Do you ever wish your DH made more money?

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Anonymous wrote:Why are there so many rich people on this forum? I get an air of snobbyness when I log on here. People throwing around how high their income is like it is a competition. Wouldn't rich people be in their homes with a maid and nanny or butler serving on them hand and foot or having their 21 yr old skinny blonde mclean housewife with implanted breasts satisfying their every sexual need?

Hey Dick, the topic discusses more money so of course people may quantify their income.
As another thread had mentioned making b/w $200K-$300K is not a high income here due to cost of living and real estate.

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Anonymous wrote:I went out to dinner with my husband and several of his associates who were also MDs. I am a doctor. These men brought their wives to dinner. I didn't know them so I asked them what they did for a living. They outright tossed up their heads and laughed at me. They said, we don't work, WE'RE doctors wives. Like they had won the lottery. I was speechless.

Not any more. Maybe if you're of the older generation. I am married to a doctor and they come with huge student loans, and deferred savings. I remember being at a dinner with some older ladies and basically they were telling me how their lives were like the real housewives. And I was like..yeah that's not happening to me.

I agree. Both my parents are doctors and we had a very comfortable living growing up, but times have changed. Medicine isn't as lucrative as it used to be.

"Like they had won the lottery." Haha. Doctors can make good money, but you're older when loans are paid off and they reach the peak of their careers later in life. If these women wanted to win the lottery, they should have dated guys on Wall Street or Silicon Valley. Doctors don't make "won the lottery" money or "f*ck you money."

I don't know any doctors wives who work. We are all mid-30's.

I'd be curious the nationwide % of doctors' spouses working full-time. There are 12 doctors in my extended family (both parents are doctors) and in most cases, both spouses work...lots of 2 doctors though. My friend's wife is a doctor (mid-30s) and she only works part-time since my friend co-founded a small hedge fund.

I'm early 30s, a doctors wife, and I work. Not part time, full time, in corporate america.

I'm a doctors wife. I work part time as a child psychologist. I'll probably up my hours once our youngest is in K. I'm in my mid-30s, DH is in his mid-40s.

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Anonymous wrote:Every noticed how poor guys are the best lovers? What else to they have to offer but the big O?

Dating the poor guy means you love him regardless of his income so the deep real feelings make sex better and usually the poor guy is more sexually attractive to you because you have on your love goggles.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are there so many rich people on this forum? I get an air of snobbyness when I log on here. People throwing around how high their income is like it is a competition. Wouldn't rich people be in their homes with a maid and nanny or butler serving on them hand and foot or having their 21 yr old skinny blonde mclean housewife with implanted breasts satisfying their every sexual need?

Hey Dick, the topic discusses more money so of course people may quantify their income.
As another thread had mentioned making b/w $200K-$300K is not a high income here due to cost of living and real estate.

Lol people gloat about their millions in assets on every topic here instead of lounging on their yachts. 200k is certainly a high income even in this area. There are many non million dollar homes in the area. Heck new grads only start at 40k and are able to live fine. But people on here whine like they are poor little rich girls.

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Anonymous wrote:Every noticed how poor guys are the best lovers? What else to they have to offer but the big O?

Dating the poor guy means you love him regardless of his income so the deep real feelings make sex better and usually the poor guy is more sexually attractive to you because you have on your love goggles.

My friend married poor but for love. Being practical, I married for both. Friend's husband is complete asshole so joke's on her.

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Anonymous wrote:Every noticed how poor guys are the best lovers? What else to they have to offer but the big O?

Dating the poor guy means you love him regardless of his income so the deep real feelings make sex better and usually the poor guy is more sexually attractive to you because you have on your love goggles.

My friend married poor but for love. Being practical, I married for both. Friend's husband is complete asshole so joke's on her.

Lol you can't marry for both. It means you didn't love him enough to marry your husband because if he was poor you'd have kicked him to the curb for someone who made more money but since he made more you fell in love with him and his money. What happens if he gets fired and he finds himself with no money. Will you stay with him even if he was poor?

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Anonymous wrote:Every noticed how poor guys are the best lovers? What else to they have to offer but the big O?

Dating the poor guy means you love him regardless of his income so the deep real feelings make sex better and usually the poor guy is more sexually attractive to you because you have on your love goggles.

