Found a condom in my husband's car

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Monistat not mouse tat whatever

And here I was picturing a dead mouse in your glove compartment...

[Anonymous]

Lol that would've been equally embarrassing and ghetto

[Anonymous]

OP. What's going on? Update?

[Anonymous]

I'm late to the game here, but OP this just happened to me to. I'm so sorry. I know you want to believe him, but he is lying to you. He is cheating on you and it is going to take a lot for him to tell you the truth. I found condoms and my DH made up stories too (they were old!). I had to kick him out before I got the truth. He was hooking up with random women through aps on his phone. He would meet them, have sex and never talk to them again. OP, it will be so hard to trace this. The aps can be deleted in a minute erasing all evidence, the phone calls and texts go through google voice, alternate email accounts, etc. The fact is that it is so easy to cheat these days, it is laughable. If you are looking for concrete evidence, it may be hard to find. And your husband is likely to deny, deny, deny. Best of luck to you. It is such a shitty hand to be dealt. I too have two small children. All of the choices you will need to make suck.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry pp.

Reading this thread is heartbreaking. You women are strong as hell and should be really proud of yourselves. As someone who watched her mother stay after being cheated on over and over again....I wish I had a role model that showed me I don't need to take that kind of crap. Your daughters will thank you.

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Anonymous wrote:pp here sorry just saw that you do have kids. i'm so sorry. but since he won't be honest about it, i think you should start a separation, and counseling for you both for the sake of the kids. it will help you be good coparents no matter what you decide.

I agree with this, especially counseling-- go STAT. Cheating is horrible, but sometimes (by no means always!) related to problems in the relationship. Always worth talking things through, to see if the relationship is worth saving and can be saved. Perhaps not, but at least you can tell yourself you did your best. I'm so sorry this has happened to you.

[Anonymous]

Agree with PPs. Do more research before you confront him. Has anyone else driven his car? Did he loan it to a younger relative or co-worker?

I wouldn't jump to conclusions, but do a bit of sleuthing first before you talk with him.
+1

[Anonymous]

Ugghh. What an unpleasant situation to find yourself.

Ask yourself if you still love him anyway. If so, then forget compiling evidence. Make your life better both with and without him. Life is rarely perfect, and if the only issue is sex, well, all husbands have sex with others; their fantasies. Infidelity is not all it's cracked up to be, no pun intended.

[Anonymous]

New people: please read the whole thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a mechanic left condoms and lube in my husband's car, he wouldnt leave it there...he would throw it out and tell me later that day, "Youll never believe what the mechanic left in the car." Definitely lying.

If the mechanic story ends up being true they need to write a Yelp review titled something like "that's not what I meant by lube job."

LOL

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Anonymous wrote:New people: please read the whole thread.

Not new, but missed most of the middle--> any updates from OP?

[Anonymous]

All men cheat, no need to break up your family over it. As long as is not an emotional affair, just move on and let it be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do not say anything as badly as you may want to. Dig further. Computer history, phone records, etc.

And probably a pregnant whore?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do not say anything as badly as you may want to. Dig further. Computer history, phone records, etc.

And probably a pregnant whore?

Keep digging

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All men cheat, no need to break up your family over it. As long as is not an emotional affair, just move on and let it be.

I tend to agree (30 yr old female here). I would never tell my husband this and I would certainly make his life hell for it but I would not divorce and split up my family over sex. Men can be immature horn dogs sometimes. Women too. Monogamy is hard and goes against instinct. No I've never cheated and neither has my husband to my knowledge but I just don't see it as THAT big of a deal.