Aftercare is cruel to kindergarteners

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This has been covered before. Some folks have to work full time and don't really have a choice. .

Sure they do. Downsize, downsize, downsize. You don't need to live in a 3,000 sq ft place, hire help for cleaning and yardwork, wear the best clothes, have an iPhone5, drive an SUV with only one or two kids, use coupons and shop the specials. Cook more, go out to eat once a month or less.

It can easily be done, even in this area. But people here are too set on keeping up their extravagant lifestyles.

Priorities.

I have not read through the whole thread so I am sure your post has been responded to but what an ignorant piece of work you are.

What a lovely little bubble you live in that you think everyone whose kid is in aftercare lives as you have described above. I mean surely, none of the kids in aftercare have parents who have taken three buses from their job to pick them up from aftercare and will take another bus home to what I would bet good money is not a 3,000 square foot residence, feed the kid dinner then depart for job number two.

You know what, clearly they have absolutely no understanding of priorities.

And you are an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm beginning to think there is one troll lurking on this thread, pretending to be a SAHM bashing the WOHMs, and then vice versa.

If that's not the case where are all these nasty women? My friends are from both groups, and we really don't care what other people are doing, help each other out, etc.

The nastiness on this topic seems to be born of boredom.

One should never talk about the secret undertakings of a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This has been covered before. Some folks have to work full time and don't really have a choice. .

Sure they do. Downsize, downsize, downsize. You don't need to live in a 3,000 sq ft place, hire help for cleaning and yardwork, wear the best clothes, have an iPhone5, drive an SUV with only one or two kids, use coupons and shop the specials. Cook more, go out to eat once a month or less.

It can easily be done, even in this area. But people here are too set on keeping up their extravagant lifestyles.

Priorities.

I have not read through the whole thread so I am sure your post has been responded to but what an ignorant piece of work you are.

What a lovely little bubble you live in that you think everyone whose kid is in aftercare lives as you have described above. I mean surely, none of the kids in aftercare have parents who have taken three buses from their job to pick them up from aftercare and will take another bus home to what I would bet good money is not a 3,000 square foot residence, feed the kid dinner then depart for job number two.

You know what, clearly they have absolutely no understanding of priorities.

And you are an idiot.

I'm sure the PP you quoted believes that anyone who has to take a bus to their job should not have been allowed to have children in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WHY ARE YOU ALL STILL FEEDING THE TROLLS?

Yes, I'm yelling. Because, really, these threads accomplish absolutely nothing.

PLEASE everyone!!! Just stop! This is exactly what the OP wanted. At first, we were all telling OP to stop trolling - and then one by one, the attacks on SAHPs and WOHPs started coming and before you know it you're all attacking each other.

Can't we all unite against the OP and those with her judgmental attitude? We ALL make the BEST decision for OUR OWN families based on OUR INDIVIDUAL circumstances. And you know what?? They are ALL great decisions. because it's what is best for OUR families. Some choose to work, some must work, some choose to stay home, others must stay home. really - is it worth knocking each other down over this?

It seems like every poster on here is smart, intelligent and witty - can't we all turn that wit and smart onto assholes like the OP who started this whole thing - Obviously to get us to fight among each other - and as blatant and obvious as she was, we still all fell for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
My children are worth more than outsourcing them to someone else for most of their waking hours.

So you homeschool, right?

You really must read more thoroughly. AGAIN, school does not encompass most of a child's waking hours. Your guilt is showing, though.

Try again. My child can go home directly after school or go to aftercare. She likes aftercare, where as others have said, she can play on the playground with friends. She also does homework at aftercare and has stated she prefers doing her homework with her classmates because they're "more helpful" than I am. It's more fun to do her homework with a group of friends than with a parent.

I don't dispute that aftercare might be too much for your child at this age. Children are individuals, and what one wants another might find intolerable. The clear evidence that you are a troll and not even remotely interested in a conversation (or just ridiculously ignorant) is that you find it inconceivable that children might enjoy aftercare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cancer surgeon is no different from those dads who are nothing more than sperm donors for their family. Take care of the biological part of it and GET THOSE KIDS AWAY FROM ME.

Tell her that when someone in your family gets cancer. What do you want to raise your daughter to be?

I'm guessing Barbie's ugly sister.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WHY ARE YOU ALL STILL FEEDING THE TROLLS?

Yes, I'm yelling. Because, really, these threads accomplish absolutely nothing.

PLEASE everyone!!! Just stop! This is exactly what the OP wanted. At first, we were all telling OP to stop trolling - and then one by one, the attacks on SAHPs and WOHPs started coming and before you know it you're all attacking each other.