My friend married poor but for love. Being practical, I married for both. Friend's husband is complete asshole so joke's on her.

Lol you can't marry for both. It means you didn't love him enough to marry your husband because if he was poor you'd have kicked him to the curb for someone who made more money but since he made more you fell in love with him and his money. What happens if he gets fired and he finds himself with no money. Will you stay with him even if he was poor?

Let me guess, you married poor?

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Anonymous wrote:Every noticed how poor guys are the best lovers? What else to they have to offer but the big O?

Dating the poor guy means you love him regardless of his income so the deep real feelings make sex better and usually the poor guy is more sexually attractive to you because you have on your love goggles.

My friend married poor but for love. Being practical, I married for both. Friend's husband is complete asshole so joke's on her.

Lol you can't marry for both. It means you didn't love him enough to marry your husband because if he was poor you'd have kicked him to the curb for someone who made more money but since he made more you fell in love with him and his money. What happens if he gets fired and he finds himself with no money. Will you stay with him even if he was poor?

Let me guess, you married poor?

You married for convenience and to get a free ride and most likely to sit on your ass like a lot of at home housewives in this area. I am engaged to a young doctor who I was with since he was making a meager wage.

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Anonymous wrote:I went out to dinner with my husband and several of his associates who were also MDs. I am a doctor. These men brought their wives to dinner. I didn't know them so I asked them what they did for a living. They outright tossed up their heads and laughed at me. They said, we don't work, WE'RE doctors wives. Like they had won the lottery. I was speechless.

Not any more. Maybe if you're of the older generation. I am married to a doctor and they come with huge student loans, and deferred savings. I remember being at a dinner with some older ladies and basically they were telling me how their lives were like the real housewives. And I was like..yeah that's not happening to me.

I'm not surprised by either PP's experience. I agree -- it was much more common in the previous generation to be a dr with a stay at home wife who never worked; in part they didn't need to, in part they likely didn't have a professional career they wanted to pursue anyway, and in part there was likely an agreement that the dr was too busy to deal with childcare types of things so those would be the wife's domain. Truth be told, I do know a few women who are like that now -- in their 30s. Their DREAM (and their parents' dream) was to bag a doctor. Once that happened -- ain't no way the wife was going to slog away and deal with corporate America. Their identities are very much wrapped up in being doctors' wives and they are very quick to tell everyone they meet that DH is a doctor. They have a very "image conscious" mentality -- esp the one I know who is a cardiologist's wife -- and have to have homes in the exact right neighborhoods; the right cars etc. though privately they'll admit that when they were going after a dr. they didn't realize that drs. don't make THAT much more than some other professions and in fact make less than investment bankers etc. One wife is in fact a lawyer but never practiced (or held any kind of job after law school) even for a day bc she graduated from a 3rd or 4th tier school and realized that it was easier to be a doctor's wife than to deal with the uphill struggle in law if you don't graduate from the "right" schools.

Though most dr. wives that I know who are in their 30s had their own professional goals and are pursuing them. One is married to an OB-GYN while she herself is in the management ranks for a Fortune 500 in computer science. One is married to a general ophthalmologist and is continuing to pursue her job at a non profit -- even though her take home doesn't necessarily even cover childcare. Another is a lawyer married to a cardiologist. I think the drs. who marry women who are more their "equals" in terms of profession are not shocked that the wife will want to work; they realize that the school age yrs with kids will be tough and there may need to be some outsourcing or part time arrangements or something -- but they don't necessarily just expect that a woman who is a computer science grad from MIT will suddenly say "nah -- being a dr's wife is easier, let me quit."

Computer science grad from MIT? A lot of programmers take short courses and many follow in Edward snowden's shoes.... take a few weeks course in programming, graduate with just a high school degree, get a certificate in community college and then make 100k-200k plus a year.

Right -- there are lots of paths in CS -- doesn't mean that no one in the world has ever graduated MIT with a CS degree.

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I'll be honest. Sometimes I wish DH made more money so that we could have a nicer house. He's a teacher. I make about 2x what he does.

But he's wonderful with our son and I feel guilty for having these thoughts. He picks up our son from daycare every day. He loves me. He's smart and funny and a good dancer.

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Anonymous wrote:I'll be honest. Sometimes I wish DH made more money so that we could have a nicer house. He's a teacher. I make about 2x what he does.

