Found a condom in my husband's car

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All men cheat, no need to break up your family over it. As long as is not an emotional affair, just move on and let it be.

I tend to agree (30 yr old female here). I would never tell my husband this and I would certainly make his life hell for it but I would not divorce and split up my family over sex. Men can be immature horn dogs sometimes. Women too. Monogamy is hard and goes against instinct. No I've never cheated and neither has my husband to my knowledge but I just don't see it as THAT big of a deal.

Why even take vows then?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All men cheat, no need to break up your family over it. As long as is not an emotional affair, just move on and let it be.

No, we don't all cheat. WTH? Raise your standards.

[Anonymous]

Not all. We got together later in life and we both did plenty of dating and sleeping around. I have no interest or desire and neither does he. We have a child to raise and find the little man more interesting than other people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All men cheat, no need to break up your family over it. As long as is not an emotional affair, just move on and let it be.

Not true any more than saying women don't cheat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All men cheat, no need to break up your family over it. As long as is not an emotional affair, just move on and let it be.

I tend to agree (30 yr old female here). I would never tell my husband this and I would certainly make his life hell for it but I would not divorce and split up my family over sex. Men can be immature horn dogs sometimes. Women too. Monogamy is hard and goes against instinct. No I've never cheated and neither has my husband to my knowledge but I just don't see it as THAT big of a deal.

So you'd make your DH's life hell for something that is not a big deal? I'm afraid it's either or.

I wouldn't make DH's life hell, and I don't think it's that big of a deal. Too bad DH does not share my views.

[Anonymous]

I don't think all men cheat. I just think those who don't simply don't have ample opportunity. Same as women. As PP said, monogamy goes against instinct. Unless you married later in life, there is no way to be perfectly content with one person. "Till death do us part" was invented when people generally didn't live into eighties and nineties, and women died in childbirth left and right. Worked out well for guys who remarried and so on. It's a different world now. Staying married to the same person for 50 years is awesome for friendship and companionship, especially as we get older. But for many 40 and 50 somethings it's purgatory.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All men cheat, no need to break up your family over it. As long as is not an emotional affair, just move on and let it be.

I tend to agree (30 yr old female here). I would never tell my husband this and I would certainly make his life hell for it but I would not divorce and split up my family over sex. Men can be immature horn dogs sometimes. Women too. Monogamy is hard and goes against instinct. No I've never cheated and neither has my husband to my knowledge but I just don't see it as THAT big of a deal.

I feel bad for women who think all men cheat. Men, like women, come in all shapes and emotional, maturity, ethical sizes. If you keep picking men who cheat it's because you manifest it by expecting it to happen. Have some standards and the right man will come.

[Anonymous]

I don't think all men cheat because cheating is a choice and I don't think good men make that choice even when they are presented with the opportunity.

I think selfish men cheat. I think men who have low self esteem cheat. But all men? No.

[Anonymous]

Some polyurethane condoms can have an expiration date of 8-10 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All men cheat, no need to break up your family over it. As long as is not an emotional affair, just move on and let it be.

I tend to agree (30 yr old female here). I would never tell my husband this and I would certainly make his life hell for it but I would not divorce and split up my family over sex. Men can be immature horn dogs sometimes. Women too. Monogamy is hard and goes against instinct. No I've never cheated and neither has my husband to my knowledge but I just don't see it as THAT big of a deal.

I feel bad for women who think all men cheat. Men, like women, come in all shapes and emotional, maturity, ethical sizes. If you keep picking men who cheat it's because you manifest it by expecting it to happen. Have some standards and the right man will come.

I don't feel bad for people like the PP because she doesn't seem fazed by it. She has standards and she's fine with them. I only feel bad when people feel that way and wouls be destroyed by their spouse cheating on them. That seems miserable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can't imagine why he would have a condom when he's been married for 8 years.

Don't confront, look for more evidence. If he's this sloppy with a condom and he's cheating, there's way more evidence if you know to look.

+1
Completely agree !!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All men cheat, no need to break up your family over it. As long as is not an emotional affair, just move on and let it be.

I tend to agree (30 yr old female here). I would never tell my husband this and I would certainly make his life hell for it but I would not divorce and split up my family over sex. Men can be immature horn dogs sometimes. Women too. Monogamy is hard and goes against instinct. No I've never cheated and neither has my husband to my knowledge but I just don't see it as THAT big of a deal.

I feel bad for women who think all men cheat. Men, like women, come in all shapes and emotional, maturity, ethical sizes. If you keep picking men who cheat it's because you manifest it by expecting it to happen. Have some standards and the right man will come.

I don't feel bad for people like the PP because she doesn't seem fazed by it. She has standards and she's fine with them. I only feel bad when people feel that way and wouls be destroyed by their spouse cheating on them. That seems miserable.

Well, it depends. I don't understand the destroyed feeling when it's a one-night stand, or two one-night stands, that kind of short-lived encounter. I do understand it when it's a years-long double life. I've heard of betrayed spouses finding out and vomiting, going through the stages of grief, just really freaking out. And I think that reaction is more to do with the lies and deception that they realize has been going on for years. It makes them doubt everything their spouse said and did during that time period, whether their spouse loves them, etc. I think one would have a similar reaction to finding out your spouse was funneling money to offshore accounts, or involved in some criminal enterprise. It's more about the lies and the broken trust than it is about the sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All men cheat, no need to break up your family over it. As long as is not an emotional affair, just move on and let it be.

I tend to agree (30 yr old female here). I would never tell my husband this and I would certainly make his life hell for it but I would not divorce and split up my family over sex. Men can be immature horn dogs sometimes. Women too. Monogamy is hard and goes against instinct. No I've never cheated and neither has my husband to my knowledge but I just don't see it as THAT big of a deal.

I feel bad for women who think all men cheat. Men, like women, come in all shapes and emotional, maturity, ethical sizes. If you keep picking men who cheat it's because you manifest it by expecting it to happen. Have some standards and the right man will come.

I don't feel bad for people like the PP because she doesn't seem fazed by it. She has standards and she's fine with them. I only feel bad when people feel that way and wouls be destroyed by their spouse cheating on them. That seems miserable.

Well, it depends. I don't understand the destroyed feeling when it's a one-night stand, or two one-night stands, that kind of short-lived encounter. I do understand it when it's a years-long double life. I've heard of betrayed spouses finding out and vomiting, going through the stages of grief, just really freaking out. And I think that reaction is more to do with the lies and deception that they realize has been going on for years. It makes them doubt everything their spouse said and did during that time period, whether their spouse loves them, etc. I think one would have a similar reaction to finding out your spouse was funneling money to offshore accounts, or involved in some criminal enterprise. It's more about the lies and the broken trust than it is about the sex.

Doesn't sound like you've lived through it, so don't tell us how we feel.

[Anonymous]

Did the OP ever come back to this thread after confronting the DH?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All men cheat, no need to break up your family over it. As long as is not an emotional affair, just move on and let it be.

No, we don't all cheat. WTH? Raise your standards.

This. Put together a fucking threesome like a functional, healthy couple if you need some strange.