Can't we all unite against the OP and those with her judgmental attitude? We ALL make the BEST decision for OUR OWN families based on OUR INDIVIDUAL circumstances. And you know what?? They are ALL great decisions. because it's what is best for OUR families. Some choose to work, some must work, some choose to stay home, others must stay home. really - is it worth knocking each other down over this?

It seems like every poster on here is smart, intelligent and witty - can't we all turn that wit and smart onto assholes like the OP who started this whole thing - Obviously to get us to fight among each other - and as blatant and obvious as she was, we still all fell for it.

Perhaps for the same reason that I feel compelled to speak out against women-shaming language (like "slut") even when clearly used for trolling purposes. The fact of the matter is that many women are conflicted about their choices - stay at home, work outside the home, something in between. And comments can feed on those inner conflicts. It can be really helpful for others to say "you're wrong/shortsighted/a troll" and include a "here's why."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of us don't have a choice, asswipe! We have to work to put food on the table.

Name-calling is so tacky.

But really: What do you drive? What kind of home do you live in? What kind of neighborhood? What extras could you trim back on? Yeah, it's an inconvenient truth but you could do it.

I don't want to stay home with my children. I'm a cancer surgeon. I think I contribute more to society by being a mom AND a worker than by being a mom alone. I understand if that's not your situation, OP.

I almost burst out laughing when I read this. "Cancer surgeon?" Yeah. Sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cancer surgeon is no different from those dads who are nothing more than sperm donors for their family. Take care of the biological part of it and GET THOSE KIDS AWAY FROM ME.

Tell her that when someone in your family gets cancer. What do you want to raise your daughter to be?

I'm guessing Barbie's ugly sister.

Skipper?

[Anonymous]

I have always left it up to my child, as I am very lucky to have a schedule that allows me to that (by getting to work at 6:30am if no aftercare). Preschool 3, my child did not want aftercare. Prekindergarten she begged for it. Heading into k, she wants it one or two days a week. It is fun. Why assume its a problem?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of us don't have a choice, asswipe! We have to work to put food on the table.

Name-calling is so tacky.

But really: What do you drive? What kind of home do you live in? What kind of neighborhood? What extras could you trim back on? Yeah, it's an inconvenient truth but you could do it.

I don't want to stay home with my children. I'm a cancer surgeon. I think I contribute more to society by being a mom AND a worker than by being a mom alone. I understand if that's not your situation, OP.

I almost burst out laughing when I read this. "Cancer surgeon?" Yeah. Sure.

Do you not believe that PP is an actual surgeon, or do you just not believe that there are cancer surgeons?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of us don't have a choice, asswipe! We have to work to put food on the table.

Name-calling is so tacky.

But really: What do you drive? What kind of home do you live in? What kind of neighborhood? What extras could you trim back on? Yeah, it's an inconvenient truth but you could do it.

I don't want to stay home with my children. I'm a cancer surgeon. I think I contribute more to society by being a mom AND a worker than by being a mom alone. I understand if that's not your situation, OP.

I almost burst out laughing when I read this. "Cancer surgeon?" Yeah. Sure.

Do you not believe that PP is an actual surgeon, or do you just not believe that there are cancer surgeons?

Like cyber knife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have always left it up to my child, as I am very lucky to have a schedule that allows me to that (by getting to work at 6:30am if no aftercare). Preschool 3, my child did not want aftercare. Prekindergarten she begged for it. Heading into k, she wants it one or two days a week. It is fun. Why assume its a problem?

To feel superior, that's why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
My children are worth more than outsourcing them to someone else for most of their waking hours.

So you homeschool, right?

You really must read more thoroughly. AGAIN, school does not encompass most of a child's waking hours. Your guilt is showing, though.

Try again. My child can go home directly after school or go to aftercare. She likes aftercare, where as others have said, she can play on the playground with friends. She also does homework at aftercare and has stated she prefers doing her homework with her classmates because they're "more helpful" than I am. It's more fun to do her homework with a group of friends than with a parent.

I don't dispute that aftercare might be too much for your child at this age. Children are individuals, and what one wants another might find intolerable. The clear evidence that you are a troll and not even remotely interested in a conversation (or just ridiculously ignorant) is that you find it inconceivable that children might enjoy aftercare.

LOL! My 6 y/o daughter has told me before that I'm "not particularly helpful" with homework. Allrighty then. . . . .

My attempt to lighten things up and derail the trolliness of this post.

[Anonymous]

I also thought it would be too tiring for my 5 yo to go to aftercare every day after school, so my mom moved to the area and we were all set for her to pick him up after school 4 days a week. Guess where he wants to go more than 1 day a week?