Do you ever wish your DH made more money?

[Anonymous]

Somehow I don't get how a 3000 sq ft house, private school for the kiddies, vacations to Europe etched. are somehow required for a happy life. The key to happiness is appreciating what you have. If you are always grasping for more, you will end up always unhappy. It's funny or even tragic how little I see here about perhaps having more realistic expectations and learning to "live well below your means." Nobody here making twice the median national ince or more is poor. I feel sorry for all of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Somehow I don't get how a 3000 sq ft house, private school for the kiddies, vacations to Europe etched. are somehow required for a happy life. The key to happiness is appreciating what you have. If you are always grasping for more, you will end up always unhappy. It's funny or even tragic how little I see here about perhaps having more realistic expectations and learning to "live well below your means." Nobody here making twice the median national ince or more is poor. I feel sorry for all of you.

+1
And as a previous poster mentioned it's about how much you are able to save for a rainy day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At this point I'd be happy if he made any money.

Yeah, I hear you.

Ditto.

BTDT several times - good luck pp's.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Somehow I don't get how a 3000 sq ft house, private school for the kiddies, vacations to Europe etched. are somehow required for a happy life. The key to happiness is appreciating what you have. If you are always grasping for more, you will end up always unhappy. It's funny or even tragic how little I see here about perhaps having more realistic expectations and learning to "live well below your means." Nobody here making twice the median national ince or more is poor. I feel sorry for all of you.

Where did people say that? so much creativity!

[Anonymous]

It's there. Read the entire thread. The dissatisfaction seems to come from not a lack of money to provide for needs but to provide for wants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's there. Read the entire thread. The dissatisfaction seems to come from not a lack of money to provide for needs but to provide for wants.

Nope. Did a search, not there. maybe you have multiple windows open. And are confusing things.

[Anonymous]

Uh, hello, but the women writing here all talk about their expectation for a 3000 ft. sq house, fancy vacations and private school as part of the life they envisioned for themselves. Do I need to bring out Captain Subtext to explain it lucidly to you?

[Anonymous]

Don't expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund. Maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse. But you never know when either one might run out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am married to an adorable man who is sweet, kind and gentle. Despite his smarts, he isn't very financially motivated and chooses to pursue work that is "fun" and "interesting". I love him a lot, but resent that marrying him means we won't have the life I envisioned; nice house; private school for the children; being a stay at home mother, etc.

I dated a few guys like that. But I knew I did not want their lifestyle, especially when others who were equally adorable had more money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Uh, hello, but the women writing here all talk about their expectation for a 3000 ft. sq house, fancy vacations and private school as part of the life they envisioned for themselves. Do I need to bring out Captain Subtext to explain it lucidly to you?

I'm one of the posters you're referring to, and what you think I "expect" is not even close by a looooong shot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund. Maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse. But you never know when either one might run out.

+1. So shocked at how many women expect their husbands to support them... it's 2015, ladies! Get rich yourselves if that's what you want!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Uh, hello, but the women writing here all talk about their expectation for a 3000 ft. sq house, fancy vacations and private school as part of the life they envisioned for themselves. Do I need to bring out Captain Subtext to explain it lucidly to you?

I'm one of the posters you're referring to, and what you think I "expect" is not even close by a looooong shot.

I know right? I'd like to be able to buy a house, like one attached to neighbors with 3 bedrooms. I'd like to be able to go to the doctor and not weigh it againt the cost od my deductible.

When your combined HHI is just shy of 100k, it's a struggle.

Take home 5800
Healthcare 800 (with a 3k deductible)
1800 rent
1200 daycare
800 food diapers and formula
200 gas
300 utilities

We have 900 left over for Healthcare deductibles, emergencies, savings, and clothing and basics for our growing baby (forget about any luxuries doe ourselves). I'm already in the hole $3,000 for my c-section. We can't save for college and cant save for retirement.

I think that poster just wants to imagine shit. Assumes everyone in DC are rich complainers. No ability to think outside of their own situation. I'm guessing that poster has no idea what it's like to put $10 of gas in at a time and coast down hills.

I don't see people on here complaining about not having a 3ksq foot house or European vacations. please.

[Anonymous]

No. He makes a lot.

[Anonymous]

I do not want my husband to make significantly more than me to be honest. And in general, no I don't ever think about making more money as I am content with very little as long as we don't have to worry about anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know right? I'd like to be able to buy a house, like one attached to neighbors with 3 bedrooms. I'd like to be able to go to the doctor and not weigh it againt the cost od my deductible.

When your combined HHI is just shy of 100k, it's a struggle.

Take home 5800
Healthcare 800 (with a 3k deductible)
1800 rent
1200 daycare
800 food diapers and formula
200 gas
300 utilities

We have 900 left over for Healthcare deductibles, emergencies, savings, and clothing and basics for our growing baby (forget about any luxuries doe ourselves). I'm already in the hole $3,000 for my c-section. We can't save for college and cant save for retirement.

I think that poster just wants to imagine shit. Assumes everyone in DC are rich complainers. No ability to think outside of their own situation. I'm guessing that poster has no idea what it's like to put $10 of gas in at a time and coast down hills.

I don't see people on here complaining about not having a 3ksq foot house or European vacations. please.

I'm in the same boat.