to change that would require cosmetic surgery. After the kids are out of braces (which will be in a year or two), I am going to consider getting them for myself, but that's about it.

So breast surgery, then braces. That is atleast 12K right there. 2 nice vacations for your family.

Then when the wrinkles start coming in, and you will want fillers.

OP just stop. Elective surgery is a waste of money unless you are very wealthy.

I have lots of wrinkles and a breast lift and an implants. Never have considered botox. I love my 5yr old tits. So much that I love taking them on vacation with me to the beach and parade them all in front of angry sour women like you. I love flying my tots in the face of your nasty comments and judgement of my moral failings . Sun's out guns out. And BTW hon, the headlights are always on

Sorry, not sorry, love my perky DDs.

I think I love you!

Signed the 33 year old that does Botox and will happily turn to plastic surgery if and when need it.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 33 and getting Botox and fillers somewhat regularly. When time comes I will be happy to intervene with more invasive procedures. I am lucky to not need boob job, nose job or tummy tuck (maybe after baby number 3???) I feel better (I look really good from what friends and family say), my husband is really happy and proud and my kids are proud to have such a pretty mom. Win-win for everyone!

Also, I come from a family where looking good is important (men and women) so I value it a lot.

This is kind of sad..no not kind of.. it is sad.

The whole post is sad. I do not know a single 33 year old who needs Botox of fillers. WTF!

Somewhat regularly? The girl has issues and does not even realize it.

If you saw me you would never think I need need either because I don’t have one single wrinkle or expression line on my face (good genetic and Botox on my forehead)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am 33 and getting Botox and fillers somewhat regularly. When time comes I will be happy to intervene with more invasive procedures. I am lucky to not need boob job, nose job or tummy tuck (maybe after baby number 3???) I feel better (I look really good from what friends and family say), my husband is really happy and proud and my kids are proud to have such a pretty mom. Win-win for everyone!

Also, I come from a family where looking good is important (men and women) so I value it a lot.

This is kind of sad..no not kind of.. it is sad.

The whole post is sad. I do not know a single 33 year old who needs Botox of fillers. WTF!

Somewhat regularly? The girl has issues and does not even realize it.

If you saw me you would never think I need need either because I don’t have one single wrinkle or expression line on my face (good genetic and Botox on my forehead)

Most people don't notice any wrinkles on 33 year olds. It is all in your head.

[Anonymous]

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Serious question, OP:

Would you stop at a breast lift? Or would a year from now you decide you want a facial procedure? Or work done on your arms? Or a tummy tuck?

Honestly, I'm genuinely fairly satisfied with the remainder of my appearance - there's nothing else I'd like to change that would require cosmetic surgery. After the kids are out of braces (which will be in a year or two), I am going to consider getting them for myself, but that's about it.

So breast surgery, then braces. That is atleast 12K right there. 2 nice vacations for your family.

Then when the wrinkles start coming in, and you will want fillers.

OP just stop. Elective surgery is a waste of money unless you are very wealthy.

I have lots of wrinkles and a breast lift and an implants. Never have considered botox. I love my 5yr old tits. So much that I love taking them on vacation with me to the beach and parade them all in front of angry sour women like you. I love flying my tots in the face of your nasty comments and judgement of my moral failings . Sun's out guns out. And BTW hon, the headlights are always on

Sorry, not sorry, love my perky DDs.

It's a good thing you love flying them. Good for you. Everyone spends money on frivolous stuff. Some can own up to frivolous spending. Others get defensive and go on tirades about their moral failings.

[Anonymous]

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Including yourself. Anyone as emotionally invested as you are in what another woman does or thinks about her body, need serious psychological help.

You are a weirdo.

if you can't see how this type of vanity affects women and our society in general, then you are very myopic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Including yourself. Anyone as emotionally invested as you are in what another woman does or thinks about her body, need serious psychological help.

You are a weirdo.

if you can't see how this type of vanity affects women and our society in general, then you are very myopic.

How do you think it affects us? Please explain

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Including yourself. Anyone as emotionally invested as you are in what another woman does or thinks about her body, need serious psychological help.

You are a weirdo.

if you can't see how this type of vanity affects women and our society in general, then you are very myopic.

How do you think it affects us? Please explain

name a woman who isn't influenced by the looks and appearance of other women.