But he's wonderful with our son and I feel guilty for having these thoughts. He picks up our son from daycare every day. He loves me. He's smart and funny and a good dancer.

Look at this way, your son will always have a good role model who values education/development over the bottom line.
Hard to find in this area tends to attract the rat race types.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are there so many rich people on this forum? I get an air of snobbyness when I log on here. People throwing around how high their income is like it is a competition. Wouldn't rich people be in their homes with a maid and nanny or butler serving on them hand and foot or having their 21 yr old skinny blonde mclean housewife with implanted breasts satisfying their every sexual need?

Hey Dick, the topic discusses more money so of course people may quantify their income.
As another thread had mentioned making b/w $200K-$300K is not a high income here due to cost of living and real estate.

Lol people gloat about their millions in assets on every topic here instead of lounging on their yachts. 200k is certainly a high income even in this area. There are many non million dollar homes in the area. Heck new grads only start at 40k and are able to live fine. But people on here whine like they are poor little rich girls.

No one who participates on these forums has yacht, smart guy/gal. Of course new grads, can live off $40K they don't have a family to support nor a mortgage N. Arlington, Bethesda/CC,etc.

You can debate "high enough" income at $200K. But if you want to live within 10 miles of DC(Commute/Work) and with great schools, you have some cash on hand from either inheritance or just plain old savings then it is not enough. And let's throwin the fact that this area has alot of highly educated people with over $50K in school loans.; so we are not poor little rich girls.

Maybe just girls who WANT more than they need. But what's wrong with that?

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Anonymous wrote:Every noticed how poor guys are the best lovers? What else to they have to offer but the big O?

Dating the poor guy means you love him regardless of his income so the deep real feelings make sex better and usually the poor guy is more sexually attractive to you because you have on your love goggles.

My friend married poor but for love. Being practical, I married for both. Friend's husband is complete asshole so joke's on her.

Lol you can't marry for both. It means you didn't love him enough to marry your husband because if he was poor you'd have kicked him to the curb for someone who made more money but since he made more you fell in love with him and his money. What happens if he gets fired and he finds himself with no money. Will you stay with him even if he was poor?

Let me guess, you married poor?

You married for convenience and to get a free ride and most likely to sit on your ass like a lot of at home housewives in this area. I am engaged to a young doctor who I was with since he was making a meager wage.

But you wouldn't have stayed if he weren't ambitious.

I married smart and ambitious. I happen to find that very attractive.

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NO. I don't want an insecure man with an over-inflated ego. We do very well but he does not act entitled. That it itself is very sexy.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are there so many rich people on this forum? I get an air of snobbyness when I log on here. People throwing around how high their income is like it is a competition. Wouldn't rich people be in their homes with a maid and nanny or butler serving on them hand and foot or having their 21 yr old skinny blonde mclean housewife with implanted breasts satisfying their every sexual need?

Hey Dick, the topic discusses more money so of course people may quantify their income.
As another thread had mentioned making b/w $200K-$300K is not a high income here due to cost of living and real estate.

Lol people gloat about their millions in assets on every topic here instead of lounging on their yachts. 200k is certainly a high income even in this area. There are many non million dollar homes in the area. Heck new grads only start at 40k and are able to live fine. But people on here whine like they are poor little rich girls.

No one who participates on these forums has yacht, smart guy/gal. Of course new grads, can live off $40K they don't have a family to support nor a mortgage N. Arlington, Bethesda/CC,etc.

You can debate "high enough" income at $200K. But if you want to live within 10 miles of DC(Commute/Work) and with great schools, you have some cash on hand from either inheritance or just plain old savings then it is not enough. And let's throwin the fact that this area has alot of highly educated people with over $50K in school loans.; so we are not poor little rich girls.

Maybe just girls who WANT more than they need. But what's wrong with that?

Well you have a point about the 10 minute commute but my comment also applies to those who live farther out in fairfax and are not satisfied. Also i went to 1 of the great schools but some of the teachers were rude racist bitchy and not all the kids who graduated did passed or did great in life. I think that depends on the student and their parents not the school itself. My poor little rich girls applied to both guys and girls. Greed is whats wrong. I see a lot of it in this area and it makes people be unethical, rude.