Found a condom in my husband's car

[Anonymous]

We swapped cars today and when I got in, I reached over to close the opened glove compartment and found it there. I hardly ever drive his car or sit in it as a passenger since we have kids and I'm not sure how long it's been there. I don't know to think or if I should confront him or how to confront him. The condom has an expiration date of 10/2016, we've been married for 8 years and our youngest is barely 2. We've been busy with kids but he had a period of unemployment, totaled his SUV and we've been exclusively using my car when going out as a family.

I'm so confused right now.

[Anonymous]

LOL. Why don't you just ask him?

[Anonymous]

He cheated. Check his phone and computer.

[Anonymous]

Well I doubt that condoms have an expiration period of 8 years, so it's time for a major talk.
At least he was safe??! I'm sorry.

[Anonymous]

Can't imagine why he would have a condom when he's been married for 8 years.

Don't confront, look for more evidence. If he's this sloppy with a condom and he's cheating, there's way more evidence if you know to look.

[Anonymous]

Oh and THEN you confront.

Alternately, bluff. Throw the condom on the table and say "And I found the rest. How painful do you want this to be?" He will fold like a deck of cheap cards if he thinks you have more and he's guilty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can't imagine why he would have a condom when he's been married for 8 years.

Don't confront, look for more evidence. If he's this sloppy with a condom and he's cheating, there's way more evidence if you know to look.

+1.

[Anonymous]

How long has he had his car and was it a new car?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL. Why don't you just ask him?

What's funny about this? It's potentially devastating to OP.

[Anonymous]

Was it Jon Voight's car?

[Anonymous]

Do not say anything as badly as you may want to. Dig further. Computer history, phone records, etc.

[Anonymous]

More details about his use of that particular car, please. Also, how much opportunity does he get, in terms of work hours and travel?

I would be concerned, honestly, and I would scrounge around for more info before making noises.

[Anonymous]

I am sorry.

A couple of years before my mom died I went to get my dad's car registration out of his glove compartment so she could finish some paperwork.

I opened the glove compartment and at least a dozen wrapped condoms fell out.

She said she would put the registration back but I hung around and did it for her so she wouldn't see what was inside. As far as I know she didn't find out before she died. I have only shared this info with one of my siblings, and this was several years after she passed away.

I am sorry OP. That is a shocking thing to find in the car.

[Anonymous]

Agree with PPs. Do more research before you confront him. Has anyone else driven his car? Did he loan it to a younger relative or co-worker?

I wouldn't jump to conclusions, but do a bit of sleuthing first before you talk with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree with PPs. Do more research before you confront him. Has anyone else driven his car? Did he loan it to a younger relative or co-worker?

I wouldn't jump to conclusions, but do a bit of sleuthing first before you talk with him.

Some men use condoms with forms of maturation too. Not saying your DH isn't going to turn out to be a lying cheater, but I'd require more evidence than an odd condom.