You can't if you're honest.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am 33 and getting Botox and fillers somewhat regularly. When time comes I will be happy to intervene with more invasive procedures. I am lucky to not need boob job, nose job or tummy tuck (maybe after baby number 3???) I feel better (I look really good from what friends and family say), my husband is really happy and proud and my kids are proud to have such a pretty mom. Win-win for everyone!

Also, I come from a family where looking good is important (men and women) so I value it a lot.

This is kind of sad..no not kind of.. it is sad.

The whole post is sad. I do not know a single 33 year old who needs Botox of fillers. WTF!

Somewhat regularly? The girl has issues and does not even realize it.

If you saw me you would never think I need need either because I don’t have one single wrinkle or expression line on my face (good genetic and Botox on my forehead)

Most people don't notice any wrinkles on 33 year olds. It is all in your head.

I had two small frown lines on my forehead. After 1 year of Botox, I don’t have them anymore. Of course I did not NEED Botox, but I look like my mom and she has deep frown lines so I am sure that is where I was heading before Botox. Does it mean I will
Not be ok with the changes that will happen to my face and body? No, of course I am ok,but I will try to preserve my looks as much as possible (healthy diet, exercise, sunscreen, Botox, fillers and perhaps plastic surgery at some point)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Including yourself. Anyone as emotionally invested as you are in what another woman does or thinks about her body, need serious psychological help.

You are a weirdo.

if you can't see how this type of vanity affects women and our society in general, then you are very myopic.

How do you think it affects us? Please explain

name a woman who isn't influenced by the looks and appearance of other women.

You can't if you're honest.

That’s true about everything, though. People compare themselves in their careers, family choices, looks, etc. Men do the same... I think as in everything balance is key.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Serious question, OP:

Would you stop at a breast lift? Or would a year from now you decide you want a facial procedure? Or work done on your arms? Or a tummy tuck?

Honestly, I'm genuinely fairly satisfied with the remainder of my appearance - there's nothing else I'd like to change that would require cosmetic surgery. After the kids are out of braces (which will be in a year or two), I am going to consider getting them for myself, but that's about it.

So breast surgery, then braces. That is atleast 12K right there. 2 nice vacations for your family.

Then when the wrinkles start coming in, and you will want fillers.

OP just stop. Elective surgery is a waste of money unless you are very wealthy.

I have lots of wrinkles and a breast lift and an implants. Never have considered botox. I love my 5yr old tits. So much that I love taking them on vacation with me to the beach and parade them all in front of angry sour women like you. I love flying my tots in the face of your nasty comments and judgement of my moral failings . Sun's out guns out. And BTW hon, the headlights are always on

Sorry, not sorry, love my perky DDs.

You do realize that this expression refers to one’s arms, not one’s breasts, right? Your breasts are not guns...unless you’re a fembot.

[Anonymous]

OP,
I planned on getting a breast lift (and considered implants as well). DH was all for it...but ultimately the idea of going under the knife scares me too much so I have decided not to do either.

I see where your husband is coming from...surgery of any kind is risky. Ultimately, if this is what you really need to gain your confidence back, I hope your husband can support you.

Best wishes to you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dear Midlife Crisis,

Everything your husband says makes complete sense.

Also, not to put too fine a point on it, but people who are desperate to change their appearance usually have an underlying anxiety or depressive disorder *that will come roaring back* after they change their appearance. So you would be putting yourself at risk for nothing.

It's not the sagging. It's coming to terms with your life and your age, that's the real issue here.

BUT.
It's your body.
You have that surgery if you want it!

Nailed it. There's nothing better than that moment when a formerly attractive woman realizes she's over the hill and she can no longer get everything she desires based on her physical attractiveness. It's almost like hitting the lottery.

[Anonymous]

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I had two small frown lines on my forehead. After 1 year of Botox, I don’t have them anymore. Of course I did not NEED Botox, but I look like my mom and she has deep frown lines so I am sure that is where I was heading before Botox. Does it mean I will
Not be ok with the changes that will happen to my face and body? No, of course I am ok,but I will try to preserve my looks as much as possible (healthy diet, exercise, sunscreen, Botox, fillers and perhaps plastic surgery at some point)

Seeing 30 year olds getting botox is gross and pitiful. Your face looks artificially smooth and your facial muscles stop functioning naturally.

On top of that, it's a huge waste of money.